“Some things are within our power, while others are not,” wrote Epictetus, the Greek Stoic, in a line we’d be justified in dismissing as obvious, if it weren’t for the fact that we ignore its ramifications every day, and suffer as a result. In every situation, there are things we can control and things we can’t, and struggling to control the latter is a recipe for anxiety and stress. “Partial control”, like the kind we have, say, over our 3 year-old’s behaviour, can be broken down into two: we usually have total control over what we say or do; and none, technically, over how he or she reacts.

An Ancient Philosophical Idea: “The Dichotomy Of Control”

It’s an idea that’s echoed widely elsewhere, for example in the Serenity Prayer, associated with Alcoholics Anonymous, and in an observation with Buddhist origins: if a problem can be fixed, there’s no need to worry about it; and if it can’t be fixed, well, why bother worrying?

An Idea Thats Is Echoed And An Idea That Resonates

Which is fine so far as it goes: it surely is true that if we could manage never to fret about things we can’t affect, then life would proceed serenely. But it strikes as a major weakness of Stoicism – at least in its rediscovered, newly fashionable form – to assume that seeing the truth in an insight like this can bring peace of mind by itself. Among the many things we can’t control, it turns out, are our own emotions.

An Idea With An If-Then Hypothesis

What Sigmund Freud and his successors brought to psychology was the understanding that conscious thought might be only a tiny sliver of what’s going on in the mind as a whole. So if a global pandemic triggers our particular anxieties around death, or illness, or job security – anxieties formed over decades, and embedded in our unconscious – it’s radically insufficient to try to think ourselves into realising they’re futile. If pointlessness caused things to vanish, Pop Sockets that people stick on the backs of their phones wouldn’t exist. Yet they do.

Sigmund Freud Against The Stoics

That is why the dichotomy of control is best approached as a preliminary tool. We (can) use it to distinguish what we can control from what we can’t – but peace of mind arrives only when we begin taking action in the realm of the former, the can-do. As the saying goes, we can’t think ourselves into new ways of acting, but we can act ourselves into new ways of thinking.

The Dichotomy Of Control Can Only Be A Preliminary Tool

It’s often less a matter of realising how little control we have than how much. We can’t stop the worldwide spread of a disease, but we can do plenty to stop it spreading through us. We can’t choose physical fitness, but we can choose to eat well, and to move. We can’t choose to make it through today’s to-do list, but we can choose to spend the next three hours diligently attacking it. And so on.

The Are Impossible Choices. But There Are Possible Choices Too. 

There’s a deep kind of freedom to be found here, even in the presence of severe external constraints. Our goals shift from external ones, about imposing certain changes on the world, to internal ones, about how we plan to act upon the world. These are objectives we can aim at wholeheartedly, fully expecting to accomplish – secure in the knowledge that they don’t require the cooperation of forces whose assistance we’re in no position to compel.

Summon And Compel The Forces You Can Summon And Compel

[…] Things have no hold on the soul. They stand there unmoving, outside it.Disturbance comes only from within - from our own perceptions.

If someone were to make it their purpose to take a true aim with a spear or arrow at some mark, their ultimate end, corresponding to the ultimate good as [the Stoics] pronounce it, would be to do all they could to aim straight: [they] would have to do everything to aim straight, yet, although they did everything to attain their purpose, their “ultimate end,” so to speak, would be what corresponded to what we call the Chief Good in the conduct of life, whereas the actual hitting of the mark would be in our phrase “to be chosen” but not “to be desired”.

There’s a freedom that comes with realizing we have more influence over our life than we thought.

There’s a freedom that comes with realising you have more influence over your life than you thought.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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If Something’s Out Of Our Control, Should We Still Worry About It?

