Without realizing it, we have created different versions of ourselves that define how we see and react to other people.
People only see the version of us that we want them to see.

We Are Who We Decided To Be

We master anger, envy, and other negative behaviors, and they slowly become who we are.The same way we have mastered these negativities, we have to master love.Still, many find it hard to accomplish this because of the hurt that we feel or the belief that it-is-impossible.

We determine our mastery

Fear is the enemy of growth.

As a person grows older, they lose their innocence, and hence, always try to follow societal beliefs.This distorts a person’s capacity to love.The same mind–limiting framework governs the way we relate with others.If an individual had an abusive relationship with their parents, they might find themselves gravitating towards abusive relationships, as they believe that being abused is the only way to get attention.

Mind-limiting Framework

Relationships must have their foundation in true love, and not in the need to get someone to validate our actions or to make us happy.

Relationship Needs Good Foundation

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

The quality of relationship depends on the attitude of all the parties involved.<ul><li>Love is respect. We should not control or change the people you love.</li><li>Love is always kind. In contrast, fear drives you to anger, which is basically a mask for fear itself.</li><li>Love embraces responsibility. If you love someone, you will never shy away from the responsibilities that the relationship places on you.</li><li>Love is unconditional. There is no reason to be ashamed of the people you claim to love.</li></ul>

Love Is…

We will only love a person that we don’t feel the need to change.Therefore, we must identify the strengths and the flaws of our partner, and accept them.Also, do not project our sadness on our spouse. Realize that everyone has our own baggage, and so, carry ours.

Accepting Is Important

People is addicted to love because they go into relationships for the wrong reasons.They know what loneliness and rejection mean. Therefore, as soon as they get a sniff of love, they jump at it.This will spur them to become obsessive. They are scared of returning to their state of loneliness.Instead of loving out of fear, we are advised to love ourselves first.Self–love will help us cherish being alone, which will stop us from jumping into a relationship for the wrong reasons.

The Wrong Reasons

If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.

When we start loving yourself more, it is easier to see the truth.It also becomes easy to block those lies that people keep telling us.We should uncover the truth to those lies we have always used to limit our growth.

Self-love

Study ourselves deeply and determine what works for us.Understand how we can break free of our past hurts.If someone keeps draining our energy, find a way to remove ourselves from that situation.

Learn Ourselves 

The Mastery of Love explains how we can turn hurt into a learning curve, including how to handle fear.

From the international bestselling author of The Four Agreements In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. The Mastery of Love includes: • Why “domestication” and the “image of perfection” lead to self-rejection• The war of control that slowly destroys most relationships• Why we hunt for love in others, and how to capture the love inside us• How to finally accept and forgive ourselves and others “Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec: the Mastery of Love.” — don Miguel Ruiz__________________ About the Authors Don Miguel Ruiz is the international bestselling author of The Four Agreements (a New York Times bestseller for over a decade), The Four Agreements Companion Book, The Mastery of Love, The Voice of Knowledge, The Circle of Fire, and The Fifth Agreement. The teachings of Ruiz are best known for transforming complex human issues into simple common sense — a talent that has earned him millions of fans and international acclaim. Janet Mills is the founder and president of Amber-Allen publishing. She is also the coauthor, with don Miguel Ruiz, of six books in The Toltec Wisdom Series, creator of The Four Agreements for a Better Life online course, and editor of Deepak Chopra’s bestselling title, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Her life’s mission is to publish books of enduring beauty, integrity, and wisdom, and to inspire others to fulfill their most cherished dreams.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Don Miguel Ruiz is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Don Miguel Ruiz has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Don Miguel Ruiz's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Don Miguel Ruiz

Janet Mills is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Janet Mills has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Janet Mills's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Janet Mills

The Mastery of Love

<ul><li>Pride</li><li>Envy</li><li>Greed</li><li>Wrath</li><li>Lust</li><li>Gluttony</li><li>Sloth</li></ul>

Why does being bad feel so good?

Research explains where these behaviors come from and help us understand why we continue to engage in them—and often celebrate them—even as we declare them to be evil.

Techniques such as functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), which highlights metabolically active areas of the brain, now allow us to view the biology of bad intentions.

