“WHEN WE BORN WE CRIED WHILE THE WORLD REJOICED, ENDURE YOUR LIFE IN SUCH A WAY THAT WHEN YOU DIE THE WORLD TEARS AND YOU REJOICE.”

Writing in a journal grants you the opportunity to have one-on-one conservation with yourself. A journal is not a diary. A diary is a place where you recorded events, while a journal is where you analyze and evaluate them.

1. Keep a journal

Thinking about all those obligations that you wish never happened to you is actually obstructing all the things you want to appear from invading your life.

2. Let the brightness enter your life

You convert what you think about all day prolonged. It produces no sense to worry about past mistakes or misunderstandings unless you want to undergo them for the second time.

3. Never worry about past events

It is the quality, preferably than the quantity of sleep, that matters most. Robin shares some effective tips to help sleep more deeply. They are:- ● Don’t eat after 8:00 PM.● Don’t drill the activities of your day while trying to sleep.● Don’t watch the headlines before you sleep (some sad news can make you feel distressed).● Don’t read in bed.

4. Focus on quality of sleep rather than quality

During life’s most terrifying times, we discover who we really are and the fullness of strength that lies within us.

5. Pain is the teacher, and failure is the highway to success

Norman Cousins once remarked that “The Tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we breathe.” Too many people spend more time focusing on weaknesses rather than developing their strengths. If you set goals, the action you take will be based on your life’s mission rather than your day-to-day mood.Are you using the best within you to its fullest capacity? If not, you are not only doing yourself a disservice.

6. Develop your talents

Life is nothing more innumerable than a contest of numbers. The more risks you take, the more rewards you will receive. Pursue the opportunity to stop spending your days searching for security and start spending your time pursuing opportunities.

7. Fortune is not on the side of the faint hearted

According to L.F. Phelan –“Youth is not a period of life; it is a state of consciousness.” Bodies grow old only by abandoning their ideals and outgrowing the consciousness of juvenility. Ages wrinkle the skin but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles your soul. You are as old as you fear, your doubt, and your despair. The way you keep young is to keep your faith young."Happiness is not a place you reach but a state you create"

8. Youth is a state of mind

Listen carefully while conserving. If you are not listening, you are not learning.Robin Sharma’s tips for better conservation- ● When you say something and the person in front doesn’t respond for 60sec, it is better to quit.● Concentrate more on what the person is talking about rather than speaking.● Take some time to reply once the person finishes saying.● Take time before keeping your opinion.

9. Get behind people’s eyeball

We treat our friends, colleagues, boss very well. But we don’t treat our family the same way. In fact, they are the person we admire and trust the most. After work, before going home, take a break of at least 10 minutes in Solitude and plan how you will make them happy. Reach your home with a smile on your face.

10. Decompress before you go home

Robin Sharma has focused chiefly on Solitude in Who will cry when you die. Solitude has the answer to your problems. But at the same time, solitude is soo addictive. If you are in complete solitude, you will least care about others. You will be completely lost in yourself

Solitude 

Solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how calm and peaceful it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.

“Several of us die at twenty and are buried at eighty.”

quotes from Who will cry when you die

"Never regret a day in your life: good days give happiness, bad days give experience, worst days give lessons, and best days give memories."

“We live on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand million galaxies.”

“It is not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is what are you so busy about?”

“If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds worth of distance run, yours is the earth and everything that’s in it.”

“Read everyday something no one else is reading. Think every day, something no one else is thinking. It is bad for the mind to be always part of unanimity.”

Wisdom is knowing what to do next. Skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is performing it.

" We are all imagining some magical rose backyard beyond the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our window today! "

“The skeleton of habit alone upholds the human frame.”

“Kindness, quite simply, is the rent we must pay for the space we occupy on the planet.”

“When you were born, you cried while the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way that when you die, the world cries while you rejoice.”— Ancient Sanskrit saying Does the gem of wisdom quoted above strike a chord deep within you? Do you feel that life is slipping by so fast that you just might never get the chance to live with the meaning, happiness and joy you know you deserve? If so, then this very special book by leadership guru Robin S. Sharma, the author whose Monk Who Sold His Ferrari series has transformed the lives of thousands, will be the guiding light that leads you to a brilliant new way of living. In this easy-to-read yet wisdom-rich manual, Robin S. Sharma offers 101 simple solutions to life’s most complex problems, ranging from a little-known method for beating stress and worry to a powerful way to enjoy the journey while you create a legacy that lasts. Other lessons include “Honor Your Past,” “Start Your Day Well,” “See Troubles as Blessings” and “Discover Your Calling.” If you are finally ready to move beyond a life spent chasing success to one of deep significance, this is the ideal book for you.

