Like most other things in our life, getting healthy is more about fighting our inner battles - desiring the bad food, wanting to drink and smoke, or forgoing the planned workout.
It is difficult to fight an inner battle if you do not know what you are fighting.
Get to the root of the problem by putting a face on that demon. Identify the real problem that is holding you back.
Don't try to fight your inner battle until you have leveled up. The inner battle you're facing never goes away completely. It just becomes easier when you are prepared.
Have a plan in place to fight your inner demon. If you are struggling with eating unhealthy foods, identify the triggers that cause you to crave them. Do you eat when you are bored or grumpy?
When you understand why you do certain things, you'll be better equipped to prepare and fight them. For instance, if you eat because you are tired and bored, stay away from the sweets and grab an apple.
When you first face your inner struggles, you might fail a few times before you find a strategy that works for you. Failing does not make you weak or a bad person.
Each time, change your strategy or level up, so you have a better chance for success.
Our inner critic is usually formed in a system based on right and wrong answers and outperforming others on structured tasks. Listening to our inner critic will rarely improve our creative work - it may actually result in conformative work.
We need to turn this inner-critic into an inner-coach and drive our personal growth.
Horror movie tip: characters whose main response to challenges are panicking, crying about it or giving up are annoying and make themselves easier prey.
Real world parallel: In life, you’re gonna think things are getting better, only to find new challenges ahead. But giving up or despairing just leaves you longer with a problem, or even add to it. It’s your responsibility to fix it, so do it.
You can be sure in succeeding in your habits if you only build habits which are easy to maintain.