“The person who masters himself through self-control and discipline is truly undefeatable”.

self-control is to have control over one’s feeling, emotions, reactions and behaviour to different situations, circumstances, and persons around you. It’s a way and method of regulating and modulating our attitude and reactions to external circumstances and persons

Meaning Of Self Control

It is nothing but art, skill and inner power to regulate and modulate your strong feelings of Joy, anger, emotions and behaviour

It Is An Art

The scientific, medical and spiritual explanation for this actions and interventions is that all these measures increase Self- Awareness. Self Awareness is nothing but knowing and informed about oneself. Because of increased self-awareness, there is good self-control over impulses, temptations, emotions and feelings

Daily Practice Of Meditation

Regular exercise and walk reduce the stress level and increased the oxygen supply of the brain.

Regular Exercise

Adequate sleep is the best antidote for stress management and clears most of the metabolic waste during sleep.

Adequate Sleep 

Know your Emotional quotient (EQ)-It is nothing but knowing your emotions and impulses

Emotional Quotient (EQ)

We should do our best and give 100 per cent effort to improve the circumstances and persons around us but leave rest of thing to time and cosmic –consciousness.

Consciousness

“Nothing is constant in this world except change. Change is the rule of life and we must accept the changes”

“He who conquers others is not mighty. He who conquers himself is mighty”

The idea of self control is vast. Self control is hard to practice though we try to apply every rule of self control in our day to day life. Why self control is important and in what ways you can achieve it it's given in following idea! Peace ☮️

This article gives you an insight and tips for self control and self management.

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Regarding Self Control in Journey of Life.

Meditation can give you a sense of calm, peace and balance that can benefit both your emotional well-being and your overall health. And these benefits don't end when your meditation session ends. Meditation can help carry you more calmly through your day and may help you manage symptoms of certain medical conditions.

Why To Meditate

You have the ability to engage in the practice anytime, anywhere. The key is focusing on what's happening inside your head. ... Even though thoughts might creep into your mind, you are still able to meditate. As long as you don't forget your breath, anything is okay

Where To Meditate

So, 10 minutes a day is a perfect starting point. It's perfectly fine to continue meditating for just 10 minutes a day, you will definitely see considerable benefits such as being more aware, present, focused, etc. no matter how long you meditate.

How Long Should I Meditate

Having a crowded mind is normal and will get better over time. These are some of the tips you can use for making it more relaxed<ul><li>Get in a comfortable position. When you think of meditation, the lotus position (a cross-legged, seated asana) probably comes to mind</li><li>Take deep breaths</li><li>Don't judge yourself when your thoughts start to wander</li><li>Use a guided meditation app</li><li>Meditate regularly</li></ul>

But My Thoughts Are All Over The Place

Meditation takes practice. Keep in mind, for instance, that it's common for your mind to wander during meditation, no matter how long you've been practicing meditation. If you're meditating to calm your mind and your attention wanders, slowly return to the object, sensation or movement you're focusing on.

Practice Practice Practice 

From my own experience meditation takes practice. Your mind will be all over the place and you will get distracted often. Knowing your when and where to meditate can help you a lot clearing your mind. Meditation is for everyone and you need to discover it on your own. Its a unique experience for everyone so you can try it and see how you feel

Personal Experience 

Want to know how and when to meditate or you need that extra push to help you start. This is a perfect article for you

Mindfulness isn’t limited to meditation, but it’s a great place to start. Meditation is both a skill and an experience that can impact your overall health and happiness.

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Meditation  A how to start guide - Headspace

<ul><li>Your DNA dictates what you were born to do. Follow your passion, don’t listen to what society has to say about success.</li><li>There is enough success out there and if you want it badly enough, you will get it.</li><li>When building your personal brand, focus on the quality of the relationships with your followers and not on their numbers.</li><li>Be authentic and produce quality content.</li></ul>

Success Is In Your DNA

“There is no excuse for anyone living in the United States or anywhere else right now to slog through his or her entire life working at jobs they hate, or even jobs they simply don’t love, in the name of a paycheck or a sense of responsibility.”

Gary Vaynerchuk

“Quality is a tremendous filter. Cream always rises, my friends, no matter how many cups of coffee you pour.”

<ul>
<li>Plan to develop and grow your own brand and business alongside your current job. This is how you will open opportunities in the digital economy.</li>
<li>As long as you are working for someone else, you will never be living entirely true to yourself and your passion.</li>
<li>To monetize your personal brand, you need two pillars: product, and content. Great content is what will attract people to your blog.</li>
</ul>

A Whole New World

Someone with less talent and poor content can beat you if they work harder than you. Before you invest in yourself, you have to invest in your long-term future.When building your personal brand, focus on creating communities by starting conversations. Once you have created your online brand, do some online advertising. You can also engage in affiliate marketing.