The most enjoyable sins engage the brain’s reward circuitry, including evolutionarily ancient regions such as the nucleus accumbens and hypothalamus; located deep in the brain, they provide us such fundamental feelings as pain, pleasure, reward, and punishment.

More disagreeable forms of sin such as wrath and envy enlist the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex. This area, buried in the front of the brain, is often called the brain’s conflict detector, coming online when you are confronted with contradictory information or even simply when you feel pain.The more social sins (pride, envy, lust, wrath) recruit the medial prefrontal cortex. Found just behind the forehead, this region helps shape the awareness of self.

No understanding of temptation is complete without considering restraint, and neuroscience illuminates this process as well. As we struggle to resist, inhibitory cognitive control networks involving the front of the brain activate to squelch naughty impulses by tempering their appeal.

Meanwhile, research suggests that regions such as the caudate—partly responsible for body movement and coordination—suppress the physical impulse. It seems to be the same whether you feel a spark of lechery, a surge of jealousy, or the desire to pop somebody in the mouth: The two sides battle it out, the devilish reward system versus the angelic brain regions that hold us in check.

It might be too strong to claim that evolution has wired us for sin, but excessive indulgence in lust or greed could certainly put you ahead of your competitors.

“Many of these sins you could think of as virtues taken to the extreme. From the perspective of natural selection, you want the organism to eat, to procreate, so you make them rewarding. But there’s a potential for that process to go beyond the bounds.”

There is no sin centre in the brain, no single node of fiendishness that we might be able to shut down with drugs or electrodes. With the advent of modern imaging techniques that peer into the brain as it functions, though, we at least gain some perspective on our bad habits. At the same time, we can indulge in another wickedly gratifying pastime: As other people misbehave, we can sit back and watch.

In the annals of sin, weaknesses of the flesh—lust, gluttony, sloth—are considered second-tier offenses, less odious than the “spiritual” sins of envy and pride. That’s good news, since these yearnings are notoriously difficult to suppress.

Lust

Watching pornography calls upon brain regions associated with reward, sensory interpretation, and visual processing. It enlists the amygdala and the hypothalamus, which deal with emotional information; it also stimulates the reward processing ventral striatum, probably due to the satisfying nature of watching erotic stimuli. All said, the most notable thing about lust is that it sets nearly the whole brain buzzing.

These responses are so unique and distinctive that, in the context of an experiment, it is possible to determine whether a man is aroused just by looking at an fMRI brain scan. “These are huge effects,” Safron says. “You’re looking at the difference between something that elicits intense desire and something that does not.” (Women show a less spectacular response, Safron says, and it is unclear exactly why.).

If lechery is all-consuming, how do we ever manage to control it? As with other powerful impulses, we try to shut down arousal by calling upon the right superior frontal gyrus and right anterior cingulate gyrus, according to research led by Mario Beauregard. He and others propose that these brain areas form a conscious self regulatory system. This network provides us with the evolutionarily unprecedented ability to control our own neural processing—a feat achieved by no other creature.

Today it is difficult to regard overeating as a sin, considering the overwhelming evidence of the powerful role of physiology in appetite. Physician Gene-Jack Wang has studied the brains of overeaters since 1999, when he and colleague Nora Volkow originally observed that obesity and drug addiction alter the same brain circuits.

Gluttony

These pathways, which rely on the neurotransmitter dopamine, are often referred to as the reward system, but they are also involved in motivation, attention, decision making, and other complex functions. In their studies, Wang and Volkow found that both drug addicts and obese people are less sensitive to dopamine’s rewarding effects. Being relatively numb to the pleasure and motivation signal may make them more likely to chase after a stronger thrill: more food or a bump of cocaine. Excessive stimulation further desensitizes dopaminergic neurons, and the compulsion snowballs.

In some of his experiments, Wang asks his volunteers to come hungry. He then torments them, asking them to describe their favorite food in detail while he heats it up in a microwave so that its aroma wafts through the room. When they go into a positron-emission tomography (PET) scanner, Wang sees the motivation regions of their brains go wild. Parts of the orbital frontal cortex, which is implicated in decision making, also light up.

