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4 Essential Ingredients of a Great Conversation

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4 Essential Ingredients of a Great Conversation
Have you ever had a conversation so good that it left you reliving it for days, weeks, months, or even years after it took place? Just as we put traveling, marriage, or stepping into your first home up on a pedestal as the "ultimate" expressions of human joy, I believe great conversations are up there too.

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Great conversations

Great conversations

They are not just the process of exchanging of words. They represent the base for very meaningful friendship or partnership.
And especially in this era of screens and limited attention spans great conversations should be nurtured.

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Ingredients of a great conversation

  • A great conversation is a two-way street, not a competition.
  • A great conversation is a safe space. Fear of judgment will stop you from opening up in front of someone.
  • A great conversation fosters relatability. Relating to something that another person has expressed indicates active listening.
  • A great conversation is an opportunity to learn. It should feel enriching and enlightening.

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Be Funny and Interesting

  • Humor: It takes a lot of practice until you can figure out the natural timing and flow of a joke. Practice makes perfect.
  • Interest comes from having an interesting life. You can be interesting by telling stories  or by simply being quick to bring up an interesting fact.

Interest is similar to humor whenever people discover something they didn’t expect.

Tell Great Stories

  • You need to have an interesting point to make it worthwhile.
  • Your most interesting point should be the last thing you say in your story.
  • Keep it short.
  • Keep it personal. People prefer stories about people they know.
  • The more you tell a story the better you get the natural timing and emphasis. 

Develop a taste for small talk

Whenever faced with uncertainty when trying to make conversation, you might want to consider making small talk. 

It can work wonders and it helps with getting to know the other.

Learn to ask the right questions

Making good conversation implies mastering the technique of asking the right questions, in the correct order, in a proper tone.

 The purpose is to get to know the other, without making it feel like an interrogation.

Asking deep questions

Once you have got the chance to get to know a bit more about the other, you can initiate the use of deeper questions. 

These allow you to create a bond and to show to the other person how interested you are in his or her life.