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The problem isn't that life is unfair - it's your broken idea of fairness
Fairness is self-interest
We think the judgements of our bosses and parents and politicians are unfair and silly because they don't agree with us. And we believe they should agree with us.
However, most of them are just trying to do their best, under different circumstances to your own.
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Richard Koch
Life Is Math
When you feel stuck, don't blame your bad luck, the economy, your fate or other people. These things have nothing to do with you unhappiness,
You must find the patterns in whatever you’re trying to achieve.
There’s Always A Pattern
Keep searching for it. Make mistakes and learn from them. Read books to learn even more from other people’s failures.
Whatever kind of success you’re looking for, don’t stop until you’ve cracked the code.
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Belonging To A group
Quickest way to add meaning to your life is to see your group of people more often.
Not part of a group? Join one. No groups to join? Start one. It’s as easy as texting people to...
Give Your Work A Purpose
It is less about what you do and more about how you see what you do.
Qualities a purpose needs:
- It's a stable and far-reaching goal. You need something that motivates you and that you can organize your actions around.
- It involves a contribution to the world. It makes a difference in the lives of people who don’t happen to be you.
Craft Your Story
You have a story you tell yourself about your life — whether you realize it or not.
A trend in the stories that people with meaningful lives tell themselves - redemption stories: the tellers move from suffering to salvation — they experience a negative event followed by a positive event that resulted from the negative event and therefore gives their suffering some meaning.
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Ideologies ≠ Ideologues
Ideologies: ideas that, disguised as science or philosophy, claim to explain the complexity of the world and offer remedies that will perfect it.
Ideologues: people who pretend ...
Virtue ≠ Virtue Signaling
Jordan Peterson observed that virtues aim for balance and to avoid the extremes of the vices. Cultivating judgment about the difference between virtue and vice is the beginning of wisdom.
Modern relativism asserts judging how to live is impossible, because good and virtue are relative. Thus relativism’s version of “virtue” is “tolerance.” This leads to people broadcasting their tolerance as a form of self-promotion, and secret vice, which is also known as virtue signaling.
Order and Chaos
Order is where the people around you act according to the established social norms, remaining predictable and cooperative. Society is simultaneously structure and oppression.
Chaos is where the unexpected happens.