In the brains of obese people, the regions that regulate sensory information from the mouth and tongue are more active, suggesting that overweight people may experience the sensations of eating differently. Other research shows that their reward sensitivity is lower. The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and other areas involved in inhibitory control are underactive; the heavier the person, the lower the activity there.

“Our brain evolved for us to eat in excess, in order to survive. This kind of excess is built into the brain.”

Mere laziness seems out of place among the deadly sins. It helps to know that this moral failing was originally conceived of as acedia, a term that suggested alienation and tedium, tinged with self-contempt. Acedia afflicted jaded monks who had grown weary of the cloistered life. Their sin was turning away from their moral obligations and toward selfish pursuits—a monastic form of ennui.

Sloth

Today, paralyzing lassitude is often seen as a symptom of disease rather than of turpitude. Apathy is a classic sign of frontotemporal dementia. In this neurodegenerative disorder, the frontal lobes of the brain are slowly eaten away, causing social and mood changes as well as cognitive decline. Patients with such dementia often become increasingly withdrawn.

Sadness and listlessness are also hallmarks of major depression. With frontotemporal dementia the symptoms are caused by dead and dying cells; in depression the root cause is still unknown. In both conditions, the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex has an unusual pattern of activation.

Related to its ability to inhibit impulses, this region has a role in sustaining attention over the long haul. Abnormal function in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex might be connected to the lethargy associated with both conditions. Conversely, activity in this area may keep a lid on negative emotions; in some studies, depression lifted with stimulation of that part of the brain.

Early theologians saw pride as the fundamental sin—the “queen of them all,” according to Pope Gregory the Great, who codified the list of seven deadly sins in the sixth century. Indeed, psychologists say that arrogance is second nature in Western society. Most of us perceive ourselves as slightly smarter, funnier, more talented, and better-looking than average.

Pride

These rose-colored glasses are important to mental health, functioning as a psychological immune system that protects us from despair. “Those who see themselves as they truly are—not so funny, a bad driver, overweight—have a greater chance of being diagnosed with clinical depression,” says Julian Paul Keenan.

For most of us, it takes less mental energy to puff ourselves up than to think critically about our own abilities. In one recent neuroimaging study, volunteers who imagined themselves winning a prize or trouncing an opponent showed less activation in brain regions associated with introspection and self-conscious thought than people induced to feel negative emotions such as embarrassment. We accept positive feedback about ourselves readily,

“Compared with guilt or embarrassment, pride might be processed more automatically.”

Pride gets its swagger from the self-related processing of the medial prefrontal cortex, which Keenan calls “a very interesting area of the brain, involved in all these wonderful human characteristics, from planning to abstract thinking to self-awareness.”

Using transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), in which a magnetic field applied to the scalp temporarily scrambles the signal in small areas of the brain, he was able to briefly shut off the medial prefrontal cortex in volunteers. With TMS switched on, his subjects’ normal, healthy arrogance melted away. “They saw themselves as they really were, without glossing over negative characteristics”.

Righteous humility has traditionally been depicted as the virtue that opposes pride, but the work of Keenan and others calls that into question. He is using TMS to disrupt deliberate self-deprecation—the type of unctuous, ingratiating behavior that seems humble but is actually disguised arrogance.

Patterns of brain activation during self-deprecation are fundamentally the same as those during selfdeceptive pride, Keenan is finding. “They’re in the same location and seem to serve the same purpose: putting oneself ahead in society."

Despite the enormous pool of potential research subjects, greed has not yet been systematically investigated in brain research. However, neuroscience does offer insight into a related phenomenon, the indignant outrage of the cheated.

Greed

Our hatred of unfairness runs deep, even trumping rational self-interest. In the lab, researchers frequently use the “ultimatum game” to test our responses to injustice. One of two partners is given a sum of money and told that he must offer some amount of his own choosing to his partner. If the partner rejects the offer, neither gets to keep any of the cash.

On a rational basis, the receiving partner should accept any nonzero offer, since getting some money is always better than getting none at all. But people’s sense of violation at unfairness is so strong that test subjects reject offers of 20 percent or less about half the time.

