Hedonism and Stoicism are two philosophical ways to live happily.Hedonism focuses on seeking pleasure and joy, while Stoicism emphasizes self-control, morality, and dealing with difficulties.The combination of these two ideologies can create a balanced and fulfilling life where we prioritize both happiness and virtue. created by Juha Falck 2024

Hedostoicisim: Introduction

Hedonism encourages us to seek out and enjoy life’s pleasures, but in moderation and balance.
We must avoid overindulgence. It can lead to negative consequences and detract from our overall happiness. Instead, savor and appreciate each moment of pleasure and use it to nourish our souls.

The Pursuit of Pleasure

Stoicism teaches us to control ourselves, act with integrity, and face challenges as opportunities for growth.
To lead a fulfilling life, we must:
<ul>
<li>Master self-control</li>
<li>Act with virtue and integrity</li>
<li>Accept life's challenges</li>
</ul>
Embrace Stoicism and cultivate a fulfilling life!

Self-Control and Virtue

Hedonistic Stoicism encourages us to accept life as it is, and to be grateful for what we have. This does not mean that we must resign ourselves to a life of unhappiness, but rather that we must learn to appreciate what we have, even in the face of adversity.
When we cultivate a sense of gratitude, we become more resilient, and better equipped to handle life's challenges. 🙏

Acceptance and Gratitude

Hedonistic Stoicism is a way of life that involves finding a balance between pleasure and virtue. Moderation is key as we pursue pleasure and use it to increase our overall happiness. Self-control, virtue, and acceptance are also important, as they give meaning and purpose to our lives. 
<ul>
<li>Find balance between pleasure and virtue</li>
<li>Seek pleasure in moderation</li>
<li>Cultivate self-control, virtue, and acceptance</li>
<li>Enhance overall happiness</li>
</ul>

Balance and Harmony

Hedonistic Stoicism offers balance between pleasure and virtue, promoting gratitude, self-control & acceptance.
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<li>Balance pleasure & virtue</li>
<li>Promote gratitude, self-control & acceptance</li>
</ol>
We can lead lives filled with meaning, joy, & contentment by combining the best of both philosophy schools.

Hedonistic Stoicism: A Philosophy for a Fulfilling Life

<ol><li>Pursue pleasure in moderation: Seek out the things that bring you joy and happiness, but avoid overindulgence, as it can lead to negative consequences and detract from your overall well-being.</li><li>Cultivate self-control: Learn to control your desires, emotions, and actions, and act with integrity and virtue at all times.</li><li>Accept the hardships of life: Life is not always easy, but it is essential to accept the challenges that come your way, and use them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.</li></ol>

10 Rules Of Hedostoisim

4.Seek balance: Hedonistic Stoicism is about finding balance between pleasure and virtue, and avoiding extremes in either direction.5.Cultivate gratitude: Be thankful for what you have, and appreciate the small things in life, even in the face of adversity.6.Focus on what is within your control: Stop worrying about things that you cannot control, and focus on the things that you can change.7.Live in the present moment: Do not dwell on the past or worry about the future, but instead, focus on the present moment, and make the most of each day.

8.Practice mindfulness: Pay attention to your thoughts, emotions, and sensations, and cultivate a sense of awareness and presence in your daily life.9.Seek wisdom: Seek out knowledge and understanding, and strive to live a life that is guided by wisdom and reason.10.Be kind and compassionate: Show kindness and compassion to others, and strive to make a positive impact in the world. By living a life that is guided by these principles, you can lead a fulfilling life that is filled with joy, contentment, and meaning.

Living your life with the principles of Hedostoicism is a key to a happy life

Hedonistic Stoicism: A Manifesto for a Fulfilling Life

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Hedostoicisim: A manifesto for a fulfilling life

1. **The Importance of Nonverbal Communication**Body language often reveals more than spoken words, as our bodies give away genuine emotions.**Quote:** "The body doesn't lie, but people do."

Here are 15 key learning points from the book, along with insightful quotes:

- The two most fundamental nonverbal cues are comfort and discomfort. People who are comfortable tend to have open and relaxed postures, while discomfort leads to closed-off or defensive stances.  - **Quote:** "All nonverbal behavior can be categorized into comfort or discomfort displays."

2. **Understanding Comfort vs. Discomfort**

The face can often be misleading because it is the most controlled part of our body in social situations. It’s the other parts that give away real emotions.  - **Quote:** "When people lie, their body language tells the truth."

