The essence of chronic mental and physical disease is being exposed to sustained levels of threat physiology. Our body is consuming resources for survival, and we cannot heal in this condition. Healing can only occur when we feel safe enough to replenish our reserves. But a major block to seeking safety is not recognizing our body’s cues that we are in fight-or-flight mode. There are many ways of it covering it up, but our body is still in high gear.

The Threat Physiology

Awareness is at the core of both survival and thriving. These are separate, and learned, skills.Survival is instinctual and includes whatever strategies we have embedded over our lifetime. However, many of the actions we have acquired are not only ineffective but can make situations worse. Acquiring effective stress-processing skills is important.

Awareness And Survival

Thriving is not as instinctual and must be cultivated and nurtured. If we are trying to use pleasant experiences, power, and material possessions to compensate for unpleasant emotions basic to survival, it can’t and doesn’t work. We cannot outrun our mind.The key to thriving is developing a working relationship with anxiety and anger; then we are able to create the life we want.Just solving problems doesn’t yield a good life. We must live a good life to have a good life.

Awareness And Thriving

Having awareness is critical. We can’t solve problems in any domain without understanding details from both our perspective and that of other involved parties. If we are projecting your views onto a given situation, we are not going to come up with consistently viable solutions. For example, we may have repeated troubles with relationships at home and work and can’t figure out why.

Awareness And Practicality

The first necessary step in using awareness is looking for clues that we are not as aware as we might think. By the way, if we think we are “aware” or “enlightened,” then we have already demonstrated that we are not aware. Any labels, positive or negative, block awareness.Seeing our un-awareness will allow us to deepen our awareness and start us down the pathway of using awareness as a tool.

Putting Awareness To Work - Step 1

Second, understanding and nurturing different types of awareness enables us to learn skills in each of these arenas. Here are four suggested types to use as a baseline.<ul><li>Environmental</li><li>Emotional</li><li>Judgment, or the stories we tell ourselves</li><li>Ingrained patterns</li></ul>

Putting Awareness To Work - Step 2

Environmental awareness is a tool by which we train our brain to connect to specific sensory inputs. It is used daily, and it shifts our attention away from disruptive thought patterns. With practice, it becomes automatic and calms our mind.

Environmental Awareness

Emotional awareness is difficult in that we are training our brain to experience pain that we have been suppressing or repressing. Remember, emotions reflect sensations generated by our various physiological states—safety versus threat. They drive our behavior to avoid danger and seek safety. Since mental pain and physical pain are processed in a similar manner, emotional pain actually hurts physically. Why would we want to feel it? But suppressed/repressed emotions fire up our body’s nervous system and chemistry so that we feel even more.

Emotional Awareness

Awareness of the stories we create about our life to make sense out of where we fit into the world is particularly necessary. Many of the stories have been programmed in by our family, friends, and society. A high percentage of them are actually cognitive distortions that continue to keep us ramped up even when our circumstances are good. The good news is that we don’t have to do anything about them, because they are not based on reality. We can just become aware, separate from them, and move forward. If we choose to prove them wrong or ignore them, we inadvertently reinforce them.

Judgment, Or The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Ingrained patterns are the essence of who we are; they make up our life view and evolve to become the lens through which all new information is processed. Since the human brain is programmed by interacting with others, each individual is incredibly unique. The early input is critical as it sets the trajectory for the rest of our life. By definition, we cannot see these patterns without outside help, as they are our frame of reference.Creating a clear awareness of our programming is a powerful way of switching our life from a reactive to a creative mode.

Ingrained Patterns

Once we become familiar with and skilled in developing these levels of awareness, we can actively use them as tools to calm down and redirect our nervous system. Some people make the strong argument that awareness is the only tool we need to heal. We know that we can’t “fix” ourself; our attention is focused on the problem, and from a neuroplasticity perspective, we are reinforcing it.

Awareness Is A Means To An End, Not An End In Itself

With awareness, we can watch ourselves respond; we are getting out of our own way and allowing ourself to heal. We become an observer of our own healing.Remember, the steps required to create neuroplastic changes in our brain are:<ol><li> awareness</li><li>separation (creating some “space” between us and our problem)</li><li>redirecting our attention</li></ol>

Awareness - Separation - Redirection

Finally, the “circle of life” can be used as a foundational template for implementing awareness into our daily life.The circle of life consists of 3 concentric circles. The inner (green-coloured) core is the place where we feel safe, content and connected; the outer (red-coloured) circle is the place where we feel anger, anxiety and threat; and the expanding (blue-coloured) circle is the place where we feel drive, excitement and achievement.

