<ul><li>Much of what we come to call "luck" is actually the macro result of 1,000s of micro actions. Your daily habits put you in a position where “luck” is more likely to strike.</li><li>In order to get lucky, you have to remove the “black holes” (anti-luck) from your existence. You have to take actions to expand your personal luck surface area.</li></ul>

Luck Is Made Up Of Micro Actions

“Luck has nothing to do with it, because I have spent many, many hours, countless hours, on the court working for my one moment in time, not knowing when it would come.” - Serena Williams

In the movie Interstellar (slight spoiler if you haven’t seen it!), there’s a scene in which the main characters discuss the habitability of a planet on the edge of a large black hole.The protagonists realize that the proximity to the black hole makes life unlikely to exist on the planet—the black hole absorbed all of the “lucky” events that might have been the spark for life. The asteroids carrying the seeds of life were minusculeIn order to get lucky, you have to remove the “black holes” from your existence. You have to take actions to expand your personal luck surface area.

The Interstellar Impact

There's no luck on the sidelines—the arena is where it strikes. It's lonely and vulnerable, but it's the only path that bears real fruit. When faced with two paths, choose the path that puts you in the arena—where collisions happen, where luck can strike.

Get In The Arena

The idea that free time is bad is one of the greatest lies you’ve been told. In investing, it’s often said that cash is a call option on future interesting investments. Well, in life, I believe that free time is a call option on future interesting opportunities. When you have free time, you have the headspace to pursue new ideas and go down rabbit holes. Plan for more of it.

Schedule Free Time 

Everyone has a few negative people in their circle. They tell you to be realistic. They laugh at your ambition. They argue. Eliminate this negativity from your life. It's a boat anchor—a major black hole—cut the damn line and run away from it as fast as you can. Negative people are quite literally the anti-luck.

Ruthlessly Cut Negativity 

You should spend your 20s saying yes to almost everything. Saying yes puts you into uncomfortable situations that lead to new relationships, opportunities, and growth. These unexpected moments are luck-rich. Embracing them is how you capitalize.

Embrace The Unexpected 

We really need to normalize boredom. Some of your most creative moments come during periods of boredom. On a walk, in the shower, at a dinner by yourself. You’re bored, your mind wanders, your thoughts mingle. Bam! Insight strikes. Boredom creates luck. Go for more walks (sans technology), go for more drives, sit quietly and think. You’ll never regret it.

Creative Boredom Is The Key

20’s has been lot of conversation about luck and getting stuck in this hurricane of post pandemic chaos, this article really put me at peace. I hope it does for you too. 

20 ways to expand your luck surface area & create more luck

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Personal Development

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Problem Solving

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Business

How to Get Lucky? 

Zeno Citium created Stoicism in Athens, and socrates and cynics were influential in its development. STOICISM emphasizes the development of self-control and fortitude as a technique of combating negative emotions; Most great leaders in history has become stoic, as a means to overcome negative emotions, as what a leader will frequently face. This quotes are from polymath, influential and leaders in history, so be inspired, Overcome yourself and forth forward!

Stoicism Quotes: FOR OVERCOMING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS 

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength”

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts"

“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.”

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”

“It’s not because things are difficult that we dare not venture. It’s because we dare not venture that they are difficult.”

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.”

“Death smiles at us all; all we can do is smile back”

“Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.”

“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.”

“You become what you give your attention to.”

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage”

“If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable.”

Think like stoics. Stoicism is one significant piece advice of your life's puzzle. STOICISM - Stoicism is a philosophy that appeals to people who want to improve their mental health. When the agonizing oppression of emotional ideas pierces through the mind, establishing a front-line of emotional misery and pain, researchers have identified that stoic (activities) can contribute to mental well-being. It helps minimize negative thinking and maximize postivity, and help strengthen your character

STOICISM - Think like them

Stoicism is one important piece of our life, as we're exposed on limitless negativity throughout our life. so embody stoicism push your limit don't listen to negativity and learn.

Essential Stoic quotes for recovery. Stoicism and the CBT connection. Stoic quotes for 21st Century life. Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus & Seneca quotes.