3. **Reading the Face – A Deceptive Signal**

Feet and legs are often the most honest part of the body since they are less controlled. Nervous or stressed individuals may display bouncing legs, pointing feet away from someone, or shifting weight.**Quote:** "Feet and legs are the most accurate indicators of how we truly feel."

4. **Pay Attention to Feet and Legs**

People who are comfortable with each other will often mirror each other’s body language. This reflects rapport and connection. **Quote:** "We mirror those we like and trust."

5. **The Power of Mirroring**

Open hand gestures signal honesty and confidence, while hands hidden in pockets or tightly gripping objects may indicate anxiety or discomfort. **Quote:** "Hands reveal a great deal about a person's true feelings."

6. **Reading Hand Gestures**

Nonverbal cues are often responses driven by the limbic brain, which governs our survival instincts. These behaviors are automatic and usually unconscious.**Quote:** "The limbic brain is the seat of the fight, flight, or freeze response, and it cannot be easily controlled."

7. **The Limbic Brain's Role**

While eye contact can signify interest and confidence, excessive or lack of it can indicate discomfort, deceit, or distraction.**Quote:** "The eyes can tell you what the mouth is trying to hide."

8. **Significance of Eye Contact**

The amount of space people maintain between themselves and others is telling. People create greater distances when uncomfortable and close the gap when they feel connected.**Quote:** "The distance we keep from others reveals how we truly feel about them."

9. **Understanding Personal Space**

Microexpressions are tiny, involuntary facial expressions that can flash across the face in a fraction of a second, revealing genuine emotions before the individual can mask them.**Quote:** "Microexpressions are the windows into the soul’s true intentions."

10. **Microexpressions – Fleeting Yet Revealing**

Deceptive individuals may exhibit incongruent body language or use overemphasized gestures to distract from their lies.**Quote:** "When someone lies, their words may be convincing, but their body language often tells a different story."

11. **Detecting Deception**

Stress manifests physically in various ways, such as increased touching of the face, neck, or arms. Recognizing these can indicate anxiety or internal conflict. **Quote:** "Our bodies can’t help but leak stress through self-soothing behaviors."

12. **Understanding Stress Cues**

Nonverbal cues are influenced by culture, so it is essential to be aware of different norms and behaviors across cultures.**Quote:** "Context is key—what may seem like discomfort in one culture could be a sign of respect in another."

13. **Cultural Differences Matter**

Before interpreting someone’s body language, establish their baseline behavior—how they act when calm and relaxed. This will help detect deviations that signify changes in emotional states. **Quote:** "To read someone accurately, you must first know how they act when they're at ease."

14. **Baseline Behavior**

Trustworthy communication occurs when verbal and nonverbal signals align. When they are incongruent, it often indicates deceit or hidden emotions.**Quote:** "What people say and what they do must match if we are to trust them."

15. **Congruence Between Verbal and Nonverbal Cues**

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*"What Everybody is Saying"* by Joe Navarro is a fascinating exploration of nonverbal communication, focusing on how to read body language effectively. As a former FBI agent, Navarro provides a detailed understanding of human behavior and teaches how to interpret subconscious signals.

Joe Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behavior, explains how to "speed-read" people: decode sentiments and behaviors, avoid hidden pitfalls, and look for deceptive behaviors. You'll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you. Read this book and send your nonverbal intelligence soaring. You will discover:<ul><li>The ancient survival instincts that drive body language</li><li>Why the face is the least likely place to gauge a person's true feelings</li><li>What thumbs, feet, and eyelids reveal about moods and motives</li><li>The most powerful behaviors that reveal our confidence and true sentiments</li><li>Simple nonverbals that instantly establish trust</li><li>Simple nonverbals that instantly communicate authority</li></ul>Filled with examples from Navarro's professional experience, this definitive book offers a powerful new way to navigate your world.

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Science & Nature

Joe Navarro is an author, public speaker and ex-FBI agent. Navarro specializes in the area of nonverbal communication or body language and has authored numerous books.

Joe Navarro

Librarian Note: There is more than one author by this name in the Goodreads database.Marvin Karlins is a best-selling writer and co-author of two poker books, Read ‘em and Reap and Deal Me In, as well as the pioneering text, P$yching Out Vegas. He was also senior editor and columnist at Gambling Times/Win Magazine for a decade. His poker articles have been featured in Cardplayer and Bluff magazines.