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Robin Sharma is one of the world’s premier thinkers on leadership, personal growth and life management. The bestselling author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, Who Will Cry When You Die? and The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO and four other books on self-transformation. Robin Sharma is in constant demand internationally as keynote speaker at the conferences of many of the most powerful companies on the planet including Microsoft, Nortel Networks, General Motors, FedEx and IBM. He is a resident of Ontario, Canada. (Barnes and Noble)

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Validation is the act of acknowledging and accepting someone's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It is a basic human need that is essential for mental and emotional well-being. When we receive validation from others, it helps us to feel understood, valued, and respected.But why we need validation?

Validation

As children, we rely on our caregivers to validate our existence and our worth. They do this by responding to our needs, showing us affection, and praising us for our accomplishments. As we grow older, we continue to seek validation from others, but we also learn to validate ourselves.We are social creatures who thrive on belonging and connection. When we receive validation from others, it makes us feel like we are part of something larger than ourselves. It helps us to cope with difficult challenges. When we are going through a tough time, it can become pancea

Why We Need Validation?

Validation is our basic need but in present scenariok world has become multi cultural, multi lingual society with different ideologies and plethora of beliefs.It becomes very pertinent that the criteria of validation has radically changed and has diversified drastically. This has created validation void in societies which is reflected in our behaviour as we go to great lengths to please others, even if it means sacrificing your own needs or values. We constantly compare ourself to others and feel inadequate. We are easily offended by criticism and take it personally. We feel abyss without it

Seeking Validation

Remember, validation is a basic human need and It is okay to seek validation from others, but it is important to understand the changed scenario around us and do it in a healthy way. Validation is justified as long as its used as feedback for improvement but must be avoided if produces unhealthy effectWe must be honest with ourself about our needs and wants and lucidly communicate them to others in a clear and assertive way. Be open to feedback from others, but don't let it define you. Learn to validate yourself and your accomplishments. Surround yourself with supportive people who value you.

Understanding The Difference 

Contemporary Issue needs to be understood.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Play can allow girls to connect their inner world with the outer world

Nature Play

Imagination facilitates a sense of wonder and spontaneity unique to childhood

Imagination

Pretend play allows children to learn about how the real world works (pg 230)

Pretend Play

If choosing which screen to occupy your child, opt for the TV instead of a phone/iPad. Program content for children is of higher quality with 0 ads. Children also do other activities such as colouring and move about as they watch TV, compared to if they are glued to a portable screen.

Screens 

Girls can mimic behaviours like relational aggression because at a young age they don’t see the virtual world ( where these behaviours might be displayed) as different from the real world.

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“Girls are still raised with a psychology that is trained to think about other people before themselves. This is a real recipe for disaster”

Girls seem to be conditioned to seek individualisation only under certain circumstances<ol><li>Be confident but not conceited </li><li>Be smart, but no-one likes a know-it-all</li><li>Ambition is good, but trying too hard is bad </li><li>Be assertive, but only if it doesn’t upset anyone else. </li></ol>

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It takes courage to “stand up for what you do and don’t want to do, especially when you feel pressured……to trust the boundaries of what [you do] and [don’t] feel comfortable with. Brave enough not to bend because the world says [you] should.”

Healthy Boundaries

Your feelings can provide insight into your reaction before the conscious mind.

Inner Voice

Humour is a healthy coping mechanism for girls and is a healthy way to regulate emotions.

Humour 

When little girls are stressed “remember just to listen, validate their feelings and ask how you can help”

'Maggie is a national treasure.' Tracey Spicer, AM '. . . sage wisdom for parenting and supporting girls.' Mona Delahooke, PhD, bestselling author and pediatric psychologist The early years of a little girl's life will shape her future in powerful ways. Maggie Dent, Australia's queen of common-sense parenting, has investigated the development period from birth to age eight. Drawing on nearly 5,000 survey results, the latest research, and her own extensive experience as an educator, counsellor, facilitator, mum and grandmother, Maggie shows us how to help our girls build an emotional and psychological base for life. Secure foundations, Maggie argues, will help insulate our girls against anxiety and other mental health challenges as they grow into their teens and feel more capable and resilient while keeping their own authentic voice as they enter womanhood. Written with all the rigour, compassion and humour we have come to expect from one of Australia's best-loved parenting voices, this is both a deeply practical guide to raising girls, as well as a celebration and intimate meditation on the state of being female, which women of all ages will relate to.

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Instead of just being stubborn or determined, be open to new ideas and feelings. It can make your life better.

Stay Flexible in Your Mind

Sometimes, your mind tricks you into thinking strange stuff. Like lightning bugs giving shocks. Learn to question your thoughts.

Don't Always Believe Your Thoughts

Think about catching lightning bugs. You can't own them. Same with life's moments, like hugs and happy times. Don't try to keep them for yourself.