Keep It Real

<ol><li>Identify your passion</li><li>Make sure you can think of at least fifty awesome topics and posts.</li><li>Answer the following questions: Am I sure my passion is what I think it is? Can I talk about it better than anyone else?</li><li>Name your personal brand.</li><li>Buy your user name.</li><li>Choose your medium: video, audio, written word</li><li>Start a Website.</li><li>Hire a designer</li><li>Select all of the platforms to which you want to distribute your content.</li><li>Post your content.</li></ol>

Your Personal Brand: Starting Your Thing

<ol><li>Start creating community by leaving comments on other people’s blogs and forums.</li><li>Find more blogs that are relevant to your subject on Google</li><li>Join as many active fan pages and groups relating to your blog topic as possible.</li><li>Repeat steps 11 through 15.</li><li>When you feel your personal brand has gained sufficient attention and stickiness, start reaching out to advertisers and begin monetizing</li></ol>

Your Personal Brand: Small To Big

Do you have a hobby you wish you could indulge in all day? An obsession that keeps you up at night? Now is the perfect time to take that passion and make a living doing what you love. In Crush It! Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion, Gary Vaynerchuk shows you how to use the power of the Internet to turn your real interests into real businesses. Gary spent years building his family business from a local wine shop into a national industry leader. Then one day he turned on a video camera, and by using the secrets revealed here, transformed his entire life and earning potential by building his personal brand. By the end of this book, readers will have learned how to harness the power of the Internet to make their entrepreneurial dreams come true. Step by step, Crush It! is the ultimate driver’s manual for modern business.

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Do you have a hobby you wish you could indulge in all day? An obsession that keeps you up at night? Now is the perfect time to take that passion and make a living doing what you love. In Crush It! Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion, Gary Vaynerchuk shows you how to use the power of the Internet to turn your real interests into real businesses. Gary spent years building his family business from a local wine shop into a national industry leader. Then one day he turned on a video camera, and by using the secrets revealed here, transformed his entire life and earning potential by building his personal brand. By the end of this book, readers will have learned how to harness the power of the Internet to make their entrepreneurial dreams come true. Step by step, Crush It! is the ultimate driver’s manual for modern business.

Crush It!

This one is painful; they are constantly the counselors for others and can size up someone else’s issues very quickly. They are very skilled in this area because they do it so effortlessly, almost without thought. Surprisingly, when it comes to their own emotions - they are lost. It takes days, sometimes weeks of hoping for a sign to point them in the right direction. For them, it feels like a hopeless and impossible task to figure out how they even feel.

1. Understanding everyone else's emotions, but not their own

INFJs are social chameleons. They can fit in anywhere and go with any crowd; they don’t always like to, but it is possible if it’s necessary. They have the ability to see people and understand them and their situation - yet they very rarely feel like they fit in and being accepted. It's difficult for them to show people who they truly are and are never really understood.

2. Fitting in everywhere, but not being understood

INFJs have an amazingly accurate intuition that is highly perceptive. They know things, things about people and about situations. The thing is, they're also very idealistic and want to believe the best in people. At times they tend to ignore this intuition and are too trusting. They can be easily persuaded to believe something that they know is not true at all, especially when they're young.

3. Perceptive, yet gullible

INFJs are often highly intelligent. They have a curiosity about them that drives them to ask for the why behind everything. They spend most of their free time researching things, watching a documentary or listening to an informational podcast. They absorb all kinds of information from lots of different places. But this booksmartness about INFJs doesn’t translate to street smarts. They can be naive about certain social constructs that most people are aware of.

4. Smart, yet confused when it comes to social constructs

INFJs have a knack for controlling their outward appearance. They put a great deal of thought into making others comfortable. This is one of the many reasons they don’t share their problems with others frequently. Most people never know the chaos that is going on inside of the INFJs mind based on their outward appearance. They can have a complete meltdown inside their heads, but are still calm and collected on the outside, completing their everyday tasks.

5. Calm on the outside, chaos inside

INFJs have strong feelings, but they also use the thinking side of their brains as well. They're emotional and logical at the same time. It creates a war between the two sides when they are trying to make big decisions. This can cause them to get stuck in planning mode, going back and forth between following their hopes and dreams or doing something a bit more realistic and safe.

6. Lead with feelings, but still logical

Always searching for perfection, but realizing that it’s not reasonable. It’s a constant battle for INFJs. They know their standards are high, but struggle to find the balance between dreams and reality.

7. Idealistic and realistic at the same time

INFJs love to dream. Their imagination is their favorite place to be; but they don’t just live in their heads. They are able to take those dreams and put them to work, make them a reality in come to live. They put in the work, make the sacrifices and watch them come true.

