Our days can feel like a crazy sea of distraction, stress, busyness and overwhelm.We can get lost in that sea, and it’s hard to figure out how to find mindfulness and focus in the middle of it all.The answer, I’ve repeatedly found, is in the pure elegance of simplicity.Simplify to find focus. Simplify to find peace. Simplify to find a way through the sea of chaos.Let’s look at some things you can do today to create the elegance of simplicity and focus in your life.

A Crazy Sea Of Distractio

The distraction of multitasking and technology can be hard to overcome. But it drains away our mindfulness, effectiveness, and life energy. So let’s do something about it.Let’s start with the phone. Put all apps into one folder. I call mine “uncertainty” to remind me that everything lives in uncertainty.Keep the homescreen clear. No tempting apps to click on. I use the search function to open an app, requiring myself to type in the name, which makes me think about what I’m doing.Shut off almost all notifications.Choose a simple and beautiful background to remind me to be mindful.

Simplify to Clear Distractions

Let’s move on to the computer, which has some similar steps (these instructions are for a Mac but Windows/Linux users could use similar ideas):Clear your desktop (put all files into one folder, or several). Put a nice wallpaper in the background.Clear the dock. Instead, use a search app to open apps, such as Alfred, Spotlight or Launchbar.Turn off most notifications.Single-task. Close all apps but the one(s) you’re using.

Simplify Your Computer

Single tab. Close everything else. If it’s important, throw it into a read-later service, bookmark it, or put it into your todo manager.Close your email program. When you open it, open with intention, and clear out the inbox as much as you can. Then close it.Use the Momentum add-on to keep yourself focused and mindful.I like single-tasking apps, at full screen, like Ommwriter, when I’m writing or doing other work outside of the browser.Simplifying your physical and digital workspaces will help you be less distracted, and more able to focus on a single task.

Simplify Your Browser

As much as possible, it’s best to focus on a single task at a time. With intention.That means, instead of constantly switching around, it’s best to pick one thing and set aside some time (10 minutes, half an hour, etc.) to focus on just that thing. If it’s important enough to take up your attention and time, it’s important enough to give it the space for complete focus.When you clear everything aside, before you dive fullbore into the task, ask yourself, “What is my intention here?”

Simplify Your Focus

Perhaps the intention is just to learn to focus better. Maybe it’s to push into discomfort and uncertainty. Maybe it’s to be mindful and joyful as you work. Whatever your intention, set it consciously. Then get started, with focus. Don’t let yourself do anything else, even if you feel the urge to switch. At least for 10 minutes. Simplify by setting intention and keeping your focus on one thing at a time, as much as you’re able. This is a practice, which means you won’t be perfect at it, but daily practice helps you get better.

Simplify Your Intention

As you narrow your focus on fewer things, simplify your workspace so that there are fewer distractions, and practice single-minded focus with intention … things start to change.It’s like the reverse of how the distraction of technology and social media changes our brains. Our brains seem to become calmer, more at peace, when we find joy in the elegance of simplicity.It’s the pure elegance of simplicity, and it is found in the paring down.

The Elegance of Simplicity

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Pursuing a dream is hard work, but the right words delivered at the right time—by people who’ve been there and done that—can give us just the motivation we need. The right words can rekindle our enthusiasm, re-energize our efforts, dispel doubt, let us know we’re not alone, and show us that the fight is worth it—and winnable. Kathryn and Ross Petras are masters at choosing and delivering just the right words. Their books—such as “Age Doesn’t Matter Unless You’re a Cheese” and “Dance First. Think Later.”—and bestselling calendar, The 365 Stupidest Things Ever Said, have over 5.2 million copies in print. Now comes a book for dreamers and doers, plus writers, entrepreneurs, graduates, artists, future movers and shakers. Collecting the hard-won, brilliantly expressed advice from pioneers who have paved the way, including everyone from Rumi to Steve Jobs, Michelangelo to Oprah to Tina Fey, “It Always Seems Impossible Until It’s Done” is like a rousing locker-room speech, inspiring courage, commitment, and perseverance. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” —Michael Jordan “Go for it, baby! Life ain’t no dress rehearsal.” —Tallulah Bankhead “Perfection is like chasing the horizon. Keep moving.” —Neil Gaiman “If you aren’t in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?” —T. S. Eliot “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” —Nelson Mandela

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Alongside love, gifts, and food, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/guilt">guilt </a>is often served up for the holidays and other emotionally loaded family gatherings. We’ve all tasted it. “Why can’t you stay longer? You're too busy now for me?” mom said to Michael as he kissed her goodbye. Later that week, when he called his mom, she seemed aloof, giving him the cold shoulder.

A Side Of Guilt

And so it goes when guilt is used unconsciously to get loved ones to do what we want and “feel our pain” – though it does not always produce the intended result. Further, when it does “work,” guilt is costly to the relationship – breeding resentment and limiting authentic engagement, co-opting the genuine desire to connect, and replacing it with robotic compliance, rebellion, and/or avoidance. Regardless, it’s not uncommon for certain people to resort to using and manipulating others without awareness to manage longing, loss, disappointment, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/anxiety">anxiety</a>, and other states of mind.

