"Better to write for yourself and not have an audience than to write for an audience and not be yourself".Thus wrote Cyril Connolly (1903 - 1974) English critic and writer. What do you think? In the meantime you think about it I tell you why I try to write every day. What the English critic says is, like all categorical statements, only half true.

Write for Yourself

We all write to record our thoughts. It is true that we do not always know what thoughts are circulating in our mind. However, it is important to start writing to make them come out. Blessed is he who sits at his desk, with pen or computer, and writes what he already has in his head. The moment we begin to register our thoughts we realize that other thoughts, unexpected and unexpected, arise and ask to be registered. This fact always happens, every moment and every day of the year. And the amazing thing is that everything doesn't always happen the same way.

Our Thoughts

It is a question of tracing a path to take with writing that leads us to a possible reader. And if there isn't, we communicate with ourselves. The important thing is to open the connection. Writing does just that: it ignites thoughts. The thought can be published and makes this contact more natural and accessible. Writing every day means that every day we learn to think better. It often happens that, before falling asleep, I start thinking about what to write the next day. I may have an idea, a concept, to develop, elaborate, clarify and I build on it a fabric of virtual images and words.

Tracing a Path

I know well that the next day they will be gone, I will never be able to make them re-emerge as they presented themselves to me at that moment while I was in the darkness of my mind. Yet, I begin to think again and I discover that as if by magic everything re-emerges, even if in a different form. We realize, then, that what matters is the practice, the exercise, the will to cross that barrier of the unconscious beyond which each of us knows that there is what is needed to make sense.

Practice Matters

Practice refines the word, accelerates thought, builds meaning, makes it consistent and confident, tries to present it in the best way, first to oneself and then to any reader. It is important that there is someone to whom you can present what you think. You cannot write without confronting this entity that follows you relentlessly like a shadow. Writing every day improves our ability to share after having thought as soon as possible it did not exist, at least so we believe.

Build a Meaning

It gives us credibility, first towards ourselves and then towards others. Very often we find that others are ourselves. In fact, we find ourselves reflecting on how those who, in various work, study and relationship situations, would think we had the opportunity to confront each other. We then discover that in us there is not a single and unique reality of listening, comparison and criticism, but many realities from which thoughts, ideas, suggestions are born as much as we try to give shape in writing.

Others are Ourselves

For the simple fact that we are not a uniform block of thought, a sacred monolith to which we dedicate what we want to write.If we write every day we discover that we are builders, architects of our always new, always different thought. It is our personal history that is created and recreated, returns and returns, but also appears and disappears, awaited but unpredictable. In short, it is the future that unfolds before our mind and that we materialize with words.

Not a Uniform Block 

Everything we write can be strictly personal but also dynamically social, belonging to everyone. It depends on how we know how to communicate, which languages ​​we use, which cultures we address, their environments, their traditions, their sensitivity. One thing is certain and that is that every time we write our voice becomes stronger, more courageous, more consistent. We discover that it belongs to us more and more. But at the same time we wrote it, it is no longer ours. It belongs to the world. For this reason we have to write every day.

Write Every Day

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Un'idea di vita.: Scrivere ogni giorno

The book presents the seeking of power as an ultimate purpose of life, some of the events that happen in the book seems to be unnatural, however; the tips (for living a powerful life) presented by don juan (the wise one in the novel) seem to be valid and really inspiring.

What Does The Book Have To Say?

You, on the other hand, feel that you are immortal, and the decisions of an immortal man can be cancelled or regretted or douted. In a world where death is the hunter, my friend, there is only time for decisions

Personal history is the information that you told other people about. So Having personal history makes you obligated to renew that history every time you do or have something new going on in your life, there is no power in such a life, on the other hand, with no personal history no explanation is needed, nobody is angry or disillusioned with your acts, and no one pins you down with their thoughts!

