As the felt response to a given situation, emotions play a key part in your reactions. When you’re in tune with them, you have access to important knowledge that helps with:<ul><li>decision-making</li><li>relationship success</li><li>day-to-day interactions</li></ul>

Emotions control reactions

“Emotions make our lives exciting, unique, and vibrant,” Botnick says. “Strong feelings can signify that we embrace life fully, that we’re not repressing our natural reactions.”Emotions that regularly get out of hand might lead to:<ul><li>relationship or friendship conflict</li><li>difficulty relating to others</li><li>trouble at work or school</li><li>an urge to use substances to help manage your emotions</li><li>physical or emotional outbursts</li></ul>

Take a look at the impact of your emotions

When you suppress or repress emotions, you’re preventing yourself from experiencing and expressing feelings. This can happen consciously (suppression) or unconsciously (repression).Either can contribute to mental and physical health symptoms, including:<ul><li>anxiety</li><li>depression</li><li>sleep issues</li><li>muscle tension and pain</li><li>difficulty managing stress</li><li>substance misuse</li></ul> Healthy emotional expression involves finding some balance between overwhelming emotions and no emotions at all.

Aim for regulation, not repression

<ul><li>What am I feeling right now? (disappointed, confused, furious)</li><li>What happened to make me feel this way? (They brushed me off with no explanation.)</li><li>Does the situation have a different explanation that might make sense? (Maybe they’re stressed, sick, or dealing with something else they don’t feel comfortable explaining. They might plan to explain more when they can.)</li><li>What do I want to do about these feelings? (Scream, vent my frustration by throwing things, text back something rude.)</li><li>Is there a better way of coping with them? (Ask if everything’s OK. Ask when they’re free next. Go for a walk or run.)</li></ul>

3. Identify what you’re feeling

Emotions get the best of everyone sometimes, but there are a few things you can do to take back control.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How to Control Your Emotions: 11 Strategies to Try

There is no god, no nation, no money, no human rights, no law and no justice, outside the common imagination of human beings.

New York Times Bestseller A Summer Reading Pick for President Barack Obama, Bill Gates, and Mark Zuckerberg From a renowned historian comes a groundbreaking narrative of humanity’s creation and evolution—a #1 international bestseller—that explores the ways in which biology and history have defined us and enhanced our understanding of what it means to be “human.” One hundred thousand years ago, at least six different species of humans inhabited Earth. Yet today there is only one—homo sapiens. What happened to the others? And what may happen to us? Most books about the history of humanity pursue either a historical or a biological approach, but Dr. Yuval Noah Harari breaks the mold with this highly original book that begins about 70,000 years ago with the appearance of modern cognition. From examining the role evolving humans have played in the global ecosystem to charting the rise of empires, Sapiens integrates history and science to reconsider accepted narratives, connect past developments with contemporary concerns, and examine specific events within the context of larger ideas. Dr. Harari also compels us to look ahead, because over the last few decades humans have begun to bend laws of natural selection that have governed life for the past four billion years. We are acquiring the ability to design not only the world around us, but also ourselves. Where is this leading us, and what do we want to become? Featuring 27 photographs, 6 maps, and 25 illustrations/diagrams, this provocative and insightful work is sure to spark debate and is essential reading for aficionados of Jared Diamond, James Gleick, Matt Ridley, Robert Wright, and Sharon Moalem.

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New York Times BestsellerA Summer Reading Pick for President Barack Obama, Bill Gates, and Mark Zuckerberg From a renowned historian comes a groundbreaking narrative of humanity’s creation and evolution—a #1 international bestseller—that explores the ways in which biology and history have defined us and enhanced our understanding of what it means to be “human.”One hundred thousand years ago, at least six different species of humans inhabited Earth. Yet today there is only one—homo sapiens. What happened to the others? And what may happen to us?Most books about the history of humanity pursue either a historical or a biological approach, but Dr. Yuval Noah Harari breaks the mold with this highly original book that begins about 70,000 years ago with the appearance of modern cognition. From examining the role evolving humans have played in the global ecosystem to charting the rise of empires, Sapiens integrates history and science to reconsider accepted narratives, connect past developments with contemporary concerns, and examine specific events within the context of larger ideas.Dr. Harari also compels us to look ahead, because over the last few decades humans have begun to bend laws of natural selection that have governed life for the past four billion years. We are acquiring the ability to design not only the world around us, but also ourselves. Where is this leading us, and what do we want to become?Featuring 27 photographs, 6 maps, and 25 illustrations/diagrams, this provocative and insightful work is sure to spark debate and is essential reading for aficionados of Jared Diamond, James Gleick, Matt Ridley, Robert Wright, and Sharon Moalem.

