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Control Your Feelings - Don't Express Them

https://leadershipfreak.blog/2011/10/28/control-your-feelings-%E2%80%93-don%E2%80%99t-express-them/

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Control Your Feelings - Don't Express Them
Image source Emotions are responses to information; believe wrong information and you'll experience wrong feelings. For example, you think someone neglected their responsibilities causing deliverables to fall through the cracks. Based on that, you feel concerned, frustrated, or even angry. Don't trust those feelings. Don't express those feelings. Push those feelings aside.

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Emotions are responses to information

Emotions are responses to information

Believe wrong information and you’ll experience wrong feelings.

For example, if you think something about a co-worker, don’t trust those feelings and don’t express those feelings.

At best, let those feelings motivate calm, systematic investigation.

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Feelings are...

  • Responders to perceived reality. They aren’t the reality.
  • Responses to our imagination.
  • Confirmation: Always confirm imagination and perception by investigating reality.
  • Admiration: People admire and respect leaders who control their feelings. Additionally, others feel it’s safe to trust us when we’re stable and predictable.

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