8. Dreamers and doers

INFJs have a deep desire to make those they love happy. They want to do the right thing and be there for them when they need us. But They also want to go their own way and follow their dreams. Sometimes that means rebelling against the status quo. It’s also hard for INFJs to accept the reasoning: “We do it that way because we have always done it that way.” They're constantly looking for ways to improve things and want to put that natural ability to work. INFJs rebel against any rules or systems don’t make sense to them.

9. Striving to make everyone happy, but still rebellious

This is a constant struggle. INFJs care so much for those around them hat they will drop everything to show up for them. But they need alone time. It’s not an option for INFJs, it’s a necessity to recharge.

10. Wanting to help people, yet needing to be alone

INFJs crave a deep connection with one or two people in our lives. They need someone to understand and see us them for who they really are. INFJs long for that connection at times. It’s incredibly difficult for them to share their innermost secrets with anyone.

11. Wanting a deep connection to someone, but not open up

INFJs standards are incredibly high, about everything. There are very few people that they will make excuses for. But every once in a while someone special shows up and we make all the excuses they possibly can. INFJs want to see the good in them rather than the bad. They are loyal to the core and will do anything for those that they love.

12. Having high standards, but making excuses for people

INFJs are very good a keeping their cool and not saying too much, most of the time. When they feel comfortable enough to start to open up to someone it can become an avalanche. It’s so rare that INFJs find someone that they can open up to, so when they do we end up saying way too much and regretting it as it is happening.

13. Saying too much or nothing at all

INFJs don’t put too much thought into how they look and dress. They are aware enough about society to know what is acceptable and have a fear of standing out. They put in an adequate amount of effort into looking the best and call it good. It’s easy for them to get wrapped up in fitting in with the people that they are around. INFJs don’t want to be superficial, but also don’t want to be obtuse either.

14. They care about how they look, but hate being superficial

INFJs label this one “things that go on in our heads that we don’t like to talk about.” INFJs have a very active imagination that wanders into some interesting places at times. The possibilities are endless. Some of these things are fun to explore for them with the right person too.

15. Hopeless romantic with a dirty mind

INFJs are full of contradictions. It’s a part of our everyday lives that we just accept. Sometimes we don’t really even notice until someone points them out. Let’s take a look at a few of them.  1. Understanding everyone else’s emotions, but not our own This one is painful. We are constantly the counselors and…

Understand yourself and those around you.

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15 Contradictions About INFJs

‘When you walk, walk.When you eat, eat.When you sit, sit.’

It may seem simplistic, but it contains enormous wisdom! I mean, what do we often do: when we walk, we think, when we eat, we think, and when we sit…yes, we think!! And to say thinking is actually giving us too much credit…most of the time we are not really thinking, but are lost in thought.

Finding, creating presence in everything you do.

The World in the Mind – Yoga of Presence

Psychologists understand intelligence as much more than IQ. They identify it with an individual’s ability to adapt to their environment. Executive intelligence is the ability to know how to make decisions and curb impulses. The ability to reflect on what we feel and think. This means knowing how to plan our actions and direct our attention.

Executive Intelligence

Studying this type of intelligence in the physiological plane makes one focus on the frontal lobe. Especially in the prefrontal cortex, the one responsible for impulse control and decision-making.

Biological foundation of executive intelligence

When looking for information on the biological basis of executive intelligence, you’ll most likely find the term “executive functions”. This is because executive intelligence is a separate field of study: every skill and every function . This is why scientific articles usually talk about executive functions - not about intelligence. However, the term executive intelligence is correct; it refers to the use of all functions as a whole.

Term clarification

Self-control is one of the main components of executive intelligence. Self-control is one of the main components of executive intelligence. The frontal lobe is responsible for regulating our many behaviors; for assessing the possible consequences of our actions and deciding what to do in each situation. The weight of education and cultural pressure rests with the frontal lobe and is part of executive intelligence.

Self-Control

The regulation of our behavior is part of executive intelligence. This type of intelligence is about the ability to know when to act and when to simply do nothing. It's about the ability to control our impulses. That is why one way to attain this type of skill is to make it a point to gain self-control.

Regulation of our behavior

Why is the working memory part of executive intelligence? Our working memory allows us to establish relationships between different elements and we make decisions based on them. Thus, working memory is what allows us to integrate information, to reason, and to reach conclusions after processing information from different sources. One way to boost your working memory is by performing mental calculations.

Executive intelligence: working memory

Working memory is the type of memory we use to develop reasoning; to remember things in the very short term. It’s what allows us to develop action plans and make decisions. Let’s say it’s the type of memory we call a processor, or CPU, on a computer. Working memory allows us to manage a large quantity of information in a short amount of time. We can put everything together in order to assess what to do, how we feel, and what’s the next step to take.

What is working memory? 

