<ul><li>In Miguel’s eyes, making assumptions leads to suffering. </li><li>Assumptions often have very little basis in reality and are only real in our imaginations.</li><li>To overcome this expectation, ask questions and maintain clear communication with others. This transparent communication prevents assumptions from taking hold. </li><li>This agreement will help you avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.</li></ul>

Lesson 3: Don’t Make Assumptions 

<ul><li>When someone calls you ugly, it says a whole lot more about them and their problems than about you. </li><li>Whatever issues they’re dealing with has led them to take their frustration out on you.</li><li>The only way to really make this a habit is to become very, very self-aware.</li><li> Knowing deep down who you are, what your truth is and that you’re good enough allows you to stop seeking validation and acceptance.</li></ul>

Lesson 2: Don't Take Anything Personal

<ul><li> It means doing the best that you can individually manage, which can vary by situation. </li><li>You can avoid feelings of regret and accept that people do their best at every moment. </li><li>You will come to enjoy the action itself, rather than just enjoying the rewards associated with actions.</li><li>If doing your best means working hard because you love the task, your work will begin to feel effortless.</li></ul>

Lesson 4: Always Do Your Best

<ul><li>… is a process that starts the day we’re born. You don’t pick your first language, you don’t choose your first school and you can’t control what attitudes your parents instill in you.</li><li>Parents, peers, teachers, religion, all these influences instill a set of rules in us.</li><li> As children, we have no power over them. We’re rewarded when we do good and punished when we step out of line. </li><li>Compound this for almost two decades and you become someone who’s chasing brownie points, afraid of rejection and not questioning society’s rules.</li></ul>

 Domestication

“Our biggest fear is not dying, it’s being ourselves.”

Comments are a reflection of the commentator’s reality, not yours.

“Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all the lies.”

<ol><li>“Be impeccable with your word”: Say only what you mean.</li><li>“Don’t take anything personally”: Understand that other’s words are the product of their domesticated lives.</li><li>“Don’t make assumptions”: Be brave to ask questions.</li><li>“Always do your best”: Your best will change from moment to moment.</li></ol>

The Four Agreements

• Speak with integrity.• Say only what you Mean.• Avoid using the words to speak against yourself or gossip about others.• Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.

Lesson1: Be impeccable with your word

<ul><li>There are lots of them, waiting to be learned. </li></ul><ol><li>Start noticing the beliefs you have, which are based on fear and make you unhappy</li><li>Learn to forgive the people who hurt you, most of all yourself.</li><li>Remember that each day could be your last to stay in the present.</li></ol>

Three Ways To Break Old Agreements

<ul><li>We are “Domesticated” — Social norms & rules are lodged deep within us.</li></ul>• Practice three skills to rebel against “Domestication.”<ol><li>Awareness: Practice meditation and mindfulness</li><li>Forgiveness: Awareness brings forgiveness</li><li>Action: From forgiveness, you will receive the strength to Act</li></ol>

Short Summary

In The Four Agreements, bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. • A New York Times bestseller for over a decade • Translated into 46 languages worldwide “This book by don Miguel Ruiz, simple yet so powerful, has made a tremendous difference in how I think and act in every encounter.” — Oprah Winfrey “Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success “An inspiring book with many great lessons.” — Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic “In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distills essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.” — Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

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In The Four Agreements, bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. •  A New York Times bestseller for over a decade •  Translated into 50 languages worldwide   “This book by don Miguel Ruiz, simple yet so powerful, has made a tremendous difference in how I think and act in every encounter.” — Oprah Winfrey “Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success “An inspiring book with many great lessons.” — Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic “In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distills essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.” — Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

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