"Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your habits. Your net worth is a lagging measure of your financial habits. Your weight is a lagging measure of your eating habits. Your knowledge is a lagging measure of your learning habits. “

Lagging Indicators

"Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement."

"You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems."

Your Systems

"An atomic habit is a little habit that is part of a larger system. Just as atoms are the building blocks of molecules, atomic habits are the building blocks of remarkable results."

Building Blocks

"The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it."

"The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become."

Who You Wish To Become

"The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity."

"It's not about any single accomplishment. It is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement. Ultimately, it is your commitment to the process that will determine your progress."

Endless Refinement

"Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become."

"You don't have to be the victim of your environment. You can also be the architect of it."

Be The Architect

The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 10 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: <ul><li>make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);</li></ul><ul><li>overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;</li></ul><ul><li>design your environment to make success easier;</li></ul><ul><li>get back on track when you fall off course;</li></ul>...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Habits

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Books

James Clear is the author of "Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" He writes about habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement at jamesclear.com. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter.His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Learn more at jamesclear.com

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Atomic Habits

Being unemployed in your twenties gives you freedom, and you feel like enjoying your life before the "real life" begins. But the dread of an unsecured future can be mentally draining.So it is better to build yourself in your twenties and build your identity capital by gaining real experience. Don't worry, start with a small job which you will enjoy, and build up from it.

Unemployment

If someone does a favor for you, they feel good about it and subconsciously they start liking you.As long as the help you ask for is not a burden for them, they will feel good about being good. So don't hesitate to ask for help.

The Ben Franklin Effect 

Don't just build your career around your passion blindly. You may end up being jobless, or barely making ends meet. The truth is that you have to work hard, no matter how passionate you are about something. Find something that is satisfying enough, so that you can work on it for a long time but also ensure that you will be sufficiently paid for that work.

Passion

If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, which is almost always difficult since we think them happier than they are.

The most important decision in your life regarding your happiness is choosing whom you are going to marry. This single decision will greatly decide how happy you will be in the future. You are going to spend most of the rest of your life with your spouse. So put as much effort into this as you put in your career, instead of simply leaving it up to luck.

Marriage

Do not slide into a Living Relationship too soon. Many couples start living together casually just out of convenience or to spend more time together. While it is true that cohabitation might help you to understand your partner better, you should make sure that you are committed enough to that relationship. Otherwise, due to many years of living together, you might get locked in a relationship you don't want to be in.

Living Relationship 

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.

Our brains do not fully get matured until about the age of 25. So in your early 20s, you are more likely to act out of your emotional part of the brain-amygdala, instead of thinking rationally with your prefrontal cortex. Hence it is vital to decide anything only after carefully thinking about it.And in your twenties, your brain gets the last growth spurt for making new neural connections. So use it to learn important skills like controlling your anger, thinking rationally, coping to stress, etc.

Brain Development 

Inaction breeds fear and doubt. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

Confidence doesn't come from within. Instead, it comes from the things you have accomplished in the past. So don't sit around waiting to get confident.Push through the procrastination and do something you want to accomplish. And that will give you the confidence to do more things.

Confidence 

Fertility peaks in your late twenties. After that due to older sperm or lower-quality eggs along with poor hormone regulation, babies born to couples older than 30 are more likely to have neuro-cognitive disorders like autism, dyslexia, and lower intelligence.Hence it is important to plan kids earlier, preferably before your 30s to avoid any fertility related issues.

Fertility

Life continues even after your twenties. It is not the end of the world. Don't believe those Netflix shows which make it look like your twenties are all the time you have got to enjoy and to "live" your life.Statistically speaking, you still do have a lot of time to "live" your life after your 20s. Life is still fun and exciting after your 20s. Make a timeline and think about what you will be doing in your life in your 30s, 40s, or even older.

Not The End 

There is no formula for a good life. There is no right or wrong life. There are only choices and consequences.

A guide to adulthood. Practical and insightful. 

Contemporary culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Clinical psychologist Dr Meg Jay argues that this could not be further from the truth. In fact, your twenties are the most defining decade of adulthood. The Defining Decade weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with real-life stories to show us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood. Smart, compassionate and constructive, The Defining Decade is a practical guide to making the most of the years we cannot afford to miss.

