Marketing is the story insiders tell outsiders to influence them in some way.Lore is the story insiders tell themselves to manage their own psyches.Lore is all the competing mental models for effective action going around, under conditions of imperfect knowledge. Lore is some mix of received wisdom you opt-in (or buy in) to, lazy imitation, and some original thought and ideation. It evolves as we collectively learn more about something, but the relationship between knowledge and lore is anything but straightforward.

Lore vs Marketing

Lore is something that is becoming more and more important as we move towards community in product building. 

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Dreams are often the subject of novels and poetry.They are key to a character’s deeper promptings, the means by which an author sets a tone or creates a theme underlying his or her fiction, or expresses an intangible poetic concept. Take a peek at how dreams appear in literature….

Dreams & Literature

“When Gregor Samsa woke up one morning from unsettling dreams, he found himself changed in his bed into a monstrous vermin. He was lying on his back as hard as armor plate, and when he lifted his head a little, he saw his vaulted brown belly, sectioned by arch-shaped ribs, to whose dome the cover, about to slide off completely, could barely cling. His many legs pitiifully thin compared with the size of the rest of him, were waving helplessly before his eyes. “What’s happened to me?” he thought. IT WAS NO DREAM.” Franz Kafka, Metamorphosis.

Frank Kafka

“I dreamed I had a child, and even in the dream I saw it was my life, and it was an idiot, and I ran away. But it always crept on to my lap again, clutched at my clothes. Until I thought, if I could kiss it, whatever in it is my own, perhaps I could sleep. And I bent to its broken face, and it was horrible….but I kissed it. I think one must finally take one’s life in one’s arms. Arthur Miller, After the Fall.

Arthur Miller

“You said ‘They’re harmless dreamers and they’re loved by the people.’ ‘What,’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about a dreamer, and what’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about the love of the people? Revolution only needs good dreamers who remember their dreams.’ "Camino Real". Tennessee Williams

Tennessee Williams

“A man that is born falls into a dream like a man who falls into the sea. If he tries to climb out into the air as inexperienced people endeavor to do, he drowns.”Joseph Conrad (1857-1924), Lord Jim.

Joseph Conrad

“A beautiful girl once told me of a recurring nightmare in which she lay in the center of a large dark room and felt her face expand until it filled the whole room, becoming a formless mass while her eyes ran in bilious jelly up the chimney.” Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man, 1952.

Ralph Ellison

Our life is two-fold: Sleep hath it’s own world /A boundary between the things misnamed / Death and existence: Sleep hath its own world / And a Wide realm of wild reality. / And dreams in their development have breath, / And tears, and tortures, and the touch of joy; / They leave a weight upon our waking thoughts, / They take a weight from off our waking toils, / They do divide our being; they become / A portion of ourselves as of time, / And look like heralds of eternity; / They pass like spirits of the past, — they speak /------>

Lord Byron

------> Like Sybils of the future; they have power / the tyranny of pleasure and of pain; / They make us what we were not what they will, / And shake us with the vision that’s gone by, / The dread of vanish’d shadows Are they so? / Is not the past all shadow? — What are they? / Creations of the mind? The mind can make / Substance, and people planets of its own / With beings brighter than have been, and give | A breath to forms which can outlive all flesh.” Lord Byron, from The Dream, 1816

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“I’ll dreamt that I’ll dweath mid warblers’ walls when throstles and choughs to my sigh hiehied”. James Joyce, Finnegan’s Wake, 1939

James Joyce

“While hollering and breathing so long so deep / Memory came on and dove down to my sleep / Dreaming this memory of space all around / Silence becomes breath becomes thought becomes sound.” John Hardee, 1997

John Hardee

“Many’s the long night I’ve dreamed of cheese toasted, mostly.”Robert Louis Stevenson, Treasure Island, 1883.

