The fear of choosing the wrong thing or having regrets about not going down a certain path is real. This decidophobia kicks in for the smallest of choices in our lives, due to the following reasons:<ul><li>Lack of clarity.</li><li>Fearing the wrong consequences.</li><li>Assuming others have a better perspective.</li><li>Comparing ourselves to others.</li><li>Too many decisions.</li></ul>

The Reason People Cannot Make Decisions

There are frankly very few things that are truly in our control. And often, the ‘what ifs’ in our minds are questions that we actually cannot have answers to because the answers depend on things that we cannot change. Asking ourselves whether this is something in our control or something we can change has actually been immensely helpful in making decisions that aren’t led by the fear of the unknown.

Determine What Is in Your Control vs. Not

Actually, take a vacation whenever :) But seriously — sometimes, it’s super refreshing to not think about something for a few days and come back to it with a new perspective.

When in Doubt, Take a Vacation

There are always going to be bigger decisions that we just do not have enough information about to have a clear answer on day 1 though. These are often the scariest because you think you aren’t getting anywhere in making the decision and are stuck in a loop of ‘no clue’. But embracing and believing in the process really does wonders. Every small step like making a pros and cons list, reaching out to people to gather more information, reading up, eliminating, etc. can make these bigger decisions much less scary.

Embrace the Process and Don’t Judge Your Success until You’re Through with The Proces

Nobody truly understands all the factors that underlie the decision. It’s important to talk to people to help shape your perspective — but ultimately, it’s your decision. And it’s essential to lead it with trust and confidence in yourself.

Trust and Confidence

Take a super tough decision. One that you have wanted to take for a while, have had an answer for a while, but you just haven’t been able to bring yourself to take it. The liberation and sense of closure that you get from taking that decision is unmatched. Suddenly, the rest of the decision making will feel unclogged and the flow of making decisions will be much smoother and uninterrupted.

Take A Decision To Eliminate Fear Of Taking Decisions

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Decidophobia —  fear of taking wrong decisions

Many people might want a hobby but don't feel they have enough time. However, we may have more time than we think. According to the 2019 Bureau of Labor and Statistics Survey, Americans have about five hours of leisure time per day and use about half those hours for screentime. The problem with finding a hobby is that we feel our "free" time must involve the pursuit of self-improvement or money. However, making time for non-essential activities is essential as leisure can improve mental and physical wellbeing.

Finding a hobby

When starting a hobby, people often make the mistake of choosing something aspirational rather than something they'll actually enjoy. It's important to be realistic. Find something you truly enjoy. If you want to try something totally new, start small to keep it manageable. Enlist friends in the effort to break down the barriers to entry.

Keep realistic expectations

Earning a part-time income may overlap with our interests, but it’s important to develop hobbies with no financial motives attached. The pleasure of engaging in a hobby should be enough without the added stress of deadlines, demands, and accommodation. A hobby disconnected from your career will likely still improve your work life. Leisure time not only helps refuel us for a busy work life but engaging in deep focus helps us to become better at focusing.

A  hobby is not a side hustle

Creating a website or learning to code may seem like an attractive choice for a hobby, but if you find yourself losing hours to your devices, pick an activity that's not screen-based. Screen time has been linked to depression and anxiety. Phones interfere with our ability to focus. Engaging in active or outdoor hobbies like bird watching, ballroom dancing, or hiking can improve engagement in a hobby.

Escape the glow of the screen

Whether you’re moving to a new city, moving into a new apartment, or meeting new coworkers, the change can be a good time to spark a change in your routine. Ask yourself if you should work at the cafe down the street or in your apartment? When do you exercise, and where? How often do you go out with friends?

Changing your location or routine is a good time to develop a new hobby

Step one: Ignore insidious competition culture.

How to have a true hobby, not a side hustle

Goal Planning is something that's tough but can be done with a little effort. As a fixed <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/07/Why-mindset-is-key%20to-success-%20.html">mindset </a> person we believe that  planning must be done for big projects or when you are planning to do something big. But is that true? A big no planning is a must to do things while doing anything because having a plan increases the success rates. Here's a fact from psychology that says  most of us feel bored to make a plan and some are perfect in building a plan but can't execute it properly.

