How to Handle Rejection and Overcome the Fear of Being Rejected - Deepstash

deepstash

Beta

Deepstash brings you key ideas from the most inspiring articles like this one:

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

How to Handle Rejection and Overcome the Fear of Being Rejected

https://www.lifehack.org/816321/how-to-handle-rejection

lifehack.org

How to Handle Rejection and Overcome the Fear of Being Rejected
If you're thinking "Nothing makes me happy any more..." I want to ask you a powerful question first: What do you want at the end of your life? Picture yourself in this moment and decide how you want to feel, the legacy you want to leave, and the memories you have to look back on.

6

Key Ideas

Save all ideas

Diffuse the fear of being rejected

Diffuse the fear of being rejected

... by acknowledging and expecting it can and will hurt.

To overcome the sting of rejection, stop trying to avoid feeling that stings. Stop pretending your unaffected if indeed, you are.

Listen to the voice’s mix of rage, sadness, loss, and loneliness. You will start to feel relief simply by no longer pretending you’re invincible and allowing the flood of your feelings to flow.

475 SAVES

772 READS

VIEW

Interrupting rumination

Make a contract with your partner, family, and friends allowing them to catch you in the throes of verbal diarrhea when you were unfairly treated.

Work out three or four different activities that will distract you and turn your attention to something productive. 

346 SAVES

554 READS

Regulate the number of rejection opportunities

 ... you expose yourself to.

We all have a different threshold of the amount of rejection we can handle. Wisely considering how much more you can handle is essential. 

Before you take another step forward, ask yourself if you have the right resources and support in place to catch you.

350 SAVES

543 READS

Attach a different meaning

If you feel experiencing a rejection, invite yourself to consider:
  • Is it possible that the deductions I am making about myself are actually not true?
  • Is it possible that this rejection is just an indication that what I wanted to belong to and be part of is not a suitable fit for me?
  • Could this rejection be a guiding rail to steer me back on the course I am truly meant to be on?
  • Could this actually be a grand opportunity to grow and expand into a better version of myself?

448 SAVES

574 READS

Recalibrate the rejection experience

Ask yourself after you have allowed some time to pass after the initial experience of your rejection:

  • Could I have idolized the situation or person which has now led me to feel such a deep sense of unworthiness? 
  • Could I have put the person or opportunity on a pedestal which made the fall of being rejected so much harder on impact?
  • Are there negative attributes about the situation that I was not seeing because I was wanting this so badly?

410 SAVES

558 READS

Learn to build resilience

... to diffuse the fear of future rejection.

  • Proactively review your behavioral patterns and resources and forecast your recovery strategy should you be in the firing line to take a fall in the future.
  • By predicting how your emotions and thoughts could be sent into a spin, you give yourself a stronger sense of maintaining self-control should rejection hit.
  • Invest in things that restore your energy, strength, and willingness to bounce back. 

387 SAVES

560 READS

SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

Motivation

Motivation

Motivation is not a switch. Motivation is a flow. 

If you can create a self sustaining motivation engine, you’ll not only be able to find more meaning and purpose in your life, bu...

Motivation Engine in 3 parts

  1. Core. Your purpose. It is sustained by two things: Having Meaning, and Forward Movement.
  2. Support. What enables your goals. They can magnify the motivation core you have, or speed up the momentum that you build.
  3. Surface. Any type of external recognition that might give you motivation.

You Are Not Your Thoughts

Our life situation is shaped by the quality of our thoughts. However, most of us assume that we are our thoughts.

You can decide what thoughts to ignore in your mind

The only way to stop identifying yourself with your thoughts is to stop following through on all your thoughts ✋ . Instead, decide to live in the present moment—where you don’t have time to think, only to experience.

4 Steps to stop overthinking 🧠

1. Raise your awareness throughout the day. 

2. When you raise awareness, immediately start observing your thoughts

3. Only limit your thinking to specific moments that you need it.

4. Enjoy your life! Let go of all your thoughts about yesterday and tomorrow. 

Unplanned Happy Memories

Unplanned Happy Memories

We normally leave our ‘special moments’ to chance. Our cherished memories are usually unplanned, apart from the big occasions like our graduation or the day of our wedding.

We need to lear...

Creating Moments Of Elevation

Certain experiences make us feel joyful, engaged, amazed and motivated.

  1. Concerts, museums and great outings engage all our senses, making the moments stand out intensely.
  2. Breaking the routine, or the ‘script’ of life provides us with a pleasant surprise, resulting in little moments of big memories.
  3. Competing in something, like a game or a bet, raises the stakes and creates in us a rush of endorphins, making the event more entertaining and memorable.

Factors Of Motivation at Work

The number one reason for employees to leave their jobs is the lack of recognition, praise and appreciation.

In research spanning decades, employees were asked about their motivation factors at work and had only one common factor across 46 years, which was the appreciation they got from the employer for their hard work.

2 more ideas