The Circle Of Life

On any given day or moment, we can quickly assess our relationship with any of the four kinds of awareness and see which part of the circle we are in. We then can choose to use our tools to move in whatever direction we want. But we can’t redirect unless we know where we are starting from.

How To Use The Circle Of Life

The circle of life provides a foundational reference point of awareness for embarking on any healing journey. The challenging aspect of using it as a tool is that we must allow yourself to feel everything—but only as we can tolerate it. Allowing ourself to feel anxious is difficult because no living creature is programmed to allow vulnerability; the consequences in nature are harsh. Yet, with language, we have the capacity to develop complex relationships, which requires vulnerability. It is a frustrating aspect of the human condition.

The Baggage Of The Circle Of Life

Once we are aware of where we are at in the circle of life, we do have choices. We can remain where we are—even if we are in the red—take a “refueling break” by entering the green center, or move on by engaging in blue activities.Freedom is being fully immersed in every element of our circle of life—on our own terms. And it begins with awareness.

The Takeaway

We must learn to become aware of our physiological state so that we can choose where and when we want to go or stay. Whatever set of tools we decide to implement begins with awareness. Do you think you know where in the “circle of life” you really are at this minute?

Emotions reflect your body's physiology; you must be aware of them to change.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Middle management used to be the place where careers stalled, but the pandemic has turned that notion on its head. In fact, mid-level leaders possess more agency now than at any other time in recent history.
The tight job market is opening up new opportunities for capable middle managers who show initiative. The old saying “people don’t leave organizations; people leave people” has never been truer. Companies that don’t tangibly show that they value their best people—by developing their skills and helping them reach their full potential—will lose them, perhaps to competitors.

The Rise Of Mid-Level Managers

Companies tend to gauge capacity based on leaders’ technical execution of tasks, but that perspective overlooks foundational elements that help these professionals reach a higher level—the T-shaped leader.
In this development model, the vertical line of the T represents depth of expertise, and the horizontal line reflects broadening experiences aimed at preparing the individual for enterprise-level leadership. The goal is to build technical competencies in both directions. The T-shaped manager framework has a critical flaw: It overlooks the importance of emotional intelligence.

The T-shaped leader

This approach builds on the Day, Harrison, and Halpin’s view of leader development, which argues that improving leaders’ knowledge, skill, and attitudes will increase their capacity.
The pyramid shaped MSK Framework takes these principles a step further, offering organizations a way to apply these three principles:
<ul>
<li>M: Mindset</li>
<li>S: Skills</li>
<li>K: Knowledge.</li>
</ul>

MSK Leader Development Framework

The foundational level of the MSK Leader Development Framework pyramid targets a leader’s mindset, in particular, the beliefs that orient the way we handle situations and sort out what is going on.
In order to assess what a leader can do and build additional capacity, the organization must create the space for the leader to gain clarity about conscious and unconscious beliefs they hold. An understanding of those beliefs and how they inform actions is critical to understanding different perspectives and thinking more broadly.

M: Mindset

The middle tier of the pyramid addresses a leader’s skills. Conventional thinking considers skills merely a person’s abilities. In the MSK Framework, the skills level seeks to answer the question: Who are you as a leader? Emotional intelligence reigns supreme here.
Leader development work around skills presents both the leader and the organization the opportunity to assess whether the leader is flexible, resilient, adaptable, empathetic, and self-aware, among other qualities.

S: Skills

The top tier of the Framework considers a leader’s knowledge. Knowledge includes the leader’s technical training, socialization, and executing abilities. Some organizations focus on this tier at the expense of the previous ones, but a shift in perspective can produce significant results, particularly for middle managers.
Whereas the T-shaped model emphasizes technical competencies in the vertical and horizontal axes, the MSK Leader Development Framework assumes that leaders are technically competent and will continue to grow.

K: Knowledge

To begin exploring and cultivating a leader’s mindset, organizations should shift from “telling” to “inquiring.” Directive dialogue teaches your direct reports about how you think. 
Inquiry creates the opportunity for your direct reports to slow down and gain insight into how they think. When you engage with direct reports, inquire about the beliefs that underpin their assumptions. Avoid questions that begin with “why,” as they tend to place people on the defensive and stifle dialogue. Instead, ask questions that begin with “how” or “what.”