Made up of 30 short chapters, this book is a spiritually enriching reminder of the Creator's love, which increases through everyday actions by remaining consistent with unnoticeable good deeds.We will explore the qualities and characteristics Allah SWT loves, and how we may become people who are loved by Him.I have also included some Duas (prayers) eloquently put in writing by Omar Suleiman, the author of this book 🙏🏼

This refers to the constant effort and mindset of steering back to Allah.If we were created by God to return to Him in a state that is pleasing to Him, then to demonstrate our desire to be loved by our Creator, we should show caution with things that compromise that love.The most practical way to do this is that we stop ourselves from thinking, saying or doing anything that is displeasing to Allah, we stop ourselves because we know that the greatest consequence is distance from Him.

Allah Loves..Piety

Indeed, the greatest way to be loved by Allah is to show that we fear losing that love.

May Allah show us to never compromise our love for Him, and may Allah entrench within us piety, that God-conciousness, and may Allah keep us in His favour, Ameen.

This means that we actually become closer to Allah SWT than we were before we commited the sin, we become more beloved to Him by repenting.Allah SWT didn't create us to not sin. Being sinful is part of our humanity, and forgiveness is part of Allah's attributes. We were given free will to sin, and so penitent human beings ascend even beyond the angels in rank.Allah SWT created us to know how to deal with sin properly. We acknowledge our sinfulness even when intentional, and try to get back onto the path to Him. The word tawbah means to turn back to Allah SWT

Allah Loves.. Repentance

There is no such thing as a sin that can permanently disqualify you from the love of Allah, if you repent afterwards and use that to propel yourself towards Him.

It doesn't matter what we did in our past, because He guaranteed us a better future if we learn how to deal with that past, And that will propel us towards Him. We ask Allah SWT to make us amongst those that are beloved to Him in our repentance and in our sin, and in our good deeds, Amin.

God-consciousness is the stepping stone towards excellence. To do beautiful things is to honour the sight of Allah upon us to earn extra love from Him.This leads us to hold ourselves to higher standards, so that we may distinguish ourselves and become amongst those who are especially loved by Allah SWT.You see the love of Allah through all your interactions, whether its in your worship, your relationships, your work ethics - you do this because the degree of Allah's love that you seek is that much higher.

Allah Loves.. Excellence 

In the Quran, Allah describes 3 types of self:<ol><li class="ql-align-center">The soul that commands itself with evil, that indulges in evil.</li><li class="ql-align-center"> The soul that is accountable, the self of God-consciousness.</li><li class="ql-align-center">The soul that is at peace with Allah, that is the person of excellence.</li></ol>

We ask Allah to make us the Good Doer, who are at peace with the favour of their Lord, who will always find His excellent favour on the Day of Judgement, and be amongst those motivated by His love before anything else, Amin.

Angels have no choice but to obey Allah SWT whereas a human being goes beyond obedience, carrying out acts of voluntary praise, voluntary love and voluntary worship. Therefore, Allah SWT allows a human being to be elevated in His sight, to a higher rank even above the angels. The words which Allah SWT chose for the angels:"سبحان الله وبحمده سبحان الله العظيم""Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi, Subhan-Allah-il-Azim""How perfect is my Lord and may He be praised, how perfect is my Lord, the Almighty"

Allah Loves.. Angelic Praise 

This chapter reminds us that we are in a good place if we have the ability and the will to call upon Him. Knowing that Allah SWT loves me despite how broken I am, despite how sinful I am, despite how distant I am from Him, yet he loves to hear me, in that there is a blessing.Any time Allah SWT unshackles your tongue to allow you to ask, any time Allah SWT allows you to make a request, know that He wants to give you something because He wouldn't have allowed you to make that prayer unless He wanted to answer.

Allah Loves.. Sincere Supplication 

We can become trapped in the mindset of feeling too distant from Allah SWT, that we refrain from calling out to Him sincerely. However, know that calling out to Him is a way of closing that gap and actually reducing that distance.Shaitan (the devil) invites us to commit sin, which causes the distance between us and Allah SWT. Then Shaitan invites us to feel too ashamed to turn back to Allah SWT with tawbah (repentance).This chapter provides words of encouragement to uplift the mindset from a state of doom and gloom, to one of hope and self determination.