Robert Louis Stevenson

“A morning later, Nancy described her first dream, the first remembered dream of her life. She and Judy Thorne were on a screened porch, catching ladybugs. Judy caught one with one spot on its back and showed it to Nancy. Nancy caught one with two spots and showed it to Judy. Then Judy caught one with three spots and Nancy one with four. Because (the child explained) the dots showed how old the ladybugs were. She told this dream to her mother, who had her repeat it to her father at breakfast ---->

John Updike

-----> Piet was moved, beholding his daughter launched intoanother dimension of life. Like school. He was touched by her tiny stock of imagery the screened porch (neither they nor the Thornes had one; who?), the ladybugs (with turtles the most toylike of creatures), the mysterious power of numbers, that generates space and time. Piet saw down a long amplifying corridor of her dreams, and wanted to hear her tell them, to grow older with her, to shelter her forever.”John Updike, Couples, 1968.

John Updike (2)

“Hold your tongue!’ said the Queen, turning purple. ‘I won’t!’ said Alice. ‘Off with her head!’ the Queen shouted at the top of her voice. Nobody moved. ‘Who cares for you?’ said Alice (she had grown to her full size by this time). ‘You’re nothing but a pack of cards!’ At this the whole pack rose up into the air, and came flying down upon her; she gave a little scream, half of fright and half of anger, and tired to beat them off, and found herself----->

Lewis Carroll

-----> lying on the bank, with her head in the lap of her sister, who was gently brushing away some dead leaves that had fluttered down from the trees upon her face. ‘Wake up, Alice dear!’ said her sister. ‘Why, what a long sleep you’ve had!’ So Alice got up and ran off, thinking while she ran, as well she might, what a wonderful dream it had been. Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventure in Wonderland, 1865

Lewis Carroll (2)

“Last night I dreamt I went to Manderley again. It seemed to me I stood by the iron gate leading to the drive, and for a while I could not enter for the way was barred to me. There was a padlock and a chain upon the gate. I called in my dream to the lodge-keeper, and had no answer, and peering closer through the rusted spokes of the gate I saw that the lodge was uninhabited. No smoke came from the chimney, and the little lattice windows gaped forlorn.---->

Daphne Du Maurier

----->Then, like all dreamers, I was possessed of a sudden with supernatural powers and passed like a spirit through the barrier before me. The drive wound away in front of me, twisting and turning as it had always done, but as I advanced I was aware that a change had come upon it; it was narrow and unkempt, not the drive that we had known. At first I was puzzled and did not understand, and it was only when I bent my head to avoid the low swinging branch of a tree that I realized what had happened.----->

Daphne Du Maurier (2)

----->Nature had come into her own again, and, little by little, in her stealthy, insidious way, had encroached upon the drive with long, tenacious fingers. The woods, always a menace even in the past, had triumphed in the end. They crowded, dark and uncontrolled, to the orders of the drive. The beeches with white, naked limbs leant close to one another, their branches intermingled in a strange embrace, making a vault above my head like the archway of a church.---->

Daphne Du Maurier (3)

------> And there were other trees as well, trees that I did not recognize, squat oaks and tortured elms that straggled cheek by jowl with the beeches, and had thrust themselves out of the quiet earth, along with monster shrubs and plants, none of which I remembered surely the miles had multiplied, even as the trees had done, and this path led but to a labyrinth, some choked wilderness, and not to the house at all.----->

Daphne Du Maurier (4)

-----> I came upon it suddenly There was Manderley secretive and silent as it had always been, the grey stone shining in the moonlight of my dream, the mullioned windows reflecting the green lawns and the terrace. Time could not wreck the perfect symmetry of those walls nor the site itself, a jewel in the hollow of a hand.” Daphne du Maurier, Rebecca, 1938.

Daphne Du Maurier (5)

“To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there’s the rub: For in that sleep of death what dreams may come, When we have shuffled off this mortal coil” Shakespeare, Hamlet

Shakespeare

‘I sometimes dream of devils. It’s night, I’m in my room, and suddenly there are devils everywhere. In all the corners and under the table, and they open doors, and behind the doors there are crowds of them, and they all want to come in and seize me. And they are already coming near and taking hold of me, But suddenly I cross myself and they draw back, they are afraid, only they don’t go away, but stand near the door and in the corners, waiting.------>

Fyodor Dostoevsky

------>And then I’m suddenly overcome by a desire to begin cursing God in a loud voice, and I begin cursing him and they all rush at me again in a crowd, they’re so pleased, and they’re again about to lay hands on me and I cross myself again and they draw back at once. It’s great fun. Oh, it takes my breath away.” Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov, 1880.

