<ol><li>Practice act of kindness</li><li>Take small steps</li><li>Try relaxation methods</li><li>Identify specific situations that trigger anxiety</li><li>Accept and appreciate yourself</li><li>Practice Self-Care</li><li>Talk with a therapist</li></ol>

How to beat social anxiety

These tips will guide your way out of social anxiety. Take care and love yourself!

If you suffer with social anxiety, you can still rise above life's challenges. Here is a list of things to start doing now to make positive changes.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself.

We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life-daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual. When Man's Search for Meaning was first published in 1959, it was hailed by Carl Rogers as "one of the outstanding contributions to psychological thought in the last fifty years." Now, more than forty years and 4 million copies later, this tribute to hope in the face of unimaginable loss has emerged as a true classic. Man's Search for Meaning--at once a memoir, a self-help book, and a psychology manual-is the story of psychiatrist Viktor Frankl's struggle for survival during his three years in Auschwitz and other Nazi concentration camps. Yet rather than "a tale concerned with the great horrors," Frankl focuses in on the "hard fight for existence" waged by "the great army of unknown and unrecorded." Viktor Frankl's training as a psychiatrist allowed him a remarkable perspective on the psychology of survival. In these inspired pages, he asserts that the "the will to meaning" is the basic motivation for human life. This simple and yet profound statement became the basis of his psychological theory, logotherapy, and forever changed the way we understand our humanity in the face of suffering. As Nietzsche put it, "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how." Frankl's seminal work offers us all an avenue to greater meaning and purpose in our own lives-a way to transcend suffering and find significance in the act of living.

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A prominent Viennese psychiatrist before the war, Viktor Frankl was uniquely able to observe the way that he and other inmates coped with the experience of being in Auschwitz. He noticed that it was the men who comforted others and who gave away their last piece of bread who survived the longest - and who offered proof that everything can be taken away from us except the ability to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances. The sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision and not of camp influences alone. Only those who allowed their inner hold on their moral and spiritual selves to subside eventually fell victim to the camp's degenerating influence - while those who made a victory of those experiences turned them into an inner triumph. Frankl came to believe that man's deepest desire is to search for meaning and purpose. This outstanding work offers us all a way to transcend suffering and find significance in the art of living.

Viktor Emil Frankl M.D., Ph.D., was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. Frankl was the founder of logotherapy, which is a form of Existential Analysis, the "Third Viennese School" of psychotherapy.His book Man's Search for Meaning (first published under a different title in 1959: From Death-Camp to Existentialism. Originally published in 1946 as Ein Psycholog erlebt das Konzentrationslager) chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate and describes his psychotherapeutic method of finding meaning in all forms of existence, even the most sordid ones, and thus a reason to continue living. He was one of the key figures in existential therapy.

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Some people are naturally happy alone. But for others, being solo is a challenge. If you fall into the latter group, there are ways to become more comfortable with being alone (yes, even if you’re a hardcore extrovert).

Guide to Being Happy Alone

Avoid comparing yourself to others. ...Take a step back from social media. ...Take a phone break. ...Carve out time to let your mind wander. ...Take yourself on a date. ...Get physical. ...Spend time with nature. ...Lean into the perks of being alone.

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Practice self-kindness. In difficult moments, it's essential to practice self-kindness. ...Capitalize on the present moment. ...Connect in real life. ...Rethink how you spend your spare time. ...Do more things with people. ...Talk to strangers.

Ways To Overcome Loneliness

Reframe it. Casting a different light on what it means to be alone can sometimes make it easier to navigate feelings of loneliness. ... Fill your house with sound. ... Stay connected. ... Make the most of your interactions. ... Get outside. ... Talk about your feelings. ... Draw out your creative side. ... Consider a pet.

How do you stop feeling lonely when alone

Hello beautiful people let's overcome from loneliness together and love the new way we are going to live......

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to have tons of friends and a packed social calendar to be happy. But there's plenty to be happy about when you're alone, too.

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How to Be Happy Alone: 20 Ways to Be Your Own Best Friend

Those who have spent a long time applying without much success often become their own biggest obstacle. While each job application and interview offers a fresh opportunity, we often can’t help but carry with us feelings of rejection from previous experiences. The less confident you feel, the more self-doubt kicks in, the more challenging it becomes to put your best foot forward.
It’s important not to take rejection personally, as there are many reasons why a candidate might be overlooked.

