It’s painful when you get up in the morning already stressed out.You wake up at 6 a.m. And your to-do list taunts you with notifications. So, you drink a hot coffee. You race through emails in 10 seconds. You dash out the door. And you’re on your way to work – but they are waiting for you with open arms and hundreds of problems.Sounds familiar?

Stressing out because of bad habits

I used to live this kind of life a few years ago. I ran towards productivity, compared myself with others, and skipped sleeping hours only to be the best. But you can never succeed if you treat yourself like an object. Anxiety will soon reach out. And a brutal wake-up call will take your breath away (unfortunately, not in a good way.)Yet, this isn’t just my story. Millions of people live the same toxic cycle. But you can break free. Here are 7 habits that can crush your mental health and how to avoid them.

7 Habits that can Crush Your Mental Health

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Overthinking is the millennial pandemic.Everyone has lost their mind over a wrong decision made in the past. But nowadays, the phenomenon has become systemic.People love to live in their past instead of thinking about their future. And when that future hits them on the nose, they start crying and look back to see what hit them.Do you see the irony?

1 – Overthinking past failures.

Mindfulness is the opposite of overthinking. You elevate your mind to a higher reality and remove yourself from the stream of thoughts. And, even if a thought catches your attention, you learn to stop the stream.Start with mindfulness if you want to learn how to control your thoughts. But if that’s too much, try smaller steps:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Self-esteem exercises help you value your choices.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Reality round-ups force you to look at everything you did right.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Gratitude exercises help you appreciate everything you have achieved until now.</li></ul>

How to solve it

Life’s a rollercoaster of sad and happy moments and everything in between. And you can’t always stay on the top. When I was younger, I forced myself to think I didn’t care. I hated my schoolmates when they didn’t invite me to parties. But I lied to myself that I didn’t need them. Still, all those emotions sum up over time. And once they become too much, they crush your soul and mental health.I cried in my room many times because I had no friends. But you can solve the problem only if you stop lying to yourself first. You will understand the problem and find a solution.

2 – Control your feelings.

When you try to control an emotion, you must think you did something wrong. And instead of faking the results, search for a solution to never live that moment again.But pay attention!Usually, when I tell people to analyze their mistakes, they find problems in their beliefs and identity. But never change who you are for others. So, think about what you can do differently instead.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Never trust identity issues that make you think you are a failure.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">And find ways you can do things better next time.</li></ul>

Living in a messy environment creates many problems. I know that it is hard to trust me on this. But it’s true.Here are a few examples of things that might happen.You may experience brain fog or indecisiveness. You are used to messy places, so don’t rearrange the thoughts in your brain. You forget about commitments, miss deadlines, and become a distrustful person.Take care of your environment and tidy your apartment at least once a week.

3 – Living in a messy environment.

Messy Environments = Unclear Thoughts is a connection we have known for ages. William H. McRaven even wrote a book on this problem and its solutions – <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Make-Your-Bed-Little-Things/dp/1455570249">Make Your Bed </a>. But messy people will always tend to leave everything scattered around the room. <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Declutter your work environment every week. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make your bed every day. You will build a healthy habit and learn to keep things in order. Also, it doesn’t take much time.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Declutter your home at least once a month. Throw away things you don’t need anymore or pack them.</li></ul>

I have a young audience. So, some of you won’t know what I am about to say. But let me be a boomer for once. (I hope this will be the only time I have to do this.)I still remember the dopamine running through my veins every time one of my friends wrote me on MSN. That was the first free chat we ever experienced. And we used to stick to it every time we got home.Everybody tried to personalize their messages as they could. We all wanted to build a brand for ourselves. And MSN was something magical that filled our afternoons with dopamine.But we still met in person (that’s the boomer part).

4 – Online social networking. (1)

Nowadays, social networking is not a tool for the offline life anymore. It has replaced offline activities.“I use it to talk with my friends who live far away” – I know. That excuse got old. Find another one.So, how can you solve the online social networking trap?

