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Four Seconds: The Silent Treatment As Negotiation

Four Seconds: The Silent Treatment As Negotiation

Awkward silences have many uses. It can be used to convey power, to exert influence over the other, and to keep the other person in uncertainty. Silence, according...

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Our Need For Closure

A psychological study looked into the need for closure of individuals, and how bothered people are when they are faced with disorder, chaos, lack of information and lack of resolution.

It c...

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Your Secret Superpower: Silence

  • Many CEOs and entrepreneurs know that being comfortable with uncertainty and awkward silence can be a superpower.
  • Candidates negotiating for their salary can use this superpower of...

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Planned Silence: Creating A Blank Space

  • Silence, when used strategically and intentionally, can help negotiate great deals and generate new ideas.
  • Prolonged silence can make others feel anxious, uncertain, less s...

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Let There Be Awkward Silence

Being comfortable with silence makes us more powerful, contrary to popular perception.

Silence can be injected in a conversation to heighten the impact of the words and mak...

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