Manage Your Mindset

Those who are feeling discouraged from a lengthy job search can help themselves by making a list of accomplishments, what can be called a “brag list.”The process of putting the list together will not only help candidates feel more confident but also help them recall accomplishments that they can include in applications or job interviews in the future. As you step into your next interview, especially if you feel discouraged or less confident from past results, whip out this list and just remind yourself why you deserve to be in that seat.

Make A Brag List

Those who have been out of the workforce for a prolonged period may feel tempted to respond to a large number of postings in hopes that they get a response. But this tactic, which is like throwing spaghetti against the wall to see what sticks, can ultimately serve to further discourage applicants who are struggling to find work. That is because they either don’t hear back, or they do hear back but the opportunity isn’t a good fit.

Don't Randomly Apply In Bulk

Job seeking can be an isolating experience, especially for those who have been at it for a while, and that sense of loneliness can make it even harder to find success.If people know what you’re looking for, or what you’re interested in or what you’re trying to figure out, there’s a greater chance that they might know of somebody or see something that can help you.

Don't Do It Alone

Job seekers who struggle to land a position often feel helplessly stuck in neutral, but there’s a lot they can do to drive their job search forward. Rather than focusing on the ultimate goal of landing a job, it’s important to establish a series of smaller and more manageable goals along the way.Job seekers should also reward themselves for taking these small steps and celebrate the little accomplishments that will help them reach the bigger goal.

Small Steps

Much of the job application process is out of the candidate’s control, but those who are really struggling to land their dream job are encouraged to take a hard look at their strategy and consider what mistakes they might be repeating.It can be how they talk about the old boss/company, something in the résumé or the interview style. They can:<ul><li>Reevaluate their résumé and application materials.</li><li>Ask for assistance from friends and family. Trying a few practice interviews with those who can provide honest feedback.</li><li> Do not talk negatively about a prior employer. </li></ul>

Reevaluate Your Strategy

There really are only a small group of people who can say for sure why you weren’t selected for a given job, and those are the evaluators themselves, which makes their feedback incredibly valuable.One can gently try asking: I had a wonderful time meeting you; sorry it didn’t work out. If I can ask, what would be one bit of advice you would give someone like me if they really wanted to get a job like the one I interviewed for?

Seek Honest Feedback From Interviewer After Rejection

Repeated rejection is discouraging, but it’s a natural part of job seeking. Here’s how to stay motivated until you find your next gig.


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Career

7 ways to stay motivated in the face of rejection on the job hunt

Once you begin the new job, information is going to come at you fast and furious, so the better prepared you are in advance, the easier it will be for you to handle the flood.
You should be preparing for your first day on the job even before you get there. If you’re new to a company, you should be reading up on it. Ask your new boss for some information if they don’t provide it. Find out as much as you can about what your responsibilities are going to be.

Start Before You Start

When you first arrive at a new job, there is a temptation to make a big splash right away. The pressure to have an impact can be particularly strong for people who are coming into a leadership role, but it is true for almost any role.
When you first get to an organization, really listen to people. What are their concerns? How do they talk about the work they are doing? What do they articulate as their priorities? The more you understand about what everyone else thinks is important, the better you will be at devoting your efforts to key tasks.

Listen More

No matter what role you take on, your initial focus should be on how you can help the people around you to achieve their goals.
People remember others who have helped them in the past. In addition, most people want to repay the members of their community who have done favors for them. Starting your time with a new team by helping others reinforces a favorable first impression and also generates a sense of support from people you can rely on when you need help in the future.

Be Useful

This service mindset is particularly valuable for people taking on supervisory roles. People who are leading others for the first time are often concerned about coming across as a strong leader. 
They may want to give orders to others in order to demonstrate that they can command a team. A leader who finds ways to help their team achieve their goals, however, can develop loyalty from the people who report to them, which pays significant dividends down the line.

The Service Mindset

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You don't need to sit still on a pillow to get many of the benefits of mindfulness, science shows.
Many people find other ways to quiet their brains, be in the present moment, and reduce their stress.

