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10 Genuine Ways Anyone Can Be Exceptionally Charming

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Show genuine interest

Maintain eye contact. Smile when the other person smiles. Frown when they frown.

In simple, nonverbal ways, mimic the other's person's behavior--not slavishly, but because you're focused on what they're saying.

That feedback loop helps two people bond--and the ability to bon...

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Show a little vulnerability

Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They're even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.

They know that while some people may be, at least temporarily, impressed by what's artificial, everyone sincerely likes and appreciates the genui...

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Search for agreement instead of contradiction

Charming people don't actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement. 

Then, if it's appropriate, they gently share a different point of view, and in that way, help create an outstanding conversation.

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The power of touch

Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance and make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly.

Say you're congratulating someone; shaking hands or (possibly better yet, depending on the situation) patting them gently on the shoulder or uppe...

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Admitting mistakes

Charming people don't mind serving as a cautionary tale. They don't mind being a source of laughter, for others and for themselves.

And they're also not afraid to look a little silly. When you own your foibles, people don't laugh at you. They laugh with you. And they realize it's ...

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Masters of social jiu-jitsu

Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel charming too.

You feel like the most interesting man (or woman) in the world. And you like them f...

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The waiter test

If you really want to know how an individual treats people, take him to lunch. How he interacts with the waiter is a much better indication of his interpersonal skills than how he interacts with you.

Charming people treat everyone the same way: as deserving of respect and kindness.

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Remember names

Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree. 

The fact they remember instantly makes us feel a little prouder and a little better about ourselves. And that makes us feel better about them.

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Never name drop

Charming people may know cool people, but they don't talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.

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Always say less

Charming people already know what they know. They want to know what you know.

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