Erase Your Personal History

Originally drawn to Yaqui Indian spiritual leader don Juan Matus for his knowledge of psychotropic plants, bestselling author Carlos Castaneda immersed himself in the sorcerer’s magical world. Ten years after his first encounter with the shaman, Castaneda examines his field notes and comes to understand what don Juan knew all along—psychotropic plants are merely a means to understanding alternative realities that one cannot fully embrace on one’s own. Journey to Ixtlan introduces these clear new ideas—omitted from Castaneda’s classic volumes The Teachings of Don Juan and A Separate Reality—to the reader for the first time. Castaneda explores, as he comes to experience it himself, his own final voyage into the teachings of don Juan, and shares with us what it is like to truly "stop the world" and perceive reality on his own terms.

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In Journey to Ixtlan, Carlos Castaneda introduces readers to this new approach for the first time and explores, as he comes to experience it himself, his own final voyage into the teachings of don Juan, sharing with us what it is like to truly “stop the world” and perceive reality on his own terms. Originally drawn to Yaqui Indian spiritual leader don Juan Matus for his knowledge of mind-altering plants, bestselling author Carlos Castaneda immersed himself in the sorcerer’s magical world entirely. Ten years after his first encounter with the shaman, Castaneda examines his field notes and comes to understand what don Juan knew all along—that these plants are merely a means to understanding the alternative realities that one cannot fully embrace on one’s own.

Carlos Castaneda was an Latin-American author. Starting with The Teachings of Don Juan in 1968, Castaneda wrote a series of books that describe his training in shamanism, particularly with a group whose lineage descended from the Toltecs. The books, narrated in the first person, relate his experiences under the tutelage of a man that Castaneda claimed was a Yaqui "Man of Knowledge" named don Juan Matus. His 12 books have sold more than 28 million copies in 17 languages. Critics have suggested that they are works of fiction; supporters claim the books are either true or at least valuable works of philosophy. 

Carlos Castaneda

Journey To Ixtlan

Houses of tomorrow: A more hopeful vision of domesticity, or a dystopian nightmare?In the future, will we find a better way to live, or will our homes be taken over by surveillance and despotic appliances?Imagine, if you can, a small, bluish room. Wires, screens, sensors. A few keepsakes from the old world. The room’s fleshy inhabitant, confined indoors by a zoonotic pandemic, greenwashes a data-mining company from her bed. The government has made it illegal for her to step outside.

A better way to live...

There is a communal kitchen down the corridor, which she shares with a few strangers she met online, but mostly she orders her meals via an interface and eats them here. Microphones record her interactions. A motion sensor on her wrist reminds her to optimise her performance. Filled with saudade for the dying world outside, she has bought a few rainforest plants to brighten the space. Her pocket surveillance device reminds her to water them. She catches the news: the world’s richest man has just left the Earth’s atmosphere.

... or a dystopian nightmare?

So much for the home of 2021! What about the home of 2050? Might it offer a more hopeful vision of domesticity than the dystopian nightmare some of us have been living through these past couple of years? Or are we inexorably sliding into a world of surveillance and atomisation, climate crisis and housing crisis, drowning alone as our meta headsets suck the very data from our souls?

Home of 2050

Maybe a bit of both, says Sarah Douglas, director of the Liminal Space. She is behind the forthcoming Tomorrow’s Home exhibition at the Museum of the Home in east London, which imagines how we’ll be living three decades hence. “The home of the future could help us flourish in ever more tailored and sophisticated ways,” she says. “But it will be messy as we learn to navigate the huge benefits and ethical questions that new interactive technologies bring.”....

Home exhibition

In the future, will we find a better way to live, or will our homes be taken over by surveillance and despotic appliances?

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Houses of tomorrow: A more hopeful vision of domesticity, or a dystopian nightmare?

People who wear glasses know that a change in prescription is sometimes required, to allow them to see more clearly.Sometimes, we need to do the same thing mentally: our thoughts and emotions may cloud our vision and judgment. When that’s the case, we need to change our glasses: that is, change our perspective.