4 – Online social networking. (2)

Look, I don’t want to be your online mom, ok? But I will say many things she would say.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">First of all, play with your friends outside. I know video games are fantastic. I spent ten years on World of Warcraft and League of Legends. But if you want to build long-term friendships, you have to meet people in person.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Second, don’t search for relationships online. Most people don’t get to know the love of their life on Tinder. Some will build relationships on Facebook or Instagram. But nothing can outmatch real life. </li></ul>So, search your friends and partners offline, or at least try to.

I never tried to hide that social eating is my way of connecting with people. And I use it whenever I can.I love to try new food and cuisines. And I have a sweet tooth. But that forces me to work out. Otherwise, I would be way overweight.Working out is the only way I have to eat whatever I want. That’s how I reframed my mind around it. And I use this excuse to be consistent.But working out doesn’t only keep you fit. It also helps you become more disciplined. It gives you energy and willpower. And it can also get you friends if you commit to a team game.

5 – Not working out.

I found a convenient way to reframe my mind and work out. But not everyone loves to eat. Yet, everyone needs to work out for their physical and mental health.It’s simple – find an advantageous trade to trick your mind into doing it.For example, you could work out because:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">you want to feel more confident and attract more partners</li><li class="ql-align-justify">you want to live healthier </li><li class="ql-align-justify">or you don’t want to change your eating habits, but they may cause you problems.</li></ul>

Most of the people I know hate to spend time by themselves. They are afraid to be alone for more than a few hours. And they will do everything to distract themselves instead of facing their fears.Luckily, I don’t have this problem anymore. I spent so much time alone that I got used to it. And now, I need it for my well-being.Lone time feeds you perspectives. It helps you work on your projects, ideas, and purpose. It gives you time to breathe and reflect. And never be afraid of being alone.

6 – Never spend time alone.

I don’t know any quick fixes for this kind of problem. If you are afraid to be alone, there is only one solution – be alone.But there are a few things you should focus on during this time to make things easier.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Predict your future and try to understand how to reach your goals.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Then, think about the steps you have to take to get there.</li></ul>

I wrote about instant and <a href="https://www.cosmopolitanmindset.com/delayed-gratification-to-help-improve-your-life/">delayed gratification </a>many times in my career. But even if I know the benefits, my brain still uses the first to get its validation.Once again, social media are the problem. But not because they exist. But because they taught us to expect fast results.No, it’s wrong. It may have been like this in the beginning. But many people try to achieve the same goal online nowadays. And it has become quite challenging and stressful to emerge.Instant results are worthless. You may go viral today. But tomorrow, nobody will know your name.

7 – Expecting immediate results.

Working towards a goal is unthinkable without feedback. But success and recognition shouldn’t be your feedback in the first place.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Work with a purpose, something you want to achieve that goes beyond materialistic rewards.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use people’s words as feedback and try to help them whenever possible. It will be the most fulfilling experience in your life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Aim for long-term projects that impact your life in more than one way. Those are the things to live for.</li></ul>

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These 7 Habits Can Crush Your Mental Health – Here's How to Avoid Them

Clear believes that to create lasting change we need to focus on changing ourselves and our beliefs. Rather than relying solely on results as goals, we should create a better sense of self by creating habits that resemble what we want to do. By accepting new behavior and becoming the person we want to be, we can change our beliefs and achieve lasting change.

1. Focus On Personal Behavior

Clearly demonstrating the importance of being the behaviors we want to see more of in our environment. He recommends using tips such as putting exercise clothes next to the bed or putting books on the main shelf to remember and get done. By creating physical and digital environments that support our desired behaviors, we can make it easier for us to stick to them.

2. Positive Attitudes

Habit hoarding involves connecting new habits to existing ones, creating clear cues and making it easier to stick to them. By integrating the desired behavior with previously established processes, we can use existing automatic behavior to help us create new behavior more easily. Clear provides examples and practical tips for using Habit Stacking effectively in your daily life.

3. Master the Art of Habit Hording

The two minute rule suggests breaking big habits into smaller, more manageable tasks that can be completed in a few minutes. By making starting the habit as easy as possible, we can overcome the inertia that often keeps us from taking action. Clear believes getting started is the most important step because it creates momentum and leads to ongoing risk.

