Emotions are energy in motion. Without them, we wouldn't feel compelled to act, create, or move an inch. This is why they are so vital, not just in our personal lives, but also in the workplace. A company's formal organizational structure is always invisibly overlaid with an informal network of relationships fueled by emotions.

The Motion Of Emotions

<ul><li>The pandemic has made us reassess our relationships, and what truly matters to us.</li><li>We feel strongly about work, and if this sentiment is not recognized by our employers, we quit.</li><li>Often the fear of organizational backlash prevents us from pursuing a more emotional life at work, very much at the expense of more fulfilling and effective work cultures.</li></ul>

Toxic Positivity

<ul><li>Emotions occur along a gradient and are not sharply distinguishable or mutually exclusive.</li><li>For a considerable period, common wisdom held that there are a base set of six "classic" emotions: happy, surprised, afraid, disgusted, angry, and sad. Other studies point out that there are only four basic emotions.</li><li>Dissection and identification of emotions isn't possible as they are not crystallized to a single tone.</li></ul>

Emotions Overlap and Mash Together

<ul><li>Empathy is the foundation for emotional intimacy within workplaces</li><li>Difficult times must be met with the courage to meet difficult emotions in an effort to connect better with ourselves and others</li><li>Facing-and living-all of our emotions, rather than just "managing" them, is the difference between a merely productive workplace and one we wholeheartedly want to be at</li></ul>

Self-Empathy

A truly human workplace is not one that wants to make us happy all the time, contends Tim Leberecht, the cofounder and CEO of the House of Beautiful Business. 


Understand yourself and those around you.

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Tiktok videos offer  “tips” or “hacks” on how to go viral on TikTok, which is embarrassing in itself but even worse in practice: titles range from “<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@itxmejules/video/6936210746615270662?_t=8SS6ZkTMggs&_r=1">How to Grow Your Account to 1k Followers in 1 Week,</a>” to <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@itsmarisajo/video/6941540017609116934?_t=8SS6au5fMaI&_r=1">“10 Video Ideas Anyone Can Use,</a>” or “<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@hipsamagrowth/video/6976741619231935750?_t=8SS6Te0B3Tq&_r=1">How to EASILY Produce Video Ideas for TikTok.”</a> That last one gives the following advice: “Find somebody else’s TikTok that inspires you and then literally copy it. You don’t need to copy it completely, but you can get pretty close.”

TikTok Videos On Copying Others TikToks

Plagiarism, both the intentional kind that can fall anywhere on the spectrum of “pretty shitty” to “actively evil,” and the kind you do when you’re making content in a system of increasingly lucrative rewards for stealing successful people’s stuff. Though plagiarism is arguably most prevalent on TikTok, it’s even harder to police the plagiarism that happens between different platforms.

The Age Of Instant Plagiarism

Plagiarism, it should be noted, is perfectly legal in the United States, provided it doesn’t cross the (often nebulous) definition of intellectual property theft. Movies, music, or works of fiction have robust legal protections against this (recall the zillions of lawsuits between artists for stealing each other’s samples),  but it often isn’t worth the time and money to pursue legal action.

The Legal View On Plagiarism

Internet posts are, for the most part, not copyrightable intellectual property. Instead, they’re more like a hybrid of journalism and comedy, meaning that social media typically must police itself against thieves.As it turns out, aggregating and repacking content is quite easy on social media.

Social Media And Intellectual Property

The first was in the ’90s and early 2000s, when people stole each other’s work because they wanted to pass it off on their own, but didn’t necessarily have a profit motive. The second was in the mid-2000s, when search engine optimization became a widespread practice and sites could make money from crappy, AI-written work that capitalized on the strategic placement of certain keywords.  The third era is made up of the kind that flourishes on social media, where users compete for the most attention-grabbing content in the hopes they might make ad revenue or score a brand deal.

Internet Plagiarism: The Three Eras

While the technology to detect it has improved, it’s far more difficult to weed out plagiarism when it happens in different forms of media: written work that’s turned into a video, a podcast that’s turned into a book. Rather than relying on data systems to tell us when something is stolen, then, plagiarism experts acknowledge that the shift about proper idea attribution needs to happen culturally.

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Are you "hopping on a trend" through viral growth hacks on TikTok and Instagram or are you plagiarizing?