In response to unfair offers, the brain activates the pain detection process. It also engages the bilateral anterior insula, an area implicated in negative emotions such as anger, disgust, and social rejection. The overall picture that emerges from fMRI is that of a brain weighing an emotional response (the urge to punish the guy who is cheating you) against a logical response (the appeal of the cash).

When Lieberman increased the money being offered, he found that accepting a share that was larger but still unfair—say, $8 out of $23—was linked with increased activity in the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex and downregulation of the anterior insula, changes that are often seen during the regulation of negative feelings. People seemed to be swallowing their outrage to accept a reward that was inequitable but appealing.

Similarly, getting a fair offer—even if it was small in absolute terms—activated regions in the brain that are involved in automatic and intuitive reward processing. Justice apparently feels good.

The sin of pride turned on its head, envy is the most social of the moral failures, sparked by the excruciating awareness of someone else’s supreme talent, stunning looks, or extremely expensive car. For that reason, it is also the least fun of the deadly sins; feeling jealous provides no dirty thrill.

Envy

Only one imaging study (conducted by Takahashi’s group in Japan) has probed the neural basis of envy. Volunteers in fMRI machines were asked to read three scenarios. In the first, “student A” was portrayed as similar to, but better than, the volunteer in every respect. “Student B” was depicted as equally successful but very different from the subject, and “student C” sounded pretty much like a loser.

Reading about the awe-inspiring student A activated the volunteers’ conflict-detecting brain region, perhaps responding to the gap between the default setting of self-aggrandizing pride and the ugly truth of someone else’s triumphs. This same region is enlisted when feeling pain, suggesting to Takahashi that envy is a kind of “social pain in the self.”

On the other hand, indulging in schadenfreude—delight in someone else’s downfall—can be downright bliss. Aquinas termed this “morose delectation” and condemned it as a failure to resist a passion. Indeed, Takahashi found that rejoicing in a rival’s defeat brings pleasure just as surely as envy does pain. In the second phase of his study, volunteers read about student A’s downfall, causing the ventral striatum to light up.

The striatum is part of the so-called reward system, which can be activated by such pleasures as money, food, or sex, Takahashi says. The stronger the activation of the brain’s conflict detector in the first study, the stronger the striatum response in the second.

It may not have been the original sin, but rage is certainly primordial: Much of the brain circuitry active during anger is very basic and very fast. In humans, anger also enlists the conflict-detecting dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, which immediately alerts other regions of the brain to pay attention. The more upset you get, the more it activates, according to Tom Denson, a psychologist at the University of New South Wales in Australia. In people with short fuses, this part of the brain seems to be primed to feel provocation and personal slights, Denson says.

Wrath

Some of us are more easily enraged than others, but few are able to stifle rage completely. Instead we may convert overt hostility into angry brooding.To investigate the difference between short fusers and brooders, Denson antagonized his volunteers, insulting them while he scanned their brains. “Within seconds you see differences,” he says.

The medial prefrontal cortex, associated with self-awareness and emotional regulation, quickly lit up in angry brooders. So did the hippocampus, involved in memory. As they fume, people repeatedly relive the insult in their minds. Denson found that the degree of hippocampal activation predicted how much people tended to ruminate.

Probing the underpinnings of vengeful behavior, a German group led by neuropsychologist Ulrike Krämer allowed people who had been provoked during an experiment to punish their antagonist with a blast of extremely annoying noise. While the subjects pondered how loud to set the volume, the dorsal striatum, part of the brain’s reward circuitry, lit up at the prospect of retaliation.

“We have this primitive brain that says, ‘Do it! Do it!’” Denson says. Similarly, people asked to imagine themselves engaging in aggressive behavior actively suppress activity in the prefrontal cortex, where social information is processed. By deliberately inhibiting our natural social response, we ready ourselves to strike out.

Historically, moralists have not paid much heed to the findings of science, and it is safe to say that all the brain-scans in the world probably will not persuade modern theologians to recalculate the wages of sin. Still, they might want to observe one recent finding from modern neuroimaging:It turns out that acting virtuously does not really require a hair shirt. In fact, research suggests that it feels pretty good.

