What is emotional intelligence? How do you improve yours? Why should you even care?Personally, I'm more likely to do things if they're easy. That's why I'm a big fan of the simplest emotional intelligence-improving idea I've ever come across: memorizing specific words and phrases that leverage emotions in positive ways to make it more likely you'll achieve your goals. Over time, these phrases become second-nature, you begin to notice why they work.

7 Smart Phrases People With High Emotional Intelligence Keep Saying Over and Over

It's sort of like learning phrases in a foreign language phonetically, only to realize after using them for a while that you better understand what they actually mean and how to spell them.Here are seven smart, simple, specific things that people with high emotional intelligence learn to say reflexively, over and over.

"Why" is a magic word. It's like a linguistic can opener that pries motivations free, and separates emotion from objectivity. <ul><li>"Why are we all competing to buy the same product?"</li><li>"Why am I working so hard on this one particular project?"</li><li>"Why am I so quick to respond when this demanding client asks something of me?"</li><li>"Why am I still working late nights and weekends, when my family would rather have me home?"</li><li>"Why is the person in that car yelling at me?"</li></ul>

1. "Let's think about why."

People who challenge themselves to ask this question over and over, both silently (to themselves) and out loud, are more likely to find the things that they're emotionally motivated to achieve, and to avoid the ones they don't.And when they find unhealthy emotions acting as the driving forces, they can look elsewhere.

Politeness costs nothing. But people with high emotional intelligence understand that gratitude is one of the keys to happiness in life, which can only leave people feeling good about those who express it to them.<ul><li>Bonus point no. 1: Find opportunities to end conversations with expressions of sincere, uncontroversial thanks. (Emphasis on "uncontroversial." Things like "Thank you for taking the time to talk," as opposed to "Thank you for coming around to my point of view.")</li></ul>

2. "Thank you." (Also "please" and "you're welcome.")

<ul><li>Bonus point no. 2: Saying "You're welcome," instead of more dismissive phrases like "No problem," acknowledges that you've done something for someone else that is worthy of gratitude. It's a trigger for positive reactions in others.</li></ul>They're such short phrases, and we use them all the time. But emotionally intelligent people do so intentionally--going into conversations looking for an opportunity to repeat them, because they learn how powerful they can be.

Yes, I listed this one next because it's the seeming opposite of the previous phrase. But, good fences make good neighbors, and healthy boundaries make for healthy relationships. In short, people with high emotional intelligence understand that saying no when they're offered something they don't really want, whether it's a business opportunity or an invitation or a flyer on the street, is a mark of respect to other people. It says you respect your time, and you're going to respect other people's as well.

3. "No, thank you."

There's a lot of power packed into these six words, and emotionally intelligent people appreciate why. First, no matter what happens after this sentence, you've signaled to someone else that you care to make the attempt to understand where they're coming from. You're not assuming you understand and you're not ignoring them. You're making the effort.Second, the fact that it's phrased as a question? Chef's kiss. There's emotional power in asking permission like this, and it likely gives you leeway as you articulate your understanding.

4. "Can I see if I understand?"

Finally, it's powerful because if you're asking to understand, you're not saying things that are less effective at building rapport; for example, summarily assuming "Look, I know how you feel."Whether we're talking about people's deep convictions, or their experiences -- or even the details of a supply they need to purchase, or driving directions -- everyone wants to be understood. But, most people also understand how difficult it is to do that, if you truly mean it.Anyway, ask the question like this, and then articulate what you think you understand as a test. You'll be amazed at the results.

Quick background on this one. People with high emotional intelligence understand that if you want someone to agree with you, or to choose the course of action you want them to follow, it makes sense to make it easy for them to do so.

5. "I make this mistake all the time ..."

It sounds basic, but this is the exact opposite of the way many people try to persuade others to do things: basically by brute force. Just imagine the emotional reaction you'd have to someone saying each of the following two things to you, and comparatively how likely you'd be to go along:<ul><li>Example no. 1: "I can't believe you were so foolish as to make this mistake! You need to fix it right now!"</li><li>Example no. 2: "I make this mistake all the time; it's so easy to miss. I wonder if you'd check and see if you might have done something similar."</li></ul>

See what I mean? Granted, "I make this mistake" is a bit of a placeholder phrase on this list; the point is to use your words to create emotional safety valves that make it easier for people to shed negative emotions in any situation, and simply act in your interest.Starting out by stating that you often make the very mistake you're about to discuss suggests that there's not an issue of moral failing or superiority here (warning: bad emotions!). You're just looking for answers.