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Philosophy

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Motivation & Inspiration

Essential Stoic quotes for recovery - Tikvah Lake Florida

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Comparative examination isn't easy and may bruise your ego. But if you find you have a weakness, consider it a blessing because you can address the problem instead of remaining weak and unaware</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Take short burst of action and long periods of practice and self-improvement. Don't chase after every petty matter and waste your energy</li><li class="ql-align-justify">By removing yourself from the immediate, stressful situation, you also take out the emotion that often prompts you to make rash, thoughtless decisions.</li></ul>

Comparative Examination & Calculative Risk

When tension erupts into conflict in your own life, the sooner you address and resolve it, the sooner you can mend your relationship with your opponent and get on with your life. You can end conflicts quickly by having a clear idea of what you want to accomplish and then focusing all your efforts on accomplishing it. To ensure you don't waste time and prolong the conflict, take only those actions that help, and refuse to take actions that don't help. Your time is limited, as are your energy and resources. You are better off being frugal with all three.

Conflict Management In Life

Causing your adversary unnecessary suffering doesn't make your own situation any better. In fact, it might harm your position because it incites his or hatred of you. Once you put aside emotional cries for vengeance and retaliation, you are able to start making decisions impartially and will discover that you can improve your own strength and position without ruining your adversary.

Objective Evaluation Of Conflict

True excellence manifests from the objective evaluation of yourself and not necessarily from what other people think of you.

<ul><li>Study all aspects of a problem coolly and rationally, plan carefully and act prudently while trying to minimize damage. Sometimes active inaction will be the best course until circumstances change and you have the advantage necessary to prevail.</li><li>Believing you will always prevail can lead to waste and possibly catastrophe. </li><li>You should neither overestimate your own strength nor underestimate the strength of your opponent.</li><li>Whatever the situation, you can't always unilaterally control it, so you should be prepared to adopt to it.</li></ul>

Planning

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">When you conceal yourself from view, no one knows how strong you are or where to attack.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">In order to quickly solve your life's problems, such as conflicts, don't settle for half-hearted efforts; once you make up your mind to accomplish a mission, you must complete it without hesitation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Understand the role played by luck in your past successes and in your life- mistaking good fortune for skill could cause you to act recklessly and put you in danger in the future.</li></ul>

Strategy & Conflict Resolution

Do not take a passive role in your life, waiting until opportunities magically present themselves, but rather to engage in an active, dynamic modus operandi that controls the tempo and direction of the present moment

Although it's written by war marshal but the age old advice are still useful in modern day conflicts in life and at workplace

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Books

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Leadership & Management

"There's not a dated maxim or vague prescription in it." — Newsweek Regarded as the world's oldest military treatise, this compact volume has instructed officers and tacticians for more than 2,000 years. From its origins in China, The Art of War traveled the world to inform the strategies of Napoleon and World War II generals. More recently, it has taken on a new life as a guide to competing successfully in business, law, and sports. All of The Art of War's concepts retain their value to modern readers, from the prudence of circumventing a strong opponent and taking advantage of a weak one to the wisdom of preparedness and flexibility. Other topics include strategy, tactics, maneuvering, communications, the treatment of soldiers, and the worth of well-trained officers. History enthusiasts, business thought leaders, and anyone intrigued by competition and rivalry will appreciate this elegant edition of the classic work.

Sun Tzu (孫子; pinyin: Sūnzǐ) is a honorific title bestowed upon Sūn Wu (孫武 c. 544-496 BC), the author of The Art of War (孫子兵法), an immensely influential ancient Chinese book on military strategy. Sun Tzu believed in the use of the military sciences to effect outcomes that would result in peace.In the author's name, Sūn Wu, the character wu, meaning "military", is the same as the character in wu shu, or martial art. Sun Wu also has a courtesy name, Chang Qing (Cháng Qīng).

Sun Tzu

The Art of War

the art of war

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.

Progress is impossible without change

The world changes constantly, so the best way to adapt to an ever-changing environment is to embrace rethinking.

Progress is impossible without change.

Every time we think or talk, we tend to fall into the role of one of these characters: <ol><li>a preacher, who is only interested in expressing himself</li><li>a prosecutor, whose goal is to win</li><li>a politician, a people pleaser</li><li>a scientist, who knows what they don't know and is willing to unlearn and rethink</li></ol>

To embrace a growth mindset, think like a scientist.

The purpose of learning isn’t to affirm our beliefs; it’s to evolve our beliefs.

"The purpose of learning isn’t to affirm our beliefs; it’s to evolve our beliefs."

We should teach ourselves to be confident but modest.

Overconfidence is ignorance plus arrogance. 