Fyodor Dostoevsky (2)

“Captain Flume slept like a log most nights and merely DREAMED he was awake. So convincing were these dreams of lying awake that he awoke from them each morning in complete exhaustion and fell right back to sleep.” Joseph Heller, Catch-22, 1961.

Joseph Heller

“Winston had woken up with his eyes full of tears. Julia rolled sleepily against him, murmuring something that might have been “What’s the matter?” “I dreamt–” he began, and stopped short. It was too complex to be put into words. There was the dream itself, and there was a memory connected with it that had swum into his mind in the few seconds after waking. He lay back with his eyes shut, still sodden in the atmosphere of the dream.---->

George Orwell

-----> It was a vast, luminous dream in which his whole life seemed to stretch out before him like a landscape on a summer evening after rain. It had all occured inside the glass paperweight, but the surface of the glass was the dome of the sky, and inside the dome everything was flooded with clear soft light in which one could see into interminable distances…” George Orwell, 1984.

George Orwell (2)

“All dreams of the soul/End in a beautiful man’s or woman’s body.” W.B. Yeats, The Phases of the Moon, 1919.

W.B. Yeats

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Un'idea di vita.: Dreams in literature

It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.

Our obsession with others’ opinions of us likely stems from the brain’s tribal aged instincts— stuck in a point of evolution when disapproval could have meant abandonment, and abandonment could mean death.

Age Of The Individual 

Being liked by everyone or becoming popular on social media— these are “preferred indifferents.” They’d be nice to experience, but the absence of these experiences does not hinder our true ability to achieve happiness, at all.

Preferred Indifferent

What is to be prized? An audience clapping? No. No more than the clacking of their tongues. Which is all that public praise amounts to – a clacking of tongues.

When another blames you or hates you, or when men say anything injurious about you, approach their poor souls, penetrate within, and see what kind of men they are. You will discover that there is no reason to be concerned that these men have this or that opinion about you.

Stoic emperor Marcus Aurelius—despite being one of the most talked-about men in history—managed not to care what others may have thought of him.

The ancient Stoics were ahead of time when it comes to the art of not caring about how others perceived them. How did the manage to not care about opnions?

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Stop Caring What People Think 📽️ - Einzelgänger

The only perception we have control over is our own. How we perceive our world influences our attitude, which in turn affects what we attract. If we perceive a world of abundance, our actions and attitude attract abundance. If we perceive our life as lacking what we need, we worry more about conserving what we have rather than attaining those things we want and need. Our brains automatically process what we worry about as a threat. This Then changes our perception and even our body chemistry.

Perception

Once Mahatma Gandhi said, "It's the action, not the fruit of the action, that's important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there will be any fruit. But that doesn't mean you stop doing the right thing. You never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result."We may be equipped with tons of knowledge. We may have the best of skills, the most positive of attitudes and the strongest of beliefs. But if we wait for the right time and just keep planning, nothing is going to come out of it.

Stop Waiting For The Right Time

Our comfort zone is a dangerous place. It prevents us from improving, it stops us from achieving all the things we are capable of achieving and it makes us miserable. So, if we decide to bring about a change in our life, we need to shake ourselves out of our comfort zone.And this starts by asking ourselves some tough questions, questions that we have been refusing to acknowledge. We need to ask them to ourselves and we need to answer them also to ourselves. So, why do we resist? We resist because it makes us uncomfortable.

Comfort Zone: A Dangerous Place

There could be loads of reasons that we may not achieve what we wish to. We fail. We consider this a setback. Setbacks set us back. The biggest problem with a setback is that it requires more than the previous level of motivation to try again. We tried with a certain level of motivation, but could not succeed. Next time, it requires more self-convincing, more motivation, more efforts, more self-limiting beliefs to unshackle, more doubts and questions to overcome, more emotions to work on...to be able to get back on to our journey of life.