Jordan Grafman recently found that virtue literally is its own reward. Altruistic behavior sends reward-related brain systems into a pleasurable tizzy—even more so than the prospect of self-interested gain. “The big punch line is that all things being equal, your reward system fires off a lot more when you’re giving than when you’re taking,” says Grafman, who is chief of the cognitive neuroscience section at the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke. Call it the dirty little secret about being good: It might be even more fun than being wicked.

A scientific exploration of the 7 deadly sins 🤷‍♀️

Brain researchers are finding the sources of our nastiest temptations.

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The Neuroscience of the Seven Deadly Sins

<ul><li>If you are not in control of your thoughts, then you are not in control of yourself.</li><li>Without self-control, you have no real power, regardless of whatever else you can accomplish.</li><li>If you are not aware of the thoughts that you think in each moment, then you are the rider with no reins, with no power over where you are going. You cannot control what you are not aware of.</li><li>Awareness must come first.</li></ul>

The Learning Begins

The problem with patience and discipline is that developing each of them requires both of them.

A Paradox of life 

We have a very unhealthy habit of making the product — our intended result — the goal, instead of the process of reaching that goal. When we practice something, we are involved in the deliberate repetition of a process with the intention of reaching a specific goal. When you focus your mind on the present moment, on the process of what you are doing right now, you are always where you want to be and where you should be. In order to focus on the present, we must give up, at least temporarily, our attachment to our desired goal. Be Process-oriented, rather than being result-oriented.

Process, Not Product

Most of the anxiety we experience in life comes from our feeling that there is an end point of perfection in everything that we involve ourselves with. We consciously or unconsciously pick a point of reference in whatever we do and decide that nothing will be right until we get to that point. By doing this, you are only working against yourself. True perfection is limitless, unbounded, and always expanding.

It's How you look at it

At any point when you are feeling bored, rushed, or impatient, realise that you have left the present moment in your activity.The next time you feel like not doing anything, tell yourself you will work on staying present-moment and Process-oriented for just the first half hour.Don't try to enjoy it either, because in that effort you are bringing emotions and struggle into your effort.

What we practice will become a habit.When we say something is a habit, it means that it is natural way we do something. We do it intuitively, without having to think about it.Being aware that all your motions, be they physical or mental, are habits and that you have the power to choose which habits you will create is very liberating. You are in control.Habits are learned. Choose them wisely.

Creating the Habits we desire

If you force your mind to stay in the present moment and to stay in the process of what you are doing, many of your problems will melt away.Staying in the present in the process is the first part of the perspective change that creates patience.The second step in creating patience is understanding and accepting that there is no such thing as reaching a point of perfection in anything. There is no goal to reach other than pursuing the activity.

Perception Change Creates Patience

Progress is a natural result of staying focused on the process of doing anything. When you stay on purpose, focused in the present moment, the goal comes toward you with frictionless ease.

The four “S” words are Simplify, Small, Short, and Slow. SimplifyWhen you work at a specific project or activity, simplify it by breaking it down into its component sections. Don't set goals that are too far beyond your reach. SmallFocusing on small sections is easier than focusing on the entire task and gives you repeatable success. ShortFocus only for a short period of time. SlowIncorporating slowness into your process is a paradox. Work at a pace that allows you to pay attention to what you are doing.

The 4 'S' words

Equanimity is defined as even-temperedness and calmness. It comes from the art of non judgment. Non judgment quiets the internal dialogue of our mind. Judgments are necessary for us to function in life, but they have a downside : They are not executed with a detached nature. The more closely you become aligned with the quiet observer, the less you judge.

Equanimity

The ego is subjective. It judges everything, including itself, and it is never content with where it is, what it has, or what it has accomplished.The observer is objective. It does not judge anything as good or bad. It just sees the circumstance or action as “being”. Thus the observer is always experiencing tranquility and equanimity.

Ego vs Observer

None of us learn anything except through our own direct experiencesTeach with your actions.Children have much more to offer because we can learn from them if we listen to ourselves as we teach them.Wisdom is not a by-product of age. Teach and learn from all those around you

Teach and Learn From Children

With deliberate and repeated effort, progress is inevitable.When we make staying focused on the process our real goal, we experience a sense of success in every moment.Houses, cars, jobs come and go; you, however, are eternal.Take time regularly to review all the things that you have acquired in your life.All things of lasting and deep value require time and nurturing and come to us only through our own effort.