Allah Loves.. Those Who Are Trying 

We ask Allah SWT to allow us to always be engaged in the effort of purification, to allow us to reach better states, and to always allow us to be in the state of His love even as we fall short, being in the state of repentance and being in the state of making effort for our purification, Ameen.

May Allah SWT heal our brokeness, may Allah SWT see us in our weakness and make it a reason for strength, and may Allah SWT bind us closer to Him through those moments when we feel distant from Him. May Allah SWT allow us to be used and consumed in ways that are good and in ways that are pleasing to Him, Ameen.

Tears And Traces

This chapter highlights the torment we may face when consumed with doubt as to whether Allah SWT hears us, when things feel out of control in our lives.It provides a summary for observing three levels to being in a state of absolute trust in Allah SWT.Where there is mistrust, there cannot be true love.

Allah Loves.. Trust

We ask Allah SWT first and foremost to protect us from being unjust to other people, to protect us from being complacent about injustice when it is apparent to us, to protect us from doing iniquitous things, and from judging in a way that's faulty when we find parties being swayed by some other interests.We ask Allah SWT to not judge us by His justice on the day of Judgement but to judge us by His mercy, Ameen.

Justice 

This chapter explains how we should treat people in accordance to the excellence that we seek from Allah SWT.The Prophet PBUH shows us how we can be the most beneficial to the people:<ol><li>"They put a sense of inner joy into their brothers or sisters heart". They don't just smile at them, they give them a reason to smile aswell. They are emotionally available to people, and serve as a vehicle of Allah's comfort just as they seek that from Allah for themselves.</li><li>"They remove a debt from someone". If we amplify love, mercy and kindness to others, then we will recieve more of that from Allah SWT.</li></ol>

Allah Loves.. The Beneficial People 

This chapter highlights how we are required to be in a place of emotional strength so that we are able to help someone through an emotional vulnerability, to be in a place of financial strength to be able to remove someone's debt or provide for them in their difficult time of need.Don't ever be a person who is helpless. Pick yourself up and try to be someone who is giving rather than receiving, seek to be someone who comforts rather than being the one comforted.

Allah Loves.. Strength

We ask Allah SWT to never allow us to be in need of anyone but Him, to make us people who always strive for goodness and strength and make us a people who are independant of all things but Him, for surely upon Him we are always dependant even if we don't recognize it, Ameen.

Independence 

This chapter explains how we should implement a sense of protectiveness, of honour for our family, and of people. A husband and wife should be protective of eachother in a way that they would not want either to be abused or harmed.Allah SWT encourages us to act honourably, to protect and uphold the honour of our fellow brothers and sisters. Allah SWT loves healthy pride and protective jealousy, having a great sense of honour, tied to honouring the dignity of others positively, without letting it become a means of transgression.

Allah Loves.. Honour 

This chapter explains how we should carry ourselves with dignity, gentlessness, a calm manner. It explains how the Prophet PBUH maintained composure and a sense of collectedness in the face of insults. He showed us that Allah SWT loves gentlessness in all affairs.We don't have to be aggresive or foul to denote strength, rather those things are actually a sign of weakness. So ask Allah to place gentlessness within us even when the Devil tries to stoke our anger and cause us to depart from it.

Allah Loves.. Gentleness 

This chapter goes into detail about restraining ourselves, and approaching things in a calm manner, to not be hasty, but to be intentional about the things that we do, to have self control. If we have forbearance, we are able to excercise self control, to restrain oneself.One of the names of Allah SWT is Al-Halim, One Who is forebearing. Allah tolerates our weaknesses, our wickedness, He does not punish us right away but instead He gives us a chance.Haste is from the Devil, and deliberation is from Allah SWT.

Allah Loves.. Forbearance And Deliberation 

This chapter explains how and why we should adopt a superior work ethic in all that we do. Paying attention to the details, making sure we are doing things right, bringing the spirit of due diligence and excellent work ethic together. The Prophet PBUH said: "Allah Loves that when any one of you undertakes a task, they do it right".

