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How to practice self-compassion
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"It is not so much the good, constructive things that partners do or do not do for one another that determines whether a relationship 'works' as it is the destructive things that they do or do not do in reaction to the problems."
CARYL RUSBULT
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Same-Sex Couples
Negativity seems to be less of a problem in same‑sex couples.
Both male and female couples tend to be more positive than heterosexual couples when dealing with conflict, both in the way that they introduced a disagreement and in the way that they responded to the criticism, ...
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The Negativity Bias
... or the Negativity Effect is a tendency most of us have to respond more strongly to negative events and emotions than to positive ones.
Any further action that is provoked due to the negative judgement can lead to a downward spiral in our communication. O...
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How We Respond
There are four ways a partner response to something he or she doesn't like in the other:
- Ignore.
- Talk and find some solution.
- Keep sulking while providing silent treatment.
- Try to break up or start looking for other partners.
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Conflict Patterns
The “female‑demand, male‑withdrawal” is the most known conflict pattern in heterosexual couples.
This happens when women start complaining or initiate criticism and men respond by withdrawing.
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Early Feelings
A new relationship that looks promising can make us think it will be happy forever, as we feel happy at that time.
A study shows that even after a couple of years the same people who were happy which each other show different kinds of behaviour, both positive and negative.
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Magnified Faults
The Negativity Effect magnifies and distorts your partner's faults, whether real or imaginary.
The partner starts to wonder why isn't there any appreciation for all the good that is being done, and why the focus is only on the one bad thing.
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Going Downhill
Relationships, especially long-term ones, don't get better with time but are kept intact by avoiding decline.
Married couples find contentment in other sources and remain satisfied with each other, and if not so, then the marriage breaks down.
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