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Science & Nature

The Defining Decade has changed the way millions of twentysomethings think about their twenties—and themselves. Revised and reissued for a new generation, let it change how you think about you and yours.Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. In The Defining Decade, Meg Jay argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized the most transformative time of our lives.Drawing from more than two decades of work with thousands of clients and students, Jay weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to take the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood—if we use the time well. Also included in this updated edition: <ul><li>Up-to-date research on work, love, the brain, friendship, technology, and fertility</li><li>What a decade of device use has taught us about looking at friends—and looking for love—online</li><li>29 conversations to have with your partner—or to keep in mind as you search for one</li><li>A social experiment in which "digital natives" go without their phones</li><li>A Reader's Guide for book clubs, classrooms, or further self-reflection</li></ul>

Meg Jay is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Meg Jay has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Meg Jay's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Meg Jay

The Defining Decade

"Thoughts are not Facts. They are a mix of opinions, judgements, stories, memories, theories, interpretations, and predictions about the future."-Dr. Julie Smith

Author Quote 

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58536046-why-has-nobody-told-me-this-before">Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? </a>is a collection of a clinical psychologist’s best practical advice to combat anxiety and depression and improve our mental health in small increments, collected from over a decade of 1-on-1 work with patients.

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? - Book On Practical Advice 

Do you ever get anxious out of nowhere? I do. I keep lots of to-do lists to manage various aspects of my life, and most of the time, it’s a helpful thing. Sometimes, however, I think about all these different lists and the countless items on them, and I freeze. “So much to do! When am I going to do all of it?”

Book Overview 

According to <a href="https://doctorjuliesmith.com/">Dr. Julie Smith </a>, I’m not the only one this happens to, but the onset of anxiety and other negative emotions is never sudden — it just seems this way. Smith was the first professional psychologist to take to TikTok to share what she has learned in her work. In three short years, she’s amassed <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@drjuliesmith">over four million followers </a>, and in 2022, she published a collection of her best advice.

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58536046-why-has-nobody-told-me-this-before">Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? </a>became an instant bestseller, covering topics like depression, motivation, grief, fear, stress, and meaningful living. The book gently shows us how to regain, improve, and maintain our mental health in baby steps.

<ol><li>Emotions result from unmet needs, and it is those needs we must identify. </li><li>You can break out of low-mood cycles with “good enough” decisions. </li><li>If you feel an acute rush of anxiety, try “square breathing.” </li> </ol>Your mental health matters. Let’s learn how to take good care of it!

Top 3 Book Lessons

Emotions don’t just magically appear out of thin air. Like a river, emotions must have a source. According to Dr. Smith, they always result from unmet needs. Therefore, if we want to handle our emotions well, we must identify and address those needs. As a result, the emotions will pass.

Lesson 1: Emotions Result From Unmet Needs

For example, if you over-ate at dinner, woke up at night with dry-mouth syndrome, and only got six hours of sleep, it’s no surprise you are grumpy in the morning. But even if it’s not a biologically obvious lack, our feelings always have an origin. In the case of my sudden <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/anxiety-at-work-summary/">to-do list anxiety </a>, for example, it might come from me not feeling as if I’ve done enough for the day.

“Feelings aren’t just in your head,” Dr. Smith says. They can come from inside your body, the state of your household, your current circumstances, things that happened in the past, and of course the people you interact with. To draw out your unmet needs, Smith recommends asking yourself several questions, maybe even <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/the-bullet-journal-method-summary/">journaling </a>about them on the regular:

<ul><li>What are your exact thoughts when a bad mood pops up? </li><li>When do these thoughts usually occur? </li><li>In what setting? </li><li>Do you feel any other physical sensations to go along with your bad mood? </li><li>What have you done in the last few days leading up to feeling bad? </li> </ul>

Ask questions, find answers. Discover the unmet needs behind your feelings, and address those needs directly. Even if you decide not to do anything about them in some cases, going to the source of your emotions will help you manage them more gracefully.

The problem with bad moods is that they love to stick around. We feel tired after work, so we eat half a bag of chips — only to then kick ourselves for making <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/how-not-to-be-wrong-summary/">the wrong decision </a>, which makes us even more likely to reach for yet another emotional band-aid.

Lesson 2: Make “Good Enough” Decisions

The trick to getting out of such a spiral, Dr. Smith says, is to stop expecting perfection of yourself and make a “good enough” decision. “Good enough” decisions allow us to move forward in the right direction without setting unrealistic expectations . Thus, they help us build confidence without overwhelming us.

Returning to my to-do list anxiety, instead of vowing I will complete every item on one of my lists, I can just say, “this project is important right now, so let me check off one item here and go from there.” As for your chips-eating bender, you could try making yourself a cup of tea to calm down. Better yet, according to Smith, make drinking tea after you get home from work a habit!