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Be wise today so you don't have to cry tomorrow.~E.A.Bucchianeri

Some decisions are so simple that you're barely aware you're making them, while others are time consuming, high risk, and can leave you feeling anxious.Decisions can make or break a project or an entire business. And they often involve complex and unpredictable interpersonal issues, too.

<ol><li>Investigate the situation in detail.</li><li>Create a constructive environment.</li><li>Generate good alternatives.</li><li>Explore your options.</li><li>Select the best solution.</li><li>Evaluate your plan.</li><li>Communicate your decision, and take action.</li></ol>

A 7 Step Decision Making Strategy

This process will ensure that you make a good decision in a complex situation, but it may be unnecessarily complicated for small or simple decisions. In these cases, jump to Step 5.

Note

Start by considering the decision in the context of the problem it is intended to address. You need to determine whether the stated problem is the real issue, or just a symptom of something deeper.Look beyond the obivious

1.Investigate the situation in detail.

Can you give your decision the attention it needs? Spend some time preparing yourself before diving in to the facts and figures.Remember that most decisions will affect other people too, so it helps to create a constructive environment in which to explore the situation together.This is especially true when you have to rely on other people to implement a decision that you're responsible for. You'll need to identify who to include in the process and who will be part of any final decision-making group.Enable people to contribute to the discussions without any fear of the other participants.

2.Create a constructive environment.

The wider the options you explore, the better your final decision is likely to be. Generating a number of different options may seem to make your decision more complicated at first, but the act of coming up with alternatives forces you to look at the problem from different angles.These can help you to step outside your normal patterns of thinking and come up with some truly innovative solutions.Brainstorming is probably the most popular method of generating ideas.

3.Generate good alternatives.

When you're satisfied that you have a good selection of realistic alternatives, it's time to evaluate the feasibility, risks and implications of each one.Almost every decision involves some degree of risk. You'll need a structured approach for assessing threats and evaluating the probability of adverse events occurring – and what they might cost to manage. You'll also want to examine the ethical impact of each option, and how that might sit with your personal and organizational values.

4.Explore your options.

the next step is to make your decision!If you have various criteria to consider, use Decision Matrix Analysis to compare them reliably and rigorously. Or, if you want to determine which ones should carry most weight in your decision, conduct a Paired Comparison Analysis.If your decision is being made within a group, techniques such as multi-voting and the Modified Borda Count can help you.When anonymity is important, decision-makers dislike one another, or there is a tendency for certain individuals to dominate the process, use the Delphi Technique to reach a fair and impartial decision.

5.Select the best solution.

The Delphi technique is a process used to arrive at a group opinion or decision by surveying a panel of experts. Experts respond to several rounds of questionnaires, and the responses are aggregated and shared with the group after each round.

What Is Delphi Technique

Now, more than ever, is the time to "sense check" your decision. Before you start to implement your decision, take a long, dispassionate look at it to be sure that you have been thorough, and that common errors haven't crept into the process.Your final decision is only as good as the facts and research you used to make it. Make sure that your information is trustworthy, and that you've done your best not to "cherry pick" data. This will help you avoid confirmation bias, a common psychological bias in decision making.

6.Evaluate your plan.

Discuss your preliminary conclusions with important stakeholders to enable them to spot flaws, make recommendations, and support your conclusions. Listen to your own intuition, too, and quietly and methodically test assumptions and decisions against your own experience. Use Blindspot Analysis to review whether you've fallen prey to problems like over-confidence, escalating commitment, or groupthink. And consider checking the logical structure of your process with the Ladder of Inference, to make sure that a well-founded and consistent decision emerges at the end.

More On '6.Evaluate Your Plan'

Once you've made your decision, you need to communicate it to everyone affected by it in an engaging, informative and inspiring way.Get them involved in implementing the solution by discussing how and why you arrived at your decision. The more information you provide about risks and projected benefits, the more likely people will be to support it.If people point out a flaw in your process as a result, have the humility  to welcome their input and review your plans appropriately – it's much better to do this now, cheaply, than having to do it expensively if your plans have failed.

7.Communicate your decision, and take action.

Taking right decision plays a very crucial role in one's life because life is a matter of choices and every choice you make makes you.❤

Use this seven-step process to make effective, rational decisions in an impartial and comprehensive way.

