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How To Be Your Own Hero

https://medium.com/thrive-global/how-to-be-your-own-hero-e5076901aa05

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How To Be Your Own Hero
In my twenties I hit some serious depression. The quarter-life crisis was intense for me. I made a litany of poor choices and pursued lousy relationships for the best part of a decade. Why? I was bogged down in low self-esteem and anger I didn't really understand, so my choices were often self-defeating.

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Speak Kindly To Yourself

Speak Kindly To Yourself

When you try to help another person you probably don’t start with a critical attack towards them about everything they’ve done wrong or aren’t good at. Yet, so often we speak harshly to ourselves in our own minds.

Being your own hero means standing up for yourself when critical self-talk and negative spirals of thinking are starting up in your head.

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Your Inner Dialogue

Listen to how you speak to yourself and get to know how kindly or unkindly you treat yourself every day.

Do not stand for self-bullying.

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Rewrite Your Stories of Adversity

Re-author the MEANINGS you draw from things that have happened in your life.

Your stories of hurts, losses and failings can become inspirational reminders to you of your resilience and survival.

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Find Your Flow

Our greatest strengths and personal superpowers are often found in those things we’re good at, and that we enjoy — our flow.

Your places of flow, be they sports, nature or something else, feed the hero part of yourself. Flow gives you purpose and meaning.

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Honor Your Commitments

Being your own hero means showing yourself real love by developing your own values and staying true to any commitments you’ve made to yourself.

Do what you say you’re going to do and feel proud of yourself, confident in your character.

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“I think money is great. But physical and mental energy is the greatest riches of human life.”

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Personal Energy

Energy is everything. It goes beyond status, power, and money. Personal Energy is difficult to measure, as our energy levels vary.

There are 3 types of energy:

  1. Mental Energy: It is your ability to concentrate, pay attention and focus.
  2. Physical Energy: Ability to perform physical tasks
  3. Emotional Energy: Ability to feel compassion.

Managing Personal Energy

  • Mindfulness meditation is an excellent tool to improve our focus and awareness. We can enhance our mental energy by integrating our mind through meditation, instead of getting lost in scattered thoughts.
  • Physical energy can be enhanced with regular exercise, no matter what kind. 
  • Emotional energy is intensified by human interaction. Meeting new people and spending time with people with no particular agenda is a great way to stay positive and improve your energy levels.

What you’re saying to yourself

Observe the thoughts that come up and do not judge yourself for having them. If you have unkind thoughts, ask yourself if you would speak to any other human being the same way you speak to yourself...

Find supportive people

Do not be afraid to decline invitations to events that pull you down. This will make room for the things in your life that makes you feel happy.

Find and/or make time for activities that will bring you joy.

What others appreciate about you

A kind word from someone we love and trust can go a long way. Their perspective can also help shed some light on some of our qualities we are unaware of.

Ask close friends or family what they appreciate about you. Save their words. Reread them when you need them.