Yuval Noah Harari is an Israeli public intellectual, historian and professor in the Department of History at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. He is the author of the popular science bestsellers Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind, Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow, and 21 Lessons for the 21st Century.

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Be tolerant with others and strict with yourself.

If it is not right, do not do it, if it is not true, do not say it.

The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.

Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter.

You don’t have to turn this into something. It doesn’t have to upset you.

Marcus Aurelius was a Roman emperor, He held one of the most powerful positions in the world. If he chose to, nothing would be off-limits. We can learn so many things from his wisdom.

5 life lessons from Marcus Aurelius - Part 1

In terms of making meaningful and authentic decisions, we are a species walking a narrow bridge with two chasms framing our way: the finite and the infinite. On the finite side lie the fixed conditions of everything we are. These are the facts of our existence that force us to live in certain ways: the needs of our body, the wiring of our brain, and the pull and push of necessity. On the infinite side lies a universe of potential — all the things we think we might someday do or become, a future full of possibilities with no set course laid out.

Two Chasms

Both sides have their sirens’ calls that beckon us with promises of comfort, and both risk rendering us unable to move forward authentically in our lives. For the Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard, the wise but hard task of life is to walk the path between these two abysses: to be neither finite nor infinite but find the middle way.

Two Sirens

For many of us, the finite side, the reality and necessity of life, is all there is: a world that Kierkegaard calls “aesthetic.” The problem is that if we live only for our needs and whims, then life will rattle by without anything bigger. When we live only for the aesthetic, and embrace too fully the finite alone, we risk losing ourselves. We can do this in two ways. One is to become a slave to our desires — a kind of hedonistic automaton. Another is to become a faceless, uninteresting drone among the masses — or, as Kierkegaard put it, “an imitation, a number, a cipher in the crowd.”

A Person Of No Importance

Kierkegaard believed that the finite is not all there is to being human. There is also the infinite — the recognition that we have the capacity to choose and direct our lives in essentially any way we can dream. But spending too much time gawping at the cosmos of possibilities we face is not entirely healthy. For a lot of people, it’s terrifying.

A Deer Caught In The Headlights

Most of us can remember the anxious vertigo that comes in those “infinite” moments of life, when you leave your parents’ home, end a relationship, or stare at the blank first page of a novel. To know the infinite is also to be dreadfully aware of the vastness of the future. In a phrase Kierkegaard made famous (philosophically famous, anyway), this is to experience and know the “dizziness of freedom.”

The Dizziness Of Freedom

For many people, the anxiety and panic that comes from confronting the vast potential of life is crippling. There’s a paralysis that comes in being unable to choose, because there are too many choices to make, and too many potential options to choose from. For so much of our lives we’re led by the hand by those around us, or we’re given easy and impulsive answers from our biology. However, a human is someone who can take stock of things and who can — who has to — make decisions that no one else will make.

The Paralysis Of Choice

Kierkegaard’s advice is that we must each “learn to be anxious.” We must take a stand where we will but get used to facing outward. We must take a step along that narrow bridge between the infinite and finite. After all, like a spinning top, we risk toppling and losing our very selves when we stop moving.There’s a paradox in all this (and Kierkegaard is particularly fond of paradoxes) and we must hold two seemingly contradictory beliefs in tandem, while never giving sway to either.

We Must Learn To Be Anxious

We must recognize that we are puny and insignificant — primates running on hormones and synapses. But we must also recognize that we are powerful beyond belief, that each of our decisions reaches out into the future, and that our decisions define our future. Embracing and living with this paradox is a maturing of the soul and it is a necessary step in becoming a human being. As Kierkegaard wrote, “I will say that this is an adventure that every human being must go through.” We all live in contradiction. Wisdom comes in accepting that.