Top 4 Ways To Plan Your Goals 

Goal Planning is basically the roadmap of what you are actually going to do with your goals.  It is basically a set of protocols and instructions that you will follow while working for your goals and ambitions in life.  It's just a list of tasks that you are going to do in order to <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/05/How-to-set-goals-and-achieve-them.html">achieve that ultimate goal. </a>

What does goal planning actually mean?

The goals that one has set for himself , it can be the short term goals or the long term depending how one set them. Ex:- Buying a car, Buying a house, building your own empire and much more. Planning requires a reason and that's the first need to build a plan.  Search for a reason for what you are trying to put all your effort into.

What are Personal goals ?

Have a knowledge of a specific goal that you want to accomplish in your life. It is said that half knowledge is dangerous and yes it is correct, in order to plan your success stories you must have a good knowledge about your goals and what you are actually going to work upon . Being a beginner that's the first and basic step that you have to take.  Look out for a reason it can be a massive success, buying a new car, creating a luxury lifestyle or anything.

1. Look for a reason

Set a time table, avoiding unnecessary activities and prioritising your work.  Once you set a goal for yourself the first and most important step is giving time to that particular goal. Success requires engagement and a lot of effort. The more you will work for it, the greater you will receive. <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/07/Time-management-and-its-Importance%20.html">Save your time </a> , don't waste it because time is very important and investing your today in hardwork will surely make your future bright.

2. Set a time table

In order to plan your goals, create a to-do list or an action plan that will give you a detailed idea of what you actually want to do throughout your whole day.  To do list is the best way to make your day <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/08/Best-way-to-improve-your-productivity%20.html">more productive </a> . It's the most efficient way to manage your work.  To do list is important and you must try it out once in a life and it's the first choice of every successful person.  To do list is an  important factor in planning your goals.

3. Create a to do list

Lastly, in order to plan your goals, think about each and every perspective and keep your goals ahead while planning. This will help you have a crystal image about what you are actually doing and will make you work more productively.  While planning for your goals it's important to keep a long term thinking about everything from the pros to the cons. One who builds a plan while keeping eyes for a better future always succeeds, so your plan must be capable enough for a long term fight.

4. Look for everything

Those were the 4 ways to build a great plan.  Lastly nothing can beat hard work, so set goals, plan for them, work hard and achieve what you want. That's all Good day:)

Conclusion

Planning your goals is the first step to achieving them. Here are the top 4 ways to plan your goals and make them happen.

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<ul><li>Take time to help another person.</li><li>Laugh for no reason.</li><li>Choose to be happy.</li><li>Spend time getting to know yourself.</li><li>Learn from other’s mistakes as well. </li><li>Don't allow others to force their expectations on you.</li></ul>

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<ul><li>Accept your mistakes and learn from them.</li><li>Nothing happens overnight.</li><li>Try to avoid making dumb mistakes.</li><li>Think before you act.</li><li>The things you choose to do today really matters.</li><li>Take the time to develop good habits.</li><li>Don't live in denial, take action.</li></ul>

Mitsakes

<ul><li>Focus on the vital few.</li><li>Say ‘no’ to a lot of things.</li><li>Focus on one task at a time.</li><li>Invest the time to think.</li></ul>

Vital Few

“You may delay, but time will not.”

<ul><li>Show me your company, and I'll tell you who you are.</li><li>Be open and honest in your communication.</li><li>Be true to your passions.</li><li>Take time to exercise.</li><li>Take responsibility for your life.</li></ul>

Passion 

<ul><li>It's never too late to reinvent yourself.</li><li>Don't live your life backwards.</li><li>Learn to embrace change.</li><li>The little steps, over a long time, enable you to cover a great distance.</li></ul>

Tiny Steps

“Greediness is a hole that makes you more and more shallow every passing day.”

