How To Get People To Open Up

One easy way to start reducing your filter is to share something considered to be sort of unusual in a conversation.

For example: squatting on top of a toilet to do your business.

Be aware that whether you’re perceived as someone with a reduced filter or someone crazy depends on your perceived value.

Your value can be increased through things such as having proper hygiene, having a decent amount of friends, dressing decently well, being in decent shape, being able to hold eye contact, etc.

Once you convince them that you’re someone they can open up to, you have to ask them the right questions.

Assumption questions are especially powerful and are when you make an assumption of someone based on an observation and see if it’s true or not. This shows them that you are really listening and causes them to instinctively want to react.