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It’s hard not to get worked up emotionally when you’re in a tense conversation: a disagreement can feel like a threat.
But if your body goes into “fight or flight” mode, you may lose access to the part of your brain responsible for rational thinking.
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Sitting still when you’re having a difficult conversation can make the emotions build up rather than dissipate.
Standing up and walking around helps to activate the thinking part of your brain.
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Come up with a phrase that you can repeat to yourself to remind you to stay calm.
Some examples: “This isn’t about me,” “This will pass,” or “This is about the business.”
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To distance yourself from the feeling, label it.
This allows you to see your thoughts and feelings for what they are, and not bury them or let them explode.
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The more time you give yourself to process your emotions, the less intense they are likely to be.
Excuse yourself for a moment: get a cup of coffee or a glass of water, go to the bathroom or take a stroll. Don't give the impression that you are desperately trying to escape.
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Breathing is at the core of ancient (and currently trendy) mindfulness practices, from yoga and tai chi to meditation.
However, studies suggest that breathing exercises alone, derived from...
It involves filling the lungs to the max and goes by various names like belly or diaphragmatic breathing.
It has been linked to improved cognitive performance, lower stress levels, and lower blood pressure.
Central to ancient Hindu philosophy was prana, described as vital “airs” or “energies” flowing through the body. Stemming from that belief, yoga was built on pranayama or breath retention.
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It means that we have a good understanding of how we feel emotionally.
Use plain language. The more fluent you are with real emotional language, the more clearly you will be able to think about how you’re feeling.
Get used to the idea of emotional complexity. When we feel upset, we're not feeling one single emotion. We are usually experiencing a blend of many emotions.
Training ourselves to look for and see this emotional complexity is key to better understanding ourselves when we’re upset and moving on in a healthy way.
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A gem statement is a statement that allows the opportunity to open up a new conversation with the hopes of compromisation and a solution.
This usually involves expressing your emotions with the main issue beneath all the surface anger or any other emotion being experienced while having a positive impact on the other.