You truly grasp the worth of something only when its absence leaves an unfillable void.

Everything fades, but knowledge endures. Love may not carve your legacy, but your work will.

When everything feels like it's falling apart and all your efforts seem wasted, remind yourself that it simply wasn't meant for you. Take a deep breath and move forward.

Stop begging for the love you want, is the first step towards getting the love you deserve.

Social media is poisonous, until you are focused on being successful.

Its important to understand, No matter how important you are or whatever you do, you will be easily replaced.

Happiness is an attitude, we either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is same.

Learn to give time to every relation you have, Else a day will come, that you will have time but not that relation.

Overthinking is very powerful when you know how to channelize it in the right direction.

A person needs to understand this, you cannot control everything you see, you cannot control everything you feel, you cannot control what you know is going to happen, the only thing you can do is take a deep breath and let it be.

In our smile, I find my way, A guiding light through night and day.

A Booklet of Quotes written by Burhanuddin Mulla Hamzabhai

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Brida, a young Irish woman, embarks on a journey to learn about life, love, and spirituality.Her quest involves exploring the spiritual traditions of magic and uncovering her purpose.

1. The Quest for Knowledge and Self-Discovery

Brida meets two spiritual mentors: The Magus: Represents knowledge and the Tradition of the Sun (logic and discipline).Wicca: Represents intuition and the Tradition of the Moon (emotion and instinct).

2. The Path of Tradition vs. Intuition

The story emphasizes the idea of soulmates as those who guide us in discovering our true selves. Quote:“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”

3. Soulmate Connection

Brida learns that true love supports freedom and self-expression rather than control or dependence. Quote:“Nothing in the world is ever completely wrong. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.”

4. Balancing Love and Individuality

Her journey is about confronting fears, trusting her instincts, and embracing her spiritual calling. Quote:“We are all masters of our own destiny.”

5. Overcoming Fear and Doubt

In Brida, Coelho highlights the harmony between science and mystery. Science offers logic and structure, while mystery invites intuition and deeper truths. True wisdom lies in balancing the tangible with the unknown. Quote: “Accept what life offers you and try to drink from every cup.”

6. The Dance Between Science and Mystery

Brida’s mentors encourage her to learn through her experiences rather than just instruction.

7. Learning Through Experience

Spirituality: The importance of exploring and understanding one’s spiritual path.Love: Finding balance between love for another and love for oneself.Growth: Embracing challenges as part of the process of self-discovery.

Themes

The journey of self-discovery requires courage, faith, and the willingness to embrace both logic and intuition, as life is a harmonious blend of the two.

Key Takeaway

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Here’s a concise summary of Brida by Paulo Coelho, organized into key points

New York Times Bestseller“In Brida, my third novel, which I wrote just after The Alchemist, I tell the story of a young woman who dives into sorcery and her experiences with different magical traditions. I explore many themes that are dear to me, such as the Great Mother, pagan religions, and the perceptions of love.”-- Paulo CoelhoThis is the spellbinding tale of Brida, a beautiful young Irish woman, and her quest for knowledge. On her journey, she meets a wise man who teaches her about overcoming her fears, and a woman who teaches her ancient rituals. They see in her a gift, but must let Brida make her own voyage of discovery.

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Paulo Coelho de Souza is a Brazilian lyricist and novelist and a member of the Brazilian Academy of Letters since 2002. His novel The Alchemist became an international best-seller and he has published 30 more books since then.

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1. Seduction is PowerSeduction is about persuasion and influence, not just romance. It’s a social art to captivate others. 2. Seduction is PsychologicalUnderstand people’s desires and vulnerabilities to craft your approach.

Understanding Seduction

3. The Siren 🎶Uses allure and charm to mesmerize with their presence. 4. The Rake 🔥Intensely passionate and obsessive, making others feel deeply desired.

Types of Seducers

5. The Ideal Lover 💖Creates a sense of fantasy and fulfills unmet needs. 6. The Dandy ✨ Exudes freedom and nonconformity, appealing to those seeking excitement.

7. The Natural 🌱Innocent and playful, evoking nostalgia and comfort. 8. The Coquette ❄️🔥 Alternates between warmth and aloofness to keep others intrigued.