Setbacks

Action is the basis of all success. Every action may not give success but at the same time, no success is possible without action.

Any change that we desire requires constant learning and the skillful application of what we learn, to adjust our goals, strategies, and behaviors. But the most important learning we need to do involves learning from our own experience. This takes a whole different set of skills than those involved in absorbing what other people can tell us. The ancient Greeks had a word for this– praxis.Praxis is a four-stage process of:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Observing our actions and their effects</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Analyzing what we observe</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Strategizing an action plan</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Taking action</li></ul>

Praxis

Awareness is the state of being conscious of something. More specifically, is the ability to directly know and perceive, to feel, or to be cognizant of events. The concept is often synonymous with consciousness. Awareness of our inner patterns of perception and reaction is the first conscious step towards transformation.Transformation does not lie in changing the past or controlling our environment. It lies within. What happens to us is not important. What happens in us is important.

Awareness & Transformation

Letting go is difficult. We get stuck in the same thought patterns over and over. We cling to and replay the past again and again in our minds. The desperate attempt to hold on to things limits our capability to experience happiness and joy in the present moment. Life is all about continuous change. No matter how hard we try to hold on to things, we will sooner or later be confronted with changes, whether we like it or not. The earlier we cease out attempts to own and control the environment we are living in, the faster we open up ourselves to new possibilities.

Letting Go

Through self-observation, mindfulness automatically streams into our life. The moment we realize we are not being mindful– we are mindful! We are now watching the mind instead of being swept off in its current. Any time we watch thoughts, we are being mindful. The key is– Don't believe your thoughts. Don't take them all seriously. Watch them, question them. In this way, thoughts and conditioned, reactive ways of living and thinking lose their hold over us. We no longer have to play them out.

Mindfulness: Watch The Mind

The weight that comes with the feeling of failure is not caused by the reality of the failure itself, but by the personal perception of that failure and what that means to us.

I Wanna Grow Up Once Again is a diverse collection of thoughtful and also thought provoking insights that deeply connects us with our inner self.

Why do I always feel that I am not good enough? Why do I always feel like a failure? What is holding me back? I don’t know how to try again. Why do I land up with the same old default behaviors? Do we not feel at some point of time in our life … I wanna grow up … once again? The book tries to connect us to certain deeper parts of us with thought-provoking issues like: • Why we don’t do what we want to do? • Why do we hold on? Why do we not let go!? • We all make efforts, but how do we handle setbacks and burnouts? • How to change our perceptions and break our patterns? It is an inward journey into how we have lived our life, till now and how we choose to live from now! “What happens in us is more important than what happens to us!”

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Why do I always feel that I am not good enough? Why do I always feel like a failure? What is holding me back? I don’t know how to try again. Why do I land up with the same old default behaviors? Do we not feel at some point of time in our life … I wanna grow up … once again? The book tries to connect us to certain deeper parts of us with thought-provoking issues like: • Why we don’t do what we want to do? • Why do we hold on? Why do we not let go!? • We all make efforts, but how do we handle setbacks and burnouts? • How to change our perceptions and break our patterns? It is an inward journey into how we have lived our life, till now and how we choose to live from now! “What happens in us is more important than what happens to us!”

Dr. Sumit Goel

I Wanna Grow Up Once Again

You can change your mindset and you can change your behavior that is the two most important things that require changing we are going to discuss mindset

Two Main Ways To Get Better At Speaking 

Public speaking doesn’t mean that we aren’t nurvous rather it means that what we’re about to do is important

#Anxiety And Nurvousness Are Not Signs On Troubles

When you get the butterflies in your stomach it reminds you that what you are about to say is important to you

Your Only Half As Nurvous As You Think The Other Is Excitement 

Unless you do something to show your nurvousness people don’t see your nurvousness as you feel as Nurvous

You Do Not Look As Nurvous As You Feel 

You are only Nurvous about 60 seconds it doesn’t last that long

The Spike Of Nurvousness Last 60 Seconds

They are not a barrier to doing an outstanding job you can overcome it. Being scared is not a barrier

Accept That Anxiety And Nurvousness Are Not A Barrier 

No one is looking for your downside everyone wants you to do well. 90% of listeners are sympathetic

Assume That Everyone Is Rooting For You 

Do you feel anxious when speaking or meeting someone new? Here are 6 Mindset tips to deal with social anxiety 

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Public Speaking Anxiety Tips: 6 Mindset Tips

While it’s okay to be cautious about threats in your surroundings, it’s equally important to look at the rewards of proceding if you wish to protect your mental health.Being overly cautious will lead you to associate cues in your surroundings with potential sources of harm rather than pleasure, also known as “attention bias”.