4. Follow the two minute rule

Tracking our habits helps measure and manage progress based on our efforts. Clear recommends using a behavior tracker to record each instance of desired behavior; because it not only holds us accountable, but also provides a sense of satisfaction and motivation. By seeing the light of continuous improvement, our chances of living forever increase.

5. Use Habit Tracking

To make a character stick, Clear recommends adding something interesting to the character. By associating positive emotions or rewards with behavior, we reinforce the desired behavior and increase the risk of recurrence. It also highlights the importance of immediate reward over delayed gratification, as it helps reinforce behavior.

6. Make a Character Interesting

It clearly shows the impact of the environment on our behavior. We can easily adhere to our physical, social and cultural environments by harmonizing them with our desired behaviors. This may include eliminating temptation, surrounding yourself with like-minded people, or finding an environment that encourages positive behavior.

7. Create an environment that supports your behavior

Openly accept that setbacks and challenges are inevitable in the habit building process. He suggests breaking habits into smaller pieces, examining specific issues or problems, and finding ways to change and overcome them. By addressing the root causes of obstacles, we can develop strategies that will ensure the flow of our behavior.

8. Overcoming obstacle by creating habits

It clearly shows the combination of small behaviors over time. Just as financial investment can increase exponentially, small improvements in attitudes and behaviors can lead to personal and professional growth. By showing up regularly, we can use the power of compound interest to achieve long-term change, even if the immediate benefits seem small.

9. Recognize the power of behavior as combination

Clearly demonstrates the importance of continuous improvement. It encourages people to examine, reflect, and adjust their behavior as they progress. By experimenting, adapting, and learning from experience, we can improve our behavior and continue to change for the better.

10. Continuous improvement and character development

Main Ideas from Atomic Habits by James Clear...

The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 10 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: <ul><li>make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);</li></ul><ul><li>overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;</li></ul><ul><li>design your environment to make success easier;</li></ul><ul><li>get back on track when you fall off course;</li></ul>...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

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James Clear is the author of "Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" He writes about habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement at jamesclear.com. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter.His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Learn more at jamesclear.com

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Ikigai is the reason for your being. 'Iki' in Japanese means 'life,' and 'gai' describes value or worth. Ikigai means your purpose in life, which makes you wake up everyday. Having a clearly defined ikigai brings satisfaction, happiness, and meaning to our lives. Ikigai is illustrated in four overlapping circles, as in a Venn Diagram which talks about a synthesis of:• What you love to do.• What you are good at.• What the world needs.• What you can be paid for

What Is Ikigai

To know what your Ikigai is, make a list of the following three things - • Your values • Things you like to do • Things you are good at The cross-section or overlap of these three lists, is your Ikigai, something you should do for the rest of your life. Happiness is in the act of doing, not the result.

Knowing Your Ikigai

The keys to longevity are diet, exercise, finding a purpose in life (an Ikigai), broad circle of friends, and good family relations.

Ikigai and Longevity

The concept of Ikigai aligns with everyday life, as opposed to a lifetime. It makes us appreciate our daily life, celebrating it, and experiencing the small joys of living. Ikigai is the reason you wake up in the morning for, that thing you live for, daily. Whatever you do, don't retire. Keep your heart young. Smile. Live an unhurried life. Show respect for nature.

Ikigai: Everyday Life and not Lifetime

Eating a variety of foods, in particular fruits and vegetables. Make sure, that you are "eating the rainbow" - red peppers, carrots, spinach, cauliflower,and eggplant, for example, offers color and variety. The world's longest living people eat less than 10 grams of salt per day and cut down on refined sugar, refined grains, and foods prepared with cow’s milk. They have sweet potato, soyabeans. They enjoy their green tea.

Diet

One of the most common sayings in Japan is “Hara hachi bu,” which is said before or after eating and means “Fill your belly to 80 percent. Overeating wears down the body with long digestive processes that accelerate cellular oxidation. By presenting their meals on many small plates, the Japanese tend to eat less.