9. The Charmer 🤝Wins over others with warmth, kindness, and attention. 10. The Charismatic 🌟Inspires devotion through confidence and magnetism.

11. The Star ⭐Lives a life of mystery and glamour, attracting admiration.

12. Choose the Right Victim 🎯Target those who are emotionally or psychologically receptive. 13. Create Intrigue 🌀Be mysterious and unpredictable to spark interest.

Phases of Seduction

14. Send Mixed Signals 🕶️Combine opposites (e.g., playfulness and seriousness) to create depth. 15. Make the Other Person Feel Unique 💎Give personalized attention to make them feel special.

16. Use Subtlety and Suggestion 🎭Avoid being overt; let your target imagine and desire more. 17. Lead Your Target on a Journey 🚶Create a sense of adventure, gradually increasing intensity.

18. Don’t Be Too Eager 🚫🙌Overzealousness can scare people off; maintain composure. 19. Avoid Monotony 🔄Keep things fresh and exciting to sustain interest.

Avoiding Mistakes

20. Don’t Overpower 🛑Subtlety is key; avoid being forceful or manipulative.

21. Make Them Dependent on You 🔗Create emotional or psychological dependency to solidify influence. 22. Leave Them Wanting More ✨Always end interactions on a high note to build anticipation.

The Ultimate Goal

Robert Greene emphasizes that seduction is a skill that combines psychology, strategy, and self-awareness, applicable in relationships, business, and life.

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Here’s a concise summary of "The Art of Seduction" by my favorite author "Robert Greene", outlining its key ideas:

Which sort of seducer could you be? Siren? Rake? Cold Coquette? Star? Comedian? Charismatic? Or Saint? This book will show you which. Charm, persuasion, the ability to create illusions: these are some of the many dazzling gifts of the Seducer, the compelling figure who is able to manipulate, mislead and give pleasure all at once. When raised to the level of art, seduction, an indirect and subtle form of power, has toppled empires, won elections and enslaved great minds. In this beautiful, sensually designed book, Greene unearths the two sides of seduction: the characters and the process. Discover who you, or your pursuer, most resembles. Learn, too, the pitfalls of the anti-Seducer. Immerse yourself in the twenty-four manoeuvres and strategies of the seductive process, the ritual by which a seducer gains mastery over their target. Understand how to 'Choose the Right Victim', 'Appear to Be an Object of Desire' and 'Confuse Desire and Reality'. In addition, Greene provides instruction on how to identify victims by type. Each fascinating character and each cunning tactic demonstrates a fundamental truth about who we are, and the targets we've become - or hope to win over. The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer on the essence of one of history's greatest weapons and the ultimate power trip. From the internationally bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power, Mastery, and The 33 Strategies Of War.

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Robert Greene is an American author of books on strategy, power, and seduction. He has written six international bestsellers, including The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature.

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1. Never Outshine the MasterAlways make your superiors feel superior; never appear smarter or more capable than them. 2. Conceal Your IntentionsKeep your plans hidden to create intrigue and avoid opposition.

3. Always Say Less Than NecessarySpeaking less makes you seem mysterious and in control. 4. Create a Cult of MysteryBe unpredictable to keep others off-balance and maintain control.

5. Win Through Actions, Not ArgumentsProve your point through results; arguments only create resentment. 6. Court Attention at All CostsVisibility is power; ensure you're noticed, even through controversy.

7. Get Others to Do the WorkDelegate tasks and take credit for results to conserve your energy. 8. Make People Depend on YouBuild a power base by making others rely on your skills or resources.

9. Avoid the Unhappy and the UnluckyNegative associations can drain your power. Surround yourself with positivity. 10. Infectious EmotionsUse charm to influence others emotionally rather than through logic.

11. Crush Your Enemies CompletelyLeave no chance for retaliation; a half-defeated enemy is dangerous. 12. Use Absence to Increase RespectStrategic withdrawal makes your presence more valued and missed.

13. Keep Others GuessingMake your actions unpredictable to foster respect and fear. 14. Create a Need for YouPosition yourself as indispensable by solving critical problems.

15. Act BoldlyConfidence commands respect and deters challengers. 16. Plan All the Way to the EndAnticipate obstacles and outcomes to avoid being caught off guard.