Your Skills are Growing

"You've just got to love the process"

A short summary to the no-fluff book  about meta-learning & bringing discipline to your life

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don't succeed? Modern life's technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don't help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice -- the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn't drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on "process, not product," you'll learn to live in each moment, where you'll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

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Productivity

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don’t succeed? Modern life’s technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don’t help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice — the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn’t drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on “process, not product,” you’ll learn to live in each moment, where you’ll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

Thomas M. Sterner is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Thomas M. Sterner has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Thomas M. Sterner's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Thomas M. Sterner

The Practicing Mind

• Socrates is one of the most well-known Greek philosophers in history whose thirst for knowledge changed the course of philosophy forever. Here are some of his best quotes :

8 Enlightenment Quotes From Socrates

" To find yourself, think for yourself. "

" The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing. "

" ﻿Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.

" The unexamined life is not worth living."

" We cannot live better than in seeking to become better. "

" Be as you wish to seem. "

" Our prayers should be for blessings in general, for God knows best what is good for us. "

" By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher. "

One of the things that helped me on my self-improvement journey 😃

416 quotes from Socrates: 'The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.', 'The unexamined life is not worth living.', and 'I cannot teach anybody anything. I can only make them think'

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It is better to Live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.When you give yourself space & stillness, you can clear the dust and see yourself, not through others’ eyes, but from within.

Identity

It is impossible to build one's happiness on the unhappiness of others.Negativity is everywhere and it's contagious.The less time you fixate on everyone else, the more time you have to focus on yourself.Negativity often rises from fear.

Negativity

SPOT a feeling or issueSTOP to understand what it isSWAP in a new way of processing.

SPOT, STOP, SWAP Strategy

Accept your fear.The cause of fear : AttachmentThe cure of fear : DetachmentFear motivates us. Sometimes it motivates us toward what we want, but sometimes, if we aren’t careful, it limits us with what we think will keep us safe.

Fear

When there is harmony between the mind, heart and resolution then nothing is impossible.Four motivations : Fear, Desire, Duty, and Love.Live your intentions. Do the work.

Intention

When you protect your Dharma, your dharma protects you.Living your dharma is a certain way to fulfillment.Passion + Expertise + Usefulness = DharmaKnowing your purpose and fulfilling it is easier and more fruitful when you use your time and energy wisely every day.

Purpose

Early to rise.Location has energy, time has memory.If you do something at the same time in the same space everyday, it becomes easier and natural.Build routines and train yourself to find focus and achieve deep immersion.

Routine

When the five senses and the mind are stilled, when the reasoning intellect rests in silence, then begins the highest path.Drive the chariot of the mind. Master the senses.Train your brain. In the end, it is your mind that translates the outside world into happiness or misery.

Mind

The ego is a mask. It makes us liars and creates false hierarchies. Ego is an obstacle to growth.The arrogant ego desires respect, whereas the humble worker inspires respect.Detach from your ego.

Appreciate everything, even the ordinary. Especially the ordinary.Keep a gratitude journalKindness and gratitude are symbiotic.Embrace gratitude through daily practice, both internally - in how you look at your life and the world around you - and through action.

Gratitude

Every person is a world to explore.You assume the love you receive will come from the person you gave it to. But it doesn’t always come from that person.Too often we love people who don’t love us, but we fail to return the love of others who do.

Relationships ()

In every relationship you have the opportunity to set the level of joy you expect and the level of pain you’ll accept.Believe in your worth.If you’ve lost yourself in the relationship, find yourself in the heartbreak.

Relationships (2)

The ignorant work for their own profit, the wise work for the welfare of the world.The highest purpose is to live in service.Selflessness heals the self.Monks seek to leave a place cleaner than they found it; people happier than they found it; and the world better than they found it.Extend your radius of care.Serve within your dharmaService is direct path to a meaningful life.

Service

"When we look for the good in others, we start to see the best in ourselves too.”

Helpful takeaways that teaches you how a monk thinks and lives his life in harmony with everything around him.

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

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Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

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