We should live by our personal values, instead. This will allow us to let go of our beliefs without crisis if they turn out to be wrong or go outdated.

Your identity is not determined by your beliefs. 

Arguments are extremely vulgar, for everyone in good society holds exactly the same opinions.

Adam Grants explains two types of conflicts:<ol><li>relationship conflicts, and</li><li>task conflicts. </li></ol>Task conflicts are constructive by nature. In relationship conflicts, it takes great respect for each other for such conflicts to be constructive.

Constructive Conflicts: How to Get Hot Without Getting Mad

They do not attack the other side nor defend their position! <ol><li>They find common ground. </li><li>They present only a few reasons to support their case. </li><li>They ask questions. </li></ol>In Grant Adam's words:"They appeared less assertive, but much like in a dance, they led by letting their partners step forward."

Three Things a Skilled Negotiator Do Differently

We can't change others, but we can motivate them to change by using motivational interviewing: <ol><li>Ask open-ended questions</li><li>Engage in reflective listening</li><li>Affirm the person’s desire and ability to change</li></ol>The goal is not to persuade but to look for...<ul><li>sustain talk, and </li><li>change talk. </li></ul>When you identify change talk, you may ask questions that help people go deeper to motivate them to change.To be a good motivational interviewer, you must cultivate a genuine desire to help people reach their goals.

Motivational Interviewing: Helping Others Change through Questions

An organization with a culture of learning requires:<ol><li>psychological safety and </li><li>accountability to both the process and outcome.</li></ol>So, these are what they do:<ul><li>They avoid best practices and keep rethinking their solutions.</li><li>They are not afraid of making mistakes and learn from them. </li><li>Team members ask themselves and others, “How do you know?” in a nonjudgmental way.</li></ul>

Rethinking and corporate culture of learning

Rethinking liberates us to do more than updating our knowledge and opinions---It's a tool for leading a more fulfilling life.

Check out these important #ideas from my favourite book: Think Again! 

#1 New York Times Bestseller “THIS. This is the right book for right now. Yes, learning requires focus. But, unlearning and relearning requires much more—it requires choosing courage over comfort. In Think Again, Adam Grant weaves together research and storytelling to help us build the intellectual and emotional muscle we need to stay curious enough about the world to actually change it. I’ve never felt so hopeful about what I don’t know.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Dare to Lead The bestselling author of Give and Take and Originals examines the critical art of rethinking: learning to question your opinions and open other people's minds, which can position you for excellence at work and wisdom in life Intelligence is usually seen as the ability to think and learn, but in a rapidly changing world, there's another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink and unlearn. In our daily lives, too many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of doubt. We listen to opinions that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard. We see disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn. We surround ourselves with people who agree with our conclusions, when we should be gravitating toward those who challenge our thought process. The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones. We think too much like preachers defending our sacred beliefs, prosecutors proving the other side wrong, and politicians campaigning for approval--and too little like scientists searching for truth. Intelligence is no cure, and it can even be a curse: being good at thinking can make us worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the blinder to our own limitations we can become. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant is an expert on opening other people's minds--and our own. As Wharton's top-rated professor and the bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take, he makes it one of his guiding principles to argue like he's right but listen like he's wrong. With bold ideas and rigorous evidence, he investigates how we can embrace the joy of being wrong, bring nuance to charged conversations, and build schools, workplaces, and communities of lifelong learners. You'll learn how an international debate champion wins arguments, a Black musician persuades white supremacists to abandon hate, a vaccine whisperer convinces concerned parents to immunize their children, and Adam has coaxed Yankees fans to root for the Red Sox. Think Again reveals that we don't have to believe everything we think or internalize everything we feel. It's an invitation to let go of views that are no longer serving us well and prize mental flexibility over foolish consistency. If knowledge is power, knowing what we don't know is wisdom.

