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Getting People To Open Up

Getting People To Open Up

You only have to do two things: learn to reduce your filter and ask the right questions.


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Reducing Your Filter

The reason we are often afraid to say certain things or act in certain ways is because we’re afraid of others reacting negatively. This fear often leads to small talk and results in conversations that truly don’t matter.

If you don’t really filter yourself in a conversation and say what actually matters to you with no regard to how strange it is, others will perceive you as someone who doesn’t care about society and as such will feel safer to tell you things they’d been bottling up.


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How To Reduce Your Filter

One easy way to start reducing your filter is to share something considered to be sort of unusual in a conversation.

For example: squatting on top of a toilet to do your business.

Be aware that whether you’re perceived as someone with a reduced filter or someone crazy depends on your perceived value.

Your value can be increased through things such as having proper hygiene, having a decent amount of friends, dressing decently well, being in decent shape, being able to hold eye contact, etc.


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Learn To Ask The Right Questions

Learn To Ask The Right Questions

Once you convince them that you’re someone they can open up to, you have to ask them the right questions.

Assumption questions are especially powerful and are when you make an assumption of someone based on an observation and see if it’s true or not. This shows them that you are really listening and causes them to instinctively want to react.


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