The “Changing Your Glasses Technique”

The technique of “changing your glasses” is rooted in principles of cognitive psychology.In the 1950s, psychologist Albert Ellis taught that irrational thinking is the root cause for many emotional problems. For example, irrational beliefs lead to unhealthy emotional consequences, like self-sabotage.

Irrational Thinking Has Unhealthy Emotional Consequences

Ben has just lost his job. He’s devastated."What am I going to do now?" he asks.He falls asleep at night, swimming in a sea of negative emotions.In the morning, he wakes up distraught. “This stuff always happen to me,” he thinks. “I have the worst luck.” Ben's negative thoughts feed themselves. They create a raging storm in his head, preventing him from starting his new job search--or doing anything else productive.

An Example:

Rational thinking allows us to feel disappointment and frustration, but to a limited extent. We recognize that changes in circumstances, even big and serious ones, can happen everyday and to everyone, and can even lead to positive results.

Rational Thinking Has Healthy Emotional Consequences

Amy has the exact same fate and initial reaction to Ben.She also wakes up in the morning with a knot in her stomach. But her response is different: She takes control or her thoughts and changes her perspective:“That job was never going to take me anywhere,” she thinks. “I'm sure I can find something better. Better yet, I’ve been wanting to go out on my own for ages. Maybe this is the jumpstart I need.”"Losing this job will be the best thing that's ever happened to me."

Despite facing similar situations, Amy’s reaction is much more beneficial. By exercising emotional intelligence, she’s able to change the way she views her circumstances. This simple perspective shift allows her to get her emotions under control, leading her to also take control of the situation.

Control Of Emotions = Control Of Situation

Write it down. Putting our thoughts in writing - with actual pen and paper, not just typing - can be a powerful way to force ourselves to reckon with our feelings.For example, let’s imagine Ben takes some time to describe his feelings on paper. He may believe that he is truly unlucky and there’s no chance he’ll find another job. But the simple process of writing these thoughts can help him slow down, think, and re-evaluate the validity of those thoughts.

How To Break The Cycle Of Negative Thinking

Talk to someone. As we voice our thoughts and feelings to someone we trust, we may find ourselves re-thinking our opinion as we speak.And even if not, we give that person the chance to give valuable feedback, to put on their “glasses” for a minute. In other words, they help us see the situation through their eyes, which can help us to reassess our own thoughts and feelings.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts.Negative feelings like self-doubt and self-pity can quickly spiral out of control. Focusing on positive thoughts can help us find balance.For example, Ben could make a list of potential positive consequences from losing his job:<ul><li>finding a new job he enjoys more than his previous one</li><li>having time to reconnect with family or friends</li></ul>By focusing on these positive results, Ben can form an approach that’s more optimistic, yet still realistic. It won’t completely eliminate the negative feelings, but it can help keep them in their place.

So, the next time you find your emotions working against you, ask yourself:Do I need to change my glasses?Because a change in perspective can help us see the world in a different light.

Glasses And Light

Don’t call the world dirty because you forgot to clean your glasses. – Aaron Hill

Understand yourself and those around you.

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A Simple Psychological Trick To Shift Our Perspective and Control Our Emotions

Are you a person whose first thing in the morning is a scroll through your smart phone 📱🤔Here are some fact's for you

When we wake up our brain and subconscious mind is most fresh and at a state of peak calmness and receptivity So what we consume this moment matters and set the tone for the day

In most cases using mobile phone /social media as a first thing in the morning can have a higher chance of exposing your brain to a plethora of information (good and bad)

And in majority cases this information binge can have a negative effect in the form of restlessness, overwhelming, stress, anxiety, higher chance of distractions throughout the day, less productive, FOMO

Use alarm clock..... involve in exercise... meditation or yoga or any activities that make you mindfull..some kind of to do list or a plan for your day...