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Have you ever wondered why we often behave so irrationally?Psychologists do too, which results in countless researches about human nature. Although there is still a lot of unanswered questions, and there is a long way to go until we find the definitive answer for example to why we fall in love with a specific person, thanks to them we now know a lot more about how we feel, think and behave.Here we have collected 50 proven psychology facts, that explain a lot about human nature and will completely change how you see the world.

Background

Although these facts are interesting, fun, and tell us a lot about human nature, never forget that most of them were described after conducting research with small numbers of specific populations. But it is a fact that they provide a wonderful way to raise questions, and to start digging into the wonderful and weird world of psychological research and in the end completely change how you see the world.

Disclaimer

There is a reason why psychologists ask you about your mother. One of the most robust <a href="https://d1wqtxts1xzle7.cloudfront.net/41507315/Ravitz_et_al__Attachment_measures__a_25year_review_2010.pdf?1453639315=&response-content-disposition=inline%253B+filename%253DAdult_attachment_measures_A_25_year_revi.pdf&Expires=1607516146&Signature=cd4m-vMRms83XTNGgbzEaF6b3P86p69YpFqLgB0jKLu97laBbGu3EJzfybcmMTWfwEAEYR6UKO9t0ZyuZeDOCLyPtOO8wQDoFbMLemDWKZLh1inXdYGf6TJgciSciGH-VNvzPxKGjeIPcTLRg2eJqhtCFUFk4lfcoMZoKS8yAFTaHJ~jkA0VZC6vn2TMqJgU6-~uhLi5AmmISmpBkSwVvMjjLBoAeyMiRow4xCtnGAugUZx53aOxpsUrU0WzzIrSbUp0VQGt5m0TDNfZPP-Z8LGN8qq8VvKpPcewsndHQ6SKz-3R-txPqZ6GCmu0a5gUYAWF8sgrduW6MbhtXSuyuQ__&Key-Pair-Id=APKAJLOHF5GGSLRBV4ZA">findings of psychology shows us</a>, that no matter where we are born, the past relationship we had with our primary caregiver, massively affects our adult intimate relationships, the way we handle stressful challenges, or our behaviour towards our health.

1. Our early relationship with our mother has life-lasting consequences

We all want to be happy, but if you want to be healthy, you should rather search for meaning, says a <a href="https://www.pnas.org/content/early/2013/07/25/1305419110.short">study led by Barbara Fredrickson</a>. They have studied the genes of people who are engaging in a lot of activities which makes them feeling good, but lack true meaning (like going out extensively) and the results were shocking: they had the same gene expression patterns as people exposed to chronic adversity. The group suggests stop running after momentary joys and start looking for activities with meaning.

2. A feel-good life is not necessarily a healthy one

Contrary to popular belief, stress is not always a bad thing, actually it can be good for you. <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/08/190810151933.htm">Psychologists have long observed</a>, that stress help you accomplish task more efficiently, and can motivate you to reach your goals. However, it is important to have good ways to respond to it, and to have possibility to recover from it–without them, it becomes unhealthy, making our life miserable.

3. Stress can be good for us

You would not think so, but you might make different decisions when you are speaking in your second language. According to <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797611432178">a study conducted at the University of Chicago</a>, students using a foreign language made less emotional and more rational decisions. This suggest we might process information differently when speaking another language.

4. Speaking in a foreign language changes your decisions

No matter where you are in the world, people will recognise if you make a sad, happy, disgusted, fearful, surprised or angry face. Due to this, these emotions are called <a href="https://www.paulekman.com/universal-emotions/">universal emotions</a>, and they are known across cultures and at a very young age.

5. Some emotions are universal

Maslow’s hierarchy is probably wrong. His hierarchy of human needs says that at base levels we are driven by basic physiological instincts to survive and only after fulfilling these needs can we move over to other needs, like social connections and self-actualization. But <a href="http://www.jlampl.net/SocialNetworksMaslow.pdf">current research says </a>otherwise, as it shows hat our most fundamental need is belonging and our connection to other humans. This is what makes us engage in activities leading to self-preservation or self-fulfillment.

