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These 5 Speaking Habits Make People Want To Collaborate With You

https://www.fastcompany.com/40546622/these-5-speaking-habits-make-people-want-to-collaborate-with-you

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These 5 Speaking Habits Make People Want To Collaborate With You
Everyone needs to know how to collaborate well, and you can practice that skill in many ways: by setting up working groups, lending a hand to your coworkers, and checking in to make sure your goals line up with your teammates'. But there's another side to the art of teamwork that's easier to overlook.

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Limit First-Person Pronouns

When you’re trying to sound collaborative and inclusive, you need to keep “I,” “me,” and “mine” to a minimum.

Emphasize the team with statements like  “we did this” or “our team achieved that.”

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Nix The Negatives

Negative like “I can’t”  or “I won’t” distance you from teammates and give the impression that you’re in opposition to someone or something.

Try to propose an alternative or at least soften your phrasing.

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Mention A Shared Goal

Speak in terms of common objectives.

People who are good at making others want to work with them tend to continuously reemphasize the goals and outcomes they share with their team.

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Ground Yourself In Reality

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Identify First Steps

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Choose Specific Goals

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A Team Needs Conflict

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Benefits Of Conflict

There is a need for conflict in teams for their effective functioning.

  • It allows team members to see difficult situations.
  • It helps put forward alternative solutions and diverse perspectives.
  • It acts as a strength test for the solutions found.

Healthy Conflicts

A nice person's self-image is based on pleasing and agreeing with others.

Instead of just agreeing and being nice, one should add unique value and perspective.

If you only agree with everyone, you may even not be that valuable to the team.