Hara hachi bu - The 80% Secret

The longest-living people are not the ones who do the most exercise but rather the ones who move the most. Everyone should be involved in some type of body movements such as talking walks, gardening, doing your laundry, cooking, cleaning, on a regular basis. Practicing yoga or any other form of light exercise can help. The Surya Namaskar (the Sun Salutation) with just twelve basic movements is one of the simplest and most effective hatha yoga exercise that one can practise at home for a lifetime. Breathing properly can do wonders.

Movement & Exercise

A Moai is an informal group of people with common interests who look out for one another. Those who will motivate you and provide you with constructive feedback and support when necessary. Surround yourself with good friends and family, with people who are positive and cheerful. Nurture your friendships every day. If you are anxious, go out, say ‘Hello!’ and ‘See you later!’ to people.

Moai: Connected for Life

A sound mind lies in a sound body. Physical exercise keep the body healthy. Simple exercises like jogging, stretching, pushups, cycling, makes you feel happy and energetic. Mental work, exercises help create new neural connections and revitalizes the brain.

Active Mind, Youthful Body

High-level stress leads to premature aging. One way to reach a state of mindfulness is through meditation. Get seven to nine hours of sleep.

Be Mindful about Reducing Stress

Walk to work, or just go for a walk 20 minutes in a day, take the stairs, play a sport, play with kids, participate in social or leisure activities.

Sitting for Prolonged Periods Ages You

Stay cheerful and maintain a positive attitude. Accept emotions without trying to control them since feelings will change as a result of actions.

Have a Positive Attitude and Emotional Awareness

• Pray once you wake up. • Focus on the most important than the most urgent. • Be flexible, concentrate on things you can control, and don’t worry about those you cannot. • There is nothing wrong with enjoying life’s pleasures as long as they do not take control of your life. • Think about what’s the worst thing that can happen. However, do not give in to negative emotions. • Observe the thoughts as they appear, without getting carried away. • Focus on here and now. • Only imperfection resembles the natural world.

How to Face Life’s Challenges without Stress and Worry  ?

Both Buddhism and Stoicism remind us that the present is all that exists, and it is the only thing we can control. Instead of worrying about the past or the future, we should appreciate things just as they are in the moment, in the now.

The here and now, and the impermanence of thing

Wabi-sabi is a Japanese concept that shows us the beauty of the fleeting, changeable, and imperfect nature of the world around us. Instead of searching for beauty in perfection, we should look for it in things that are flawed, incomplete. Japanese concept is that of ichi-go ichi-e , which could be translated “This moment exists only now and won’t come again.” It is heard most often in social gatherings as a reminder that each encounter is unique and will never be repeated, meaning that we should enjoy the moment and not lose ourselves in worries about the past or the future.

Wabi-sabi and ichi-go ichi-e

Stay active; don’t retire.Take it slow.Don’t fill your stomach.Surround yourself with good friends.Get in shape for your next birthday.Smile.Reconnect with nature.Give thanks.Live in the moment.Follow your IKIGAI.

The 10 Rules of Ikigai

INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • 1.5 MILLION+ COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE “Workers looking for more fulfilling positions should start by identifying their ikigai.” ―Business Insider   “One of the unintended—yet positive—consequences of the [pandemic] is that it is forcing people to reevaluate their jobs, careers, and lives. Use this time wisely, find your personal ikigai, and live your best life.” ―Forbes Find your ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy) to live longer and bring more meaning and joy to all your days. “Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years.” —Japanese proverb   According to the Japanese, everyone has an ikigai—a reason for living. And according to the residents of the Japanese village with the world’s longest-living people, finding it is the key to a happier and longer life. Having a strong sense of ikigai—where what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs all overlap—means that each day is infused with meaning. It’s the reason we get up in the morning. It’s also the reason many Japanese never really retire (in fact there’s no word in Japanese that means retire in the sense it does in English): They remain active and work at what they enjoy, because they’ve found a real purpose in life—the happiness of always being busy. In researching this book, the authors interviewed the residents of the Japanese village with the highest percentage of 100-year-olds—one of the world’s Blue Zones. Ikigai reveals the secrets to their longevity and happiness: how they eat, how they move, how they work, how they foster collaboration and community, and—their best-kept secret—how they find the ikigai that brings satisfaction to their lives. And it provides practical tools to help you discover your own ikigai. Because who doesn’t want to find happiness in every day?