Cultivate the Leaders Mindset

Organizations should invite leaders to identify no more than two areas in the emotional intelligence domain on which they would like to focus. The areas selected will offer greater insight into the question: Who are you as a leader?
<ul>
<li>During periodic assessments, organizations can ask leaders:</li>
<li>What are they noticing in themselves?</li>
<li>How have they responded to evolving events?</li>
<li>How do they use those insights as they lead their teams?</li>
<li>How do they want to respond to the next challenge they encounter?</li>
</ul>

Facilitate The Exploration of Skills

Too many companies fail to see the potential of their best middle managers—and lose them to other firms. Hise Gibson and Shawnette Rochelle offer a framework for helping these promising leaders grow.

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"TRUE LOVE NEVER HAS A HAPPY ENDING, BECAUSE THERE IS NO ENDING IN TRUE LOVE."~ALEXANDER THE GREAT#divinelove

Do you ever feel lonely and lost in your spiritual practice? These 11 revelations of divine love will help you recognize that the divine is everywhere.

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Our presence here is just for a brief period of time. We do not have to further shorten it by fighting each other.

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By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.

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Cognitive load theory, developed in the 1980s by psychologist John Sweller , has become a dominant paradigm for the design of teaching materials.

Cognitive Load Theory 

Cognitive load theory separates three different demands that learning puts on our limited working memory capacity:<ol><li>Intrinsic load. The combined attention that’s necessary to learn the pattern that will be put into long-term memory.</li><li>Extraneous load. Unnecessary load distracts from learning the pattern. Obvious distractions that eat up working memory, such as television in the background, make learning harder. </li><li>Germane load. Efforts that improve learning outcomes but are not strictly necessary to learn the pattern. </li></ol>

Three Types Of Cognitive Load

Over the past few decades, cognitive load theory has amassed a lot of interesting experimental effects with catchy-sounding names. Here are a few:

Key Experiments in Cognitive Load Theory

Traditionally, math education has focused on having students solve problems to get good at math. Sweller and Cooper pushed back against this idea, showing that studying worked examples (problems, along with detailed solutions) is often more efficient.Worked examples have since been shown to be powerful tools in many domains. The rationale is that problem solving is a cognitively demanding activity. This creates a lot of extraneous load, making it harder to abstract what the general solution procedure involves.

1. The Worked-Example Effect

Cognitive load isn’t just found in problem solving. Badly designed instructional materials can increase cognitive load by requiring learners to move their attention around to understand them.Consider these two flashcards for learning Chinese characters. The first creates extra cognitive load since the pairing between sound and character requires more spatial manipulation. Learning is enhanced when instructional materials are organized so that information doesn’t require any manipulation to be understood.

2. The Split-Attention Effect

Cognitive load theory’s principal applications are in instructional design. How should a subject be taught so that students will efficiently master the patterns of knowledge it contains? Cognitive load theory favors direct instruction, quick feedback and plenty of practice. Here are a few suggestions:

Applying Cognitive Load Theory to Your Studies

In my experience, the <a href="https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2011/09/01/learn-faster/">Feynman Technique </a>mainly works by slowing things down. A concept can be confusing in a lecture because critical assumptions aren’t made explicit or intervening steps are skipped. Walking through the explanation yourself lets you figure out exactly where you get lost.

1.  If a class confuses you, slow it down early.

Math and science tend to have high element interactivity, which is why mastery of them is seen as a sign of intelligence. Working memory is associated with intelligence, and those with slightly more working memory can handle slightly greater element interactivity. While this creates only a modest advantage in the short term, greater ease in learning basic concepts can accumulate into <a href="https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2019/05/13/do-you-need-to-be-smart-to-learn-certain-subjects/">a considerable advantage in the long run </a>.If you’re struggling in a subject with high element interactivity, the key is to go back and invest in more practice in the underlying skills.

2. Build your prerequisite knowledge and procedural fluency.

What makes learning hard? How can we make it easier? Cognitive load theory explains how we learn and how to do it better.

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When you’re trying to learn something new, you can choose to learn it fast or learn it deep, and there is a place for both.

Learning fast versus learning deep

For example, I’m <a href="https://www.mickmel.com/1000-days-of-anki/">using Anki</a> right now to work on my knowledge of the Periodic Table. I just want a better cursory understanding of it (“Au” = “Gold”, for example) and this will do the trick. For many things that I want to learn, though, a deeper dive is really what I’m after.

