Thinking everything to death before making decisions can be counterproductive, creating self-doubt.

If you keep researching every aspect and keep gathering every information to make that mythical perfect decision, you will never reach certainty.

Always staying in control can turn one into a control freak. It can also make us fearful of situations when we cannot be in control.

One can feel unprepared in certain situations and avoid them altogether. Always wanting to be in control can also create unnecessary anxiety.

• Trying to do something perfectly is fine but always trying to be a perfectionist is a recipe for disaster.
• Striving for perfection is an avoidable ‘impossible standard’ that makes one self-critical.
• Failure to reach the impossible standard lowers one's self-worth.

1. Monitor your behaviour and acknowledge your self-sabotaging behaviour.
2. Take action that is the opposite of what you intend to do while self-sabotaging yourself. Handle situations differently and observe the effect it has on you.
3. Acknowledge your accomplishments and build your self-esteem by writing down the things that make you special, and unique.
4. Focus on the positive and start a daily self-affirmation mantra to recite to yourself.