<ol><li>Do what you think is right.</li><li>Don't follow others blindly.</li><li>Be honest and impeccable with your word.</li><li>Admit your mistakes.</li></ol>

4 Principles That Build Character

“Character is like a tree, and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.”

<ol><li>They're masters of their fields because of deliberate practice. They're well-prepared.</li><li>They spend time deeply focused on solving problems that matter.</li><li>They step away from the problem, creating space for insights and solutions to come.</li></ol>

3 Common Traits of Successful People

<ol><li>Have a clear stretch goal.</li><li>Love what you do.</li><li>Work hard, usually over a long time.</li><li>Be realistic and know your limitations.</li><li>Be flexible and persevere.</li><li>Luck goes a long way.</li></ol>

Elements Critical for Success

“I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

“There are but three events in a man’s life: birth, life and death. He is not conscious of being born, he dies in pain, and he forgets to live.”

Life is short. You can, if you work hard and are lucky, get more of almost anything, but you can't get more time. Time only goes one way. The average American has a lifespan of less than 30,000 days. So how you choose to live matters. That's the topic of this book. I don't pretend to have all the answers. I'm still learning every day, and many of the good ideas here I've picked up from other people either directly or by reading. But this is what's worked for me. Like life, this book is short. Many books I read could communicate their ideas in fewer pages. So I've tried to be brief in line with the wise person who noted: "If I'd had more time I would have written a shorter letter". I don't think brevity implies lack of content. The concepts here have improved the quality of my life, and I hope they're useful to you as well. Using these concepts, I have created a life I love. My job doesn't feel like work. I love and respect the people with whom I spend time. And I'm also passionate about my life outside work. I've learned how to create a balance that makes me happy between work and other interests, including my family, friends and exercise. Sadly I think that's rare. And yet, while I know I'm lucky, most people can work towards those goals in their own lives. My interest in making the most of my life began when I was just starting college, but when I was in my mid-thirties a boss I admired died of cancer. He was young. He had a great wife; he had three young children; he had a fantastic career -- he had everything in life. He just didn't have enough time. So, while I'd often thought about how to get the most out of life, the death of someone so young and vital increased my sense of urgency to act on it. One of the things I've always wanted to do was to work for myself. As a result, I left an exciting job at Microsoft in 2001 amidst the Internet bust to found the investing firm I now run. It was hard to do, both financially and emotionally. When I left Microsoft, many people - friends, family, and even some of the press - thought I was deluding myself to start a fund focused on Internet-related companies during a market crash. A press quote from the time said: "Call him a little crazy. Call him a little nuts." I'd never seen that type of coverage before. And, in a sense, the press was right; the business wasn't easy to start. Fortunately, from a vantage point of ten years down the road, it's worked out quite well. A key part of my job is reading and thinking about a broad variety of topics. So writing this book was relatively easy. It's even easier to read. But, like many things in life, actually executing each day on these concepts is extremely difficult. With thanks to Thomas Edison, life is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Even so, I hope you have fun perspiring. Peter Atkins Seattle, WA December, 2010

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• You can't reason someone out of a notion that they didn’t reason themselves into.• Your best job will be the one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact, only apply to jobs you are unqualified for.• Buy used books. They have the same words as the new ones. Also libraries.• You can be whatever you want, so be the person who ends meetings early.• A wise man said, “Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

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• Take the stairs. • What you actually pay for something is at least twice the listed price because of the energy, time, money needed to set it up, learn, maintain, repair, and dispose of at the end. Not all prices appear on labels. Actual costs are 2x listed prices. • When you arrive at your room in a hotel, locate the emergency exits. It only takes a minute. • The only productive way to answer “what should I do now?” is to first tackle the question of “who should I become?” • Average returns sustained over an above-average period of time yield extraordinary results. Buy and hold.

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• It’s thrilling to be extremely polite to rude strangers. • It’s possible that a not-so smart person, who can communicate well, can do much better than a super smart person who can’t communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence. • Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best. • Art is whatever you can get away with. • With your children, spend half the money you think you should, but double the time with them.