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Hector Garcia was born in Spain in 1981 and has been living in Tokyo since 2004. During his spare time he writes aGeekinJapan.com, one of the most widely-read blogs in the world in Spanish and in English, as well as books about his experiences in Japan. He is the author of the bestsellers: Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life and A Geek in Japan. You can find more of Hector's musings at ageekinjapan.com

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When writing your script, try to include as many of the five senses as possible: sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste.Always use positive, active wording (for example, excited, energized, anxious, happily, and so on).Make all suggestions believable.Include confidence, self-esteem, and relaxation statements.Use pictures and imaginative phrases. The subconscious mind reacts better to pictures rather than just words. Use your imagination as much as possible, seeing the end result as having already been attained rather than the progression of reaching it.

Script

Include emotions. Whatever emotions or feelings can be associated with the subject will help the script be more effective.A script can be as long or as short as you like, but it should be long enough to get the point across. You can write a script for any area that you can improve in.

Getting that promotion at work or losing those last five pounds can be a struggle, but goals like these can be accomplished - with self-hypnosis! Whatever obstacles you want to overcome or goals you aim to achieve, this book can help you do it. With this informative resource, you will learn to: break bad habits like nail biting; ease severe pain, such as from migraines or labor during childbirth; ensure confidence and success in business and personal matters; quit smoking for good; lose weight and keep it off; improve memory retention; and reduce stress - in relationships, at home, and at work; and more! Written by a board-certified hypnotherapist, this authoritative guide can help you create your own self-hypnosis scripts to create the life you always wanted. From tearing down mental roadblocks to making permanent changes, readers will be on their way to success in no time!

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You can become your own guru!Become a self-guru with AI by unlocking the power of self-taught, self-expression, self-reflection, self-discovery, and self-awareness. Personal development has never been easier with just you and AI.<ul><li>Self-taught</li><li>Self-expression</li><li>Self-reflection</li><li>Self-discovery</li><li>Self-awareness</li></ul>No need for outside sources, anyone can reach their full potential now.

Unlock your full potential with Yourself and your AI

The first role is an extension of a search engine. With AI-assisted search engines at Google and Bing, you can focus with intense clarity on exactly what you want to know about any subject. The best lifestyle and relationship answers can be instantly accessed, for example, once you learn how to ask the right questions.

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Do you have personal issues you can't share with friends? Let an AI chatbot like ChatGPT listen to and offer specific answers in a non-threatening way.
Benefits of using a chatbot confidante:
<ul>
 <li>Can act as a sounding board for your deepest personal issues</li>
 <li>Will dialogue with you in a non-judgmental way</li>
 <li>Capable of offering specific solutions that few human confidants can provide</li>
</ul>
Share your thoughts and worries with an AI chatbot today. 🤖

Confidante: Using AI chatbots as a means of confidential therapy

There are already several AI programs specifically targeted to help doctors and professional therapists. The promise of better diagnoses for cancer is already being tested successfully, for example. But chatbots are also useful to lay people who want advice about psychological and health issues.

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We are aware of both the positive and negative aspects of AI. While many may focus on the negative side, today let's focus on the positive. Explore how AI can help us grow personally and spiritually. Learn how to use AI for your benefit with Self-guru every day. Here's how!

The downside of artificial intelligence has dominated media coverage, reaching for extreme scenarios, including the extinction of the human race. No one knows if the threats presented by AI are…

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Do you mean the one who;- The one who has the perfect face and body proportion (through cosmetic surgery and photoediting)?- The one who has a lot of followings on social media (but no one to call "friend" in reality)?- The one with the best family or couple goals pictures and videos on social media (but is brutally abused and behaves like strangers at home)?- The one who has an amazing career on social media (yet is burnt out from excessive shifts and work stress)?- The one who appears to have no real-life issues or problems (yet struggles with health issues and bankruptcy)?