Meditation Can Seem Hard

Almost everyone secretly meditates, whether they realize it or not.
Most of us pursue some activity demanding absolute presence of mind: if not mountain climbing or sailing or bike racing (where a lapse of attention might mean death), then photography or singing or recreational cookery (where a lapse of attention means you'll screw things up).

We Already Meditate Without Knowing It

Some people simply just aren't a good fit for a traditional practice (particularly those with unresolved trauma). There are some alternatives that would work better.
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<li>Coloring. Those adult coloring books you see around actually have solid science behind them.</li>
<li>Drumming or playing a similar musical instrument.</li>
<li>Cloud gazing or spending time with nature.</li>
<li>Writing in the morning, whatever comes to your mind.</li>
<li>Mindful walking. Benefits of mindful walking include stress reduction and improved cognition.</li>
</ul>

Meditation Alternatives

You don't need to sit still on a pillow to get many of the benefits of mindfulness, science shows.

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Can't Manage to Meditate? Try These 5 Stress-Busting, Mind-Clearing Activities Instead

Present the company's key objectives for the next six months and ask your team members how their expertise and interests can help the company reach these goals. Without tying goals to the company's overall strategy, it can feel like employees are just doing something for the sake of doing something.
Managers should refrain from creating goals for employees. You can dictate the objective but not the goal. It's best if the employees come up with the goals themselves.

Show Employees How They Can Have An Impact

Encourage employees to talk about their personal goals, and help them see how working toward these goals can also support the company in achieving its objectives.During an end-of-year, one-on-one conversation, ask employees to consider how they can use a certain interest or a skill they're trying to develop to fill a gap on the team.Invite employees to talk about their unique skills, what they are good at and what is challenging to them, and then set goals that allow them to optimize the skills they have and develop new talents.

Find Common Ground Between Employee and Company Goals

Use experiences from 2021 to help employees consider what they could have done differently at work, and then develop goals to address those issues. Ask each employee, "If you were able to make changes, what would you have done differently?Helping employees set goals that will get them to collaborate with colleagues in other departments. This will give them the opportunity to learn something new, increase their visibility and help them form new relationships that have the potential to advance their careers.

Consider New Possibilities

The process of goal setting had gotten a negative slant because of the focus on documenting goals.Goal setting can also be termed as "expectation setting" to put more emphasis on the conversation and less focus on the process. Under this new concept, managers talk to employees about what is expected from them based on their role, job level and projects from three angles—what the firm expects, what the team expects and, finally, how the employee hopes to grow in the coming year.

Change The Name

Give employees time to reach their goals. Perhaps employees take a half-day every Thursday to work on their goals, whether that means taking online training, meeting with a mentor or thinking through a stretch project.
Work with employees to break their goals into bite-sized achievements that can be celebrated. Building in milestones is a win-win. If you don't achieve the entire goal, at least you hit a milestone and we're still miles ahead than we were before.

Help Employees Achieve Their Goals

Ask employees to think about how attaining that goal would improve their lives.For instance, perhaps they would become more confident, learn a new skill or earn a bonus. Help your employees to see the goal as not just an end, but as the beginning of something else that could be new and improved in their lives.

Show The Benefit Of Reaching The Goal

Too often, performance goals set at the start of the year become obsolete by midyear. Here are six ways managers can help employees set meaningful goals for 2022.

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Emotions are conceptsConsider your brain for a moment. It’s sitting there in your skull, receiving all sorts of data from your eyes, ears, nose, skin, and mouth. This data is informative, but also ambiguous. It has to be interpreted.For example, it might think:What is that rectangular source of light with changing patterns of color? A window!<ol><li>Emotions are not hard-wired</li><li>Emotions are predictions</li><li>Although emotions are generated from within, they don’t stop there. We use emotions to construct our social reality.</li><li> There are no universal emotions across nations.</li><li>Emotions are not reactions to the world </li></ol>

We Create our Own Emotions 

Our brain uses concepts of emotions to create social reality, ain't that amazing?  