If there's a person on this beautiful planet of ours who isn't flattered when asked to give their advice, I haven't met them. So, almost no matter what else you follow this question with, people with high emotional intelligence know that it's geared to trigger a warm response.But, there's actually a centuries-old technique attached to this, in that people are also hard-wired to want to be able to help others -- or at the very least, to know that they could help others if they wanted to. (Ben Franklin wrote about this phenomenon in the 1770s.)

6. "Can I ask for some advice?"

Bottom line, the request suggests that others have or know something you don't. Emotionally intelligent people know that increases pride, and interest, and maybe willingness to cooperate.<ul><li> (Bonus level on this one, the next time you see the same person? "I took your suggestion to ...")</li></ul>

We'll end with a phrase that's truly next-level, because it probably presages something negative, but it works anyway. In short, these six words can only be taken as a compliment, but they're very likely to be followed by something more difficult:<ul><li>"I expect a lot from you, but this time you came up short."</li><li>"I expect a lot from you, and that's why I'm so disappointed."</li><li>"I want you here because you're amazing, and I need to know I can rely on you."</li></ul>

7. "I expect a lot from you ..."

On Dax Shepherd's Armchair Expert podcast, Bill Gates once explained how this kind of approach was key to his leadership style at Microsoft. Actually, Gates used a slightly different phrase: "The reason you're here is because you're amazing."But, as you might expect, it was often followed with something like, "But, you're not meeting expectations at the moment." These kinds of phrases are designed to leverage other people's pride and even guilt, to get them to perform.

Actually, this is a great example to leave things on, because it illustrates how practicing emotional intelligence doesn't always mean being nice to people. That can be a great side-effect, but it's not the ultimate goal.

“There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning are all linked.”-Eric Jensen

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Whether fast or slow, progress is still progress. Do not allow a bad episode thay happened today to ruin your day!

When we love someone, we tend to ignore their fault & when we hate someone, we tend to overflow the good in them.

Seek that company where your energy is reciprocated, celebrated and appreciated.

Stay Strong, Your story is not over.

Be happy with what you have, while workings for what you want.

Some of life's best lessons are learnt during our worst times....

There's always some truth behind " Just kidding", knowledge behind " I don't know", emotion behind " I don't care", & pain behind " It's Okay."

Sometimes courage means holding on,sometimes courage means letting go.

Strength doesn't come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming from the things you once couldn't.

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The 7 habits of highly effective people is recognised as one of the most influential books ever written. In this seminal work, Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centred approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty and human dignity -- principles that give us the security to adapt to change, and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates. The 7 Habits have become so famous because they work. From Habit 1: Be Proactive and Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind, millions of People have worked their way through the 7 and found in them a key to transforming their lives. This book has been the key to the success of legions of business leaders and individuals the world over.

Stephen R. Covey is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Stephen R. Covey has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Stephen R. Covey's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Be Impeccable With Your Word.  

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Take Anything Personally.  

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Don't Make Assumptions.  

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret

Always Do Your Best.  

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The Four Agreements sound simple, even simplistic. But try keeping just one for an entire day!

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The Four Agreements sound simple, even simplistic. But try keeping just one for an entire day!

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In The Four Agreements, bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. •  A New York Times bestseller for over a decade •  Translated into 50 languages worldwide   “This book by don Miguel Ruiz, simple yet so powerful, has made a tremendous difference in how I think and act in every encounter.” — Oprah Winfrey “Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success “An inspiring book with many great lessons.” — Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic “In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distills essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.” — Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

Don Miguel Ruiz is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Don Miguel Ruiz has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Don Miguel Ruiz's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Your Money Or Your Life is the ultimate guide to financial freedom, as it explores nine effective ways to stop living paycheck to paycheck, get out of debt, earn enough money to make more than just a living, and start living your life worry free from a financial point of view.They say that money is the root of all evil, yet the lack of it doesn’t seem to make us happy either. In fact, the lack of it makes us crave it even more. We put time and effort until we reach that state where we’re finally free. However, some waste a lifetime in this trap, without ever achieving their goal.

