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You Don’t Need to Be Cheerful Just Because It’s the Holidays

Self-Inflicted Toxic Positivity

Sometimes we can be too hard on ourselves and we deny ourselves the experience of pain or heartbreak because we firmly believe that "positivity is the key to happiness" however it is not always the case.

  • Allow yourself to feel. Dig deep into your own emotions and get to know the how's and why's of your emotions.
  • Check-in on a friend and allow them to help you, as long as they have the mental capacity to do so.

Do not shy away from asking for help and give people the chance to do right by you.

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Ask yourself what you think a realistic amount is to spend on gifts for yourself and others. It should be a number that you can realistically afford without dipping into your savings or creating credit card debt.

Then do your best to stick to your budget without getting caught up in consumerism. One strategy could be to use your travel funds. If you've cancelled a trip, you could redistribute a portion of those dollars for gifts.

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Toxic positivity denies reality

Positivity makes people appear more well-adapted and popular with their peers.

The issue is not the people who are genuinely upbeat but when people are forced to appear positive in situations where it's not natural, like illness, homelessness, food insecurity, unemployment, or racial injustice.

Damaging effects of toxic positivity

Forcing positivity denies a very real sense of despair and hopelessness and alienates those who are struggling.

Internalizing these messages can also be damaging. We judge ourselves for feeling negative and then feel bad for feeling bad. It postpones any healing or move toward problem-solving.

Depression During Holidays

Holidays are supposed to be a happy time, but many people feel sadness due to heightened expectations, family rifts and comparison with others.

FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

Our cause of sadness is often related to the fact that we compare our lives with the lives o the people we follow and that seem to be having loads of fun on social media

Try to avoid social media during holidays and during mandatory social gatherings. Also, avoid gatherings that drain your energy.

Creating Your Happiness

Negative emotions can sap us from the inside. Create your happiness by observing and learning from your negativity by using self-awareness

Brighten your day by being generous, providing funds to the needy, holiday gifting to the poor, or doing some volunteer work.