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Learning & Education

#1 New York Times Bestseller “THIS. This is the right book for right now. Yes, learning requires focus. But, unlearning and relearning requires much more—it requires choosing courage over comfort. In Think Again, Adam Grant weaves together research and storytelling to help us build the intellectual and emotional muscle we need to stay curious enough about the world to actually change it. I’ve never felt so hopeful about what I don’t know.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Dare to Lead The bestselling author of Give and Take and Originals examines the critical art of rethinking: learning to question your opinions and open other people's minds, which can position you for excellence at work and wisdom in life Intelligence is usually seen as the ability to think and learn, but in a rapidly changing world, there's another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink and unlearn. In our daily lives, too many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of doubt. We listen to opinions that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard. We see disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn. We surround ourselves with people who agree with our conclusions, when we should be gravitating toward those who challenge our thought process. The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones. We think too much like preachers defending our sacred beliefs, prosecutors proving the other side wrong, and politicians campaigning for approval--and too little like scientists searching for truth. Intelligence is no cure, and it can even be a curse: being good at thinking can make us worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the blinder to our own limitations we can become. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant is an expert on opening other people's minds--and our own. As Wharton's top-rated professor and the bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take, he makes it one of his guiding principles to argue like he's right but listen like he's wrong. With bold ideas and rigorous evidence, he investigates how we can embrace the joy of being wrong, bring nuance to charged conversations, and build schools, workplaces, and communities of lifelong learners. You'll learn how an international debate champion wins arguments, a Black musician persuades white supremacists to abandon hate, a vaccine whisperer convinces concerned parents to immunize their children, and Adam has coaxed Yankees fans to root for the Red Sox. Think Again reveals that we don't have to believe everything we think or internalize everything we feel. It's an invitation to let go of views that are no longer serving us well and prize mental flexibility over foolish consistency. If knowledge is power, knowing what we don't know is wisdom.

Adam Grant is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Adam Grant has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Adam Grant's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Adam Grant

Think Again

Motivational energy from achieving goals, dreams and desire fulfillment.Emotional energy from trust of friends and family.Intellectual energy from practicing mindfulness, experience and knowledge.Physical energy obtained from good sleep, exercise and recovery.

Energy- Feeling Of Capacity

You probably came across development and self help books which talk about motivation and life goals.If you are tired on physical level you don't have energy on emotional and intellectual challenges.

Things that are Important but not the Core.

Physical recovery is a science that nobody talks about, only professional athletes know how important it is.

Interlink Of Various Energy.

Think of your body as a car you used to move through life. It's the only guide you have you can't sell it to replace it. How far you get in life and how quickly you get there depends on how well you take care of your car.If you are not scheduling regular oil change and maintenance, you'll find yourself as disrepair.

Life Is Like The Only Car

1. Keep Moving: studies show we are better when we exercise. Without the movement the car rusts, similarly without moment you feel demotivated and exhausted.2. Take breaks: our bodies are not designed to work 8 hr straight. Take atleast 15mins break in an hr.3.Sleep: it s the absolute minimum you owe your body everyday. Its like daily energy recovery.4. Fuel: you can't put any fuel in your ka do you really think your body is okay with junk food and soda. So eat healthy conciously, not just for yourself but totake care of your brain and body.

Want To Avoid Breakdown

You need to give a chance to your body to recover.

If You Are Tired

Like you take your car to repair shop or wash.Remember recovery is active not passive. Lying on bed and watching tv won't nelp, pur body needs change. Take a walk in park, get a massage, go to yoga class, meditate.Find your way that suits you.Find a stress and energy measurements to track which energy recovery techniques suits you.

What Is The Best Way To Recover

Physical recovery is a science nobody talks about. Only professional athletes know how important it is. Time management may seem like the right solution when you can’t get everything you need done, but it won’t help if you’re exhausted. Energy is the feeling of capability. More detailed information is available on our website: https://welltory.com

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Productivity

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Health

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Time Management

Manage your energy, not your time.

<ul><li>Thinking about the future is pleasurable and sometimes we’d rather just think about it than get there. Some events are more pleasurable to imagine than to experience.</li><li>We like to daydream because the mere dream itself can be a joy.</li><li>The main reason why our brains simulate the future is so that we can control the experiences that we have. </li><li>Our brain makes predictions incredibly quickly and about nearly everything in life. When our experiences don't match what our brain expects, we feel surprised.</li></ul>

How We Think About The Future

The greatest ability of the human brain is to imagine, to see the world as it has never been before.But imagination has three shortcomings:<ul><li>Imagination tends to add and remove details, but people do not realize that key details may be fabricated or missing from the imagined scenario. </li><li>Imagined futures (and pasts) are more like the present than they actually will be (or were).</li><li>Imagination fails to realize that things will feel different once they actually happen—most notably, the psychological immune system will make bad things feel not so bad as they are imagined to feel.</li></ul>

Our Ability To Imagine

The word happiness is used to refer to three related things:<ul><li>Emotional happiness</li><li>Moral happiness</li><li>Judgemental happiness</li></ul>It’s hard to define emotional happiness, but when we feel it, we have no doubt about its reality and importance. Because we have a poor recollection of our experiences, we cannot objectively compare a previous state of happiness to a present state.