The point of “good enough” decisions is not to solve our problems in one go. It is to show us change is possible, to make us feel good about moving in the right direction, and to lay the foundation for <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/better-than-before-summary/">better habits </a>that will, one day, work for us on autopilot.

Unlike a groggy morning that can be countered with some coffee, anxiety is often a longer-term problem. We’ll have to deal with it step by step. Dr. Smith gives an example of someone who became uncomfortable with large crowds during the <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/pandemic-summary/">pandemic </a>but then started avoiding public transport, the supermarket, and, eventually, leaving the house altogether. How can that person get back to normal? In small increments, Smith suggests. Try the supermarket first. Then take a train. And so on.

Lesson 3: A Way To Handle Acute Anxiety 

But what if you end up frozen solid in front of the pinto beans shelf on your first day “back to reality?” Smith offers a useful technique for that too: square breathing. Here’s how it works:

<ol><li>Find something square. Anything with four corners. It could be a window, a cereal box, or your wallet. </li><li>Stare at the bottom left corner, and breathe in . </li><li>Count to four and slowly move your eyes to the top left corner . </li><li>Hold your breath for four seconds as you wander towards the top right corner . </li><li>Breathe out while counting to four as you move to the bottom right corner . </li><li>Breathe in as you return to the bottom left corner, and repeat . </li> </ol>

“Courage precedes confidence,” Dr. Smith says. So build it in small steps, and if you ever catch yourself panicking, give “square breathing” a try. The corners of the object will distract you, and a few cycles of deep breathing will come with an instant feeling of calm. The only thing you’ll be left wondering about is: Why has nobody told me this before?

Dr. Smith has walked the walk. She’s been a clinical psychologist for over a decade and has treated hundreds of patients in her practice. <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58536046-why-has-nobody-told-me-this-before">Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? </a>is a warm, concise, brilliant collection of the most effective, immediately practical tips she routinely gives to her clients. If you wish to understand yourself better and improve your mental health, give this book a chance — and if you’re struggling with something deeper and more serious, please don’t be afraid to <a href="https://www.wearespur.com/org/mentalhealthhub">ask for help </a>.

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? - BooReview

The 23-year-old, overworked student who puts too much pressure on herself, the 38-year-old new mom who is struggling with postpartum issues, and anyone who feels constantly stressed at work.

Who would I recommend our Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? 

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? - Book On Practical Advice

Read our summary of Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? by Dr. Julie Smith for 3 immediately actionable tips to improve your mental health.

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Mental Health

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Problem Solving

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before Summary

Every psychology field is in quest of finding the answer to the biggest question- "What to do in this human life to achieve a good life"<ul><li>The Humans, just like other animals , wants to "survive". As they say - "Survival of the fittest"</li><li>But in this modern time, survival is not just limited to "Physical protection" but has developed a broad sense in the form of "Mental" & "Emotional" protection.</li></ul>Now going back to our question, what is essential to SURVIVE (=Mentally+Emotionally+Physically)Or what to do to achieve a GOOD life

The Biggest Question

Human life is like a rollercoaster ride, having ups and downs .<ul><li>But the thing that separates us from animals, is the "Consciousness" -The power of taking "better" decisions based on previous outcomes of our actions & experiences from surroundings .</li><li>Humans sometimes take such decisions that lead to REGRET , these are the decisions that got stuck in our subconscious memory & haunts for life.</li><li>So the GOOD life we are talking about is, in which -</li></ul>"We have more PROUD on our DECISIONS than REGRET"

What Does It Mean To "GOOD" Life

Based on various studies , our decisions are mostly influenced by our surroundings.Surroundings includes-<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Type of people </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Some materialistic things (having emotional connect)</li></ul>Let's discuss them one by one

How To Make Our Decisions "Good"

There are two types of people in every human life -<ul><li>Permanent</li><li>Temporary</li></ul>Permament - It includes Parents , Brother, Sister i.e people that will never leave you in life, these are the connections that are bound with you since when you are born.Temporary - They exists for "short period of time" in your life, but sometimes make big impact on your decisions ,this impact can be positive or negative towards a certain situation related decision based on experience you got from those people .