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Living debt-free is what most of us aspire. Having more sources of income and being able to celebrate the important moments in life. With more money, we can take care of our dear ones. All of these are the goals for those who weren’t born with a silver spoon. However, too many of us fail at fulfilling them because the financial system is wicked and we haven’t yet found the formula for success, or have we?Your Money or Your Life teaches you how to improve your relationship with money and achieve financial freedom, which means having enough to live a meaningful life and not stress about money.

<ul><li>Financial independence comes with knowing your net worth, your current earnings, and your past expenses.</li><li>Budgeting and evaluating subcategories in your income and expenses sheet will help you assess much more than just money.</li><li>Invest your hard-earned money so that they don’t depreciate in time. </li></ul>If you‘re ready to transform your relationship with money, keep on reading, as we’ll explore each lesson in detail below!

Here are my three favorite lessons from the book:

Any good plan has a foundation or a starting point. If you want to improve your relationship with money, you’ll first have to find out how much of it you’re spending. Start by tracking all your past income and summing it up. Use old resumes, paychecks, or even information from the Social Security Administration.

Lesson 1: The first step towards financial independence is to calculate your net worth, your expenses, and your earnings to the 

Sum it up, and make sure to include cash gifts and other income received in your life. Now, take a look at how much you currently have. Include cash, money in the bank, stocks or bonds at the current market value, and your fixed assets, like a car or a house. Liabilities like mortgage, car payments, and debts should be accounted for as well.

With budgeting comes a clearer record of your income and expenses. While it gets easier to track your expenditures, you get a fresh perspective on something bigger than that. Your life energy-to-satisfaction ratio. Let me explain!

Lesson 2: Build an evaluation system to assess if the life energy spent working is worth the satisfaction received

Essentially, when you’re trading your time to work and get paid, you’re giving away precious life energy. All of this will be in exchange for money that you use to buy necessities and pay for a life worth living. Now, if you put that down into numbers, you’ll see that you’re paid a certain hourly rate. But it takes time to prepare for work and money to buy work supplies, such as clothes or razors. Therefore your net income per hour may be much smaller than you thought.

To put that into perspective, ask yourself if what you’re working for has a good life energy-to-pay ratio, and if not, consider lowering the costs associated with eating out, for example. If you don’t feel like giving away 20 hours of your life to pay for restaurant dates, you’ll have to reconsider this habit. If you’re comfortable and it aligns with your value, reconsider other expense categories.

Studies suggest that people who focus heavily on money, positions, or conventional success are highly probable to suffer from depression and increased anxiety. Instead, invest your precious hours worked and your money into things that relate to yourself and make you happy.

One of the last parts of this book is about investing, which implies placing your money in assets such as bonds, stocks, or even real estate, to produce more income in the long run. So, where do you start? People often think about investing as something risky, but that’s just because they don’t know how to do it.

Lesson 3: Let your money make more money for you while you focus on other aspects of your life

Essentially, you’ll want to opt for the safest securities out there, especially if you’re new to the game. You don’t need a financial advisor, but you will need to decide how much you want to allocate each month. This allocation will be based on how much you’ll need in the long run. Also, it’s safe to assume that you need to put aside six months worth of expenses before you start.

Investing is risky in the short run, as your securities can drop in value and you’ll find yourself in need of that emergency fund. However, they can produce a lot of wealth in the long run, so you’ll want to play that game by opting for treasury bonds, exchange traded funds, and when you start to understand the game a bit more, you can pick certain companies yourself, but only with a small percentage of your investing funds.

Your Money or Your Life explores the idea of money from a broader perspective, starting with the importance of calculating your net worth, all the way to investing your spare funds. The book will help you budget better. Learn the basic principles of investing, start an emergency fund, calculate your real pay and many more! Reading this book is a must for anyone looking to reach financial freedom and get serious about their money status.

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The 35-year-old person who wants to start being more money-conscious and save for retirement. The 23-year-old graduate who has a great interest in finance and investment opportunities. Or the 28-year-old who wants to take charge of their financials to live a more meaningful life.

Who would I recommend the Your Money Or Your Life to?

“If you live for having it all, what you have is never enough.”-Vicki Robin

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stop doing ‘fake work’ and start doing the ‘real work’. To be able to achieve it . You can follow this simple steps

Break The Procrastination Cycle 

When you feel averse to a specific task, literally anything else will feel really tempting (taking out the bins, writing an email to your friend, cooking a 3-course meal). So, ruthlessly prioritise the exact task you’re putting off. The longer you let it wait, the more you’ll associate that task with stress and failure... making it even harder to start.