6. Social connections might be more important to us than food

A few of us can see the shape of emotions, smell colours, or hear shapes. This <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/synesthesia">interesting neuropsychological phenomenon </a>is called synaesthesia and happens when our mind involuntarily blends sensations that normally are experienced separately. The people, who experience it, tend to be born with this skill.

7. Some of us can smell colours

Have you ever noticed how your mum likes to speak a lot about the things that happened to her during her early twenties? Or ever wondered why people love coming of age teenager stories? Our preference for recollecting memories from adolescent and early adulthood is called “<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reminiscence_bump">reminiscence bump </a>”, and it might be because of the many changes we experience during that time, and our mind tend to remember changes more than a bit more monotonous periods.

8. Things that happen to us in early adulthood are with us long term

According to the facial feedback theory, our facial expressions influence how we feel. So <a href="https://health.ucsd.edu/news/releases/Pages/2020-07-30-headline-news-botox-may-lessen-depression.aspx">scientists </a>have temporarily disabled the muscles needed of sad facial expressions with Botox injections. This made people lose their negative emotional experience, and they have reported decreased symptoms of depression.

9.Botox could treat depression

Do you want to perform better at learning something? It might be time to open your classical music folder, as listening to classical music was found to enhance even older people’s memory performance. The finding is so robust that it has its own name: the “<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF03324720">Vivaldi effect </a>”.

10. Listening to classical music is good for your memory

According to <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167299259007">Tara Macdonald and Michael Ross</a>, if you are in love and you would like to know whether it will last, you should just ask your mom. They reported that dating couples tend to predict the longevity of their relationships through rose-coloured glasses, so asking their friends and family served as much better predictors of whether their romances would survive.

11. Our friends know the future of our romantic relationship better than us

Babies are born with the ability to understand all accents of the world, but from the age of 5 months they start to <a href="https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/phenomena/2009/06/14/five-month-old-babies-prefer-their-own-languages-and-shun-foreign-accents/">prefer and listen to their mother’s accent </a>and avoid connection with people with other accents.

12. We prefer our own accents as soon as 5 months old

Although many times dyslexia is seen only as a problem, it can be a sign of a uniquely functioning brain with many strengths. For example, watching the same videos, children diagnosed with dyslexia were <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/12/201201103605.htm">observed </a>to give more emotional responses than children without it, suggesting an atypical, enhanced way of noticing and processing emotional cues.

13. Kids with dyslexia are more emotionally responsive

If you want to give the perfect present, remember that <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17439760.2014.898316?journalCode=rpos20">psychological research suggests</a> that purchasing experiences has a more lasting positive effect on people’s happiness than material objects and looking back, people will also believe to have spent their money more wisely.

14. Experiences make us happier than material gifts

Call your grandma! Being socially isolated and feeling lonely have seriously dire consequences on us: <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0033350617302731">they make us more prone to </a>poor mental health and can lead to serious, undesirable cardiovascular outcomes.

15. Isolation can hurt us physically

Researching who takes part in elections and other political activities, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/09/200925134722.htm">scientists </a>have come to a surprising result: more narcissistic people can be more involved in such activities, may it be signing petitions, donating money or contacting politicians. Add to those result that narcissistic people also prefer their own personal gain to the societal needs and we might see the root of some our current problems.

16. Narcissistic people tend to be more politically involved

After researching the brain of older women with Alzheimer, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/11/201118161133.htm">researchers have found </a>those women’s brain showing smaller brain volume, who were living in areas exposed to higher levels of air pollution compared to those who did not. This suggests that foul air could damage our brain, altering its structure negatively.

17. Air pollution hurts not only our lungs, but our brains too

According to a <a href="https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/2608757">study </a>, collecting data from 147 261 adults aged 18 to 99 years, anxiety is more prevalent in high-income countries than in countries with poorer socioeconomic environment. The study further suggests that poorer people living in Western countries are the most anxious population in the world.

18. Westerners are more anxious

In a paper published in the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, researchers claim that atheists and agnostics are significantly more likely to be better sleepers than Catholics and Baptists.

19. Atheists sleep better than Catholics

And so is sadness. The basis of this phenomenon might be our natural tendency to mimic the behaviours and facial expressions of others. <a href="https://medium.com/better-marketing/your-good-and-bad-moods-are-contagious-psychologists-call-it-emotional-contagion-c7d857c7cabc">Scientists say </a>this emotional synchrony happens unconsciously but the extent of it depends on the intimacy we share with the other person.

