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... rather than what's right.
You can focus on what a lazy, forgetful, good-for-nothing partner you have or you can see them as a wonderful and loving partner who occasionally overlooks a request when he or she is distracted.
Choose where to spend your focus.
... than in love. Even though it may seem justified when your partner falls short or makes a mistake, choosing a righteous response will only damage trust and create lingering resentment.
Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. It builds up appreciation, good will and a desire to do even better to please you next time.
A relationship needs nurturing, care and ongoing nourishment if you want it to thrive. Too often, we get hypnotized by never-ending demands and the shiny objects of a 24/7 media world.
If you value what you have, institute a regular date night ritual or a bedtime ritual to connect.
You need to learn how to understand, communicate and request that your own needs be met in a way that makes your partner very likely to comply with them.
If you knew exactly how to make your partner feel more loved, understood and appreciated than they've ever felt in their whole life, would you do it?
Don't expect your partner to think like you. It's important that you give your partner room to have their own opinions and views without trying to change them or manipulate them to your way of thinking.
An effective partnership is really about voluntarily becoming a team because you recognize that together you are better than the sum of your parts.
People who are free and make no apologies for themselves are seen as powerful and compelling. Even when two parties are totally at odds with one another, nothing has the power to reunite them more beautifully than raw vulnerability, when expressed without attack.
There is only one constant in life. Change is inevitable. You can either grow apart slowly over time or you can honor everyone's journey.
Find the common ground and do your best to expand it whenever possible. You and your partner don't have to be of one mind on every possible issue. But you can be of one heart if you simply love them for who they are.
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