17. Control the NarrativeShape perceptions by framing events to your advantage. 18. Don’t Commit to AnyoneKeep your independence by avoiding allegiance to any single group.

19. Play to People's FantasiesPeople crave illusions; fulfill their fantasies to gain power over them. 20. Recreate YourselfContinuously adapt and reinvent yourself to maintain relevance and authority.

Each law emphasizes self-awareness, strategic thinking, and interpersonal manipulation to gain and maintain power.

Here's what I found most valuable in this book

Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature. In the book that People magazine proclaimed “beguiling” and “fascinating,” Robert Greene and Joost Elffers have distilled three thousand years of the history of power into 48 essential laws by drawing from the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, and Carl Von Clausewitz and also from the lives of figures ranging from Henry Kissinger to P.T. Barnum.   Some laws teach the need for prudence (“Law 1: Never Outshine the Master”), others teach the value of confidence (“Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness”), and many recommend absolute self-preservation (“Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally”). Every law, though, has one thing in common: an interest in total domination. In a bold and arresting two-color package, The 48 Laws of Power is ideal whether your aim is conquest, self-defense, or simply to understand the rules of the game.

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- Together, let's create a peaceful world for ourselves and future generations. ✌️🌍
- Wishing everyone a fantastic start to the new year! 🎇✨

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Love is more than a feeling—it is a commitment, a responsibility, and a symphony of two souls dancing together. It’s a delicate mix of hormones and neurotransmitters, often sparked by mere attraction, though sometimes it emerges more gradually.

What is Love ❤️

Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you

John Lee identified three primary love styles: Eros (Romantic, Passionate Love): Rooted in physical attraction and intense emotions.Ludus (Playful Love): Love as a game, often without deep commitment.Storge (Companionate Love): Love built on friendship and mutual respect.Interestingly, Lee described situationships long before they became a trend, recognizing them as a form of love without commitment—a connection driven by affection but lacking defined boundaries.

The Colors of Love- John Lee

Robert Sternberg’s model proposes that love is made up of three components:Intimacy: Emotional closeness and bonding.Passion: Physical and sexual attraction.Commitment: The decision to maintain a relationship over time.The balance of these three components changes the status of a relationship. For example:<ul><li>Intimacy + Passion = Romantic Love</li><li>Intimacy + Commitment = Companionate Love</li><li>Passion + Commitment = Fatuous Love</li></ul>

Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

Hazan and Shaver studied how our early relationships with caregivers shape our love. We may unconsciously look for traits of our parents in our partners, which affects our attachment styles:<ul><li>🔒 Secure: Comfortable with love and alone time</li><li>❣️ Anxious: Wanting closeness but scared of rejection</li><li>🚪 Avoidant: Keeping distance to stay safe</li></ul>This theory shows how our past influences our present love choices.

Attachment Theory of Love

<ul><li>Love Can Reduce Cancer Risk: Studies with mice models have demonstrated that love, or positive emotional bonds, can boost the immune system and reduce cancer progression.</li><li>Love Is Regulated: Love isn’t always spontaneous or uncontrollable. Understanding this can aid in recovering from breakups and regaining emotional balance.</li></ul>

Strange Facts About Love

Love Can Happen Multiple Times: It’s possible to fall in love more than once. However, choosing to remain single while cherishing memories of a past love is a personal decision.
Love Helps in Heartbreak Recovery: Understanding the psychology of love and romance can improve relationships and aid psychologists in helping people navigate heartbreak and moving on.

Multiple Loves & Heartbreak Healing

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The Psychology of Love: Secrets, Styles, and Surprising Truths.

You can’t direct someone to a solution, but you can guide them there with the right question.

Closed-ended questions often limit responses and block meaningful dialogue. Instead, use calibrated questions to encourage thought and discussion.Incorrect: “Do you like this approach?”Instead say: “What do you think about this approach?”

Avoid Yes-or-No Questions

Ask the right questions if you’re going to find the right answers.

Questions that feel accusatory can trigger defensiveness. Calibrated questions reframe these in a neutral and inviting way.Incorrect: “Why haven’t you fixed this issue yet?”Instead say: “What challenges have you faced in addressing this issue?”