1) People

Some things make shisfts in our decisions due to the connection of them with some "Emotions" or sometimes "People" . Things let us remember that MEMORY related to past experience or learning ANDContribute much more to our future DECISIONS

Materialistic Things 

When you took the RIGHT DECISION based on past experiences ,or a decision with most probability of success ,ThenThings start to assemble themselves according to our plan, &Even if they don't ,they may bend us to a different perspective of the reality & we can learn from those decisions.

Afterall, "DECISIONS ARE LEARNING

"Decision" are the root cause of actions we took in our life, so ,taking "Good" decisions is important . But How our decisions get influenced that may lead to a "good" or "bad" decision is what we tried to find

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Mindfulness

How to know, What to do?

In the middle of the 20th century, philosopher and professor Karl Popper found himself mystified by the beliefs and methods of the otherwise intelligent and rational people around him.“I found that those of my friends who were admirers of Marx, Freud, and Adler were impressed by a number of points common to these theories, and especially by their apparent explanatory power. These theories appear to be able to explain practically everything that happened within the fields to which they referred.”

“Theories Of Everything”, Valid For Forever

”Once your eyes were thus opened you saw confirmed instances everywhere: the world was full of verifications of the theory. Whatever happened always confirmed it.”

This last sentence should ring some alarm bells for many readers — it’s a very simple description of confirmation bias. Basically, when we gain a perspective or theory, we tend to interpret everything as confirming that idea. Whatever seems to contradict it is tossed aside or somehow contorted to fit our beliefs.Popper saw this problem inherent in many theories — both in the physical and social sciences, and in other realms as well. After all, if we find evidence that seems to contradict our beliefs, we should be stopping to see if perhaps we need to abandon or modify our belief.

The Problem: Seeing Confirmed Instances Everywhere

As a way to cure this ill of self-confirming theories and belief systems, Popper came up with what is now called falsificationism: the idea that a theory or belief system can only be scientific if it clearly lays out what specific evidence would prove it wrong. Basically, if we’re going to claim that we know something, we have to be willing to admit that we could be wrong about it. More than that, we have to lay out what kind of evidence would prove us wrong. We have to make ourselves falsifiable.

The Cure: Falsificationism

Adopting an attitude of falsifiability does a few key things:<ul><li>it helps us to avoid many cognitive biases that can hinder intellectual growth and good decision making</li><li>it makes us clearer thinkers by forcing us to be specific about what we think we know, and what evidence we have</li><li>it boosts our creative thinking by making us naturally more receptive to new ideas and helping us more quickly process them</li></ul>

Why Is Falsification Important?

Our minds tend to run headlong toward safety and comfort. This is true with regards to physical safety and comfort —but it’s also true of intellectual safety and certainty. If we feel like we know something for sure — like we have a firm grasp of it — we want to hold on to that feeling.And because we want to hold on to that feeling, we tend to manufacture certainty by either stopping the search for new information (fearful that it might endanger our feeling of certainty) or interpreting new information in a way that keeps supporting our feeling of certainty.

Why Doesn’t Falsification Come Naturally To Us?

The falsifiability mindset is all about thinking through the implications of beliefs, judgments, and decisions. It’s about curbing our craving for certainty. Adopting this mindset is as easy as picking up a simple practice.For the decision that you’re making, take out a clean sheet of paper, and draw a line down the middle.On the left side, write at the top﻿ “What I Believe to Be True.”On the right side, write at the top “What Would Prove Me Wrong.”

A Simple First Step To Making Ourselves Falsifiable 

That left side could be anything. It could be something personal and low-stakes, like “I should buy the new iPhone model” or something more substantial, like “global warming is the result of human industrial waste interacting with the atmosphere”. The right side is where we will have to do a bit of thinking. That’s where this practice can yield dividends. Having to understand what would prove us wrong forces us to do 3 important things:<ul><li>clarify what our actual belief is</li><li>confront the possibility that we could be wrong</li><li>tacitly commit to changing our mind under some specific conditions</li></ul>

Do Right By The Right Side

Adopting the falsification mindset is simple. Like any exercise in thinking, it helps if you write it out, but that’s not totally necessary.<ul><li>For any belief you have, ask what it would take for you to change your mind</li><li>Be specific about what evidence would make you change your mind</li><li>Seek out that evidence, and be willing to change your belief if you find it</li></ul>

How You Can Adopt A Falsification Mindset

Adopting the falsification mindset can be a game changer for an important life decision. But it also works for smaller beliefs and judgments.Just ask yourself how you could be proven wrong — about any old belief you have. Are you researching a big purchase? If so, what discovery would cause you to cancel the purchase? Are you working toward a professional goal? If so, what new facts or experiences would convince you that this is the wrong goal?We all have lots of hidden biases that can be examined this way.

