Step 1: Recognize the benefits of the victim mentality.

The victim mentality can be pretty beneficial in the short term and for instant gratification. A few benefits are:

Attention and validation.

You don’t have to take risks.

Don’t have to take the responsibility.

It makes you feel like you're right.

by just being aware of the benefits you can derive from victim thinking it becomes easier to say no to that whenever such thoughts start to creep up and to choose to take a different path.

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Step 2: Ask yourself what the long-term consequences of this will be.

The benefits above can be quite addictive.

  • How will it hold you back from doing the things you deep down dream about in life?
  • How will it affect your most important relationships?
  • How does it affect your relationship with yourself?

Be honest with yourself and get motivation to change by seeing how destructively this will affect your life over the next 12 months and over the next 3 or 5 years.

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Step 3: Replace the victim thinking with something more helpful.

What is one small step we can take to move forward or out of this situation today?

Gratitude.

Does someone on the planet have it worse than me right now?

Learn and take action.

What is one small step I can take to move forward or out of this situation today?

Ask yourself: How can I give value to one person in my life right now?

By doing so you’ll feel more powerful again. You’ll create more happiness for the other person and you’ll feel better about your day too.

Forgive

You don’t have to forgive just because it is something you “should do”.

Release yourself from the agony and focus your limited time and energy on things that will make you happier.

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