Enjoy Moments, Don't Control Them

Sometimes, life is tough, and you can't fix everything. It's okay to accept that and not stress about it.

Deal with Things You Can't Control

It's like being a good team player. Your actions should fit with what's happening around you. It's like helping everyone enjoy the same game.

Do Things that Help Everyone

Right now, just pay attention to what's around you. Don't overthink or try to change things. You'll discover new things and make the most of this time.

Try This Exercise: Be in the Momen

The text encourages us to learn inner skills, like psychological flexibility, to grow personally and emotionally. This is important for kids and grown-ups.

It’s never too late to learn inner flexibility skills (and teach them to kids).

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“Our tears are a way our body forces us to pause and take inventory on the situation.”

Below, Romanoff explains some of the emotional reactions people experience in response to anger.

Reasons You Cry When You Get Mad

This can include overt aggression or action, such as breaking things or punching walls. Alternatively, people express their anger indirectly through sarcasm—this allows them to dispel their aggressive impulses in a sublimated way.

1. Aggression

We are taught at a young age that anger is corrosive and threatens attachments and relationships. Therefore, we go to great lengths to protect others from our anger, by replacing it with less outwardly threatening emotions, like depression and anxiety. The consequence is that we must bear the burden of these internally distressing emotions.

2. Depression and Anxiety

People also tend to become critical when they’re angry. Instead of constructively addressing the problem, they find fault in others in the pursuit of retaliation.

3. Criticism

Benefits of Crying When You’re MadCrying is a form of self-soothing; it forces you to regulate and control your breath, focus on your inhalation and exhalation patterns, and decrease your heart rate, until you return to a calm state.It is okay to cry when you get mad. Crying is not a sign of weakness; rather it is an indicator that the situation is important to you and you have strong feelings toward it. It is always helpful to use your emotions as a guide. Tears help you understand more about yourself and the impact the situation has on you.

Pros and Cons of Crying When You're Mad

Disadvantages of Crying When You’re MadCrying can be disadvantageous when you are in a situation in which you don’t want others to know how you’re truly feeling. This could be due to how you believe it might change their perception of you.For instance, you may think that they will perceive you negatively, assume you are being manipulative, conclude that you cannot manage the situation, or lose respect for you.These disadvantages pertain to crying in the context of others and should be separated from you being able to express your emotions within a private and safe space.﻿

While anger can be a loud and expressive emotion, typically people have a lot of underlying emotions below the anger that gets washed over.

some strategies that can help you cope with your tears and your anger in a healthy manner.

Coping With Crying When You Get Mad

Taking deep breaths is a good way to calm yourself down. Pausing for a moment and focusing on your breath allows you to be more deliberate in your communication and your response to the situation.

Take Deep Breaths

Writing out your thoughts allows you to see the situation more clearly, understand what triggered your anger and then respond more effectively. Similarly, having a friend or family member whose opinion you trust to validate and empathize with your experience can help calm you down.

Communicate Your Feelings

Visualization can be helpful in these moments. For example, imagine your thoughts being depicted as cartoon photos and visualize placing them safely into a filing cabinet, until a more appropriate moment to revisit them. If you are unable to control your emotions, you always have the opportunity to leave. Sometimes it’s better to remove yourself from the situation, take time to compose yourself, and then explain your response when you have more self-control

Maintain Your Composure in Public

When you feel safe—either with others you trust, or on your own—you should embrace your tears as a form of catharsis. Crying is an innate tool for emotional regulation, and shouldn’t be resisted in moments when you need to be regulated. It is a built-in mechanism to process and manage intense feelings.

Release Your Emotions

Crying is a common reaction to anger, since anger is often triggered by situations that hurt you. Crying can provide emotional release and help you understand your feelings better. However, crying in public or with people you’re not comfortable with can be embarrassing and frustrating. Taking deep breaths, changing the topic, and putting your emotions aside for a minute and revisiting them at a more appropriate time can be helpful.

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It’s better to cry than be angry, because anger hurts others while tears flow silently through the soul and cleans the heart.

Psychologists weigh in from the forefront of a surprisingly mysterious field.

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Manipulators often tell lies to control others or escape the consequences of their actions.

Lying for ontrol

When someone's actions don't match their words, it might be a sign that they're not being honest about who they are.

Actions speak louder than words

Love bombing is a tactic where manipulators shower you with affection and compliments to gain control.

Beware of Love Bombing

Some manipulators play the victim to make you feel sorry for them and gain control.

The Victim Card

Manipulators use guilt trips effectively to make you do what they want by appealing to your caring nature.

Guilt Trip Tactics

Manipulators often try to one-up your experiences to gain sympathy and control.