Marvin Karlins

What Every BODY is Saying

Your well-being should always be a top priority. Don’t ignore signs of stress, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion—invest time in self-care.

Take Your Mental Health Seriously

Everyone has an opinion, but not all are valid or relevant to your life. Know when to listen and when to let them roll off your back.

Don’t Take Opinions Too Seriously

Genuine connections with family, friends, and partners deserve attention and care. Invest in those relationships that nurture and uplift you.

Take Relationships Seriously

Failure is part of the growth process. Learn from setbacks but don’t dwell on them—keep moving forward with renewed purpose.

Don’t Take Setbacks Too Seriously

Whether personal or professional, honor your word. Being reliable builds trust and strengthens your reputation.

Take Commitments and Promises Seriously

Criticism, especially when it's baseless, should not affect your self-worth. Know how to filter constructive feedback from mere negativity.

Don’t Take Negative Comments Seriously

Stay committed to your aspirations. Focus your energy on reaching milestones that matter to you, while ignoring distractions.

Take Your Goals Seriously

Minor annoyances like traffic jams or delayed plans are part of life. Don’t let them steal your peace—shift your perspective and move on.

Don’t Take Small Inconveniences Seriously

Personal and professional growth relies on continuous learning. Stay curious and open to new knowledge and experiences.

Take Learning Seriously

Not every disagreement needs to be won or prolonged. Learn when it’s more beneficial to step back rather than engaging in pointless debates.

Don’t Take Every Argument Seriously

Your time is your most valuable resource. Use it wisely on things that add value to your life and well-being, rather than on things that drain you.

Take Your Time Seriously

"Life is a delicate balance between what truly matters and what doesn’t. The secret is in knowing the difference."

Mastering the Balance Between Seriousness and Letting Things Slide

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Love & Relationships

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The Art of Discernment: Knowing What to Take Seriously and What to Let Go

Gray's central premise is that men and women inhabit different emotional and psychological worlds. Understanding these differences is crucial for effective communication and harmonious relationships.- Men (Mars):Tend to be logical, analytical, and solution-focusedOften prioritize independence, competition, and achievementMay struggle with emotional expression and vulnerability- Women (Venus): Tend to be empathetic, intuitive, and relationship-orientedOften prioritize connection, cooperation, and emotional support- May struggle with assertiveness and boundary-setting

The Mars-Venus Divide

The book highlights common communication pitfalls:- Men's tendency to offer solutions vs. listening empathetically- Women's tendency to seek emotional support vs. solutions- Misinterpreting each other's intentions and needs.

Communication Challenges

Gray emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and fulfilling each other's emotional needs:- Men's need for respect, appreciation, and space- Women's need for emotional support, validation, and connection

Navigating Emotional Needs

To bridge the Mars-Venus divide:- Practice active listening and empathy- Recognize and respect each other's differences- Cultivate open communication and vulnerability- Embrace flexibility and compromise

Building Bridges

"when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom."

In 1992, John Gray's iconic book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" revolutionized our understanding of relationships, communication, and the sexes. This post delves into the book's core principles, exploring how its insights remain relevant today.

Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them. Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs. With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners.

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John Gray is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. John Gray has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. John Gray's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

John Gray

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Más sabe el diablo por viejo que por diablo”

”Cuentas claras conservan amistades”

“A otro perro con ese hueso”

“Cuando el rio suena, piedras trae”

“Al que no le guste, se le dan dos tazas”

“De tal palo, tal astilla”

“A quien madruga, Dios le ayuda”

“No hay mal que dure cien años, ni cuerpo que lo resista”

“Más vale malo conocido, que bueno por conocer”

“Camarón que se duerme, se lo lleva la corriente”

”Perro que ladra, no muerde”

“Hombre precavido, vale por dos”

“Árbol que nace torcido, jamás su tronco endereza”

“Más vale pájaro en mano, que cien volando

“Donde manda capitán, no manda marinero”

“Soldado avisado, no muere en guerra”

“Cría cuervos y te sacarán los ojos“

“A casa de herrero, cuchillo de palo”

Dichos Colombianos 

The main character did not see herself as a beautiful woman just because her parents said she was ugly, stupid, and unhealthy. However, we discover that she was pretty at the end of the novel.As a parent, you should make sure your child does not receive negative attitudes within your family. Love is all they need.