Reframe Loaded Questions

Avoid assuming the other person’s motivations or goals; ask open-ended questions to understand their perspective.Incorrect: “You’re prioritizing this because it benefits you, right?”Instead say: “What’s driving your priorities in this situation?”

Replace Assumptions with Curiosity

Instead of focusing on what went wrong, calibrate your question to look for solutions.Incorrect: “Whose fault is it that we’re behind schedule?”Instead say: “What can we do to get back on track?”

Shift Blame to Problem-Solving

Encourage collaboration by framing your question to involve the other person in finding an answer.Incorrect: “Can you fix this problem?”Instead say: “How do you think we can solve this problem together?”

Make Them Part of the Solution

Questions open doors to unexpected possibilities.

When someone expresses dissatisfaction, avoid brushing it off with simple answers. Use a calibrated question to dig deeper.Incorrect: “Is everything okay with the project?”Instead say: “What specific issues do you think we should address in the project?”

Turn Vague Concerns into Specific Insights

Pause Before You Ask: Take a moment to frame your question thoughtfully.Be Nonjudgmental: Keep your tone neutral to invite openness.Encourage Elaboration: Use phrases like “Can you help me understand…” or “What do you mean by…” to dig deeper.

Practical Tips for Using Calibrated Questions

Calibrated questions are more than just a tool—they are a skill that transforms conversations into meaningful exchanges. By asking thoughtful, open-ended questions, you empower others to share insights, explore solutions, and build collaboration.By learning to ask the right questions the right way, you unlock the potential for growth, understanding, and success in every interaction.

Conclusion

Great questions create great relationships.

If you want to dive deeper into this concept, you can read my full article on Medium, where I share more personal experiences and insights:👉 <a href="https://medium.com/@luzbelyahabene/this-is-how-i-steer-any-conversation-in-my-favor-fe3a382a790e">How to Steer Any Conversation in Your Favor.</a>Try using calibrated questions in your own conversations, and let me know how they work for you! You might be surprised at how powerful they are.

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In our daily interactions, the way we frame questions can either open doors to understanding or shut down communication. Calibrated questions—those thoughtfully crafted to be open-ended and inviting—help steer conversations toward collaboration, problem-solving, and deeper insights.

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Your emotions act as signals, revealing what truly matters to you. Even uncomfortable feelings carry important messages.

Feelings Reflect Your Truth

Joy, love, and excitement remind you of life’s beauty, strengthening relationships and inner peace.

Positive Emotions are a Gift

Pain, sadness, and anger often reveal areas that need healing or change. They aren’t enemies—they guide you toward growth.

Negative Emotions are Hidden Teachers

Strong feelings can sometimes lead to impulsive decisions. Learning to pause and reflect can help you act with clarity.

Emotions Can Cloud Judgment

Ignoring emotions doesn’t erase them. Suppression builds internal pressure, leading to mental or physical burnout.

Suppressing Feelings is Dangerous

Feelings are powerful but don’t let them dominate you. A balanced approach—acknowledging them without overreacting—creates harmony.

Balance is Key

Passion, anger, or happiness can fuel motivation. Channeling these energies positively helps achieve personal goals.

Emotions Inspire Action

Not all emotions are accurate reflections of reality. Anxiety or fear may distort your perception, requiring careful analysis.

Feelings Can Be Misleading

The only way to move past difficult emotions is to allow yourself to feel them fully and process them with care.

Healing Comes Through Feeling

Gratitude helps shift focus from negative emotions to positive ones, reminding you of what’s good in life.

Gratitude Transforms Emotions

Understanding your emotions helps you manage them effectively. Emotional intelligence transforms feelings into a tool for personal growth.

Self-Awareness Makes Feelings a Blessing

"Feelings are like waves; you can’t stop them, but you can learn to surf. The blessing lies in understanding their purpose."

How to Recognize and Harness the True Nature of Your Feelings

Feelings: A Blessing or a Disguise? Understanding the Power of Emotions

Listening is more than hearing; it’s about understanding emotions and intentions. Brooks emphasizes the importance of active, empathetic listening as a way to truly connect. 	“Listening well is an act of generosity.”

Being genuinely curious about people’s experiences opens doors to meaningful connections. Asking thoughtful questions is a crucial skill. 	“Curiosity leads to understanding; assumptions lead to distance.”