About Happiness

All claims of happiness are subjective. And are formed from the perspective of a single human being whose unique collection of past experiences serves as context.Nobody really knows what happiness feels like for others, so that means we can’t say definitely whether someone in a situation that might seem bad to us is actually less happy than we are. In fact, it’s entirely possible they are just as happy or even more so.Not knowing what we are missing is the very thing that allows us to be happy despite not having some other opportunity.

Happiness Is Subjective

Your experiential background can dramatically change your happiness levels. Once you know something exists and have experienced pleasure from it, then your definition of happiness changes compared to what it was in the past.

The Experience-Stretching Hypothesis

Negative events affect us but not as long as we expect them. When our psychological immune system is working, we are able to cope with any negative situation that comes our way. Explaining events robs them of their emotional impact because it makes the event seem more likely. This allows us to stop thinking about them.

Rationalization

Wealth increases people’s happiness after it removes them from poverty and places them in the middle class. After that, there is little relation between wealth and happiness.

Wealth And Happiness

Experience and awareness are closely related but not the same. <ul><li>Experience refers to partaking in an event. </li><li>Awareness refers to being cognizant that the event is happening.</li></ul>

Experience And Awareness 

It happens when a phenomenon arises from very large numbers of something, but not smaller versions of it. For example, billions of neurons lead to a conscious human brain, but two neurons are not a small version of consciousness.

The Law of Large Numbers

Psychological sciences will always be imperfect because we are trying to observe someone else's subjective experience, but it's the best we've got and the closest an outside observer can get to understanding the inside of someone else's mind.

The Shortcomings of Psychology

It refers to judging historical events or people by modern-day standards. It is largely useless and unfair because you can't expect historical figures to make the same decisions as we do now because they lived in a very different context.

Presentism 

Mastering the greatest pursuit there ever was: Happiness

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Habits

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Communication

How to Be Happy

A smart and funny book by a prominent Harvard psychologist, which uses groundbreaking research and (often hilarious) anecdotes to show us why we’re so lousy at predicting what will make us happy – and what we can do about it. Most of us spend our lives steering ourselves toward the best of all possible futures, only to find that tomorrow rarely turns out as we had expected. Why? As Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert explains, when people try to imagine what the future will hold, they make some basic and consistent mistakes. Just as memory plays tricks on us when we try to look backward in time, so does imagination play tricks when we try to look forward. Using cutting-edge research, much of it original, Gilbert shakes, cajoles, persuades, tricks and jokes us into accepting the fact that happiness is not really what or where we thought it was. Among the unexpected questions he poses: Why are conjoined twins no less happy than the general population? When you go out to eat, is it better to order your favourite dish every time, or to try something new? If Ingrid Bergman hadn’t gotten on the plane at the end of Casablanca, would she and Bogey have been better off? Smart, witty, accessible and laugh-out-loud funny, Stumbling on Happiness brilliantly describes all that science has to tell us about the uniquely human ability to envision the future, and how likely we are to enjoy it when we get there.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Creativity

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Science & Nature

A smart and funny book by a prominent Harvard psychologist, which uses groundbreaking research and (often hilarious) anecdotes to show us why we’re so lousy at predicting what will make us happy – and what we can do about it. Most of us spend our lives steering ourselves toward the best of all possible futures, only to find that tomorrow rarely turns out as we had expected. Why? As Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert explains, when people try to imagine what the future will hold, they make some basic and consistent mistakes. Just as memory plays tricks on us when we try to look backward in time, so does imagination play tricks when we try to look forward. Using cutting-edge research, much of it original, Gilbert shakes, cajoles, persuades, tricks and jokes us into accepting the fact that happiness is not really what or where we thought it was. Among the unexpected questions he poses: Why are conjoined twins no less happy than the general population? When you go out to eat, is it better to order your favourite dish every time, or to try something new? If Ingrid Bergman hadn’t gotten on the plane at the end of Casablanca, would she and Bogey have been better off? Smart, witty, accessible and laugh-out-loud funny, Stumbling on Happiness brilliantly describes all that science has to tell us about the uniquely human ability to envision the future, and how likely we are to enjoy it when we get there.

