Why meeting another's gaze is so powerful
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Eye contact is a natural part of most casual conversations. From everyday experiences, we know that we make assumptions about people's personalities based on how much they make eye contact. We can also feel left out if people don't make eye contact.
Meeting the direct gaze interferes with our ability to hold and use information in our minds over a short time. It also interferes with our imagination and mental control.
We generally perceive people who make more eye contact as more intelligent, conscientious and sincere. We are more inclined to trust them.
We can feel uncomfortable when people make too much eye contact.
Psychologists concluded that three seconds is the preferred length of eye contact. Gazes longer than nine seconds may come across as creepy.
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