Do This Instead 

Have you ever wondered what happens to your body when you check your phone within minutes of waking up? Here's why you should avoid looking at your smartphone first thing in the morning.

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What happens to your body when you look at your phone first thing in the morning?

It can be challenging to hold onto your <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/authenticity">authenticity </a>when you are around people who seem fake. Whether it is in a work setting, community interactions, or any other social encounter, it can be awkward to know how to respond without compromising your own internal guide. A fake laugh, unreasonably bubbly <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality">personality </a>, or tone of voice that is incongruous with what is going on can be more than just off-putting; it can influence interactions and really throw us off at times.

Staying Authentic Can Be Challenging

On the surface, it seems as though others’ lack of authenticity or even outright “fake” behavior shouldn’t impact us much. After all, we’re a pleasantly open “you do you” culture right now, so what does it really matter? Dealing with inauthentic people very much impacts our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We learn a lot about people with the subtle, unspoken cues we receive during a conversation. We are hardwired to pick up on these nuances, which we translate into information that guides our own responses and behaviors.

Why Does the Lack of Authenticity Impact Us?

When we are faced with fake behavior, we don't necessarily know what to do with it. Without even realizing it, our internal interpreters are asking questions like:<ul><li>Are they hiding something?</li><li>Can I trust them?</li><li>Do I need to watch my back or be careful of what I say?</li></ul>We are less likely to feel safe enough to be vulnerable with people who are inauthentic, and when we perceive someone isn’t being real with us, we naturally feel guarded around them.

Fake Behavior Throws Us Off

Don't take their difficulty personally. Dealing with people who seem inauthentic can feel insulting. It can feel as though a fake person is “lying ” with their behaviors, which feels uncomfortable.When people struggle with being authentic, it is usually a reflection of their own relationship with themselves; in short, it has nothing to do with you. There may be some underlying social anxiety , fear of judgment, or other reasons for the struggle, none of which is connected to interacting with you specifically.

How to Stay Authentic, Regardless of Others

Think about authenticity as a skill (because it really is).It is easier to put on whatever mask seems fitting for the situation and show the world what you think they want to see. Showing up as yourself, without social masking, is brave, and this is not something that comes easily to some people.If you have a skill that others struggle with, that has nothing to do with you and it should not minimize your own access to that part of yourself. In fact, someone who struggles with authenticity is likely observing your ability and wishing they could access that level of comfort with themselves.

Stay grounded and centered.If you find yourself veering off course when you are around fake people, set aside some time alone to reconnect with yourself and try some <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/mindfulness">mindfulness </a>exercises. Close your eyes and center yourself with deep breathing; notice the physical sensations of your body.Engage with your senses and listen to the sounds of your environment, the colors, smells, and how you feel in your mind and body. Allow your face, neck, and shoulders to relax; shake off the pretension that can hang heavy when dealing with fakeness.

Show compassion.If you are feeling brave, ask the person who is struggling with authenticity a few compassionate questions or comments. This works best if it is a one-on-one situation, to avoid putting them on the spot or potentially embarrassing them.When an authentic person invites someone to share vulnerability, it is a powerful invitation and can be emotionally moving at times.

Even asking simple questions such as “how are you, really?” (and taking time to listen!) or offering observations about the person's strengths can make room for authenticity. This invitation can feel refreshing for people who are not generally able to share true feelings with others. It may be your invitation to share that helps them feel more comfortable being genuine and authentic in that moment and beyond.

Simple Questions

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Staying Authentic When Those Around You Are Not

The U.S. Department of Labor revealed Friday that 4.4 million people, reflecting 3 % of the entire U.S. workforce, left their jobs during September. That number broke the record that had been set in August, which in turn had broken the previous record, set in July.

