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"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey McKay, author of “How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive”

What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you’ll find:

  • 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
  • 14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language
  • 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
  • 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
  • 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
  • 9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!)
  • 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
  • 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
  • 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive

In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!

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How to Talk to Anyone : 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

Name shower

When you are talking to someone on phone it becomes hard to bring their attention as you cant use your gestures and facial expression. You can use their name while talking as this will bring his attention back in conversation as for anybody their name is the most pleasing sound for them in whole world.


Little Strokes

Little Strokes

Little strokes of genuine compliments like ,nice job, well done,not bad ,you lok great,etc are going to impact others a lot as everyone likes to be noticed.


Baring their hot button

Before going to meet with say doctor, engineer,artist,etc,to have a great and impactful conversation get some buring issue of that industry to use it as fodder for conversation this will have a great impact on them and will form rapport.




You can fine-tune your smile!

Don't flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, instead look at the other person's face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona and then let a warm smile hug your face. The split-second delay convinces people that your smile is genuine and ONLY FOR THEM.




You can come across as intelligent and insightful by deliberate eye-contact.

When you meet someone new, make sure your eyes are glued to the conversation partner's eyes. Don't immediately break eye contact after they've finished talking. Make them feel they have captivated you.

Epoxy eyes is often used when you want to understand reactions as a third-person. Watch your target person even when someone else is talking. It puts you in the position of a judge/evaluator, don't overdo it though. The major benefit is that your target thinks you are interested in him/her.




Make your posture the biggest success barometer. Winners stand with assurance, move with confidence, smile softly with pride.

Habitual good posture is the first mark of a big winner.


The Flooding Smile

  • Smile at the right time to show genuineness.
  • A delayed smile make people realize that the smile was genuinely for them and it took some time for you to register their face.


The Sticky Eyes

  • Hold your gaze as much as possible.
  • A good hack to have a proper eye contact is to trying to notice their eye color.
  • After finishing the conversation, hold the eye contact for some more time.


Command confidence from your posture

“Watch your posture whenever you walk through a doorway. Hold your head high, your shoulders back, and your torso out. This will convey confidence and command respect.”


  • The Flooding Smile: Pause a second and smile.
  • Sticky Eyes: Notice eye color.
  • Epoxy Eyes: Keep looking at the person, even when someone else is talking.
  • Hang by your teeth: Pretend you are hanging by your teeth. Head up.
  • The big baby pivot: Show how much you like them. Undivided attention.
  • Hello old friend: See a new person as an old friend.
  • Limit the fidget: Keep your hands away from your face.


  • Hans horse sense: Keep a keen eye on how your listener is reacting.
  • Watch the scene before you make the scene: VISUALIZE yourself a Super Somebody.
  • Make a mood match: Copy their mood and postures.
  • Prosaic with passion: Tone is more important than words.
  • Always wear a “What’s It”: Wear or Carry something unusual (for attention).
  • Who is that?: Make your friend to introduce you to others.


  • Never the naked city: Never give a one-word answer about your city.
  • Be a good word detective: listen more than talking.
  • Parroting: Repeat the last few words.
  • Encore: Request them to the repeat performance.(sing,dance,joke..)
  • Accentuate the positive: And eliminate the negative.
  • The latest news: Know what’s trending.
  • What do you do,NOT!: Instead ask, “how do you spend most of your time?”.


Part one

How to make somebody very interested and wanting to know more about you without Saying a Word?

  • First impressions are unforgettable.
  • Just give them great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.


Technique #1

Assume your Scene Before You Make the Scene.

  • Studies show mind rehearsal helps to execute better at their action like talk to parents or plan a day.
  • The Experts agree if you see the images, hear the sounds, and feel the actions of your body in your mind before you do the action, the outcome is effective.
  • Visualize your action what you going to do and do it.


How to Use Your Eyes to Make Someone Fall in Love with You?



They're gonna place you way ahead in life.

Level 1/60 (How to Talk to Anyone)

I've divided this book's brownie points/tricks/tips/lessons/blah blah into 60 levels. Basically a roadmap to go from from beginner to pro/advance/sigma?/alpha?/???. Have fun while reading!

How to look like a somebody?

  1. A great posture
  2. Heads-up look
  3. Confident smile
  4. Direct gaze.

I know what you're thinking. No, it ain't that easy. These qualities are highly belittled. Their values pratically in the drain. You can check out our website to see how many people agree. How just following these four can change your life BIIGGGG time. 

Also, there's a bonus with these too!

They're: Look Below...... 


Outta space as always

Warm Sloth Smile

Conditional Eye Contact

Melted Taffy Last Look.

To give you just a little insight, I'll explain them with as less words possible. 

Warm sloth smile is basically an asset. It gives a richer personality catchet. When you smile make sure it erupts a second later and with full intensity.

Conditional eye contact, is basically weighing a few aspects before a full on intense eye contact. Like gender, relationship, etc.

Melted taffy last look is when you turn your face/eyes away from the person only because you have to. 

Check out our website to go into more depth! Cause this has word limit.


Level 2/60

Let's talk about how we're giving very minimal attention to the features of our face.


Well, everyone of us always focus on the nose but we always forget that we can't really do anything about how it looks. Instead, by correctly using the eyes and mouth, we can change lives. Both us and the other person, lucky enough to come in contact with us.

Let's talk about Tsunami smile and Brownie points eyes.

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My Learning From This Book

My Learning From This Book

  1. Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people's emotions.
  2. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question.
  3. Grow more by listening ,than talking.
  4. Spend time with people you choose, not just those who choose you.
  5. Your eyes speak more than you think.


The Flooding Smile

The Flooding Smile

In 1936, one of Dale Carnegie's six musts in HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE was SMILE!

Don't flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the person's face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them. ☺️


Sticky Eyes

Sticky Eyes

Your eyes are personal granades that have the power to detonate people's emotion.

Pretend your eyes are glued to your Conversation Partner's with sticky warm toffee. Don't break eye contact even after he or she has finished speaking. When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey toffee untill the tiny string finally breaks.


Epoxy Eyes

Epoxy Eyes

This brazen technique packs a powerful punch. Watch your target person even when someone is talking. No matter who is speaking, keep looking at the man or woman you want to impact.

Sometimes using Epoxy Eyes is too potent, so here is a gentler, yet effective, form: Watch the speaker but let your glance bounce to target each time the speaker finishes a point. This way Mr or Ms Target still feels you are intrigued by his or her reactions, yet there is relief from the intensity.


How to have a effective communication?

How to have a effective communication?

  • Parroting: When you are talking with someone, and in case, you don't have that much to say to that person & also if you want to continue your converation, then simply use the 'Parroting technique' in which you have to repeat the last words of what just the speaker had said... For ex., if he/she tells you about the last Marvel movie he/she had watched, simply ask,'Marvel movie?' Speaker,'yes, full of superheroes! You,' Superheroes?' Speaker, 'Yes, Thor, Hulk,... For more such tips FOLLOW ME





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