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• Purchase the most recent tourist guidebook to your home town or region. You’ll learn a lot by playing the tourist once a year. • Dont wait in line to eat something famous. It is rarely worth the wait. • To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, move them onto an abysmally slow internet connection. Observe. • Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird. • Be a pro. Back up your back up. Have at least one physical backup and one backup in the cloud. Have more than one of each. Backups are cheap compared to regrets.

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• Don't believe everything you think you believe. • To signal an emergency, use the rule of three; 3 shouts, 3 horn blasts, or 3 whistles. • At a restaurant do you order what you know is great, or do you try something new? Do you make what you know will sell or try something new? Do you keep dating new folks or try to commit to someone you already met? The optimal balance for exploring new things vs exploiting them once found is: 1/3. Spend 1/3 of your time on exploring and 2/3 time on deepening. It is harder to devote time to exploring as you age because it seems unproductive, but aim for 1/3.

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• Actual great opportunities do not have “Great Opportunities” in the subject line. • When introduced to someone make eye contact and count to 4. You’ll both remember each other. • Take note if you find yourself wondering “Where is my good knife? Or, where is my good pen?” That means you have bad ones. Get rid of those. • When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make “explaining the problem” part of your troubleshooting process.

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• When buying a garden hose, an extension cord, or a ladder, get one substantially longer than you think you need. It’ll be the right size. • Dont bother fighting the old; just build the new. • Your group can achieve great things way beyond your means simply by showing people that they are appreciated. • When someone tells you about the peak year of human history, the period of time when things were good before things went downhill, it will always be the years of when they were 10 years old — which is the peak of any human’s existence.

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• You are as big as the things that make you angry. • When speaking to an audience, it’s better to fix your gaze on a few people than to “spray” your gaze across the room. Your eyes telegraph to others whether you really believe what you are saying. • Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make habits. Don't focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout. • When negotiating, don't aim for a bigger piece of the pie; aim to create a bigger pie. • If you repeated what you did today 365 more times, will you be where you want to be next year?

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• You see only 2% of another person, and they see only 2% of you. Attune yourselves to the hidden 98%. • Your time and space are limited. Remove, give away, throw out things in your life that don't spark joy any longer in order to make room for those that do. • Our descendants will achieve things that will amaze us, yet a portion of what they will create could have been made with today’s materials and tools if we had had the imagination. Think bigger. • For a great payoff, be especially curious about the things you are not interested in.

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• Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you’ll arrive at where you want to go. • Every breakthrough is at first laughable and ridiculous. In fact if it did not start out laughable and ridiculous, it is not a breakthrough. • If you loan someone $20 and you never see them again because they are avoiding paying you back, that makes it worth $20. • Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end.

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• The best time to negotiate your salary for a new job is the moment AFTER they say they want you, and not before. Then it becomes a game of chicken for each side to name an amount first, but it is to your advantage to get them to give a number before you do. • Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them. • Dont purchase extra insurance if you are renting a car with a credit card.

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• If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself, your conclusions will not be predictable. • Aim to die broke. Give to your beneficiaries before you die; it’s more fun and useful. Spend it all. Your last check should go to the funeral home and it should bounce. • The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.

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Statistically, most startups in the world fail. This is due to several factors: the startup didn’t address a real market need, it ran out of cash, it didn’t have the right team, it got outcompeted, or because its go-to-market strategy was insufficient. There are currently 31.7 million small businesses in the United States, which make up 99.9% of all U.S. businesses.1 Many small businesses start up every month but the failure rate is high. It seems that most businesses are destined for failure. But there are key points to not becoming a faliure

6 Rules Of Successful Entrepreneurs And Startups

You need to create a unique brand proposition of your product. The need of the utility of the product has to be created and the value proposition has to be communicated loud and clear to the customer. You need to make sure that the product is developed keeping in mind it fulfills the need of the user. What is more significant is that the customers understand the utility well and realizes the need for it.“One product can be life-changing, game-changing,” says Pravin Daryani, CEO of A&A Business Consultancy.