We Play A Solo Tug-Of-War

...even the richest personality is nothing before he has chosen himself, and on the other hand even what one might call the poorest personality is everything when he has chosen himself; for the great thing is not to be this or that but to be oneself, and this everyone can be if he wills it.

Christ was crucified because he would have nothing to do with the crowd (even though he addressed himself to all). He did not want to form a party, an interest group, a mass movement, but wanted to be what he was, the truth, which is related to the single individual. Therefore everyone who will genuinely serve the truth is by that very fact a martyr. To win a crowd is no art; for that only untruth is needed, nonsense, and a little knowledge of human passions. But no witness to the truth dares to get involved with the crowd.

It is the duty of the human understanding to understand that there are things which it cannot understand.

The thing is to understand myself: the thing is to find a truth which is true for me.

According to Søren Kierkegaard, we are each pulled in two directions: toward the "finite" or the "infinite." When we lean too far in either direction, we risk living stagnant and inauthentic lives.

Everyday we risk losing ourselves. We either become the plaything of our desires or we are crippled by indecision. We must avoid both.

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How Not To Be A Phony: Kierkegaard On The 2 Main Ways We Lose Our True Selves

Lack of confidence is created by fear. Fear is real and the sure of the fear is not just an imagination. Imagining you don’t have fear might help in short run but will never benefit in log run. Even though fear is real, it’s psychological. Admitting no one is born with confidence, it is just the matter of hard work can cure fear. Action cures fear whereas the postponement and indecision only fertilises the fear. Anytime next you experience fear, isolate fear and steady yourself, have hope and back it off by action.

BUILD CONFIDENCE AND DESTROY FEAR:

Embarrassment because of personal appearance: Practise better grooming.Fear of losing an important customer: Build confidence by giving better service.Fear of falling examination: Convert worry time to study time.Fear of things beyond your control: Pray.Fear of being physically hurt by something you can’t control: Switch attention to something else.Fear of what other people may think and say: Make sure your plan is right, then do it.Fear of making investment: Analysis, Decide and trust your decision.Fear of people: Think other people is also a human being.

TYPES OF FEAR AND ACTION TO OVERCOME THEM:

Always remember your brain is much like a bank, where thoughts get deposited. You can never withdraw the thought that you never deposited. Always make sure the thought you deposit will be the one you’ll be looking for when you withdraw. Never deposit negative thoughts like fear.

Thought!

Withdraw only positive thoughts: Destroy the negative thoughts before they becomes mental monster. Negative thoughts are fertilised by repeated thoughts which will break confidence and eventually create psychological difficulties. Be it big or small if anyone knows how to withdraw the positive thoughts instead of negative the problem is solved.

Always deposit only positive thoughts. Everyone goes through unpleasant and discouraging situation. Negative thoughts will only produce needless wear and tear to the mental memory which lead to frustration and disappointment. Always think about some things positive when negative thoughts enter in the mind. Think of good times, gratitude towards parents, teacher or some good works or just be glad to be alive.

Magic of thinking book should be read once by everyone.

The timeless and practical advice in The Magic of Thinking Big "Believe Big, "says Schwartz. "The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier -- certainly no more difficult - than small ideas and small plans."

The timeless and practical advice in The Magic of Thinking Big clearly demonstrates how you can: <ul><li>Sell more</li><li>Manage better</li><li>Lead fearlessly</li><li>Earn more</li><li>Enjoy a happier, more fulfilling life </li><li>With applicable and easy-to-implement insights, you’ll discover:</li><li>Why believing you can succeed is essential</li><li>How to quit making excuses</li><li>The means to overcoming fear and finding confidence</li><li>How to develop and use creative thinking and dreaming</li><li>Why making (and getting) the most of your attitudes is critical</li><li>How to think right towards others</li><li>The best ways to make “action” a habit</li><li>How to find victory in defeat</li><li>Goals for growth, and</li><li>How to think like a leader</li></ul>  "Believe Big,” says Schwartz. “The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier -- certainly no more difficult - than small ideas and small plans."