Make It Your Top Priority

Choose a block of time (sooner rather than later) to do the work, and put it in your calendar. This won’t automatically get you to do the thing. But it'll protect your time, and take away the “I just don’t have enough time” excuse. Bonus point if you set up a notification for 30 minutes before the time.

📅 Put It In Your Calendar

The startup world has this concept of ‘minimum viable product’. What’s the most basic (yet functional) version of your product that you can create and test out? This lets you get real-world feedback faster, and stop being a perfectionist (it’s just a crappy first draft after all). You also get momentum from actually doing something tangible.

🏗 Take The MVP Approach

The MVP method is incredibly helpful for overcoming procrastination. Aim to do the most basic version of the task you’re procrastinating on

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This all boils down to one piece of advice: take the most direct route to your goal. Sure you'll mistakes. But that'll accelerate your progress more than just tweaking your master plan and making no mistakes at all.

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In a world where it easy to procastinate. This interesting stuff of Ali abdaal is very helpful 

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Believe In Yourself Always!

We all have moments in our lives where we doubt ourselves. Maybe it’s when we’re trying something new or when we’re facing a challenge. Maybe it’s when we’re comparing ourselves to others.Whatever the reason, doubt can be a powerful force. It can hold us back from taking risks or pursuing our dreams. It can make us feel small and unworthy.But here’s the thing: doubt is only as powerful as we allow it to be. We can choose to believe in ourselves, even when we’re doubting.

Believing Ourselves Is Important 

Believing in ourselves is important for several reasons:1. It helps us stay motivated. We’re more likely to keep going even when things get tough. We’re more likely to push through the doubt and overcome the challenges.2. It helps us stay positive. When we have positive beliefs about ourselves, we’re able to see the positives in our lives also, even when things are tough. We can notice then the silver lining in every situation.

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3. When we believe we’re worthy of good things, we’re ready to attract them into our lives. We’re easily able to find people who believe in us and who are supportive of our dreams.4. It helps us achieve our goals. When we have strong beliefs about our ability to achieve our goals, we’re more likely to actually achieve them. Then we can take the necessary actions and put in the hard work required to reach our goals.

5. When we believe in ourselves, we’re can feel good about who we are as we are, even when things are tough. We’re in a position to appreciate our accomplishments and find joy in the journey, even when it’s difficult.

So, why is it important to believe in ourselves? Because belief is a powerful force. It can help us stay motivated, positive, and focused on our goals. It can help us attract positive people and experiences into our lives. And it can help us feel happier.When we believe in ourselves, we’re more likely to achieve our dreams. So, believe in yourself, even when you’re doubting yourself. It’s the first step to achieving your goals.

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It's time to belive in yourself more than others!

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Record tasks to do throughout the day to increase productivity and improve mental health.Teach your children how to write a to-do list to help them prioritize their day and to feel a sense of accomplishment when they complete a task.

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Technology addiction can lead to anxiety, depression, and a host of other mental and physical problems.To ensure your kids don't become obsessed, teach them to use technology productively. Monitor what they're looking at and how long.Download educational apps and use them as a tool rather than a form of environment.

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Unfortunately, some children don't get nearly enough exercise as they should. As a parent, it's your responsibility to teach your kids to prioritize exercise so they can stay healthy.Take advantage of after-school programs. Integrate exercise into your children's day to day

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The best time to teach children household chores is when they are young. Show them how to do them productively through example.After teaching them, go ahead and assign them their own household choresRemember that you want the task to complement your child's age

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Provide a safe place for your children to express themselves when they're upset.Praise your children when they positively deal with their emotions. This helps your kids become more comfortable and confident with opening up. Remember, the goal is to teach your kids how to calm down rather than letting their emotions overwhelm them.

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Use a game or reward system to encourage productivity.The more fun you make being productive, the more likely your children are to pay attention.For children to become successful in adulthood, they need to learn how to be productive. As a parent, it's your responsibility to teach your kids these vital skills

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Productivity is key to being successful. A productive person knows how to manage their time and complete tasks in a timely and effective manner. With that said, being productive is a skill most people aren't born with; it's something they have to learn. That's where you, as a parent, come in.

