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Maintain eye contact. Smile when the other person smiles. Frown when they frown.
In simple, nonverbal ways, mimic the other's person's behavior--not slavishly, but because you're focus...
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Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They're even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.
They know that while some people may be,...
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Charming people don't actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement.
Then, if it's appropriate, they gently share a different point of view, and i...
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Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance and make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly.
Say you're congratulating someone; shaking ha...
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Charming people don't mind serving as a cautionary tale. They don't mind being a source of laughter, for others and for themselves.
And they're also not afraid to look a little silly.&...
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Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel cha...
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If you really want to know how an individual treats people, take him to lunch. How he interacts with the waiter is a much better indication of his interpersonal skills than how he interacts with...
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Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree.
The fact they remember instantly makes us feel a little prouder and a little better about our...
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Charming people may know cool people, but they don't talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.
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Charming people already know what they know. They want to know what you know.
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Having charm is not about deceiving others. Keep strong negative feelings to yourself, do your best to reveal who you are and if you disagree with something, do so nicely.
No matter how charming you are, there is no guarantee a conversation will lead into a relationship, but being charming at least keeps you in a positive light.
Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.
On your way out make sure that the other remembers you.
Touch is a physical way of indicating acceptance and if properly timed it can be very charming.
There's nothing wrong with a handshake when you introduce yourself, but beyond that, don't abuse touch. Stick to safe zones like the outside of the arm and upper back, and when in doubt, just stick to those handshakes.
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A pathological narcissist loves to talk about himself, often in exaggerated and grandiose terms.
Common conversational topics for narcissists include accomplishments and achievements, exciting and envy-worthy activities, excessive focus on personal issues and concerns, excessive focus on looks and materialism, and putting others down to show one’s own superiority.
Many narcissists can come across as alluring and attractive, especially during the initial stages of a relationship.
While there’s nothing wrong inherently with being charming and romantic, the narcissist crafts these traits in order to use others. He or she is not really interested in you, but only in what he wants to extract from you.
Many narcissists lack reliability and follow through. This can range from regularly breaking appointments, to habitually falling through on promises and agreements.
When you observe a pattern of inconsistency between what your partner says, versus what she or he actually does, you may be dealing with a narcissist.
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... rather than what's right.
You can focus on what a lazy, forgetful, good-for-nothing partner you have or you can see them as a wonderful and loving partner who occasionally overlooks a request when he or she is distracted.
Choose where to spend your focus.
... than in love. Even though it may seem justified when your partner falls short or makes a mistake, choosing a righteous response will only damage trust and create lingering resentment.
Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. It builds up appreciation, good will and a desire to do even better to please you next time.