David Joseph Schwartz PhD (March 23, 1927 – December 6, 1987) was an American motivational writer and coach, best known for authoring The Magic of Thinking Big in 1959.He was a professor at Georgia State University and also began his own work as a self-help coach and life strategist. Later, he founded his own consultancy firm focusing on leadership development called 'Creative Educational Services Inc'.He became well known through his motivational publications and self-help books, especially for The Magic of Thinking Big, published in 1959.

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The Magic of Thinking Big

Powerful Quotes From Harry Potter That You Can Apply To Reality. "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light" - Albus Dumbledore

Quotes You Can Connect...

"I am what I am, an’ I’m not ashamed."

"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

"It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”

"You have to realize who you are."

We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.

"Family…Whatever yeh say, blood’s important. . . ."

"Time will not slow down when something unpleasant lies ahead."

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery."

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Quotes......💥

Anxiety is a roadmap that points us to a real or imagined threat, pain from the past or something in the present that needs our attention. While anxiety can be debilitating and must be managed, we need it. If we disable or mute our anxiety indicators, we won't know where the problem is.

We need anxiety

Thoughts can help shape behaviour and therefore reality. But motivation is mostly a physiological issue, not a mind issue. The "fight, flight, or freeze" response is activated by a physiological mechanism inside the nervous system. When you are stuck in fight or flight, such as panic or racing thoughts, you are not able to think your way out. Turning the amygdala response off is the key to motivation. The amygdala is your panic button in the brain. If your brain is perceiving a threat, it will shut down your system (procrastination) or put it in hyperarousal (motivation).

You can't think your way out of stuck

"Mental" health has very little to do with our minds. A nervous system stuck in a fight, flight, or freeze response will show the exact symptoms as clinical depression or pathological anxiety. The nervous system is not an illness or disorder. It is doing exactly what it is designed to do. When a brain is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze it is misattuning to safety and danger in the environment. If we see mental health as an actual physical process, then we have a greater chance of finding our way to tools that can get ourselves unstuck.

Mental health is a physical process

The actions that destroy our plans and relationships are a suboptimal effort at self-protection. What we call “self-sabotage” often happens because if you achieve a goal, things will need to change. All change involves some degree of loss. Any change to our status quo can trigger a threat response as change requires risk.

Self-sabotage is a misnomer


Not all behaviour is acceptable, but all behaviour is functional. Behaviour modification without understanding behaviour will almost always make us inert. You don't need to make giant behavioural transformations to get unstuck-getting unstuck requires tiny micro-shifts, and those shifts compound rapidly. Once you're in motion, your cognitive work suddenly becomes powerful.

All behavior is functional

A psychotherapist insists, “‘Mental’ health has very little to do with our minds.”


There’s no such thing as self-sabotage. A psychotherapist debunks the most common concepts that keep us stuck

If You See A Person Drowning

One Of The Best Pieces Of Advice 

Take comfort in the fact that you will die.

Facto Solace Mori

When faced with one's own mortality, the mind tries desperately to find meaning where there is none.

When A Person Dies

Sometimes to succeed, one must die.

Happiness is an illusion for those with feeble minds. - Bertrude Russell

Giving up is often times the best thing one can do.

Patty and Walter Berglund were the new pioneers of old St. Paul—the gentrifiers, the hands-on parents, the avant-garde of the Whole Foods generation. Patty was the ideal sort of neighbor, who could tell you where to recycle your batteries and how to get the local cops to actually do their job. She was an enviably perfect mother and the wife of Walter's dreams. Together with Walter—environmental lawyer, commuter cyclist, total family man—she was doing her small part to build a better world. But now, in the new millennium, the Berglunds have become a mystery. Why has their teenage son moved in with the aggressively Republican family next door? Why has Walter taken a job working with Big Coal? What exactly is Richard Katz—outré rocker and Walter's college best friend and rival—still doing in the picture? Most of all, what has happened to Patty? Why has the bright star of Barrier Street become "a very different kind of neighbor," an implacable Fury coming unhinged before the street's attentive eyes? In his first novel since The Corrections, Jonathan Franzen has given us an epic of contemporary love and marriage. Freedom comically and tragically captures the temptations and burdens of liberty: the thrills of teenage lust, the shaken compromises of middle age, the wages of suburban sprawl, the heavy weight of empire. In charting the mistakes and joys of Freedom's characters as they struggle to learn how to live in an ever more confusing world, Franzen has produced an indelible and deeply moving portrait of our time.