Daniel Gilbert is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Daniel Gilbert has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Daniel Gilbert's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Daniel Gilbert

Stumbling on Happiness

Gratitude, in the simplest form, is a thankful appreciation for what one has. It is a positive state of mind that focuses on what we already have, rather than what is lacking in life. It is the awareness that life isn’t perfect and it doesn’t always go the way we want it to go; but from a realistic perspective, there are always some good things in life that we can appreciate.

What is gratitude and how can it help us?

It’s a part of our evolution. We generally tend to return to a certain baseline level of happiness despite major positive or negative events in life. We adapt to them. This concept is called “hedonic adaptation”, and it is essential for our survival.The downside of hedonic adaptation is that we also adapt to even the most wonderful things we have over time. Their subjective impact decreases over time, and we lose interest. There are many things in life that make our lives much better but eventually we don't even acknowledge their existence because we get used to them

So why do we need to practice gratitude? Why isn't it innate? 

That’s why we need to intentionally pay attention to the good things in life. In this way, we can reverse our adaptation, see the wonderful things as they are, and feel the power of gratitude. <a href="https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/pdfs/GratitudePDFs/3Froh-BlessingsEarlyAdolescence.pdf">Research </a>shows that the practice of gratitude can change subjective wellbeing. Even a small act like listing a few things we are grateful for has an incredibly powerful effect on our mental health. By paying attention to the things we are grateful for, we cultivate happiness, compassion, and kindness. By being grateful, we cultivate a better life.

Each day, take 5-10 minutes and list the 5 things you’re grateful for. You can write just a couple of words or some long sentences if you like. The content of what you write and the way you express yourself does not matter as long as you are mindful when you’re writing it. If you intentionally pay attention, you’ll feel the benefits more.You can add it to your daily routine, and either start or finish your day by listing those 5 things that make your life better. Within just a week, you will feel the difference in your outlook. Over time, being grateful will become a normal part of your life.

So how can we practice gratitude?

The reason it doesn’t come naturally to us is our adaptation. Although it's a vital part of our evolution, we adapt to even the most wonderful things and take them for granted. We can reverse it with a simple practice called negative visualization. Take a look around and try to imagine how different your life would be if you didn’t have the things or the people you love. You don’t have to think about extreme negative situations. Just think about how your day would be different without them and recognize their positive impact on your life.

Can’t come up with anything to be grateful for?

Practicing gratitude transforms your outlook upon life in overwhelming ways. Within just a couple of days, you will feel that noticing the good things will get easier. And over time, you will know in your heart that life is beautiful, no matter what happens.

What is gratitude and how can it help us? Gratitude, in the simplest form, is a thankful appreciation for what one has. It is a positive state of …

The power of gratitude and how to practice it - Medito Foundation

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Criticism is futile because it puts a person into defensive & usually makes him strive to justify himself</li><li class="ql-align-justify">B.F.SKINNER - psychologist , proved through his experiment that animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much rapidly & retain what learned than animal punished for bad behavior.. same applies to humans too</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Any fool can criticize ,condemn, complain - most fools do. But it take character and self-control to be understanding & forgiving.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">" A great man shows his greatness , by the way he treats little men "</li></ul>

" If u want to gather honey, Don't kick over the beehive"

The lessons I learned from the dark days at Alibaba are that you’ve got to make your team have value, innovation, and vision. Also, if you don’t give up, you still have a chance. And, when you are small, you have to be very focused and rely on your brain,not your strength – Don’t complain, look for opportunities ...

Jack Ma

From magazine Hoover was famous performer at air shows, when he was flying at 300ft, both the engine suddenly stopped. He managed to land.He suspected about the airplane fuel , the ww2 propeller plane fueled with jet fuel instead of gasoline.The young man was sick with agony of his mistake. Tears streamed down his face as bob approached

AirPlane Which Stops @ 300FT 

You can imagine Hoover's anger. But Hoover didn't scold the mechanic, he didn't even criticize him. Instead, he put his big arm around the man's shoulder and said,“To show you I'm sure that you'll never do this again, I want you to service my F-51 tomorrow.”

All this lesson and quotes are from      CHAPTER 1 of the book..