What We “Want” Guilt To Do And What It Does

Guilt-tripping is, in effect, a form of emotional blackmail. But it is typically an <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious">unconscious </a>process whereby the guilt-tripper feels entitled and innocent of any misdeed. On the receiving end, it feels like an oppressive intangible force that invisibly intrudes into our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/proxemics">personal space </a>confusingly and frustratingly, bolstered by plausible deniability and reversal of blame.

Guilt-Tripping Is Unconscious. That Doesn’t Make Innocent. 

What leads some people to be so easily offended and resort to emotional manipulation to get others to do what they want or pay the price?How we feel in relationships and whether disappointments are tolerable is mostly determined not by what another person does but, rather, our interpretation of what it really means, how it affects our sense of security, and, importantly, whether these assumptions are taken as facts.

Assumptions Are Not Facts. 

In a healthier version of events, the mom might have interpreted her son’s decision to leave in a way that was more benign and less self-focused, which would have made it easier for her to tolerate her feelings of disappointment about him leaving.If she had thought: “I know he has a lot going on in his own life now, but it’s hard to say goodbye,” she might have felt a bittersweet feeling, appreciated him more, or maybe felt <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/gratitude">gratitude</a>. In this mindset, she might have said, “I’ve missed you - it’s always so wonderful to see you. I’m glad you came over.”

A Healthier Version Of Events

In contrast, Michael’s mom personalized the meaning of her son’s decision to leave and, feeling rebuffed, confused her feelings with his intention and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation">motivation </a>– a common cognitive attribution error. Because she feared being forgotten and abandoned, she assumed, “He’s leaving because he doesn’t care about me anymore.” This interpretation set the stage for a self-fulfilling prophecy, creating the very avoidance and rejection she feared, with her accusation, implicit demand, and cold shoulder.

The Almighty Attribution Bias: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

We have all felt slighted or rejected at times, even when the other person’s behavior or attitude had nothing to do with us. It is easy to project our reactions and fears onto situations when we feel insecure, especially ambiguity. But reading negative intent into something a person says or does because it made us feel bad is a false equivalency that typically leads to the wrong conclusion, usually a more painful one.

A Wrong Conclusion, And A More Painful One At That

A characteristic pattern of misinterpretations like these coupled with emotionally manipulative behavior is different from normal insecurity. This dynamic results from an essential inability to step outside of oneself and notice, as well as tolerate, that a loved one is separate from us with their mind and motivations. People who habitually relate in this way are not onto themselves. They lack “mindsight” – the capacity to reflect, recognize and interpret their state of mind and other people’s (Siegel & Hartzell, 2018).

Lack Of Awareness Or “Mindsight”

This lack of awareness fuels a narcissistic tendency to rigidly adhere to one’s beliefs and impressions with “pathological certainty,” creating a perfect storm to perceive others as disloyal and abandoning and punishing non-compliance.When someone does us wrong, it’s human to want justice and seek vindication. We want whoever hurt us to suffer too, and even the score. In this case, unlike the previous example, the need to punish someone and make them feel bad is not disowned but deliberate, conscious, and even satisfying (mostly in fantasy).

Pathological Certainty And Vindication

Evening the score means you are caught being controlled by what the other person did and perpetuates a destructive cycle, rather than solving the problem. Winning the battle of vengeance is a defeat for the relationship, reinforcing the practice of dirty fighting and one-upmanship to manage hurt and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/anger">anger</a>. Further, encouraging this mindset in oneself rehearses a repetitive inner script and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroscience">neural </a>pathway fueling anger.Alternatively, when we choose to uphold our standard of behavior rather than be reactive and indulge anger, we feel more peaceful, in control, and freed up to create new pathways

Does Punishing Other People Help Us Feel Better?

There is also a positive, unconscious motivation for making someone feel bad when they’ve hurt us that is often misunderstood and missed. When someone we are attached to seems impervious or indifferent to how we feel, trying to make them feel bad and evoke a reaction can be an instinctive, primitive effort to communicate pain, elicit empathy, and create a “felt” connection. This can happen when the need to connect is intense, but there is no way to get through and wake the other person out of their detachment or indifference or get them to feel something closer to the intensity of what we feel

A Positive Motivation: Trying To Make A Connection With Someone

The answer lies in how it affects our relationships. The hallmark of a healthy relationship is mutuality – the back and forth dance between two people as they move between connection and autonomy. Guilt-tripping is an unwitting attempt to manage perceived rejection, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/loneliness">loneliness</a>, or other difficult feelings by controlling other people, seeing them as responsible for our state of mind, and trying to force them to make up for our suffering or else pay the price.

How Can We Tell if the Guilt in Our Lives Is Pathological?

The predominant attitude of entitlement and lack of respect for other people’s separateness and autonomy that is endemic to guilt violates the mutuality of relationships. And the feeling of gratitude that nourishes love and peace.Awareness of our loved one’s limitations and propensities, in this case being on to the guilt-tripper, can allow us to preempt difficult situations and binds. We don’t have to feel guilty for setting the boundaries we need. We can love and care about someone and legitimately, without malice, have different boundaries and needs that compete with theirs.

Guilt Is Entitlement And Lack Of Respect. Is That Really You?

Chances are, we all are, or have been, guilty of guilt-tripping; it is, after all, a mostly unconscious act. Let’s educate ourselves about it, and let’s all serve the people in our lives a little less guilt and a little more love.

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