“I Quit!” Or, The Great Resignation

Most people have one of two reactions:<ol><li>Explanation 1: Nobody wants to work. Businesses now face incredible challenges hiring and retaining good employees, and it's because people have developed unreasonable expectations about what their jobs should be. </li><li>Explanation 2: It's a temporary trend. Workers are taking advantage of their newfound leverage -- both direct and indirect -- due to the pandemic. Down the road, things will normalize. Wages might rise, employers might adopt new flexible workplace policies, etc. We'll adjust, but it won't be existentially different. </li></ol>

People’s Reactions To The Great Resignation

Both explanations miss the point. <ol><li> Explanation 1 is too tied up in its undercurrent of misplaced moralism: the idea that employees owe their places to their employers, and that workers in a larger sense have an obligation to work -- and especially to work for employers' offered terms.</li><li>Explanation 2 does capture the give-and-take of the marketplace, but it unsatisfactorily looks at people's actions as if they were just data points in a macroeconomics class. It strips individuals of their agency.</li></ol>

Insufficient explanations and misplaced moralism

“I left my job because I thought hard about what I was doing for a living, and realized it didn't fit with my long-term goals.”

Likelier Explanations - Explanations From The Leavers Themselves

“I left my job because I realized that I’d stuck around too long out of a misplaced sense of moral duty.”

“I left my job because I simply considered my value as a worker and realized that the people I was working for couldn't or wouldn't ever likely be able to perceive it.”

“I left my job because I realized that by taking up the spot and performing at least competently (even if it wasn't the perfect position), I was blocking someone else for whom it might be a dream job.”

“I left my job because I realized that I’d followed someone else's plan for my life, and even if it had worked out on paper, I wasn't thrilled with the result; meanwhile, the fear of simply being branded "a quitter" had stopped me from finding an off-ramp earlier.”

Quitting a job that's a bad fit, or even just not as great a fit as it might once have seemed, is for many people a sign of high emotional intelligence.

Quitting Is A Sign Of High EQ

Emotional intelligence is the practiced awareness of how emotions affect your communications and efforts, coupled with strategies that you develop to leverage your emotions and other people's emotions in order to help you achieve goals.

What Is EQ

“People who quit things are losers.”“Quitting one thing makes it easier to quit other things later in life .”

The Emotional Baggage Of The Word “Quit”

We encourage people to continue on certain courses of action because they're the courses of action they've already put time and effort into:<ul><li>Continue trying to make that flawed startup work;</li><li>Keep working at that job because it's the one you trained for;</li><li>Stick with the relationship because you don't know how much worse it could be out there.</li></ul>

Quitting As A Waste Of Time And Effort

We encourage people not to quit even though it's like a series of textbook examples of what economic theory tells us not to do: basically, the sunk cost fallacy, which drives people to continue a course of action in order to justify the volume of their previous efforts, despite the fact that a clear-eyed cost-benefit analysis would tell them that continuing is unlikely to be worth the effort.

The Sunk Cost Fallacy

We can't know whether it's a "good" thing or not without knowing the object of the verb. Examples:<ul><li>"He quit trying to raise more investment and focused instead on bootstrapping the company."</li><li>"She quit trying to sell into that market because these other ones were more profitable.</li><li>"He quit the relationship because he realized he and his partner didn't want the same things."</li><li>"She quit the academic program because it wasn't as fulfilling as she'd hoped, and she didn't think she'd make enough extra money later to justify it."</li></ul>

But “Quit” Itself Is A Morally Neutral Word

It’s certainly swimming upstream, trying to get people to embrace the idea of "quitting" as a morally neutral word at least, and perhaps even something to be admired in the aggregate.But emotionally intelligent people know: Stripping the abstract emotional connotations of the concept of quitting itself, from any decision whether to continue or stop doing something, is more likely to result in an outcome that brings you closer to your long-term goals.That's really the whole point of emotional intelligence.

Strip Out The Emotions

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Teamwork

People Who Embrace This Controversial Word Have Very High Emotional Intelligence

What does great life mean to you? A life without worry or a life with fill with happiness. Whatever you mean it. There is one thing that is certain, that is ( nothing is permanent except change ) a great line that comes from an article called ' Liquid Modernity ' by Zygmunt Bauman a sociologist.