1.You need to create a unique brand of your product

You need to test the product viability before launch, test, validate and determine the core features. You have to focus on using the feedback as a basis to build the next version of the product. Each step has to be logically derived on the basis of calculations. No step should be based on intuition and gut feeling. Everything should be derived from calculations and logically driven.

2. Effective Calculation 

It is not enough to just be another face in the crowd. If a startup wishes to succeed, it must aspire to lead its market category eventually. It can do this in one of two ways: challenging an existing category by offering a better way to do something or defining a new category or sub-category that didn’t exist before.

3. Dominate the Market Category You Are After or Create New

Startup entrepreneurship refuses to believe“there is nothing new under the sun” They believe that there is always a better solution, new needs to be met, and constant changes that require constant innovation. The entrepreneur needs to have a hypothesis of where the market is going, foresee the new market needs, and aim to build a solution for these future needs.

4. Foresee the Future and Innovate to Meet Its Demands

Michael Jordon rightly highlights the importance of the right people working as a team,” Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence win championships”.You need to make sure you have the best people from diverse fields and together as a team you can maneuver any challenges and pitfalls. Do not emphasize on a one-man team. A balanced team builds empires and helps you thrive in each situation.

5. Invest in the right team

The rules can pertain to what is physically possible or what is considered “good practice.” One implicit rule of commerce is that nothing should be given away. Startups have repeatedly turned that rule on its head, declaring that something previously for sale is now free and creating a new business model that didn’t exist before.

6. Bend the Rules

This advice is usually given to fiction writers. In the world of high-tech startups, it’s not enough to tell people what you can do – that won’t convince them. However, if you provide living proof of what your product can do and that your technology works, people believe you, there’s a good chance they will become your clients or investors.

7. Show, Don’t Tell

You need to enhance your leadership skills and focus on personal development. Keep building your acumen and never stop learning. "A great leader can steer the radar smoothly in all stormy times" You have to keep your technology and software updated and be flexible too. You need to communicate, motivate, delegate and channelize the energies of the team to be successful.

8. Enhance leadership skills

Startups are based on novel ideas, which if synched with market demands, can work wonders. Starting a company or building a product is an easy part, sustaining operations or making them grow is the biggest challenge. Retain your calm, invest wisely in your team and go step by step. It’s self-confidence, unique ideas and passi that will truly make any startup unstoppable.

Conclusion 

Starting a company or building a product is an easy part, sustaining operations or making them grow is the biggest challenge.

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Chasing a Dream"When you want something, all the universe conspire in helping you to achieve it."

Chasing A Dream!

Fearing Failure"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."

Fearing Failure

Getting UpThe Secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.

Own LifeEveryone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

Don't Explain!Don't waste your time with explanations; people only hear what they want to hear.

Own AnswersPeople never learn anything by being told, they have to find out for themselves.

Life's ParadoxWhen I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.

Never Always WrongNothing in the world is ever completely wrong. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.

Conquer FearDon't give in to your fears. If you do, you won't be able to talk to your heart.

Simple ThingsThe simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.

These are the quotes from the book- The Alchemist

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There are two types of people when making choices: action oriented people and state oriented people

Two Types Of People When Making Choices

These person tend to focus more on taking action rather than to think it slowly. They are more decisive, flexible, and more likely to implement their intentions in the face of adversity

Action Oriented People

These people tend to focus more on their emosional condition rather than to take action. They struggle to make choices and more likely to abandon their commitment

State Oriented People

There were no difference between two types of people in term of speed, accuracy, bias, or sensitivity when making decision.The difference between the two: action oriented people have more confidence in their choices.Sate oriented people have more considerations before making a choices. And this is quite useful when making long-term choices (Ex: Taking a job, choose university/degree, etc)

How It Affect The Quality Of Our Decision?

Less or more confidence in making choices does not make your choices better or worse. But it can affect your perception when you implement that choices. Less confidence can hinder people to take an action and believe in their progress. But to much confidence will likely cause people to not properly examine many alternative in their choice.

Decisive people may be more confident in their choices, but that does not mean they are better at making decisions than the rest of us.

