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The problem isn't that life is unfair - it's your broken idea of fairness
Fairness is self-interest
We think the judgements of our bosses and parents and politicians are unfair and silly because they don't agree with us. And we believe they should agree with us.
However, most of them are just trying to do their best, under different circumstances to your own.
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Life is a competition
We are all in competition, even if we prefer to discount it. Our achievements are only evident relative to others. You swam further, dance better, or got more Facebook Likes.
We should recognize that there is competition going on. People interview to win jobs. And the best is only available to those who are willing to compete and fight for it.
You’re judged by your actions
We are judged by what we can do for others. For instance, saving children or removing a tumor. Social reward is just a network effect. Reward comes down mostly to the number of people you impact.
However, we judge ourselves differently. We judge ourselves by our thoughts. “I’m a good person”. “I’m better than this.”
Fairness is self-interest
We think the judgements of our bosses and parents and politicians are unfair and silly because they don't agree with us. And we believe they should agree with us.
However, most of them are just trying to do their best, under different circumstances to your own.
Life isn’t fair
Life would not work if it were "fair" to everyone. Companies would only fail if everyone who worked for them were evil. Relationships would only end when both partners died simultaneously.
Most of us are so blinded by how we think the world should work that we fail to see how it does work. You can only unlock your potential when you face reality.
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Give Your Work A Purpose
It is less about what you do and more about how you see what you do.
Qualities a purpose needs:
- It's a stable and far-reaching goal. You need something that motivates you and that you can organize your actions around.
- It involves a contribution to the world. It makes a difference in the lives of people who don’t happen to be you.
Craft Your Story
You have a story you tell yourself about your life — whether you realize it or not.
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Things that should be taught in every school
- Personal finance: credit cards, savings and retirement;
- Relationships: communication, consent, sexuality;
- Logic and Reasoning: Logical progressions;
Financial illiteracy is a really big problem
If you have a society full of people buying crap they can’t afford, retiring with no savings, getting sick and not being able to afford health care, that screws all of us in a major way.
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Learning how to exercise some conscious control of how you express your emotions and intimacy is possibly the most life-changing skill set you’ll ever come across.
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Playing by your rules
Setting your own rules
Gaining control of your own world is a liberating thing, but giving it up elsewhere feels risky and uncomfortable. If you want others to give up their stake in how you run yours, then you have to give up your stake in how they run theirs.
Don’t think you’re too special
You’re unique but in the kind of way that everyone else is. When you discover you know a thing or two about something important to you, do what you can to help others take advantage of your knowledge, but don’t set the rules for how they have to use it.