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Third, if we determine that the guilt is warranted and we are 100% culpable, then we can and should simply own it; Apologize; try to correct the problem, if possible. Then we can and should borrow from Maya Angelou and say to ourselves, “If I had known better, I would have done better.” Tomorrow is a new day. It’s the first day of the rest of our lives. So let’s do better! Let’s act to prevent it from happening again in the future to us and perhaps others. Each day can be the beginning of a new life, a new us.
Know better and do better.
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Smith, Everly, and Haight learned that worry (repetitive concern) was a significantly toxic psychological process that was the essence of what we called stress, and was a major determinant of burnout (personal exhaustion). Worry predicted psychological disorders and ...
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In 1597, Sir Francis Bacon wrote in his Meditationes Sacrae that knowledge itself is power. It influences. It empowers. So how can information help us release guilt, regret, shame, and worry?
We can understand that guilt, regret, shame, and worry are no...
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We are living in an epidemic of social alienation and depression. Cognitive psychologists tell us that depression is often a result of how we interpret the world around us and the role we play in it. Feelings of guilt, regret, and shame can fuel the fir...
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Guilt, simply said, is a belief in culpability or responsibility for some perceived offense or wrongdoing. There are largely 4 types of guilt:
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Shame is the angst and distress often associated with guilt. It involves humiliation, a loss of honor or respect. Shame can take stressful regret and turn it into a disaster.
Shame is not healthy. It serves no useful purpose.
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Second, if our analysis reveals taking responsibility is warranted, then we can and should determine if we are 100% responsible. If we are not 100% responsible, we can and should lessen the burden, defuse the guilt by sharing it with others. Nothing happens in a vacuum. M...
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In the early 1990s, Kenneth Smith and George S. Everly, as well as others, began a research project that has now spanned 30 years. Their initial goal was to discover what factors in the workplace contributed most to psychological burnout and stress-related physical illness.
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If we read the self-help literature, we will find potentially confusing discussions of guilt, regret, and shame. It seems we have fallen prey to accepting Humpty Dumpty’s assertion “When I use a word… it means just what I choose it to mean, neither more nor less.”
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First, we can and should determine if we are truly culpable for the offense or wrongdoing. Sometimes we accept responsibility because we want to believe we can control all adversities in our lives. Or sometimes we accept responsibility because it’s what we or others expe...
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A frequent corollary of guilt is regret. Frankly, regret can be a natural and healthy response to guilt. Regret involves accepting responsibility for some perceived offense or wrongdoing and being remorseful about it. It is often related to thoughts of contrition or repe...
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Guilt, regret, shame, and worry are not 4 independent stressors, but are often interrelated. They represent a virtual linear cascade that builds in intensity and duration, like a musical crescendo. Which of the 4 do you believe the crescendo is? You’d be surprised.
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Ask yourself: What’s within my control? Is there something I can do right now? Can I make the situation better? Then do it. And do the job well.
If you can’t, choose to do something else. Have different things in your life that you can give your attention to. For example: lea...
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