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Patty and Walter Berglund were the new pioneers of old St. Paul—the gentrifiers, the hands-on parents, the avant-garde of the Whole Foods generation. Patty was the ideal sort of neighbor, who could tell you where to recycle your batteries and how to get the local cops to actually do their job. She was an enviably perfect mother and the wife of Walter's dreams. Together with Walter—environmental lawyer, commuter cyclist, total family man—she was doing her small part to build a better world. But now, in the new millennium, the Berglunds have become a mystery. Why has their teenage son moved in with the aggressively Republican family next door? Why has Walter taken a job working with Big Coal? What exactly is Richard Katz—outré rocker and Walter's college best friend and rival—still doing in the picture? Most of all, what has happened to Patty? Why has the bright star of Barrier Street become "a very different kind of neighbor," an implacable Fury coming unhinged before the street's attentive eyes? In his first novel since The Corrections, Jonathan Franzen has given us an epic of contemporary love and marriage. Freedom comically and tragically captures the temptations and burdens of liberty: the thrills of teenage lust, the shaken compromises of middle age, the wages of suburban sprawl, the heavy weight of empire. In charting the mistakes and joys of Freedom's characters as they struggle to learn how to live in an ever more confusing world, Franzen has produced an indelible and deeply moving portrait of our time.

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Freedom

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Be Unstoppable

Steps: 1) Identify negative thoughts that pop into your mind and write them down 2) Understand the distortion happening with each thought 3) Write a reframed positive version of those thoughts 3) Speak those new positive thoughts as affirmations each day

1. Positive Thinking

Steps: 1) Set one, specific, measurable fitness goal and write it down 2) Make it simple and easy to achieve Eg. 10 pushups before bed 3) Log it daily, keep it simple in the beginning 4) Try to improve on the goal each day/week Eg. 1 more rep

2. Exercise 

Steps: 1) Choose one task you want to get done 2) Plan and dedicate a block of time to do the task 3) Set a time limit to achieve it in 4) Turn your notifications off to get rid of distractions 5) Deep work until the task is done

3. Single tasking 

- Stop procrastinating - Become a top 1% male - Build unstoppable habits - Gain top tier confidence Read "Iron Clad Discipline" and become an unstoppable man.

4. Men, if you want to: 

Steps: 1) Choose an early and consistent waking time 2) Find your intentions for the morning (Workout, homework, business ect) 3) Choose productive habits that align with your intentions 4) Start with a big and healthy breakfast

5. Morning Routine 

Unstoppable people are like warriors. They are always ready to take on the world. They are guided by a light from within, full of boundless energy and unwavering in their goals. They have learned to activate their natural talents and develop the skills necessary to achieve whatever they aim for.

Time management is the ability to use your time efficiently. This is something that cannot be learned but practiced in your daily life, so to make the best use of your time make the strategies ahead.

5 Strategies for Better Time Management

Write down your task you need to accomplish on daily basis, make routine for your day by creating a list of things get to be done with sequence, by planning daily it will help you achieve maximum time productivity.

1. Daily Planner

Always assign a time to a particular task, by doing this you have a time frame in your mind that will help you to focus on your task without any distraction.

2. Time Limit

Everyone has their best productive hours in a day were they accomplish task easily without any distraction or hassle, find your productive hour by observing your daily time schedule and make sure to finish your major task during your productive hours.

3. Productive Hours

This principle teaches us that 80% of the results we achieve are from 20% of our actions, so focus on to find the task which is more important to finish for the day, by finish the major tasks you will achieve maximum results with less time.

4. Pareto Principle

Avoid the major distraction that is Smartphone keep it silent and away while performing your task, keep your desk neat and clean remove unnecessary things from your desk to just focus on your end results.

5. Remove Distractions

Time management is very curial for better productivity,so i have pointed out some tips to manage time for better productivity.

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