20. Happiness is contagious

People usually think that high self-confidence is the key to achieve success, but <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/people-with-low-self-confidence-are-more-likely-to-be-successful-2012-7">according to business psychologists Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic</a>, it is not exactly true, as he says “low-enough” self-confidence makes you more open to feedback and behaviour changes which result in better workplace results.

21. People with lower self-confidence are more likely to be successful

Do you want to remember something? Give yourself a good night’s sleep: <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2005/06/050629070337.htm">according to a study</a>, fresh memories stick better if we have a well-deserved rest after studying them.

22. Proper sleeping hours improve our memory significantly

Although life is getting more digital, psychologists argue for keeping handwriting part of our curriculum. <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/10/201001113540.htm">It seems </a>that kids writing by hand learn more and remember better than the ones using a keyboard. It might be due to the fact that handwriting activates more senses, which helps to create connections between different parts of the brain.

23. Writing by hand makes kids smarter

Our culture tends to see mind-wandering as bad, but actually, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/10/171024112803.htm">according to psychologist </a>it can be just a symptom of being intelligent and more creative.

24. Daydreamers are more creative

First impressions are more important than you think. <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/understanding-the-primacy-effect-4685243">Scientists observed </a>the this at many parts of our life, especially when convincing others, so you should not be afraid to speak up first. People tend to remember the first argument for a longer time and they also influence our opinion stronger.

25. What we say first is what sticks with others

In a <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-short-term-memory-2795348">classic cognitive psychology study </a>participants, who had to remember 3 letter strings, could recall 80% of them after 3 seconds but, after 18 seconds they could only remember 10%. This effect has been reliably replicated since that, suggesting that you might have already forgotten some of the facts you have read above.

26. Our short-term memory lasts less than half a minute

In a brain-imaging study, <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5663956/">scientists have found </a>that listening to sad but not happy music increased the strength of mind-wandering. It has also caused people to focus inwards and think about themselves, while people listening to happy music thought more about the music itself and other people.

27. Sad music makes our mind wander

There is a reliably observed effect, named after its original observer as the <a href="https://www.spring.org.uk/2012/06/the-dunning-kruger-effect-why-the-incompetent-dont-know-theyre-incompetent.php">Dunning–Kruger effect</a>, which describes the cognitive bias that individuals with low ability at a task are the most likely to overestimate their performance. These people simply fail to recognize their lack of ability making them incapable to objectively evaluate their own competence.

28. People who are the most incompetent are the least aware of their own incompetence

When reviewing the effects of regular volunteering, <a href="https://www.ucl.ac.uk/students/news/2020/apr/10-benefits-helping-others">psychologists have found </a>that it might reduce early mortality rates by 22%, compared to those in people’s who don’t take part in such activities. Regular helpers also reported reduced depression symptoms and increased sense of life satisfaction and wellbeing.

29. Regularly helping others might make us live longer

The personality of owners of stereotypically aggressive breeds, like Rottweiler or German Shepherd, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201208/3-surprising-true-facts-about-pets-and-their-owners">was compared </a>to the owners of stereotypically peaceful breeds, like Labs and Golden Retriever. The result? They were found to be higher in anger, aggression, and hostility traits.

30. More hostile people own more aggressive dog breeds

A research <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/11/201112103517.htm">published in the Journal of Alzheimer’s Research and Therapy </a>has found that when patients with mild cognitive impairment started practicing physical exercise at least three times a week, their risk of getting Alzheimer’s has significantly decreased. Time to dust off our running shoes.

31. Weekly exercise can prevent downgrade to Alzheimer’s

Although alcohol abuse is always bad for your brain health, there <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/12/201203200605.htm">seem to be 3 specially sensitive periods </a>, when severe alcohol consumption results in cumulative long-lasting detrimental effects on your brain: gestation (from conception to birth), later adolescence (15-19 years), and older adulthood (over 65 years).

32. There are special periods when alcohol is terrible for us

Have you ever felt punched in the stomach after somebody rejected you? It is no wonder that rejection hurts so much. <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22286852/">According to neuroimaging studies </a>the same brain areas are activated during socially and physically painful experiences, resulting in very similarly hurting experiences.