Learning Fast

For most of what I’m trying to learn, I work to learn deeply. For years, that largely surrounded coding and development, but for the last decade or so it has largely shifted to business and marketing and that’s reflected in the number of posts I write about both of those subjects.I’ve said before that <a href="https://www.mickmel.com/to-write-more-read-more/">in order to write more I need to read more</a>, and that’s true, but the execution is essentially reversed. I read things that interest me which I desire to know more about, and that reading leads into subsequent posts about those topics.

Learning Deep

I don’t want to “learn fast”, in any subject. I don’t want shortcuts. If I don’t enjoy the subject, I don’t want to learn it; and if I enjoy it, I want to prolong the pleasure. I avoid what exam-takers do: I trade speed for depth.

I’ll continue to add more shallow/quick learning into my life, for things like the periodic table, geography and other general knowledge type subjects, but knowing when to choose to go deep is a great thing to consider.

When you're trying to learn something new, you can choose to learn it fast or learn it deep, and there is a place for both. For example, I'm using Anki right now to work on my knowledge of the Periodic Table. I just want a better cursory understanding of it…

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Steve Jobs — ‘Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected.’

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Motivation , I think it is the most searched keyword over the internet and other social media platforms .Today something wierd happened with me , actually I was searching the top keywords or may be you can say the most searched keywords on Google trends and when I type motivation keyword then the result just shocked me . Motivation is being something that everyone is searching in the world wide internet some are searching for motivational videos , some are searching for motivational speech rest of the people are searching for motivational songs .

How to stay motivated ?  

Motivatio is the biggest issue in our society everyone is in search of motivation here and there but couldn't Do you know that we all have a common thing among what is that ? . It is they lack motivation and a short span motivation period . The terms used is big no ?

How To Stay Motivated ?

Motivation that lasts for a small period of time , in this type of motivation people gets motivated by watching a video or speech and tries achieve what they want , but after a short period of time approx 1-3 days they again reaches back to thier ground state . Just like the electron in the outermost shell of the atom , when the atom was heated then the outermost electron absorbs the energy and excites it's ground state and reaches into a higher energy level but after some time the electron releases his energy and reaches back to the ground state . .

Short span motivation period 

Here's the technique that I often used when I feels demotivated,1. Find a good place where you can sit alone.2. Remember to keep your phone aside or keep it silent.3. Now just ask a simple question how you see yourself in the next 5 years ? 4. Ask yourself that what will be your condition in the upcoming 5 years if you will waste your time as you have wasted earlier ?

Technique on how to stay motivated and succed in life ?

5. Imagine yourself in a condition where you don't have enough money to meet the expenses of your family .Even you don't have enough money to give the balance in your financial condition .6. Imagine yourself in situation where your childrens are struggling for their secure carrier & life . Imagine yourself when the teacher of that school will asks your children's about your employment status and your children's will shamefully say that my father is an unemployed person , we have no money even we have improper health, food , clothes and house facilities .

Stop wasting time, stop giving excuse, stop being lazy, just start doing hardwork for your goals in such a manner that when your child will born he must be smallest millionaire. Start doing hardwork for your children's future , start doing hardwork for a luxury life.

Few tips to stay motivated everytime,1. Stop being lazy in your work.2. Find out a reason for what you actually want to stay motivated.3. Set some rewards when you accomplish your tasks. This will give you a feeling of satisfaction. 4. Wake up early in the morning , it will make you more productive, energetic and enthusiastic towards your work .

Tips to stay motivated and succed in life

Be stubborn , stubborn towards anything that you want to achieve in your life. All sucessful people are stubborn they never focused about the failure they are getting back as a result they focused on one thing that is their dream. Their goals and hence they are successful .

Bonus tip

I will conclude my words with a on a simple note believe in yourself believe in your skill do hardwork and let the success speak for you.  Stop giving excuses be the best version of yourself . Good day

Conclusion

Lack of motivation the reason why one lacks motivation and best way to fix this problem 

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How to stay motivated ? 

<ol><li>Ignore them</li><li>Always have an exit strategy like "Sorry, I have to take one important call", etc.</li><li>Don't get drawn in</li><li>Remember you aren't at fault</li><li>Put yourself first</li><li>Stay calm and Don't get personal</li><li>Set boundaries (define things that you won't tolerate) and walk out as soon as they start abusing</li><li>Speak up and Move on without them</li><li>Avoid playing into their reality</li><li>Make yourself unavailable</li></ol>

How to deal with Toxic People?

Don't let toxic people and their mentality destroy your life and success. Stay away from them as much as possible. These tips will tell you how.

Dealing with toxic people can take a toll on your well-being. Learn how to different scenarios while protecting yourself.

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