Allah Loves... Due Dillegence 

The Prophet PBUH said:"Do the deeds that you are able to continue with. Take up things that do not exhaust you. Allah does not tire of your worship until you tire of worshipping Allah. The most beloved deeds to Allah are the small ones, if they are consistent".

Allah Loves... Consistency 

The Prophet PBUH said that the very first thing that we will be asked about on the Day of Judgement is the fiver daily prayers. He taught us to practice this fundamental pillar with consistency. Prioritising prayer in our lives shows that we are prioritising Allah in our lives.As he was passing away, the Prophet PBUH said: "Your prayer, your prayer and treat women well".

Allah Loves... Punctual Prayers 

This chapter goes into detail regarding the physical and spiritual levels of purifying oneself by performing wudhu (the purification ritual). The Prophet said that cleanliness is half of faith. He taught us to take care of removing impurities from ourselves and making sure that our wudhu is done carefully with proper supplications.

Allah Loves... Cleanliness 

We ask Allah to make us amongst those who are spiritually purified and physically purified when we go to meet Him for the sake of spiritual purification, Amin.

The Prophet PBUH said: "The most believed of places to Allah are the mosques, and the most hated of places to Allah are the marketplaces"."Don't forbid the female servants of Allah from the houses of Allah" because these houses of Allah are meant to be their homes aswell. Every single believer, even a child, is meant to regard the house of Allah as the primary home in their lives, the place that they go to for mercy, tranquility and for nourishment.

Allah Loves... The Mosque  

This chapter looks at a particular kind of love, love for Allah's sake. The brotherhood in Islam unifies people across race, class, social barriers, preferences and hobbies. It brings people together who may not have any friendship outside of something as powerful as Islam.They love each other for Allah's sake.

Allah Loves... Love

We ask Allah to make us amongst those who love and are loved for His sake and who are all brought together by loving Him and being loved by Him and that are shaded by His glory on the Day of Judgement because of His love for us and our love for Him, Ameen.

This chapter explains the importance of loving your mother, showing kindness to your parents, showing patience to them as they get older, as explained by the Prophet PBUH. There are no two people whom we can love for Allah's sake more than our parents.Allah has preferred the mother in a very special way. He has mentioned obedience to parents with obedience to Him in the Quran, that we worship and obey Him, and that we show similar level of kindness and love to our parents without ofcourse worshipping them or preferring them over the Creater.

Allah Loves... Your Mother  

"Truly Allah loves those who are pious, self-sufficient, and obscure" who are unnoticed by the people, who avoid the spotlight.It is a person who is quiet, does their service, does their worship, always greets people with a smile, who is barely noticeable in gatherings, doesn't boast and in fact they are gaining a special type of prominence in the sight of Allah.They maintain a low profile, remain quiet and have a sense of humility. They are not seeking their value through how other people see them.

Allah Loves... The Unnoticed 

The Prophet said:"Allah Loves the one who is generous when he buys, generous when he sells, and generous in repayments."The believers are more worried about being charged by Allah because they have wronged a person in business than making a little something extra. The Prophet PBUH explained that Allah is pleased with honest merchants and salesmen, with someone who doesn't cheat people or take anything extra.We see people selling tissue or other small items, it won't hurt us inshaAllah, to buy from them as a means of sadaqah, for the sake of honouring a person who is trying to earn a living.

Allah Loves... Generosity Of Trade 

The Prophet PBUH has such a comprehensive character, he gives us something to aspire to in every single aspect and element of our lives.We ask Allah to make us like the Prophet Muhammad PBUH to make us love him and to join with him under his love in Paradise, Amin.

Allah Loves.. Those Who Follow The Prophet PBUH 

"Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty."This Hadith speaks to the general mindset that we are supposed to have, especially relevant on Eid day.The Prophet said:"If Allah has given you a blessing, Allah Loves to see its effect upon you, so enjoy the blessing but don't be extravagant".Allah also says in the Quran:"Take your best appearance when you go to Allah's house". Don't boast or show off, don't attract envy. Mostly the people who are very paranoid about envy are the people who want to show off the most, who have the extravagant weddings and extravagant things, instead, be moderate.