Parental Attitudes

Different people choose various ways to deal with difficult times. Some decide to fight, some choose to work harder, and others give up and run. There is no explanation for who chooses better or who is happier. But in my opinion, it's just different ways of coping. It's like a formula: "Fight, Flight, or Freeze".

Challenging Times

People you can rely on are the ones who are doing, not just dreaming. So if you want to save your family, your health, or your wealth, you should make an effort every day, every week.

Dreamers vs Realists

Sometimes, you just need to take full responsibility. Adulthood isn't about age — it's about obligations and the power of making hard decisions.People who talk more than they act are just grown-up children.

Responsibility

The most powerful people are always taking steps from one task to another. They try to discern what can possibly make a situation better and act on the circumstances. They don't wait for someone or something to change their lives. It takes a lot of hard work and a little bit of hope.

Step by Step

Home is not the place where you grew up. It is a place where your family and close friends are. Biological parents can be cold and detached, but strangers can be the kindest and closest.

Where is Home

You can't blame migrants for searching for a better life. They flee because of wars, natural disasters, and insecurity. They can be valuable for your country, city, or even your street. But usually, they just need time to adapt, find a proper job, and navigate the paperwork and rules of their new life. They are not inherently evil and do not intentionally interfere with the lives of others.

Help, Not Blame

Parents' lives are full of guilt and insecurities. You go from the sweetest childhood to fierce teenage and you can't predict if it will go well. The only way to save your relationship is to do better, make efforts, and love more than you can.They will appreciate your actions, just give it time.

Make Children Proud

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It's a novel about Great Depression and families that were destroyed by it. Great story! 

"The Bestselling Hardcover Novel of the Year."--Publishers Weekly From the number-one bestselling author of The Nightingale and The Great Alone comes a powerful American epic about love and heroism and hope, set during the Great Depression, a time when the country was in crisis and at war with itself, when millions were out of work and even the land seemed to have turned against them. “My land tells its story if you listen. The story of our family.” Texas, 1921. A time of abundance. The Great War is over, the bounty of the land is plentiful, and America is on the brink of a new and optimistic era. But for Elsa Wolcott, deemed too old to marry in a time when marriage is a woman’s only option, the future seems bleak. Until the night she meets Rafe Martinelli and decides to change the direction of her life. With her reputation in ruin, there is only one respectable choice: marriage to a man she barely knows. By 1934, the world has changed; millions are out of work and drought has devastated the Great Plains. Farmers are fighting to keep their land and their livelihoods as crops fail and water dries up and the earth cracks open. Dust storms roll relentlessly across the plains. Everything on the Martinelli farm is dying, including Elsa’s tenuous marriage; each day is a desperate battle against nature and a fight to keep her children alive. In this uncertain and perilous time, Elsa—like so many of her neighbors—must make an agonizing choice: fight for the land she loves or leave it behind and go west, to California, in search of a better life for her family. The Four Winds is a rich, sweeping novel that stunningly brings to life the Great Depression and the people who lived through it—the harsh realities that divided us as a nation and the enduring battle between the haves and the have-nots. A testament to hope, resilience, and the strength of the human spirit to survive adversity, The Four Winds is an indelible portrait of America and the American dream, as seen through the eyes of one indomitable woman whose courage and sacrifice will come to define a generation.

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Your self-talk shapes your confidence. Identify negative patterns and replace them with positive affirmations to shift your mindset towards self-belief.

Change Your Inner Dialogue

Confidence comes from progress. Embrace mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, rather than striving for unattainable perfection.

Focus on Growth, Not Perfection

Break big goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Celebrating small wins builds momentum and boosts confidence step by step.

Set Small, Achievable Goals

Regularly visualize yourself achieving your goals. This mental practice builds a positive expectation of success, increasing your belief in your capabilities.

Visualize Success

Confidence grows by facing fears. Act even when you're afraid, and over time, you'll train yourself to feel more confident in challenging situations.

Take Action Despite Fear

This approach promotes self-coaching and helps gradually increase your confidence.