In the present book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie says, “You can make someone want to do what you want them to do by seeing the situation from the other person’s point of view and arousing in the other person an eager want.” You learn how to make people like you, win people over to your way of thinking, and change people without causing offense or arousing resentment. For instance, “let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers” and “talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.” This book is all about building relationships. With good relationships, personal and business successes are easy and swift to achieve. Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking 1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. 2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're wrong." 3. If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4. Begin in a friendly way. 5. Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes. 6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. 7. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers. 8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. 9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. 10. Appeal to the nobler motives. 11. Dramatize your ideas. 12.Throw down a challenge.

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A weak handshake shouts instant disconnect!﻿"You never have a second chance to make a good first impression" is a hackneyed adage. Someone gets an instant second impression of you the moment your eyes lock and your bodies touch in a handshake.Press their pulse when shaking handsTo create an instant connection with a new acquaintance lightly place your forefinger on his wrist vein so he feels the warmth of your body flowing into his. This is like touching the shaker's heart, because a person's pulse is a wave travelling directly from the heart.However do not press like you are taking his pulse!

How to have a one of a kind, noticeably outstanding handshake

Hold the business card while chattingDo not glance at a new acquaintance's business card and quickly stash it into your pocket. First, hold it with both hands and gaze at it as though it were a small piece of art hand painted especially for you.Then you can switch to holding the card with one hand, but continue holding it at waist level or just below. To make her feel esteemed and valued, give it a respectful glance from time to time.

How to exchange business cards with class

<ol><li>Keep your cards in an attractive card case and handle them carefully. You are giving someone a representation of yourself. It shows you take pride in your profession.</li><li>Present it horizontally, with the script facing the recipient.</li><li>Hold it just a bit higher than usual- not in his face - but at a height where he could almost read it in your hands.</li></ol>If you respect your work, others will too.After all, people who love the work they do and do the work they love are the big winners in life.

Present your business card with pride

Examine their business card for conversation inspirationWhen talk lags, look at your conversational partner's card again. It can rescue you from discussion deadlock. You will likely find a conversational cue in the card- the logo, his title, the mission statement.

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Many of the effusively invasive huggers tell that a hug is a handshake from the heart. Unfortunately not everyone agrees.let them choose whether to hug or notPro huggers, camouflage your hugging intentions by keeping your elbow almost touching your waist as you open your arms. That permits your potential huggee make them call of whether to slide into your embrace or grab your right hand and give it a shake or two

How to give or avoid social hugs

dont pat when you hugStay in an embrace as long or as short as the situation and hugging partner warrant. But do no let your hands become flippers on her back lest it subliminally signal that you want to disconnect.Don't go crazy analyzing it if your cohugger starts patting yor back. It commonly occurs when one of the huggers feels the embrace is lasting too long, signifying 'OK time is up, let's end this hugging thing". When she starts patting, smile and smoothly curtail the hug

How To Detect If Someone's Hug Is Fake

Last impressions are as memorable as first. Pay attention to your passion level as you part, not just when you meet. Your "good bye" must match or, preferably, be bigger than your "hello"Neither understands how a lively hello and lackluster goodbye affects someone. Subconsciously they feel they disappointed you. Make your BYE as big as your HIThe next time you meet someone make a note of how enthusiastic you sounded when you said hello then when it comes time to say goodbye boost your energy level up a tad higher. if appropriate, tellthe person of your pleasure.

How To Make A Great Last Impression

Anything up close looks larger than when it is at a distance. This is true for both experiences and objects.When you meet someone you know next to nothing about him. With very little effort however you can find out some trivial facts about his day. Questions about someone's last few hours just kick start the conversation. Ask about her day, preferably the past 5 or 6 hours. Visualise as many details as you can and ask about them. As far fetched it might seem to you, she is loving it because she is so close to the experience. Soon the natural flow takes over and one subject leads to another.

How To Get Lively Conversation Going With People you've just met

Some people, regardless of money, education, looks or personality, make an impression wherever they go - they are master communicators, and everyone enjoys talking to them. How to Instantly Connect with Anyone shows you how to be one of those lucky few. Communication guru Leil Lowndes arms you with 96 all-new, cutting-edge communication techniques to break through the invisible barrier that keeps people down, both personally and professionally. Her tips and tricks will help you: - Meet new people and speak with confidence - Be credible and charismatic in every social and business situation - Make friends and important contacts wherever you go - Command the respect of everyone you meet Using these deceptively simple methods you can improve your communication skills and achieve greater success in all your relationships.

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