Allah Loves... Beauty

This chapter goes into detail how Allah is loving, merciful and generous. We have a Lord who loves to be generous. Remember that we pray in the last 10 nights of Ramadhan "O Allah! You are forgiving and generous. You love to forgive, so forgive us."In the Quran, it is said:' Allah wants to lighten the burden upon you'.'Allah desires ease for you not hardship'.

Allah Loves... Acceptance Of His Gifts 

30 short chapters exploring who and what Allah loves ❤️

In Allah Loves... Omar Suleiman explores who and what Allah loves so that we may become one of those who are beloved to Him. The Prophet Muhammad said that one of the supplications of Prophet Dawud was, “O Allah I ask You for Your love and the love of those that love You and all of those actions that would bring me closer to being loved by you.” Looking at our actions, characteristics and beliefs, this book will help us become better people, citizens and believers that are deserving of Allah's endless, infinite and ever-lasting love. Made up of 30 short and spiritually enriching chapters, this book is a reminder that throughout our lives, the Creator's love is always there, increasing through everyday actions such as showing generosity or remaining consistent with unnoticeable good deeds.

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In Allah Loves... Omar Suleiman explores who and what Allah loves so that we may become one of those who are beloved to Him. The Prophet Muhammad said that one of the supplications of Prophet Dawud was, “O Allah I ask You for Your love and the love of those that love You and all of those actions that would bring me closer to being loved by you.” Looking at our actions, characteristics and beliefs, this book will help us become better people, citizens and believers that are deserving of Allah's endless, infinite and ever-lasting love. Made up of 30 short and spiritually enriching chapters, this book is a reminder that throughout our lives, the Creator's love is always there, increasing through everyday actions such as showing generosity or remaining consistent with unnoticeable good deeds.

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Allah Loves

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Amazing Fact: We Are Highly Decisive

Have you ever stopped to think about how many times a day you make judgments about people, situations, or events? It's a common habit that we all engage in. For instance, when we meet someone, we tend to judge how they look and make assumptions about their lifestyle.

Being judgmental means looking at things through a lens of criticism

Judgment is a cognitive ability that helps us assess people, situations, and relationships based on the sensory evidence available to us to come to conclusions and make decisions.It’s important for us to wield it carefully and not be overly critical of others.

What Judgement Really Is

<ul><li>Wider horizons: Looking at circumstances without judgment allows you to consider additional perspectives outside of your own awareness and gain helpful insights into what other people experience. It can also help you increase empathy and compassion for people who may be different from you.</li><li>More positivity: Judgment comes from a place of negativity. Being less judgmental allows you to view the world with a more positive outlook.</li><li>Improved relationships: Feeling judged alienates others and makes it hard for them to trust you. </li></ul>

Benefits of Being Less Judgmental 

Pay Attention to Your Thoughts The first step is to recognize that you’re doing it. Start paying more attention to your thoughts, so you can identify when you’re being judgmental. Look for thoughts or phrases like: <ul><li>“What is [person] doing/saying/wearing?"</li><li>"[Person] should be doing [action] instead of [action].”</li><li>“This [person/thing] is so [negative adjective].”</li></ul>

6 Ways to Be Less Judgmental 

Question Your Assumptions If you have a negative view of someone, ask yourself what it’s based on. Did you formulate your view based on facts? Do you have all the relevant information or do you need to inquire further about the situation? Make an effort to explore all the possible sources of information before coming to a conclusion. If this isn’t possible, consider leaving your opinion neutral or open-ended.

Recognize Your Biases Be aware of your own biases and cultural standards. Recognize that your own view of life is limited based on your own experiences.Remember that other people with different cultural, social, professional, religious, or ethnic backgrounds may not share the same views. Try to put yourself in their shoes and see things from their perspective.

