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Coping With Loneliness Around The Holidays

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Loneliness Around The Holidays

Loneliness Around The Holidays

Right after Thanksgiving, the sights and sounds around us morph into a familiar holiday cheer, with twinkling lights, christmas carols and classics on TV channels. It can be the best feeling in the world, but also can be an oppressive feeling for some, who are so lonely that they feel ‘mocked’ by the ongoing holiday splurge going around, with family get togethers and gifts.

The holiday times are cheery but stressful, and can be a harrowing experience for those who already struggle with loneliness or depression.

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Holiday Memories And Sacrifices

Much of the childhood holiday magic we remember was a sacrifice for most adults who wanted the time to be special for kids. True holiday spirit is a mix of pleasure, sacrifice and pain, a mix of emotions where our own sense of joy is hardly felt.

The holidays amplify the loneliness and sacrifice, due to the pandemic, global remoteness, joblessness, personal loss and the many unspoken feelings that become evident at this time.

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Holiday Loneliness: Reaching Out To Others

  1. Call up your friends, or do virtual meetings.
  2. Adopt a dog.
  3. Start gardening.
  4. Cook with friends on a Facetime/Zoom call.
  5. Join virtual communities of your interest.
  6. Volunteer.
  7. Go to a nursing home and interact if possible.
  8. Join a virtual exercise session.

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How To Deal With Holiday Loneliness: Self Care

  • Wake up early, preferably after a good sleep.
  • Make your bed in the morning.
  • Exercise for at least one hour, or even just basic breathing exercises.
  • Go out for a walk in the sun.
  • Have a light and healthy breakfast.
  • Be decisive, compassionate and focused.
  • Meditate.
  • Say ‘I love you’ to your family members, near and far.
  • Be grateful.
  • Don’t use your smartphone or iPad before bed.

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Holiday Loneliness: Indulge Yourself

  • Eat chocolate.
  • Take warm showers.
  • Wear warm socks.
  • Laugh as hard as you can.
  • Read the comics.
  • Play your favourite Christmas movies.
  • Try new recipes.
  • Look at old pictures and read old letters.
  • Write down whatever is good in your life.
  • Listen to music.
  • Paint, sew and design stuff.

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