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Four Steps to Feeling Better about Yourself

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Four Steps to Feeling Better about Yourself
What gives you a sense of self-worth? Data from my well-being survey recently revealed that positive self-views (or feeling good about oneself, a general belief that we are good, worthwhile human beings) were the best predictor of happiness-even more so than 19 other emotional processes including gratitude and strong personal relationships.

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Figure out your needs

People tend to feel badly about themselves when they feel powerless to get their needs met. 

Clarify for yourself what you need and don't expect others to fulfill your every want. 

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Live authentically

Standing up for yourself and living a life that is authentically yours generates positive self-views.

You have to start thinking about how you will communicate your needs, how you will...

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Forgive yourself

Almost everyone has said something hurtful, forgotten an important event, or betrayed someone they love.

We have to remember that our mistakes do not define us. If we learn and grow fr...

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Celebrate your quirks

Instead of focusing on all the things wrong with us, self-celebration enables us to derive deep satisfaction from being uniquely us. 

Practice self-celebration by enjoying your aw...

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Self-compassion can work wonders

Self-compassion enables you to take risks while being positive about the fact that even if things do not turn out your way, everything will eventually be fine, as you are still the same person.

Self-compassion and its effect

The main difference between individuals who show a certain level of self-compassion and the ones who show none or lower is that the first ones have the strength to stand up after having made a mistake, learn something from this mistake and be successful next time.

Learning self-compassion

A sure way of practicing self-compassion is by actually trying to learn lessons from all your experiences, especially the negative ones. 

You should stop judging these experiences as being good or bad, but rather look for the meaning of each and every one of them.

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Anxiety Vs Negative Emotion

Negative emotions (lack of confidence, toxic energy, fear) can also cause anxiety. The difference between the two is the feeling of being unsafe that comes with anxiety.

When you are anxious, the ability to think clearly is lost, and so is the perspective. Breathing exercises and making space in your mind by slowing down is the first step towards remaining calm in this general state of anxiety.

Objectify The Problem

Start journaling, asking specific questions to bring the main issue in focus, to get organized and gain clarity. Ask yourself these four questions:

  1. What feels wrong?
  2. How can the problem be defined?
  3. What are the fears with regards to making changes?
  4. What actions can be taken that would improve the situation?