One-Upmanship

Manipulators refuse to take responsibility and blame others for everything, including their own feelings.

Shifting Blame

When someone threatens you to make you do something, it's a form of manipulation.

Threats as Manipulation

Manipulators can make you feel like you're causing problems to gain control over you.

Feeling Like a Burden

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can make you question your own memories and sanity.

Gaslighting and Self-Doubt

The article emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs to protect yourself from manipulative individuals and avoid toxic relationships.

Unfortunately, manipulation is a part of life.

10 Subtle Signs of Manipulative People

Blaming others for our problems is an act of cowardice. Instead, embracing responsibility is the first step towards courage. When you acknowledge that you have control over your life and its challenges, you become the master of your destiny. The courageous approach is to actively seek solutions to the issues you face. This involves introspection, critical thinking, and a willingness to take action. Remember, blaming is easy, but solving problems is where true bravery lies.

Take Responsibility - Problem-Solving

Constantly second-guessing your decisions is a manifestation of doubt and fear. True courage involves making decisions with conviction and trust in your abilities. Understand that there's no way to predict every outcome, and sometimes you'll make the wrong choice. But that's a part of the human experience. Embrace your decisions, whether they lead to success or failure, as they are valuable learning experiences.

Decisiveness - Trust in Yourself

Mistakes are often seen as failures, but Marcus Aurelius encourages us to find beauty in them. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn and grow. It takes courage to admit your mistakes and use them as stepping stones towards personal improvement. This is a path of self-discovery and resilience. Remember, success is often built upon a foundation of failures.

Embrace Mistakes - Learning and Growth

Humbling oneself is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes courage to acknowledge your limitations and imperfections. Recognizing that you are not infallible fosters a mindset of continuous improvement. When you are humble, you are open to feedback, willing to learn from others, and less likely to let your ego get in the way. This is the path to true inner strength.

Practice Humility - Strength in Vulnerability

Sometimes, cowardice arises from the fear of uncertainty and the desire to control every aspect of life. Aurelius advises us to do our best and then trust that things will work out as they are meant to. This means giving your all to your endeavors, but also recognizing that there are factors beyond your control. Trust in the process and the journey, even when you can't predict the outcome. This trust is a form of courage because it allows you to let go of the need for absolute control.

Do Your Best and Trust - Letting Go of Control

In essence, Marcus Aurelius is guiding us to approach life with courage, responsibility, and an open heart. These principles encourage us to tackle challenges head-on, embrace our humanity, and cultivate inner strength by trusting in the unfolding of our life's story.

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In this video, we talk about Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, fear, courage, and overcoming your inner coward.

During his reign as the emperor of Rome, Marcus Aurelius faced immense uncertainties that would strike fear into the hearts of most people, such as times of war, plague, internal conspiracies, the death of some of his children, and the death of his wife, and yet, he faced all of these problems with an unshakable courage.

And the secret to his unshakable courage lies within a collection of notes he wrote to himself roughly 2000 years ago, many of them written in the midst of war, with the gravity of imminent death on his mind. Today, this collection of notes is referred to as Meditations, and based on my readings of these notes, I've determined 5 principles that we can use, like Marcus, to overcome our inner cowards and become courageous. And along the way, you will hear many other stories and ideas that are not from Marcus, and they will help illuminate the emperor’s words in greater depth. So without further ado, let’s begin our journey through the 5 principles.

00:00 - Intro

01:20 - Principle 1: Look for solutions, not people to blame.

03:49 - Principle 2: Don’t second guess yourself.

05:55 - Principle 3: Find the beauty in your mistakes.

07:19 - Principle 4: Humble yourself.

09:06 - Principle 5: Do your best, and trust that things will work out the way they’re meant to.

11:18 - Conclusion

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Emotional maturity involves genuine interest in listening to others, allowing for a two-way conversation where both parties can express themselves.

Active Listening

Emotional maturity includes understanding the importance of self-care while also having empathy and interest in others.

Balance Between Self-Care and Caring for Others

Emotionally mature individuals are aware of how their words affect others and can regulate their emotions even when upset.

Consideration of the Impact of Words

They approach arguments as discussions and seek to share information, rather than fighting to prove a point.

Viewing Arguments as Collaborations

Recognizing when one is acting emotionally immature and actively working to change such behaviors is a key aspect of becoming emotionally mature.

Self-Reflection

Emotional maturity involves observing how emotionally mature individuals handle conflict and implementing those strategies in one's own life.

Learning from Others

Emotionally mature people have a strong sense of self and don't depend on external validation to feel secure.

Solid Sense of Self

These concepts offer valuable insights into developing emotional maturity and improving interpersonal relationships.

Emotional maturity takes a lot of work. A therapist shared signs you're becoming more emotionally mature, from how you listen to how you handle conflict.

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