Who is “The Perfect Human”? - I

- The one who appears to be saint, without fault or sin (yet does a lot behind close doors)?Well, if your ideal form of “the perfect human”, is what you see on social media (celebrities or influencers) , then you should know that — we are all imperfect beings. We all have flaws and we all make mistakes.It’s important to recognize that absolutely no one on planet Earth is perfect and without flaws. And if you still insist that there are people who are perfect, you are mistaken.Imperfection is a part of being human, and it’s okay to not be perfect.

Perfection is an illusion, and those who seek perfection will find themselves unfulfilled their whole life.

One may ask, is it possible as a human being to be flawless and without defect?No! Why? that’s because,Being perfect (Perfection) is a mental construct, not a physical reality, as it is based on highly idealized concepts.We allow ourselves to be blinded by supposedly perfect ideals. Therefore, we begin to hate our look, doubt ourselves and emulate an idea that we will never achieve. Perfection is neither natural, nor desirable. And the more we come to terms with the idea, the more relaxed we become.Life is colourful, wild, diverse, unpredictable, and unique - but never perfect.

The Big Question.

Perfection is an illusion because it’s a never-ending pursuit to appear a certain type of way (godlike), which is impossible to attain as it will end up becoming an everlasting and ceaseless cycle of disappointment and self-criticism.***When we strive to be perfect, we become overly critical of ourselves and others. We may even end up becoming jealous or resentful of those who we think already seemed to have achieved perfection, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, indirectly setting ourselves up for fall.

Perfection Is An Illusion.

Because, We Begin To..<ul><li>Compare ourselves with others. In most cases, strangers who barely know of our existence. Because, we think that they have it all figured out.</li><li>Deviate from our journey, focusing on that of others.</li><li>Feel pressed over, failing and mistakes. Thereby, letting anxiety and depression take a toll on us.</li><li>Set unattainable goals and have unrealistic life expectations.</li><li>Develop low self-esteem and other mental health related issues.</li><li>Disconnect from reality and begin to live in fantasy.</li><li>Procrastinate, thereby throwing opportunities to show up authentically due to the need to appear perfect.</li></ul>

How?

In order to do so, we have to;<ol><li>Self Acceptance — Accept your flaws and imperfections.</li><li>Focus on your journey and yours alone.</li><li>Set realistic goals by breaking down overwhelming tasks.</li><li>Practice Self Love and Compassion. Fall in love with the imperfect you.</li><li>Get your eyes of social media. Even if you choose to stay, try not to let them make you think you are not doing enough.</li><li>Gratitude — Celebrate tiny wins and accomplishment.</li><li>Free yourself from the opinion of others. Stop the comparison, it is unhealthy.</li><li>Make peace with the term that perfection is unattainable.</li></ol>

Finding The Balance.

Loving yourself for who you are, being authentic, and appreciating your individuality are aids to leave the web of the dangerous illusion, perfection.Also, understand that we are all flawed in different ways, but it does not make us any less of what we are worth. We must all learn to embrace our individuality and accept our flaws while striving to be the greatest versions of ourselves.Don’t pine for perfection, it’s an illusion that will never come. Instead, learn to make life as fulfilling, honest, and authentically yours as possible.

Conclusion.

It’s important to remember that our imperfections make us unique and interesting. They allow us to learn, grow, and connect with others on a deeper level. Embracing our imperfections and accepting ourselves for who we are is a big step towards happiness and fulfillment.<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CpEPhp6qWiI/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=">Curbing Perfectionism.</a>Check out The Mindrest thoughts in “Curbing Perfectionism” on Instagram.The Mindrest Company ©

Perfection is a flawless state where everything is totally right (too good to be true).

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In life, we all have different ways of thinking about ourselves and our abilities. Did you know there are 2 main types of mindsets?<ul><li>Growth Mindset: Believing that with effort and hard work, you can achieve anything.</li><li>Fixed Mindset: Believing that you are inherently bad at something and will never be able to do it.</li></ul>It's important to have a growth mindset because it helps us develop and improve, while a fixed mindset can hold us back from reaching our full potential.