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a) Digital: If you prefer a digital system, do some research on to-do list apps and digital calendars. You will surely land on a reasonable app from App Store/ Play Store.My personal recommendation is Microsoft To Do(Simple and free).b) Pen and Paper: If you like going old-schools, get a notebook. A simple notebook will do the trick. However, some specialized notebooks (e.g. bullet journals) are also available in the market.c) Hybrid: If you want to harness the benefits of both the above-mentioned systems, a hybrid system is the viable solution.

1. Pick a Planning tool

2. PrioritizePrioritize your activities in the order of their importance. Schedule your most important tasks first, then do the second most important one, and so on.The most common technique to prioritize is to write down the three most important things that you want to accomplish by the end of the day.Another way is to write the one most important task which you must complete on that day. Start the remaining tasks once you complete this task.

2. Prioritize

Task batching is a planning technique to combine similar activities. Simply put tasks that are similar can be scheduled together, like texting a friend, emailing a client, or replying social media comments, which can all be planned to be held, say from 12:30 to 1:30.Without Batching technique, you would be spreading them throughout the day (say texting a friend at 10:30, emailing the client at 12:00, and replying to social media comments at 2:00). This way of planning doesn’t look so bad on the surface, but switching between tasks offers considerable friction and therefore wastes your time.

3. Task Batching

4. Use Mornings for difficult TasksMorning is the most productive time of the day. You are naturally most active, energized, and focused at the start of the day. This means, your ability to learn and process new information is maximum during this time. So, it is best if you start the most difficult tasks in the morning.For example, for me, writing an article is a much more difficult task than sorting out icons on my desktop. Therefore, I will prefer to write the article in the morning.You may have heard the expression Eat the frog, which simply means you should start the most difficult task fi<warningtag>rst.</warningtag>

4. Use Mornings for Difficult Tasks

5. Use Afternoons for Mundane TasksThe afternoon is the time when your energy is depleting hence, it’s best to schedule simple and managing-type tasks in the afternoon.A quote I read somewhere:Use morning for making, and the afternoon for managingTasks like editing your selfies or reading social media comments don’t require much energy and therefore, can be scheduled for the afternoon.

5. Use Afternoons for Easy Tasks

6. Keep your Schedule Flexible.When we sit to plan, we generally underestimate the amount of time certain tasks will take. That’s why it is important that you don’t fill each second of your day.Keeping it flexible allows you to carter for uncertainties, like a traffic jam, slow internet connection, etc.

6. Keep your Schedule Flexible

In today’s fast-paced world, everybody has a lot of plates spinning. Planning your day in advance gives you better control over your day-to-day activities. A daily plan enables you to focus on your most important task while keeping the distractions to a minimum,

In today’s fast-paced world, everybody has a lot of plates spinning. Planning your day in advance gives you better control over your day-to-day activities. A daily plan enables you to focus on your…

How to Plan Your Day for Maximum Productivity

No matter how intelligent you are or what life has thrown at you, there is no way to become more deserving of success than anyone else. If a person loses their business and feels indebted, they’re inviting more frustration and anger into their life. Mentally strong people can shift their focus away from their debt. Hence, they can help people in need. Mentally strong people keep themselves busy doing good deeds.If you follow this guidance, you can stop wasting time, stop feeling like you are owed something and stop resenting others’ success.

1. Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

By far, the most harmful drug is self-pity. It is addictive, provides only temporary pleasure, and disconnects people from reality.No one is immune to hard times. However, it is how you react to these situations that is important. Mentally strong individuals do not spend precious time pitying themselves. They replace self-pity with gratitude. Amy Morin provides an example of an American long-distance runner, Marla Runyan. She ran the New York Marathon in a little over two hours. Marla also has a master’s degree in education and has written a book.

2. Mentally Strong People Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

The most impressive aspect of all this is that she is legally blind.The key to her success lies in her refusal to indulge in self-pity. She’s always refused to identify her illness as a disability. Rather than dwelling on what her illness took away, she’s grateful for what it gave her. In addition, research suggests that developing your gratitude capacity can strengthen you on many levels. In the first place, gratitude improves your physical well-being. A 2003 study found that grateful people suffer less from aches and pains.

