Step 3: Replace the victim thinking with something more helpful. - Deepstash
Step 3: Replace the victim thinking with something more helpful.

Step 3: Replace the victim thinking with something more helpful.

What is one small step we can take to move forward or out of this situation today?

Gratitude.

Does someone on the planet have it worse than me right now?

Learn and take action.

What is one small step I can take to move forward or out of this situation today?

Ask yourself: How can I give value to one person in my life right now?

By doing so you’ll feel more powerful again. You’ll create more happiness for the other person and you’ll feel better about your day too.

Forgive

You don’t have to forgive just because it is something you “should do”.

Release yourself from the agony and focus your limited time and energy on things that will make you happier.

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Step 2: Ask yourself what the long-term consequences of this will be.

The benefits above can be quite addictive.

  • How will it hold you back from doing the things you deep down dream about in life?
  • How will it affect your most important relationships?
  • How does it affect your relationship with yourself?

Be honest with yourself and get motivation to change by seeing how destructively this will affect your life over the next 12 months and over the next 3 or 5 years.

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Step 1: Recognize the benefits of the victim mentality.

The victim mentality can be pretty beneficial in the short term and for instant gratification. A few benefits are:

Attention and validation.

You don’t have to take risks.

Don’t have to take the responsibility.

It makes you feel like you're right.

by just being aware of the benefits you can derive from victim thinking it becomes easier to say no to that whenever such thoughts start to creep up and to choose to take a different path.

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When you’re in what seems like a negative situation, find what’s good.

...to counteract that ask yourself better questions.

Questions that will help you to feel better but also to learn so you can grow.

Questions like:

  • What’s one good thing about this situation?
  • What’s one thing I can do differently the next time to likely have a better outcome?
  • What’s one thing I can learn from this?
  • How would my best friend support and help me in this situation?

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Take Control of Your Mind

To take control of your mind do the following:

  • Conquer negative thinking by treating yourself like a friend when negative thoughts come. Be empathetic towards yourself.
  • Challenge your negative thoughts to see if they are a true representation of who you are.
  • Write a brief story about your struggles, then rewrite it from a neutral observer perspective. For example:

Your struggle: I have no money.

From a neutral observation: Everyone struggles with money from time to time.

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Earl Nightingale

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

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