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Love in the Time of Individualism

Free And Lonely

Most Americans of this generation are now more free than the earlier generations. They are free and spoilt for choice to date, marry, divorce or have casual sexual encounters.

The price of this freedom, as it turns out, may be loneliness.

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Love in the Time of Individualism

Love in the Time of Individualism

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/09/love-in-the-time-of-individualism/540474/

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Free And Lonely

Most Americans of this generation are now more free than the earlier generations. They are free and spoilt for choice to date, marry, divorce or have casual sexual encounters.

The price of this freedom, as it turns out, may be loneliness.

Modern Dating Scene

Mark Regnerus provides some insights into the modern dating scene:

  • A casual relationship is now preferred to a committed one.
  • Sex is now a field for marketers to provide products and services.
  • It takes considerably less time, effort and risk for one to get sexual gratification through online dating or porn.

Marriage is now an Option

Youngsters are now wary of a life-long relationship and consider it as an option.

  • One-third of people who are in their twenties may never marry.
  • The increase of freedom to romance has changed the definition of romance.

Gender Roles

  • In the modern dating scene, men and women share different power equations than the early generations.
  • Basic demand and supply are the same as before, with men being the demand, and women the supply.
  • Women manage men's access to them, with men producing support, commitment, and loyalty.

Commitment

As observed in modern heterosexual relationships, the reasons to sacrifice and commit have largely faded for men.

The path to commitment in a relationship is now riddled with confusion and doubt.

App Love

In the dating apps on our smartphones, the rules are according to the app makers on how people can meet, connect or talk to each other.
  • Men like to connect with maximum women, as they aren't choosy as a group.
  • Women always have to be more careful and screen a lot of messages and requests.

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