This post now available in German. The Theory of Constructed Emotion offers a radical new take on what emotions are, where they come from, and how they

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How Emotions Are Made: The Theory of Constructed Emotion - Forte Labs

Before we dive into the art of high-impact goal setting, we need to first have a clear understanding of why we’re setting our goals in the first place. 
Defining the intention (i.e. the why) behind our goals is incredibly important because it creates a moment to ensure they’re aligned with our values and centered around our personal development.

Start With a Clear Intention

The Five Whys is a simple and effective technique for root cause analysis that was developed by famous Japanese inventor <a href="https://www.toyota-industries.com/company/history/toyoda_sakichi/">Sakichi Toyoda</a> and is <a href="https://www.isixsigma.com/tools-templates/cause-effect/determine-root-cause-5-whys/">frequently referenced in the Six Sigma curriculum</a>. The exercise involves defining a problem and then questioning it repeatedly in order to uncover what’s driving it at its core.Asking why five times provides the root cause of our goal or desire.

The Five Whys

With our “why” defined, we now have a solid foundation to establish “what” our goals will actually be.You can follow the SMART Method, an approach that’s commonly attributed to Peter Drucker’s Management by Objectives concept.Your goal should be:<ul><li>Specific (i.e. clear and unambiguous)</li><li>Measurable (i.e. quantifiable)</li><li>Achievable (i.e. realistic)</li><li>Relevant (i.e. makes sense given your interests, knowledge, expertise, and/or circumstances)</li><li>Time-bound (i.e. has a set start and end date).</li></ul>

The What: Quality Check Your Goals

Now that we’ve defined the parameters of the SMART framework, let’s see how powerful it can be at creating more clear and actionable goals.Low quality goal: I want to make more money.High quality goal: I want to earn an additional $1,000 in supplemental revenue through Medium’s partner program by the end of this year

Low Quality And High Quality Goals

We’ve now tackled “the why” and “the what” behind our goals which means we can officially move onto “the how”.You can have the most actionable, measurable goals on the planet, but none of that matters if we don’t actually follow through with them.

Set Metrics to Ensure Accountability and Consistent Progress

One can set the metric of accountability by establishing OKRs(Objectives and Key Results) that are directly related to the goals. 
The benefit of doing so is that it keeps you accountable and provides you with quantifiable targets that you can measure your progress against.

Establish An OKR

Knowing how to set high-impact goals is essential to accomplishing what you aim to do. It all comes down to understanding the right basic frameworks.

How to Set Goals Like A Googler in 2022

Our minds need decluttering too. Whenever we are occupied by things that are not helpful, we are burying the good things underneath. Leave the things that don’t bring us joy, don’t let them steal our peace. 
Like the physical decluttering, you need to do it often. Every day if you can: just as you should tidy your room every day, so the mess doesn’t accumulate.

A Cluttered Mind Can Mess Up Your Life

Make a list. Are there any important things that you’ve wanted to do but never started? How important are they? What is making you delay them?
Understand whether and how these things are important. Then decide how to tackle the challenges preventing you from starting them. When everything is clearer, make a plan and follow it.

Clear Your Procrastination List

Daily practice of mindfulness will help you detach from your emotions and watch them from above. Many times we are worrying without recognizing it.
Worrying is the biggest unhelpful thing that can occupy our minds. It takes up so much space that we can’t enjoy the present. Mindfulness will help recognize it as soon as it emerges. When it does, acknowledge it and let it pass like a cloud in the sky, then move on with the present. Don’t let your worrying control you.

Stop Worrying

When you ignore or delay something that you promised to do, it still stays on top of your mind. Whenever you do something else, your brain will remind you that you should have been doing that other thing instead.
This is not helpful. Declutter the negative emotions for yourself so you can free up space for productive action.

Follow Through on Promises and Commitments

We can’t focus on ourselves when our brain is occupied with emotions related to someone else, or anger and hate of the world. We need inner peace before we can focus on the present. Let go of those emotions that you bear inside.
Your emotions will only affect you, not anyone else (unless you act on it). Find your closure if you need it, but let it go.

Let Go of Anger and Forgive

You don’t need a journal to know that someone or something is toxic to you.
You need to say NO to anything that takes you down from your current state.

Say No to People and Things that Drag You Down

The problem with clutter is that, once you are in the middle, you don’t realize it anymore. You carry on ignoring, going around it. You get used to the disorder so much that you become the disorder…

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