33. Rejection literally hurts you

Infants’ brains may be shaped by their mother’s experiences during pregnancy. <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/11/201124111105.htm">A new study </a>combining neuroimaging with hormonal samples, found babies of women who were experiencing stress to have different brain structures compared to healthy ones, especially in regions important in emotional answers, making them more likely to have emotional issues in later life.

34. Stress during pregnancy changes our brains

Do you want to convince somebody to stop doing something annoying, like littering? <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/1467-8721.01242">Psychologists advise </a>you rather focus on the positive outcome with your message, say for example: “Almost everybody who lives here, place their trash in the garbage”. This way the appropriate behaviour is presented as the social norm and people are unconsciously inclined to follow it.

35. We don’t change our behaviour by hearing it is bad

It has been shown in <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/10579289_Culture_and_point_of_view">multiple studies</a>, that when seen a scene, most Americans focus on the visually most prominent acting object but most east-Asians focus on the background and the context. This suggests, that from the beginning of perception those of us from east-Asian cultures see people and objects more in relationship to their environment.

36. People from different cultures process information differently

Fathers behave differently with daughters and sons: they are more attentive and responsive to their daughters’ needs, sing more often to them, and speak more openly about their emotions towards them. The study published in 'Behavioural Neuroscience' explored the neural background for this behaviour: showing fathers their daughters’ happy facial expressions resulted in higher activation in brain areas involved in reward, emotional regulation, and face processing.

37. Fathers’ brains respond differently to daughters and sons

According to <a href="https://www.wired.co.uk/article/dan-ariely-bonuses-boost-activity-but-not-quality">a study conducted in India and in the United States</a>, big bonuses only raised the performance of the workers in certain cases: if they did mechanical work. But in case of work requiring use of cognitive skills, big rewards were actually detrimental on performance.

38. Bonuses don’t always work

<a href="https://personal.lse.ac.uk/KANAZAWA/pdfs/PAID2009.pdf">A study has found </a>those people, who sleep and wake up late, to be more intelligent. It might be because of their tendency to diverge from normally practised activities, in this case, the usual social functioning of being active during the day.

39. Night owls are more intelligent

We value things more if we were involved in their creation and people also see their creations- even if they are very amateurish- as similar in value to experts’ creations. Researchers calls this phenomenon <a href="https://www.behavioraleconomics.com/resources/mini-encyclopedia-of-be/ikea-effect/">the IKEA effect</a>.

40. We value things that were made by us disproportionately

A <a href="https://www.cmu.edu/dietrich/sds/docs/loewenstein/MispredictingDistress.pdf">research group has studied couples </a>and asked them to predict their emotional state after their possible future breakup. What was the result after visiting them again if the breakup indeed happened? Most of the participants hugely overestimated the distress levels they would feel, and in real life they were a lot less disturbed.

41. We are bad at forecasting our emotional reactions

<a href="https://www0.gsb.columbia.edu/mygsb/faculty/research/pubfiles/2413/Hotornot%25202008.pdf">An analysis of a dating website </a>has found that people prefer to date others with similar levels of attractiveness. This effect is more prevalent in women. Compared to them, men seem to consider their other characteristics more strongly when choosing a potential date.

42. Who we find hot depends on our own attractiveness

<a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/11086437_Effects_of_social_exclusion_on_cognitive_processes_Anticipated_aloneness_reduces_intelligent_thought">Participants of a research </a>who were led to think that they would be alone later in life, were less likely to function logically after receiving this information. The other participants, who received bad forecasts of non-social misfortunes, have not shown cognitive decrease, emphasizing the role of social belonging in conscious thinking.

43. Thinking that you will end up alone can cause a drop in intelligent thought

At a study of an older community, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/05/180509162704.htm">researchers have found </a>that following depression, people had their brains in worse shape. The brain had literally shrunk in its volume! Depressed elderly have exhibited greater memory problems than their peers.

44. Being depressed may age your brain

People find face and body symmetry attractive, but do not worry if your face is not completely symmetrical. It <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513805000401">has been proven </a>that by adding symmetrical jewellery or face paint to asymmetrical faces, people also ended up preferring them.

45. We find symmetry attractive

<a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/alien-hand-syndrome#fast-facts">The Alien Hand syndrome </a>most usually occurs after somebody suffers from stroke or other brain injury. The report feeling as if their hand is controlled by someone else. It can behave completely out of their own will. It was even reported in some case to trying to harm the owner of the hand.