Be Your Own Challenger

“A theory that explains everything, explains nothing.”

Whenever a theory appears to you as the only possible one, take this as a sign that you have neither understood the theory nor the problem which it was intended to solve.

A rationalist is simply someone for whom it is more important to learn than to be proved right; someone who is willing to learn from others - not by simply taking over another’s opinions, but by gladly allowing others to criticize his ideas and by gladly criticizing the ideas of others.

The more we learn about the world, and the deeper our learning, the more conscious, specific, and articulate will be our knowledge of what we do not know; our knowledge of our ignorance. For this indeed, is the main source of our ignorance - the fact that our knowledge can be only finite, while our ignorance must necessarily be infinite.

The aim of argument, or of discussion, should nor be victory, but progress.

The discovery of instances which confirm a theory means very little if we have not tried, and failed, to discover refutations. For if we are uncritical we shall always find what we want: we shall look for, and find, confirmation, and we shall look away from, and not see, whatever might be dangerous to our pet theories.

“In so far as a (scientific) statement speaks about reality, it must be falsifiable; and in so far as it is not falsifiable, it does not speak about reality.”

Here's a simple practice that can boost your intelligence, help you avoid cognitive bias, and maybe even be happy to prove your own ideas wrong.

How We Can Overcome Confirmation Bias: By Adopting A Falsification Mindset

Born Marguerite Ann Johnson on April 4, 1928, in St. Louis, Missouri, Maya Angelou was arguably one of the most prolific writers of our time. Her work as an author and activist has inspired the likes of <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/5vw9WtmgFdySnDQ1RfdnpBX/14-famous-people-who-have-been-inspired-by-maya-angelou">Oprah Winfrey and Kendrick Lamar. </a>

15 Maya Angelou Quotes

Although she wrote over 35 books, including volumes of poetry, cookbooks memoirs, she’s best known for her 1969 bestseller, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Know-Why-Caged-Bird-Sings/dp/0345514408?asc_campaign=kinjarootlink-20&asc_refurl=https://www.theroot.com/15-maya-angelou-quotes-that-should-inspire-us-all-1850298641&asc_source=&tag=kinjarootlink-20">“I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings,” </a> a memoir that details her early years, including the time she spent living with her paternal grandmother in Stamps, Arkansas. Although it achieved mainstream success, it is the frequent target of book bans across the country for its straightforward account of her experience with sexual abuse as a young girl.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”

“‎The desire to reach the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise and most possible.”

“If you’re always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”

“Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.”

“I am grateful to be a woman. I must have done something great in another life.”

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”

“Nothing will work unless you do.”

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

“We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be defeated.”

“I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.”

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

In honor of what would have been her 95th birthday, we look at some of our favorite words of wisdom from the legendary Maya Angelou.

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15 Maya Angelou Quotes That Should Inspire Us All

"Pursuing a bigger purpose in your life will demand fearing regret more than failure. Courage is the price that life exacts for living a life that inspires you."-Margie Warrell

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23337319-brave">Brave </a>will help you have the relationships, career, and everything else in life that you’ve always wanted but have been afraid to go for by teaching you how to become more courageous.

Brave - Book Summary (Becoming More Courageous)

<a href="https://margiewarrell.com/about/">Margie Warrell </a>’s <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23337319-brave">Brave: 50 Everyday Acts of Courage to Thrive in Work, Love and Life </a>. This book gives some awesome tips that will have you living the life you always wanted in no time!

Book Overv

<ol><li>Doing things you’re afraid of will make you a stronger person. </li><li>The best way to go when you’re unsure what to do is to make an informed decision and stand by it until you have more information. </li><li><a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/the-art-of-asking-summary/">Asking for help </a>is not a sign of weakness, it’s what smart and courageous people do. </li> </ol>Ready to go skydiving? After this, you might have the courage to go for it!

Too 3 Book Lessons 

When her son Ben was turning 13, <a href="https://margiewarrell.com/about/">Margie </a>asked him what he’d like to do for his birthday. He excitedly exclaimed “skyjumping!” This was a little scary for both of them, especially when it was time to get into the airplane!  But Ben did make the jump and Warrell noticed that it had a clear impact on his personal development. This young man became a <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/best-self-summary/">better person </a>because he faced his fears, and you will too. Don’t resist the things that scare you because they are important exercises for your courage muscles.

