Living With BPD As An Act Of Resisting And Letting Go

In order to resist, we also need to learn to let go.

• let go of thoughts that are not beneficial to us and that may lead to bad decisions
• let go of limiting beliefs
• let go of painful things through therapy, by reading about it and through auto-analysis
• trying to let go of self-soothing in unhealthy ways

• DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) is the best approach to our struggle.
• Slowly reinforcing and not reinforcing habits, negative thoughts, obsessive thoughts.
• Learning to redirect our attention to our breath when our thoughts do not serve us (addiction triggers that may lead to relapse, obsessive thoughts, etc). Redirect our attention to something else, more productive or pleasurable.
• Taking your time to cool down to reply to people in order to no act out
• Understanding that you should just turn your back and leave in many situations
• Learning to pick your battles and preserve your energy

Your thoughts are not you. They lie to us often. We must learn to let go of thoughts that are detrimental to us.

Trauma left deep and open wounds that manifest in our thoughts and in other ways. But we are, above all, conscience and we can cultivate healthier thoughts, including negative self-talk. Don't be harsh to yourself. Treat yourself as a friend would.