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As Arianna Huffington wrote : “Nothing kills creativity faster than burnout."Creativity depends on an openness to new ideas, freedom to explore, and finding purpose in your work. But all those qualities disappear when you’re burnt out.“As a metaphor for the draining of energy, burnout refers to the smothering of a fire or the extinguishing of a candle. It implies that once a fire was burning, but the fire cannot continue burning brightly unless there are sufficient resources that keep being replenished.” - Wilmar Schaufeli, Psychologist

Why (and how) burnout kills your creativity

Just because you’re facing creative burnout doesn’t mean your work expectations change.As Schaufeli continues:“Over time, employees experiencing burnout lose the capacity to provide the intense contributions that make an impact. If they continue working, the result is more like smouldering–uneventful and inconsequential–than burning. From their own perspective or that of others, they accomplish less."This is especially disastrous for people whose jobs are focused on creativity and who aren’t able to draw a line between work and “everything else.”

Burnout leads you to achieve less

The cycle of burnout is especially bad for people who need to be more creative at work . Your ideas were what made people pile more and more work on you in the first place. And it’s easy to fall back into those patterns the second you feel ready to return to work.Coming back from burnout and rebuilding your creative muscle is as much about understanding and setting limitations as it is getting that spark back.

Ways to come back from creative burnout

Burnout occurs when job demands consistently outweigh the resources available.In other words, are you trying to squeeze too much out of the limited time/energy/motivation you have? If so, the first thing you need to do is to set proper limits.While this might sound like a scary proposition for your post-burnout brain (that’s so used to taking on everything) limitations can be creatively empowering. Research has found , when people face scarcity in resources “they give themselves the freedom to use resources in less conventional ways – because they have to.”

Understand your limitations (and take advantage of them)

So what resources can you limit? While there are many options, the most powerful resource is your time.Time management and focus are some of the most important creativity tools we wield. When you limit your time spent on specific tasks, you give yourself permission to make choices. Instead of fighting perfectionism , you learn to stop when things are good enough.

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Rescuing your time can help you with this in a number of ways.First, you can set a daily goal for total time worked and get an alert when you go over. For example, setting goals for total device time, time spent on distracting apps, and mobile time so you know when you're getting off track.Next, you can set daily goals for your time in specific tasks — like writing, designing, or coding — and get alerts when you’ve gone over.

Rescue Time

When your mental resources are limited, you need to make sure they’re going to the right tasks.Burnout decimates your motivation, making working on projects you’re uninterested in an agonizing process. Dr. Christina Maslach, one of the pioneers of occupational burnout research writes:“People experiencing burnout are not simply exhausted or overwhelmed by their workload. They also have lost a psychological connection with their work, which has implications for their motivation and identity.”

Say no to things that suck the creativity out of you

To rebuild your creative confidence post-burnout, you need to rebuild that identity in your work. That means reigniting your spark with creative tasks.As Emily Haines, lead singer of the band Metric writes:“The only time that I feel things start to spin out is when I buy into the whole ‘work really hard and then just don’t work at all’ idea…The whole point of being an artist is that it can provide a fluid life.”Learning how to say no isn’t easy (in work and in life). But it’s a key step if you want to move past creative burnout.

Creative post-burnout

Sometimes you need to tackle a problem head-on. With creative burnout, it’s often better to take a side-on approach.While your first impulse will most likely be to dive back into what you’re used to, that can quickly backfire. It’s easy to overstretch your limits when you go back into old daily routines . Instead, look for a creative task with lower stakes to help ease you back into things.

Find a completely unrelated creative outlet

Unrelated creative tasks can help inspire you, but there are also other ways to fill your “creative well.” The architect and designer Emily Fischer writes:“You have to feed yourself creatively. You have to give yourself that creative fuel. I hate using the term ‘self-care’ but I think that’s a part of it.”How you give yourself self-care is up to you. It could mean going to bed an hour earlier. Making time for a walk in nature. Going to an art show. Or even just doing something fun.

Give yourself permission to fill your creative well

One of the hardest parts of bouncing back from creative burnout is dealing with the nagging voice inside your head.The self-critic is something we all face. At times it can get so loud that it drowns out our ability to push through.There’s a simple tool you can use to silence your inner critic: deadlines. We’re talking about short, yet strict deadlines. Let’s say you need to write a chapter of a book. Instead of sitting down and banging your head against your screen for hours on end, break it up into tiny increments and set tight deadlines.

Give yourself strict, yet realistic deadlines

Burnout is devastating for anyone. But it can be especially hard on those whose jobs depend on being creative and innovative every single day.

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