"I devoured every page of this wonderfully written book." - Sergio Ezama, Chief Talent Officer, Netflix Want to be more confident at work? You're not alone. So many of us grapple with self-doubt. Perhaps you're an exhausted achiever? You're delivering results and progressing in your career, but you feel utterly worn out. You're compensating for a lack of confidence with excessive effort and punishingly high standards. Or perhaps you're feeling frustrated and unfulfilled? Self-doubt is making you hold yourself back, you're avoiding challenges that could demonstrate how good you really are. This book can help. Distilling over a decade of real- life research into clear insights, practical tools and impactful activities, Julie Smith shows you how to Coach Yourself Confident. Julie Smith is a sought-after executive coach and facilitator who works with leaders to grow their impact and supports teams to grow their effectiveness. Find out more at www.talentsprout.co.uk.

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Coach Yourself Confident

Set in a crumbling boarding school, "The Dead House" follows a group of students as they uncover the chilling history of their new home. Mysterious happenings abound, from unexplained noises to the unsettling presence of spirits lingering in the shadows. As friendships are tested and secrets come to light, the students must confront not only the malevolent forces at play but also their own fears.

The Dead House by Dawn Kurtagich

"The Reformatory" transports readers to a boys' reform school steeped in a dark and sinister past. As the protagonist navigates the harsh realities of the institution, he begins to encounter unsettling apparitions and haunting memories that challenge everything he thought he knew. Readers will find themselves drawn into the reformatory’s mysteries, where every corner holds the potential for terror.

The Reformatory by Tananarive Due

In "The Charmed Children of Rookskill Castle," a group of children discovers that their seemingly idyllic boarding school is steeped in magic and mystery. With a dark curse hanging over the castle, the students must band together to uncover the truth about their school’s enigmatic past. As they delve deeper into the castle’s secrets, they encounter a host of magical beings, both friend and foe.

The Charmed Children of Rookskill Castle by Janet Fox

Set in a small town during the summer of 1960, "The Summer of Night" follows a group of young friends as they confront their deepest fears and uncover dark secrets within their haunted school. As the boys navigate the trials of adolescence, they are drawn into a terrifying mystery involving supernatural forces that threaten their lives and the fabric of their town.

The Summer of Night by Dan Simmons

In "The Moth Diaries," a young girl at an all-girls boarding school grapples with the unsettling arrival of a new student who captivates her friend and seems to harbor dark secrets. As jealousy and obsession intertwine, the protagonist begins to question her sanity amid strange occurrences and haunting visions. With its gothic atmosphere and complex characters, "The Moth Diaries" offers a chilling exploration of the darker side of adolescence.

The Moth Diaries by Rachel Klein

When the teachers aren't the only ones watching you

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Terrifying Tales Set in Schools to Give You Chills

Rule 80/20 means 80% of what you eat is healthy and 20% is unhealthy.This rule is mainly about that you don’t have to count anything and you allow yourself to eat whatever you want.

What Is Rule 80/20?

Because as I already said in my previous post when you eat sometimes a little unhealthy it doesn’t do anything. You won’t die or take up 7 kilograms. And you will feel better. So you would eat around 80% healthy and 20% unhealthy and do you know, how much is it? Just a little. When you eat 20% unhealthy it’s so little that it won’t have any impact on you.

Why Is It Good?

The name is 80/20 but this is just average. It wants to show that the main part is healthy food but also unhealthy. It also depends on the amount, too. But stop counting calories or how much you eat. Why would you do that? When you want to lose weight (not because you want to be skinny but you need to lose weight) you can manage your goals in other ways than counting everything. Your life isn’t about numbers. Live your life.Btw: don’t count how many percent of unhealthy you eat. It can be once 40% a week and then 10%. Follow your feeling and mood.

Don’t Count It

Rule 80/20

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Hedostoicisim: A manifesto for a fulfilling life

What Every BODY is Saying

The Art of Discernment: Knowing What to Take Seriously and What to Let Go

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Dichos Colombianos

The Four Winds

Coach Yourself Confident

Terrifying Tales Set in Schools to Give You Chills

Rule 80/20

Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster: A Guide to Managing Ups and Downs

It's time to
Read like a Pro.

Hedostoicisim: A manifesto for a fulfilling life

What Every BODY is Saying

The Art of Discernment: Knowing What to Take Seriously and What to Let Go

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Dichos Colombianos

The Four Winds

Coach Yourself Confident

Terrifying Tales Set in Schools to Give You Chills

Rule 80/20

Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster: A Guide to Managing Ups and Downs

It's time to Read like a Pro.

It's time to
Read like a Pro.