Perfection never exists, every relationship has a problem, every food is a problem if you eat it too much. The main, thing is how we made our self happy with the things that we have that make all the difference.

There is one beautiful proverb that comes from our Bodo Community " Hill is seen plain from Distance " which means, you may see me very beautiful from distance. Until you come and see me from close and you see all the fine lines and mole.

Great life starts when you start doing great things in life as the word Sanskrit Karma says "what do you, you get back ".If one does bad things, bad things will happen more often.

The point is where do we start, do what you love the most more often. Our best days in life, should not be spent in worry about the things that are not going right. But, to be spent on how can I overcome this or that, Great Life means different to different people. So, does the meaning of life. When you start to love the things or appreciate the things that you have.The things that you haven't lost their value.

I can't tell you what great life will be for you. I can only tell you how great life is .. there is one song called " Easy to Adore you " by Mauve .. and below is short lyrics taken from the song

It's so easy to adore youYou're like a thousand stars at nightShow me the place I've never been toOh, what a beautiful lifeWhat a beautiful lifeWhat a beautiful lifeWhat a beautiful lifeWhat a beautiful life

When the chorus starts like this " Oh! What a beautiful life " my heart fills with joy. Life is not suffering as we all think. It is full of love and happiness. It totally depends on how you think, if you think life is full of suffering, you will get more of that.if you think life is beautiful, you will get more of that.

When I was a child, I did not know what is pain. Until I grew old.. when we were children everything is beautiful as we aged our innocence feeling fade away. And we think, the world is a hostile place or to live. The main point is not, it is because of the media and news that keep pouring on our mind that makes us. Feel that way... And the reality is the illusion of our mind.

In this article, I talked about art of living great life

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Art of living Great Life 

So love yourself and connect deeply with yourself.

Tricks For Self-love

Dreams provide you with a vision of where you want to go. They're your blueprint for your future life. You can't achieve a dream.Dreams are something you create in your mind that can take any shape or form, while goals are based on taking action. With goals, a lot of focus and attention are needed. Dreams, on the other hand, don't need that kind of focus. ... But for goals to be achieved, the action you take needs to be specific and consistent.They bring passion, purpose, and meaning to your life. Dreams give you energy and create excitement.https://bit.ly/3FkkdJ7

Relation Between Dreams And Goals

For a deep connection with yourself, you have to love yourself first. And when you connect with yourself, you can easily achieve your holistic wellness, which means wellness in 4 realms of life, physical, spiritual, emotional, and mental wellness. And when you connect with yourself you are aware of your feelings, your emotions, your thought process. So you see self-love is the key to self-awareness. And this leads us to take self-care.  So these will be the basic steps of this transformation. You can take a charge of your life and live your life on your term.

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<ol><li>Be Proactive</li><li>Learn</li><li>Develop your productivity</li><li class="ql-indent-1"> Work on your innovation muscle</li><li>Learn to write</li><li>Welcome your doubts</li><li>The habit of extending your comfort zone</li><li>Develop a hobby/side hustle</li></ol>

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<ol><li>Start with the big picture and keep it in mind</li><li>Learn to sleep well</li><li>Learn to recover in a hostile environment</li><li>﻿ The one thing that makes or kills your day</li></ol>

Develop your productivity

Without anyone asking you to, regularly brainstorm on improvement topics.<ul><li>10 ideas to improve our service meetings that I can share with my boss</li><li>10 ideas to improve the cash collection process</li><li>10 ideas to get more leads….</li></ul>

Work on your innovation muscle

I've read over 300 books, gone from salesman to executive, run a 9-figure business. If I had to summarize how to grow a career, I would keep these 8 points...

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8 habits to grow your career. What I've learned in 20 years and after reading over 300 books.

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