Authentic relationships require consistent efforts to build trust over time, through honesty, reliability, and vulnerability. 	“Trust is earned, not assumed.”

Avoid reducing people to labels or roles. Brooks urges readers to appreciate the full complexity of each individual. 	“Every person is a world waiting to be discovered.”

Understanding someone requires paying attention to non-verbal cues, tone, and context to grasp their true emotions. 	“The words are often just the surface; the meaning lies beneath.”

Put yourself in others’ shoes to see the world from their perspective. Empathy bridges divides and fosters understanding. 	“To know someone, you must first feel with them

Commonalities unite us more than differences divide. Brooks highlights shared values and experiences as a foundation for connection. 	“We’re all more alike than we realize.”

Sharing your own struggles and experiences encourages others to open up, creating deeper connections. 	“Vulnerability invites vulnerability.”

Distractions erode relationships. Give people your full attention to truly see and understand them. 	“Presence is the greatest gift you can offer someone.”

People are shaped by their unique paths. Acknowledge their growth and story to truly appreciate who they are. 	“To know a person is to know their story.”

Discover the art of building deeper connections with empathy, curiosity, and genuine understanding.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person in order to foster deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives—from the author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.” And yet we humans don’t do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to? Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and his determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and from the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception. The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.

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Usually, when we have a problem that is circumstantial, we are facing the reality of life. However, when we face a chronic problem, we are facing the reality of ourselves. This is your moutain which arises out of co-existing but conflicting needs.

Identifying Problems

Your imperfections are the signs that you still have more potential within you.

Your mountain is the obstacle that prevents you from living the life you desire. Confronting it is the only way to achieve freedom and growth. You are here because a trigger revealed your wound, and it will guide you to your path and ultimately, your destiny.🧗‍♀️ Face your mountain to reach your dreams! 🌅

Mountain Within: Overcoming Life's Blocks

You must now learn agility, resilience, and self-understanding. In the end, it is not the mountain that you must master, but yourself.

The path to follow

It is simply a presence of an unconscious need that is being fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior. It can be a coping mechanism.We are merely numbing our real needs and giving ourselves temporary relief.It can take froms like: Resistence to change, Uprooting, Perfectionism, Justification, etc.

First Mountain: Self-Sabotage

Small shifts, compounded over time can result in permanent baseline adjustment.

Get angry with yourself, be determined and allow yourself to develop tunnel vision with one thing in mind - that you will not continue living like this. Say "I am not going to live like this anymore."

Commitment to Change

When you see someone who has something you want, congratulate them. This small gesture will extend back and open you up to receiving it as well.

Antidote to Jealousy

In our lives, we often feel resentment towards people when they don't meet our expectations. But why? We create an image of how we want them to be, and when they don't fit into that picture, we feel disappointed.However, if we let go of our expectations and accept people for who they truly are, we can see their unique value and appreciate them for the role they play in our lives. 🤝

About Resentment

The book urges us to focus on overcoming the obstacles that are present in our own mind. The thoughts and emotions shapes our relality, either leading to great or miserable life

THIS IS A BOOK ABOUT SELF-SABOTAGE.Why we do it, when we do it, and how to stop doing it-for good.Coexisting but conflicting needs create self-sabotaging behaviors. This is why we resist efforts to change, often until they feel completely futile. But by extracting crucial insight from our most damaging habits, building emotional intelligence by better understanding our brains and bodies, releasing past experiences at a cellular level, and learning to act as our highest potential future selves, we can step out of our own way and into our potential.For centuries, the mountain has been used as a metaphor for the big challenges we face, especially ones that seem impossible to overcome. To scale our mountains, we actually have to do the deep internal work of excavating trauma, building resilience, and adjusting how we show up for the climb.In the end, it is not the mountain we master, but ourselves.

The Mountain Is You

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The 48 Laws of Power

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The Art Of Seduction

The 48 Laws of Power

The Psychology of Love: Secrets, Styles, and Surprising Truths.

Mastering the Art of Calibrated Questions: A Path to Better Conversations

Feelings: A Blessing or a Disguise? Understanding the Power of Emotions

How to Know a Person

The Mountain Is You

We Were Dreamers

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