Be Empathetic Practice empathy and compassion for people, even if they look, think, dress, speak, or act differently than you do.Think about how you have felt when someone formed an opinion of you that wasn’t accurate. Did you feel hurt, angry, upset, ashamed, embarrassed, or disappointed? Let those feelings guide you toward being more compassionate toward others.

Expand Your Horizons Expose yourself to new ideas and perspectives. Meet new people and talk to them about their lives. Experiment with different activities and try new foods. Read lots of books and watch informative content. Travel as much as you are able to.

Practice PositivityWith practice, you can develop a more positive mindset. If you catch yourself thinking something negative about something or someone, challenge yourself to see something positive in the situation instead.You can also take a few minutes every night to list the good things that happened that day and be thankful for all the things you’re grateful for.You can choose to do this exercise by yourself in your mind. Or you can note it down in a journal or practice it with a loved one.

Did this resonate with you? I just wrote an article on how we get automatic negative thoughts that hinder our judgement, <a href="https://medium.com/@parakhkatyal/negativity-hinders-judgment-5873fd87051e">here’s a link. </a>

This article explores the characteristics of judgmental people, discusses the benefits of being more open-minded, and suggests some ways to be less judgemental.

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I’ve always had a nonsensical belief in myself and the universe. Basically what happens to me is, there’s an automatic reset that my brain goes into, where I say, “I might not be able to make it through the front door, like everybody else. But I’ll make it through the basement window. I’ll make it through the back door. I’ll find a way to parachute in on the roof and climb down into a window.”I have faith. And I think faith is better than hope, you know? Hope walks into fire, and faith leaps over it.

“I have faith. And I think faith is better than hope, you know? Hope walks into fire, and faith leaps over it.”

The comedian-artist (with co-author Dana Vachon) has written a semi-serious, semi-autobiographical novel, &quot;Memoirs and Misinformation&quot;

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Jim Carrey’s “nonsensical belief” in himself and the universe

I realized that I could lose myself in a character. I could live in a character. It was a choice. And when I finished with that, I took a month to remember who I was. “What do I believe? What are my politics? What do I like and dislike?” It took me a while, and I was depressed going back into my concerns and my politics.But there was a shift that had already happened. And the shift was, “Wait a second. If I can put Jim Carrey aside for four months, who is Jim Carrey? Who the hell is that?”… I know now he does not really exist. He is ideas…

…. Jim Carrey was an idea my parents gave me. Irish-Scottish-French was an idea I was given. Canadian was an idea that I was given. I had a hockey team and a religion and all of these things that cobble together into this kind of Frankenstein monster, this representation. It’s like an avatar. These are all the things I am.You are not an actor, or a lawyer. No one is a lawyer. There are lawyers, law is practiced, but no one is a lawyer. There is no one, in fact, there.

“If I can put who I am aside, who am I?”

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hen you're in a healthy romantic relationship, it just feels different. You experience a whole list of emotions that are sure signs you love someone and are loved in return.But how do you know when you're in love with someone and it's time for you to stop searching and make a commitment?

You think it's love. Yes, it's love. Sure it's love! Wait ... is it, though?

You can try using your rational judgment and checking off the boxes on your ideal partner list, but falling in love isn't always so neat and tidy. In the end, it comes down to how they make you feel — <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/self/trust-your-intuition-gut-feeling">because feelings don't lie </a>.

Your emotions are meant to protect you from making unhealthy relationship choices. You instinctively know how the right relationship doesn't feel. It's not constricting, maddening, suffocating, closed, unstable, or depressing. Quite the opposite, in fact.Being in love with "the one" feels, well ... good.Aside from the racing heart and giddy headiness of romantic love in its early stages, <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/cant-stop-thinking-about-someone">love brings on physiological changes</a>

How does it feel to be in love?