46. Some people’s limbs have their own mind

Funny people, and especially those who enjoy dark humour, <a href="https://theconversation.com/funny-people-are-more-intelligent-than-their-po-faced-peers-84709">were found to </a>be more intelligent than their less funny peers. Both their verbal and non-verbal intelligence was higher, moreover they were less aggressive than people who did not appreciate dark humour.

47. People who appreciate dark humour have Higher IQs

<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2003-02858-014">Students finish on average, 3 weeks later </a>, that their “most realistic” estimate, and one week later than their “worst case-scenario”. This overly optimistic mode of planning is called as planning fallacy by psychologists.

48. We almost always underestimate how long it will take to finish a task

Although, it is statistically impossible to be so, when asked, <a href="https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/motr/when-it-comes-to-driving-most-people-think-their-skills-are-above-average.html">most people will answer </a>that they are better-than-average drivers. If they are told that others disagree with them, they will simply argue that other’s good driving category is not as accurate as theirs.

49. We all think we are better-than-average drivers

Neuropsychologists have discovered that the expression, “I know what you feel” is literally true for some of us. These people, when they see others being touched, or hurt, experience the same touch or feel like they were hurt. Not the best company for your next horror movie, are they?

50. One in a hundred people literally feels other’s pain

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We develop a more realistic view of where we are in the grand scheme of things during our life. We go from “the way to make progress is to keep going when you start to feel tired!" to I am okay with how I am.

Wisdom is quiet and knows that life is complicated

Growing mature follows a pretty standard path: in short, we develop a more realistic view of where we are in the grand scheme of things. When we’re babies, everything is black and white; we’re the center of the worldOver time, we acknowledge other people, with their own perspectives:Later, our identity gets wrapped up in the group — we want nothing more than to belong because our group is the best in the world:The next step: we feel comfortable being ourselves.

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Wisdom is growing out of the bubble that insists we have access to The One True Worldview. If we have an answer, a data point, we acknowledge that it’s just a momentary snapshot of precision, rather than an all-encompassing truth about the universe. When we can accept that all existence is temporary and all lives have innate value, we are freed of the need to feel special or accomplished. We understand that we’re just a drop in the ocean.

Growing Wisdom

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Research has shown that the act of ignoring or excluding activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain.The best predictor of divorce isn’t whether a couple fights – arguments are inevitable – but how a couple fights. The key to being closer in the good times lies in the way a couple treats each other during the bad.

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The silent treatment can tend to present itself as a response more fitting of the ‘high road’, one of grace and dignity, but research has shown it is anything but.

Its Not What It Seems

‘Excluding and ignoring people, such as giving them the cold shoulder or silent treatment, are used to punish or manipulate, and people may not realise the emotional or physical harm that is being done.’

The silent treatment, even if it’s brief, activates the anterior cingulate cortex – the part of the brain that detects physical pain. The initial pain is the same, regardless of whether the exclusion is by strangers, close friends or enemies.

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The ability to detect ostracism is hardwired in us – it doesn’t matter if you’re being ignored by a group or a person you can’t stand, the pain still registers.The silent treatment happens when one partner pressures the other with requests, criticism or complaints and the other responds with silence and emotional distance.

Iced Out

Paul Schrodt, PhD, Professor of Communication Studies reviewed 74 relationship studies which involved more than 14,000 participants.Findings from his in-depth analysis revealed that the silent treatment is ‘tremendously’ damaging to a relationship. It decreases relationship satisfaction for both partners, diminishes feelings of intimacy, and reduces the capacity to communicate in a way that’s healthy and meaningful.

The Loudness Of Silence

‘It’s the most common pattern of conflict in marriage or any committed, established romantic relationship. And it does tremendous damage.’

It doesn’t matter which partner demands or which one withdraws, the damage to the relationship is the same. It’s the pattern itself that’s the problem, not the specific partner. The silent treatment should not be confused with taking time to cool down after heated or difficult exchange. Williams suggests that instead of reverting to the silent treatment, try ‘I can’t talk to you right now, but we can talk about it later.’

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The silent treatment is a way to inflict pain without visible bruising – literally.

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