Understanding Mindsets

Fixed mindsets can hinder growth and limit potential. It's important to recognize these common thoughts and behaviors so you can break free from them:<ul><li>Fear of embarrassment: Making mistakes is seen as a source of shame</li><li>Avoiding challenges: Stepping out of one's comfort zone is seen as unnecessary because it may result in failure</li><li>Viewing failure negatively: Failure is seen as a sign of inadequacy, and giving up seems like the only solution</li><li>Lack of confidence: Believing I can't do it before even trying</li><li>Instant gratification: Expecting immediate improvement and criticizing oneself if it doesn't happen</li></ul>

Fixed Mindsets

A growth mindset is better than a fixed one. Here are some key ideas to remember!<ul><li>Mistakes help you learn.</li><li>Trying new and challenging things leads to growth, even if there are failures.</li><li>When you fail or get frustrated, you can try again using what you've learned.</li><li>It's okay to ask for help and keep trying until you understand.</li><li>Improvement takes time and you should celebrate even small wins!</li></ul>

Growth Mindsets

When you're in a growth mindset, what that means is that you choose to see the struggle and challenge as an opportunity for growth and for learning and development

Individuals who believe their talents can be developed (through hard work, good strategies, and input from others) have a growth mindset. They tend to achieve more than those with a more fixed mindset (those who believe their talents are innate gifts).

Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets

If being happy is your fundamental goal in life, then you'll have to embark on the journey inward.Happiness, like self-awareness, is an inside job. It stems from the choice to respond to life with acceptance, curiosity, gratitude, and joy.And there's no way you can make a choice unless you first know your options.

Self-Awareness and Happiness

Self-awareness exposes and clarifies those options. It reflects on those life experiences that have shaped your thoughts, triggered your feelings, and inspired your values.It connects your sensory experience in the present to its deep-seated history, and it gives you the opportunity to verify the applicability of that history to the experience at hand.In other words, self-awareness allows you to stand confidently and authentically in the present by helping you own your past.

Self-Awareness

Self-awareness contributes to your daily happiness and confidence. If you want to know how to be more self-aware in your life, this is what you need to do.

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Overthinking has usually been insulted to be the most useless trait of a human. But in this writeup I would be mentioning points to convert this weakness into strength.

How To Convert Overthinking Into Superpower?

When Arjuna(from Mahabharatha) was asked what he saw when he shot the bird....he said he just saw the eye.The most successful people often never think of things that are irrelevant or not under their control.They either eliminate it all together or just accept it the way it is.

Nobody Will Tell You This

1. Make a note of all the things being processed in your mind at a time.2. Then mark the points which are neither urgent nor important.3. These points will form a part of useless noting.....which you don't have to think upon before completing existing work-in-progress. The best you can do is to just "let it go🎵".

Useless Noting

A spark can light a bonfire/ ignite wildfire....depending on the place of origin.Understand the sequence of thoughts at all times going on in your head, to focus them on more productive ones.

Change The Direction

Monitor the times throughout the day when you tend to overthink. Once you start overthinking.....remind yourself the list as previously made and pick the points that were urgent & important to chew upon.

Grab the Idle Time

Cows usually eat food in a go. Then they tend to bring the food from their stomach back into their mouth and chew it again for better digestion.Same way, one can sit idel and stop every rubbish thought and plant in revision points to think of by memorizing and active recall.

Churn Like A Cow

The food for the brain decides the outcome of the success one shall deserve.Our unproductive time influences the productive hours in the day.So, if the choice of unproductive thoughts we process can have a major impact, then choose wisely.

Overthinking When Unproductive

Thoughts in the brain need organisation. This is possible when you spend time with yourself. Meditation can be any activity that boosts control over the mind. It can include painting, singing, cooking or even hiking.

Find Your Meditation

1. Start and end the day with productive thoughts.2. Make time for thinking about self care & self improvement. 3. Stop thinking about people, otherwise what will they think?! ;)4. Fall in the 1% successful club category, by not giving a sh*t to what others will think of you....because no matter what, they will think of you anywhichways.

Pro Tips

If you don't overthink....you are not human.

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