<a href="https://www.spring.org.uk/2023/03/psychology-of-love-relationships.php">Neuroscientists researching the effects of love </a>on the human brain have found "empirical evidence of love-related alterations in the underlying functional architecture of the brain." Research has also found that experiencing love within <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/relationship-experts-share-things-make-wives-feel-seen">healthy long-term relationships and marriages </a>can activate centers in the brain and act as a protective mechanism against physical and emotional pain and stress. Of course, love isn't all roses.

Even in the healthiest relationships and marriages, emotions can and do fluctuate. It's normal to experience a full range of emotions with your partner, including those we tend to think of as negative, such as frustration, anger and hurt.

Love is love, but making and keeping a commitment is a choice you make every day. You must listen to your heart in order to make the best decisions for yourself and your future. If you're stuck on the fence about your partner and whether or not they're right for you, it's time to connect with your heart and be brutally honest with yourself about what you're feeling.

If you're still feeling anticipation after the honeymoon period, you're in great shape! Do you feel excited when you're together? Real love brings enthusiasm and awakening to experience pleasure and new things.

1. You Feel Excited

Being in their arms feels like a safe harbor. You never fear them or their actions. <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/how-create-secure-relationship">You trust them explicitly </a>and you take comfort in knowing they'll never intentionally lie, cheat, or break your heart.

2. You Feel Secure

You know you can live your values and be who you are around them — your authentic and unfiltered self. They make you feel support when you're going for your dreams, perhaps even when no one else understands them.

3. You Deel Accepted

You feel capable of solving any problem and acting on your own behalf. You're a free agent with skills and dreams and a whole world out there to conquer.

4. You Feel Empowered

You feel attractive in your own skin and you know that your partner loves all of you. They often tell you that you are beautiful — inside and out. Thus, there is confidence that radiates and shines from within you.

5. You Experience A Feeling Of Radiance

Your heart feels two sizes larger. Not only do <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/2022348748/what-kindness-should-really-mean-todays-world">you have kindness and generosity </a>to show your family, friends, neighbors, and fellow citizens, you have compassion for yourself. This type of love makes you want to nurture yourself and be the best person you can be.

6. You Feel Better Able To Express Xompassion

You envision a future for yourself that is positive, successful, and happy. No matter what is thrown at you, you have faith that you can overcome it. Together, it's the two of you, for the world!

7. You Feel Hopeful

There is a lightness about you and your relationship. Beyond fun and laughter, which you experience regularly, you are overcome with delight and pleasure whenever you even think of them.

8. You Feel Joyful

Whether you're sitting side by side or far away, you feel the other's presence. It feels like there is an invisible string that connects you. You communicate without saying a word and when you're intimate, the world falls away around you.

9. You Feel A Unique onnection

Like Jerry Maguire said, "You complete me." Yes, you may feel like a jigsaw puzzle that fits perfectly together. But, soulmate love will make you feel whole in your own right and full of purpose. If you’re lucky enough to experience these feelings, you'll know <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/how-know-right-relationship-for-you">you're in the right relationship </a>. This type of love will sustain you through life's challenges, and your bond will get stronger over time. Trust your feelings. They won't steer you wrong.

10. You Feel Like You Are A 'Complete' Person

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A LEADER is a person who has vision and determination to achieve the every milestone.Leaders are those who find the creative solutions for the problems and accomplish the every goal with the better strategies.

Who is a Great Leader?

We can easily differentiate between the Leader and Follower.Here are some Qualities of Leader

Qualities Of Leader 🤔

Leaders are Always Solution Oriented.A Leader always find the solution for the problems , Leader used his creativity to get the solution.But when it Comes to the Follower,Follower always procastinate and makes Excuses.

Solution Oriented

Leaders are always curious to learn new things , they keep themselves updated.Leaders read Books regularly to broad their perspective and they are quick Learner.But anybody can foster and increase learning agility through practice, experience, and effort. After all, great leaders are really great learners.

Curious to Learn 

The best leaders are skilled communicators who are able to communicate in a variety of ways, from sharing information to inspiring others.They are good at public speaking and they have power to influence the Crowd.

Communication 

Who is a Leader?

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