10 questions to ask before marrying someone

What is the role of man and woman or their families in marriage?

Man must do this and women should not do that. Preoccupied patriarchal notions shouldn't be there.

How much couples should know about each other?

Secrecy should not lead to dishonesty.

Space for fearless sharing.

My secrete is our secrete.

How many hours couple spend time together in a week?

5-7 hours is fair one.

Spend time shopping, cooking, playing...

If someone can't spend minimum hours then it is red flag.

Behavior with other people.

Same rules to both, agree to boundaries.

Posting pictures, flirting with other (recommended to not to agree)

How much individual freedom.

You don't do that or force to do. It should requested and negotiated.

Not hurting others or hurting oneself shall be mantra.

Freedom is of utmost respect.

What you can't compromise with?

Everyone may have different things.

Obvious ones which are non-negotiable are violence, cheating....

What you think about marriage counseling?

I know everything, I don't want to go for counseling is a red flag

Sometimes seeking help is better.