Lesson 1: Do What You're Afraid Of 

You don’t have to hop out of a plane or dive with sharks, though. Sometimes even the smallest actions of bravery can change your life dramatically. Just like working up the courage to talk to that pretty girl in college did for me! Let’s say you’re wanting to get better at cooking and also <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/social-intelligence-summary/">improve your social skills </a>. You might invite some friends over for dinner, as a start. If you’re too afraid to cook then eat out. Or if the fear of making new friends is too much, try cooking for your closest friends.

Another fear-busting tip is to notice when fear is paralyzing your ability to act. If you write it down this becomes even easier so you can improve little by little. You’ll only grow the courage to do the big scary things if you start with the small ones first.

Where’s the best place for you to live? What should you do for work? Who do you want to spend your time with? Making decisions is a never-ending struggle. For example, in recent years we’ve gone from most people changing jobs only a few times to most people doing so about six times! We <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/range-summary/">can’t accurately predict </a>what is going to happen to us on any route we’re considering. And changes don’t usually happen a little at a time. It’s often a lot at once and then nothing for a while. Some jobs today didn’t even exist ten years ago, for example!

Lesson 2: Make  Decision And Confidently Atand By It

Where’s the best place for you to live? What should you do for work? Who do you want to spend your time with? Making decisions is a never-ending struggle. For example, in recent years we’ve gone from most people changing jobs only a few times to most people doing so about six times! We <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/range-summary/">can’t accurately predict </a>what is going to happen to us on any route we’re considering. And changes don’t usually happen a little at a time. It’s often a lot at once and then nothing for a while. Some jobs today didn’t even exist ten years ago, for example! The best thing to do in these cases is to weigh your opt<warningtag>ions and choose the best option with the information you have at the moment. </warningtag>

Lesson 2: Make a decision and confidently stand by it when you’re not sure what to do and you’ll soon find the best way forward.

The best thing to do in these cases is to weigh your options and choose the best option with the information you have at the moment.  There’s a story of some firefighters who were on a mountain that had to make a decision about where to go. The problem was they didn’t have radio reception where they were at the moment.

After deliberating, they opted to not make any decision and stay put. Unfortunately, they later learned that if they had just moved a little bit forward from their position, they would have gotten service and learned where to go.  Usually, the best decision is having the courage to make any decision and trust that you’ll know what’s best as you move forward.

<a href="https://margiewarrell.com/about/">Warrell </a>has a friend named Mona who learned a lot about the power of asking for help when she got cancer. She discovered that when you need support it’s vital that you open up to others to request it.  It was hard to believe in this in the beginning, though. Mona was independent and strong and believed, like most people do, that getting help is a sign of weakness. It took a little getting used to for her to let others in when she was usually the one offering aid.

Lesson 3: Smart nd Courageous People Ask For Help

This also shows another important component of the need to ask. We must see it as evidence of people’s <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/imperfect-courage-summary/">strength </a>, instead of looking at it as a flaw.  The people who have real courage and bravery are the ones that get help when they need it, and we as a society need to have this outlook. The vulnerability that it takes to admit you can’t do it all on your own is what truly strong people do.  After all, each of us is only human. We don’t get anywhere by denying that we need others to thrive.

What an inspiring book! I love doing things I’m afraid of, most of the time but <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23337319-brave">Brave </a>opened up many new aspects of courage that I’m excited to try out. These days we need world peace, and I think one of the best ways to get there is more people having the bravery to stand up for what’s right.

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The 62-year-old who has just been diagnosed with cancer and wants to be strong, the 29-year-old who thinks they might be due for a career change but is afraid of change, and anyone who could use a little encouragement to get outside of their comfort zone to improve their lives and the world.

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Why do we feel jealous? It's because we compare ourselves with others. Let's say you think you are a good-looking man and there's an another man who is just as good-looking as you but taller, you will think that ahh! I'm screwed. Or you are a pretty woman but you see a woman who is prettier than you or she has the exact body type that you want, and your boyfriend is talking to her you are going to feel inferior and that causes jealousy.

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You feel jealous because you compare yourself to others in one category, we often worry about one look, one physical feature or one idea of ourselves that makes us special to someone. But that doesn't makes us special. Remember someone is always going to beat you in one or more categories, there's always gonna be someone more intelligent than you, someone taller than you, someone who can teach to people better than you or has better body shape.

Sometimes jealousy can me motivating but most of the time it can destroy you, so it's better to know what's it's cause and how to overcome it, and develop more mature personality.

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