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We are free to choose the meaning of our experiences

We are free to choose the meaning of our experiences

We are not determined by the experiences we've had, but rather, the meaning we give to them. Instead of thinking about 'past causes', think about 'present goals'.

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Our emotions are mere tools to justify our intended actions

Our emotions are mere tools to justify our intended actions

We get angry and show aggression to make a point. We make a point to possibly win an argument, which in turn is a means to establish supremacy over the person on the receiving end.

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It is only in social contexts that a person becomes an individual

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All problems are, at the core, interpersonal relationship problems

A lot of problems arise because we feel inferior, we feel that we lack something. A feeling of inferiority is a result of the subjective meaning that we have assigned to a trait of ours. If we feel that we lack something, the right way to tackle it is by striving to bridge the gap.

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Separation of tasks

For any action that you intend to take, ask if this is your task? Does the result affect you? All interpersonal conflicts are caused by intruding in someone else's task. 

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You are not living to satisfy other people's expectations. Getting recognised is not your task. Hence, deny any need for recognition

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Happiness is contributing to the community

Being of use to someone - either by one's actions or by mere presence, is the true essence of happiness.

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Real freedom is having the courage to be disliked

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CURATOR'S NOTE

A lot of time and effort is spent on unnecessary things, which are futile. The mantra for happiness is really simple, and this book, with the help of a dialogue, gives it to the reader.

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