Phenomena that happen outside of us don’t cause happiness. They might be correlated with happiness but it’s not a cause-and-effect relationship.
The most important part is what happens in our brain between the external event (a good cup of coffee) and our state of happiness.
Things within us that to appreciate - they can make us happy, no matter what’s going on outside:
The key skill is to learn to notice, accept and appreciate everything around us, and everyone we see and interact with.
Often if we fail to see good in things or people around us (or ourselves), it’s a failure to pay close attention. All around us are examples of beauty, creativity, inspiration, triumph, pain, joy, life.
It's a pleasurable emotion brought by a state of well-being and contentment. It’s usually accompanied by an attachment to an idea, a destination or experience. It often weighs profoundly heavier on our subconscious.
Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy.
Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.