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'Phubbing' Is Hurting Your Relationships. Here's What It Is

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'Phubbing' Is Hurting Your Relationships. Here's What It Is
Phubbing, or snubbing somebody in favor of a phone, is bad for relationships, social connection and mental health, research says.

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“Phubbing”

Is snubbing someone you’re talking to to look at a cell phone. 

Just think about how often a conversation stalls because your friends (or you) have pulled out a phone and descended into an Instagram black hole. It's annoying and may be hurting your relationships.

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Paradox of Phubbing

Phubbing is meant to connect you, presumably, with someone through social media or texting. But it actually can severely disrupt your present-moment, in-person relationships and in the end makes you feel even less connected.

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Phubbing threatens the 4 “fundamental needs” - belongingness, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control - by making phubbed people feel excluded and ostracized. 

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Get over Phubbing

Creating and following strict technology rules, such as putting your phone away while eating dinner, can help you form new habits. Other attention-based practices, like meditation and mindfulness, may also help re-train your attentional capacity.

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