When you see a colleague receive a promotion, feelings of envy may come to the surface. While this may be normal, feeling jealous of others’ success eventually leads to resentment, which can distract you from your path.Instead, overcome your envy of other people’s success and learn how to use their success to your benefit.

3. Mentally Strong People Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Let’s take the example of Milton Hershey. His employee, H.B. Reese, began building a rival candy company in the same city while still working in Hershey’s chocolate factory. Hershey, however, didn’t become angry or resentful. Instead, he gave Reese his full support and allowed Reese to use Hershey’s milk chocolate for his experiments. Throughout those experiments, Reese created a peanut buttercup surrounded by Hershey’s milk chocolate.

Instead of viewing each other’s company as competition, the two men celebrated their successes. They used one another’s power to their advantage. They supported their strengths, and in the end, they both built thriving businesses. The two men continued to collaborate throughout their lives, and after their death, the two companies finally merged. When people enjoy and celebrate success, they attract other successful people, creating opportunities for collaboration and continued success.

When you allow your boss to make you feel a certain way, you give them power over how you think, feel, or even behave. No one should have power over your feelings. You should change your daily vocabulary to recognize that the choices you make are yours.Avoid phrases like “He made me mad,” or “I have to work late today.” One of the biggest factors in taking control of your feelings is forgiveness. When you hold on to anger and resentment, you allow others to limit your ability and disrupt your life. Therefore, it’s important to forgive others for their wrongdoings and focus back on yourself.

4. Mentally Strong People Don’t Give Away Their Power

Forgiveness is also psychologically beneficial, like gratitude. For instance, when people forgive others, their blood pressure decreases, and their hearts beat more calmly. Additionally, those who practice unconditional forgiveness are likely to live longer lives.

When you feel your life is out of control, take out a piece of paper, and draw a horizontal line through the middle. In the top section, write, “What I can’t control.” In the bottom section, write, “What I can control.” When populating the top section, remember you can’t control what has happened. However, you can control what you focus on, what things mean, and how you behave. After you’ve listed the things you can and can’t control, rip off the top section.

5. Mentally Strong People Don’t Focus on Things Beyond Their Control

Many people feel haunted by their past and the legacy of their families. However, it’s possible to find constructive ways to move forward despite one’s origins.Take activist and social worker Wynona Ward. Born in a small village in Vermont, she grew up with a sexually and physically abusive father. Ward didn’t tell anyone about this abuse but worked hard to get ahead in school and escape her hometown. She got married at 17-year-old and began working as a truck driver with her husband. But while she’d worked hard to free herself, others in her family struggled to do so.

6. Mentally Strong People Don’t Dwell on the Past

"Kick bad mental habits and toughen yourself up."—Inc. Master your mental strength—revolutionary new strategies that work for everyone from homemakers to soldiers and teachers to CEOs. Everyone knows that regular exercise and weight training lead to physical strength. But how do we strengthen ourselves mentally for the truly tough times? And what should we do when we face these challenges? Or as psychotherapist Amy Morin asks, what should we avoid when we encounter adversity? Through her years counseling others and her own experiences navigating personal loss, Morin realized it is often the habits we cannot break that are holding us back from true success and happiness. Indulging in self-pity, agonizing over things beyond our control, obsessing over past events, resenting the achievements of others, or expecting immediate positive results holds us back. This list of things mentally strong people don't do resonated so much with readers that when it was picked up by Forbes.com it received ten million views. Now, for the first time, Morin expands upon the thirteen things from her viral post and shares her tried-and-true practices for increasing mental strength. Morin writes with searing honesty, incorporating anecdotes from her work as a college psychology instructor and psychotherapist as well as personal stories about how she bolstered her own mental strength when tragedy threatened to consume her. Increasing your mental strength can change your entire attitude. It takes practice and hard work, but with Morin's specific tips, exercises, and troubleshooting advice, it is possible to not only fortify your mental muscle but also drastically improve the quality of your life.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

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