Being able to make decisions in a thoughtful manner in the shortest possible time is part of executive intelligence. An intelligent decision-making process values ​​the pros and cons of each possibility. The decision-making process we carry out from executive intelligence implies a great capacity to consider a scenario beyond reality and mentally consider all the various possible scenarios.Planning skills are another component of executive intelligence. Executive intelligence is responsible for devising plans and strategies to achieve goals through planning.

Planning and decision-making

A properly developed executive intelligence allows you to adjust your ideas to the changes you experience in your reality. A change in opinion is a sign of cognitive flexibility. It allows you to adapt your thoughts or plans to the circumstances of a given moment. Being flexible at the cognitive level has to do with a greater capacity to manage frustration. Highly intelligent people, at the executive level, have a greater ability to adapt to adversity. It’s all due to their cognitive flexibility . If they have a plan and things don’t go as expected, they keep the goal but change the plan.

Executive intelligence of cognitive flexibility

This component of executive intelligence is perhaps what makes you human. Abstract reasoning is what allows you to work on your emotions, feelings, doubts, fears, and other psychological aspects. You can think in abstract terms about “things” that don’t exist in the physical world but in the mental or emotional one. You can also think about what you think (metacognition). Abstract reasoning is what helps you feel that your existence is worth it. Without the capacity for abstract reasoning, you would have an excessively pragmatic and meaningless life.

Reasoning or abstract thinking

When we think of intelligence we usually envision academic intelligence. Bu it doesn't include everything; executive intelligence, for instance.

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Executive Intelligence - Characteristics

is the observed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes.

The hedonic threadmill

Ironically, the pursuit of happiness can lead us into the eternal trap of chasing unhappiness

1) It's never enough — you'll always want more2) The outside world can never deliver lasting happiness3) Instead of looking at the external, look inside

3 things about the hedonic threadmill

<ul><li>meditation</li><li>gratitude</li><li>exercise</li></ul>

How to get off the threadmill

This is something I struggle with from time to time, putting it out there to serve as a reminder.

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To the outside world, I had just sold Twitch and was on top of the world. But inside, I was unhappy. Why? Let me introduce you to the hedonic treadmill. Watch to hear the full story!

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Why I Was "Successful" But Unhappy | Storytime with Justin Kan

Managers might be misperceiving calling-oriented employees’ levels of performance and this might affect how the managers decided to reward those employees.<ul><li>Calling-oriented employees tend to volunteer to perform extra tasks, so managers might extrapolate these signals to see them as more self-driven, hardworking, and committed. </li><li>Managers tend to judge employee performance and commitment based on easily available information rather than a detailed assessment on output or results. </li><li>The sense of obligation to reward good deeds is a moral and social norm, but by adhering to it without adequate information managers can end up rewarding “good” behaviors that don’t actually benefit the company.</li></ul>

The Benefits of a Calling

Managers should not get carried away by the current obsession with seeking a higher purpose at work. This may create an unhealthy culture of employees signaling a sense of purpose they might not have, or it may drive away job-oriented workers.Having employees with different career orientation types contributes to the diversity of organizations. Studies show that work teams benefit from having both calling- and job-oriented members: The former boost the team’s energy with their strong sense of purpose; the latter help to keep the team grounded.

The Halo – and Deceit – of Purpose

Research finds that managers tend to reward passion — even if it’s not correlated with results.

Your Most Passionate Employees May Not Be Your Top Performers

Here are a couple of effective ways to exercise self-compassion whenever you need it. Try saying the following to yourself: ^*^“I accept the good, the bad and the ugly; I fully accept every part of myself including my flaws, fears, behaviors, and qualities I might not be too proud of. This is how I am, and I am at peace with that.”^*^“No matter what happens externally and no matter what’s taken away from me, I’m not affected internally.”

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Habits

A simple guide to recognizing your self-worth

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”

life on this planet is designed to be difficult and unpredictable. When we accept the reality of suffering, it is not wrong to sometimes feel negative emotions. Getting comfortable with reality is key to happiness.

                 Acceptance

Resilience or mental toughness is simply the quality of how fast and effectively we bounce back from an upsetting situation and move forward.It gives us the capacity to face up challenges effectively and flourish in the face of adversity.

                  Resilience

Always see the light at both ends of the tunnel. No matter how deep and dragged our ordeal is, there is always a beginning and an end.It is the ability to see things more positively and devise a constructive attitude towards the world.

         Positive Outlook

Nothing good comes out of a sick mind and body.Take care of yourself. A healthy mind and body can cope with any problem.

          Physical Fitness

Let’s promise to stand up, take back control of our lives and start the voyage to a happy and fulfilling life.

                Motivation

Let’s promise to stand up, take back control of our lives and start the voyage to a happy and fulfilling life.

The Art of Happiness: Learning These 04 Skills will Help You to be Happy When You are Down

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