For people with borderline personality disorder socializing can be hard. People can say hurtful things so we can feel safer alone.

BPD And Solitude

When you feel safe consistently, you are able to focus on yourself. You can read about your issues, meditate, learn about all sorts of things. You can work on yourself, do DBT ( Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, the most evidence based therapy for personality disorders) and get to a point where you are more open to socializeagain.

Solitude Can Be Healing

When you are alone, you can be yourself. Do whatever you want, watch whatever you want. Embrace this freedom.

There Is Freedom In Solitude

Just because you are lonely today, it doesn't mean that you will feel this way forever. As you connect with yourself, loneliness can turn into content solitude. I lost myself in loneliness and found myself in solitude. Maybe it can happen to you too.

Loneliness Today Can Mean Solitude Tomorrow

<img width="500" height="500" src="https://scarlettsbpdcorner.files.wordpress.com/2022/02/fb_img_1643606988338.jpg?w=500" alt="" srcset="https://scarlettsbpdcorner.files.wordpress.com/2022/02/fb_img_1643606988338.jpg 500w, https://scarlettsbpdcorner.files.wordpress.com/2022/02/fb_img_1643606988338.jpg?w=150 150w, https://scarlettsbpdcorner.files.wordpress.com/2022/02/fb_img_1643606988338.jpg?w=300 300w">Solitude and BPD go hand in hand, many times. It feels safer. No one can see me cry or be upset. No one can say hurtful things. Our house or our room is our cocoon where hopefully we can heal.It’s hard to understand how sensitive we are. It can be hard to understand us. But, as I believe that I have said before, most people don’t even understand themselves, so don’t worry. By trial and error, we may find people that don’t hurt us. People that are kind and considerate, who reciprocate. But a good amount of solitude may always be necessary. We can be tiring, ovewhelming, out of control. When we are able to stop, we melt down and may just regret all we did and feel like we have absolutely no control when we are triggered. There is an enormous amount of shame, confusion, despair, tiredness, sometimes suicidal ideation or self-harm. My parents didn’t cultivate my uniqueness (not in a uWU nOT LiKe tHe OtHeR gIRlS kind of way though). They somewhat let me explore things but criticized everything. I was forbidden of using certain clothes not because they were inappropriate but because she said that I would regret it. And the fights started there. My difficulty knowing who I am started here. Feeling that I didn’t fit in. Because everything I liked was wrong, ridiculous. But do you know where I always fit in? in solitude. Sometimes I feel like a little fish in a bowl, looking at the people living outside. Can’t get close. My parents are tired, they deserve to rest. They did their best and what I can give them now are acts of service and peace. I became my best friend, the only person I truly trust. In solitude I can be myself. I can learn, I can write. As a childless only child, I have to get used to it and I think I am. But that’s something that I will only know when I’m living completely alone.Don’t fight it. It’s going to be hard at first. Accept it radically. It helped me heal so much. It doesn’t mean that it will be this way forever. We go places, people add us on social media, etc. In my case, I feel like I absolutely needed these years of solitude. It was so hard at first. I felt so low. But there is an undeniable freedom in being alone. Just you and your thoughts ( I know, this is terrible sometimes ), you and your ideas and talents. Time for self-care, time to put your phone on airplane mode for a while and just relax.Everything changes. Solitude now doesn’t mean solitude tomorrow. Loneliness now can mean content solitude tomorrow. Keep going. You can’t see it but I am holding your hand as you push through.<h3>Partilhar isto:</h3>

As someone with BPD, solitude has been a big part of my healing. I went from being lonely to feeling content in my solitude.

Solitude and BPD go hand in hand, many times. It feels safer. No one can see me cry or be upset. No one can say hurtful things. Our house or our room is our cocoon where hopefully we can heal. It's hard to understand how sensitive we are. It can be hard to understand us.…

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Solitude and BPD go hand in hand, many times. It feels safer. No one can see me cry or be upset. No one can say hurtful things. Our house or our room is our cocoon where hopefully we can heal.

It’s hard to understand how sensitive we are. It can be hard to understand us. But, as I believe that I have said before, most people don’t even understand themselves, so don’t worry. By trial and error, we may find people that don’t hurt us. People that are kind and considerate, who reciprocate.

But a good amount of solitude may always be necessary. We can be tiring, ovewhelming, out of control. When we are able to stop, we melt down and may just regret all we did and feel like we have absolutely no control when we are triggered. There is an enormous amount of shame, confusion, despair, tiredness, sometimes suicidal ideation or self-harm.

My parents didn’t cultivate my uniqueness (not in a uWU nOT LiKe tHe OtHeR gIRlS kind of way though). They somewhat let me explore things but criticized everything. I was forbidden of using certain clothes not because they were inappropriate but because she said that I would regret it. And the fights started there. My difficulty knowing who I am started here. Feeling that I didn’t fit in. Because everything I liked was wrong, ridiculous. But do you know where I always fit in? in solitude.

Sometimes I feel like a little fish in a bowl, looking at the people living outside. Can’t get close. My parents are tired, they deserve to rest. They did their best and what I can give them now are acts of service and peace.

I became my best friend, the only person I truly trust. In solitude I can be myself. I can learn, I can write. As a childless only child, I have to get used to it and I think I am. But that’s something that I will only know when I’m living completely alone.

Don’t fight it. It’s going to be hard at first. Accept it radically. It helped me heal so much. It doesn’t mean that it will be this way forever. We go places, people add us on social media, etc. In my case, I feel like I absolutely needed these years of solitude. It was so hard at first. I felt so low. But there is an undeniable freedom in being alone. Just you and your thoughts ( I know, this is terrible sometimes ), you and your ideas and talents. Time for self-care, time to put your phone on airplane mode for a while and just relax.

Everything changes. Solitude now doesn’t mean solitude tomorrow. Loneliness now can mean content solitude tomorrow. Keep going. You can’t see it but I am holding your hand as you push through.

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BPD And Solitude

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Loneliness Today Can Mean Solitude Tomorrow

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