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How to Use Awkward Silence to Get What You Want | Time
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Awkward silences have many uses. It can be used to convey power, to exert influence over the other, and to keep the other person in uncertainty. Silence, according to studies, starts to feel unbearable after four seconds.
Often, life’s cringeworthy moments are unscripted and unpredictable, with the pinch being in the ‘unknowable’ aspects.
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A psychological study looked into the need for closure of individuals, and how bothered people are when they are faced with disorder, chaos, lack of information and lack of resolution.
It concluded that our personality traits make us crave for closure, with people who like tidiness, orderliness and resolution desiring closure more than the ones who are okay with things being incomplete and messy.
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Being comfortable with silence makes us more powerful, contrary to popular perception.
Silence can be injected in a conversation to heighten the impact of the words and make the other person act according to our will.
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