Ideas from books, articles & podcasts.
Our defense mechanisms really kick into high gear during situations where we feel threatened. That doesn’t necessarily mean physically threatened, but also in high-stress environments where we doubt our abilities and suddenly become hyper-aware of our own shortcomings.
They are norm...
Mechanism motto: I’m going to stay as far away from that stressful thing as possible.
The problem with avoidance: Things don’t go away just because you ignore them. That assignment will still need to get done. That conflict with that co-worker will need to be resolved e...
Mechanism motto: There’s no way that’s going to happen.
The problem with denial: Denial is more than just avoiding a potentially threatening thought or circumstance—it involves vehemently denying the fact that it even exists. It blinds you with unrealistic optimism.
Mechanism motto: That wasn’t my fault because...
The problem with rationalization: It involved the blame game. Taking an honest look at your own faults and acknowledging how you’ve contributed to your downfall is never easy.
Mechanism motto: I need to find an unsuspecting target for my negative emotions.
The problem with displacement: You’ll channel all of your frustration and negative emotions into the totally wrong target. Anyone who crosses your path is going to wish they hadn’t.
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