Is snubbing someone you’re talking to to look at a cell phone.&nbsp;Just think about how often a conversation stalls because your friends (or you) have pulled out a phone and descended into an Instagram black hole.&nbsp;It's annoying and may be hurting your relationships.

“Phubbing”

Phubbing is meant to connect you, presumably, with someone through social media or texting. But it actually can severely disrupt your present-moment, in-person relationships and in the end makes you feel even less connected.

Paradox of Phubbing

Phubbing threatens the 4 “fundamental needs” - belongingness, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control - by making phubbed people feel excluded and ostracized.&nbsp;

Creating and following strict technology rules, such as putting your phone away while eating dinner, can help you form new habits. Other attention-based practices, like meditation and mindfulness, may also help re-train your attentional capacity.

Get over Phubbing

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 “Phubbing” — snubbing someone you’re talking to to look at a cell phone — may not be part of your everyday vocabulary, but it’s almost certainly part of your everyday life. Just think about how often a conversation stalls because your friends (or you) have pulled out a phone and descended into an Instagram black hole.
 “Ironically, phubbing is meant to connect you, presumably, with someone through social media or texting,” says Emma Seppälä, a psychologist at Stanford and Yale universities and author of the Happiness Track. “But it actually can severely disrupt your present-moment, in-person relationships.”
 In the latest study on the subject, phubbing was found to threaten four “fundamental needs” — belongingness, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control — by making phubbed people feel excluded and ostracized. That may be particularly harmful because phubbing happens all the time, the researchers say.
 If you’re a chronic phubber, creating and following strict technology rules, such as putting your phone away while eating dinner, can help you form new habits, Seppälä says. Other attention-based practices, like meditation and mindfulness, may also help re-train your attentional capacity.
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Phubbing, or snubbing somebody in favor of a phone, is bad for relationships, social connection and mental health, research says.

'Phubbing' Is Hurting Your Relationships. Here's What It Is

“Phubbing”

Paradox of Phubbing

Get over Phubbing

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