Don’t let yourself be too consumed by anxiety.

If you experience high attention bias in your daily life, you’d look suspiciously at the faces and movements of people who approach you, rather than, for example, the cuddly stuffed animals on the rack in the gift shop.

The Effects of Attention Bias

Having previous experiences in common environments which could cause distress is perfectly normal, and a valid reason to develop attention bias. At the same time, though, is it possible to let down your guard just a little in terms of your level of worry? If you try this in stages, you might be surprised at just how much better you feel.

Attention bias is normal.

New research shows how to tell whether you're just too suspicious.

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9 Signs You May Be Too Tuned in to Threat

The number one way to get a good conversation with no lulls or cringe moments is to set an intention on why you are speaking with the person

#1 Set Intention 

Start the conversation on the right foot you can do that by walking up to them with an open body language show you want to communicate with them and you are excited. Your smile is your opening line

Start The Conversation On The Right Foot 

The first words when entering a conversation should be hey how are you. Something simple and easy to bounce off of

First Words When Entering A Conversation  

Look for the sparks in your conversation the topics that make them go Oh! And raise there eyebrows

Look For Conversation Sparks 

<ol><li>Mention a bridge a future time for example: “Hey what are you doing this weekend” would be an excellent example</li><li>then say we’ll it was great speaking with you good luck on that whatever it was</li></ol>

To End A Conversation 

Communication is very important in your career and your success 

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How to Talk to Anyone with Ease and Confidence

the following article will shed light on what solving methods are useful and which behavior will help to achieve them

Introduction

• Less effectiveare forced solving or withdrawed solving - (command based) negotiating doesnt solves any conflict, it hardens the confrontation	• Collaborationcan be effective when theres no one forced or withdrawed	• Smoothingis not clearly less or more effective, played down differences can block solution finding for a temporary ease of the situation. on the other side it can be used to connect with the conflict counterpart emotionally. if one makes sure to trigger only positive emotions, it can possibly lead to a compromise.

Methods

Speed & Volume<ol><li>Slow Speed seems dumber while Fast Speed implicates not knowing something well</li><li>Low Volume sounds as you are unsure and High Volume can possibly provoke someone (dominant)</li></ol>

Voice

<ol><li>Try to use positive words, every word will have a little emotional impact that influences how competent you seem.</li><li>Replace forcing elements with less agressive ones. "We must" - "We should"</li><li>Show your counterpart that you understood his feelings and offer discussion on that part. "What do you think could help to be more relaxing instead of creating anger?"</li><li>Critical Points in your discussion can get softer when you use unspecific descriptions of ones identity - "Most people would find it difficult that...."</li></ol>

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Effective Conflict Behaviour

When— maybe after a pleasant stretch of self-compassion & confidence— we’ve realized our own faults & failures, the immediate response may be similarly directed doubts. Maybe we’re just generally wrong, overall inexcusable, or wholly idiotic. Worst of all, maybe we’re just a bad person.”

Mistake? Panic! 

But what if we instead told ourselves a different story? A small dose of self-pity can be sobering, considering life is a series of events that we’ve—for the most part— not chosen ourselves. How could we have known any better? No one seems to have all the answers— certainly not us— & living the unblemished life in a world of chaos isn’t easy.

Reassuring Acceptance

We can either choose the self-story which demands, “How could you be so stupid, you pathetic wretch?” Or the one which reassures, “To err is human, but to cling to our shame is unnecessary.” Maybe this time we can try giving ourselves a break, instead of beating ourselves up.

Two Stories 

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