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What kind of self-destructive perfectionist are you?

https://www.fastcompany.com/90263056/how-to-stop-being-a-perfectionist

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What kind of self-destructive perfectionist are you?
Perfectionism is on the rise in younger generations, according to a study published in the Psychological Bulletin . Researchers from the University of Bath and York St. John University in the U.K. measured three types: 1. self-oriented, the irrational desire to be perfect. 2. socially prescribed, perceiving excessive expectations from others.

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3 types of perfectionism

  • Self-oriented: the irrational desire to be perfect.
  • Socially prescribed: perceiving excessive expectations from others.
  • Other-oriented: placing unrealistic standards on others.

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Perfectionism harms productivity

Seeking perfection can create paralysis that hurts productivity. 

You procrastinate to distract yourself from the big scary tasks you have to do. And you end up beating yourself up later because you wasted so much time.

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Julie Morgenstern

“Perfectionism is a pretty rampant problem (...) It may be worse in an era of social media where everybody’s posting the most curated, best, perfect lives and achievements. We’re constantly surrounding by the best way, the perfect way, the right way in our personal and our work lives.” 

Julie Morgenstern

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Selective perfectionism

It means choosing when a task is worth an effort that’s above and beyond and when it’s not.

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The “Max, Mod, Min" technique

Before you start a task, write out the maximum you could do for that task, the minimum you could do, and the moderate–a happy medium of the two.

This allows you to break black-and-white thinking and helps you move forward.

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  • Socially-prescribed: when people think others expect them to be perfect and then pressure themselves to be perfect in order to meet those expectations.

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